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You Can’t Think Your Way Out Of Irrational Fear

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[Note: If I were to boil down the root cause for why people don’t take action it would be fear. Today we are going to explore fear and how it impacts our capacity to take action.]

Of all the emotions that we experience, fear is the most powerful.

I don’t mean that it is the strongest emotion. In my experience that is sadness.

When I say fear is the strongest what I mean is that if we are feeling a number of different emotions at once, fear will override all others.

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Pod #130: How To Use EFT To Move You To Take Action

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The first weekend of April the 2nd annual Spring Energy Event was held outside NYC. My friend Jondi Whitis did an awesome job once again of putting together a great event.

This year I was asked to talk about how we can use tapping to move ourselves to taking the action we want.

My presentation was broken into three parts:

Part 1: Tapping For Action v. Tapping For Relief
Part 2: The 9 Immutable Laws Of Taking Action
Part 3: 4 Ways To Use Tapping To Move You Towards Taking Action

The version of the handout I created for the talk had a number of blanks for the audience to fill in while listening. I have provided the completed notes below.

If you are looking for help taking action you will find over 200 audios, classes, and resources in the Ruach Center designed specifically to move you taking action.

### Notes on from recording ###

When are we motivated to take action?

  • Close to goal
    • doesn’t have to be the big goal, but it is it seems easy to achieve
  • In lots of pain

When are we not motivated to take action?

  • Tolerable middle

Two Types of Tapping

  • First Aid
    • feel better/less pain
    • feel in the moment
    • feel relaxed
  • Action
    • feel energized
    • feel driven
    • see possibilities

Tapping for first aid leads to relief and pause.

Tapping for action leads to action.

Part 2: 9 Immutable Laws Of Taking Action

1) If it wasn’t for resistance to change, the change would have already happened.

2) You can’t think your way out of an irrational fear.

3) The problem is not the problem (most of the time).

  • Four reasons we don’t take action
    • don’t know what we want
    • don’t know how to do it
    • hurts to do it
    • hurts to be successful
  • First two might be the problem
  • Second two aren’t the problem

4) Fear is not the enemy. Misinformed and disproportionate fears are.

5) Change what you fear, change how you act.

  • If you are free of fear you don’t have to prioritize your to-do list.

6) The challenge to change is inertia.

  • The shit we know is better than the shit we don’t know.

7) When we are resource poor we will make emotional choices.

  • Physical
  • Emotional
  • Cognitive

8) The people in our lives want us to change for the better as long they don’t have to change.

9) You don’t need to be be fearless. You need to be fearless-ish.

Part 3: 4 Ways To Tap For Action

Tap for to-do list.

Tap for the four reasons we don’t take action

  • Ask yourself:
    • What is unclear about my goal?
    • What don’t I know how to do?
    • What would/could go wrong if I took action?
    • What would/could go wrong if I succeeded?
  • Look at:
    • practical
    • emotional

How To Tap To Action (The Great Visualization Hoax)

  • See yourself trying to do what you want, encountering obstacles, and see yourself overcome the obstacles.

Tap On Not Needing To Be Perfect

  • Perfectionism is the arch enemy of action
  • Perfectionism is nothing more than over-functioning fear

Pod #129 (part 2): Tapping For Luck w/ Rue Hass

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[Note: This is part 2 of our conversation. Listen to part 1 here.]

I am guessing as you read the title of this week’s podcast you are thinking, “Luck is an odd thing to tap for. They say try it on anything, but luck… really?”

I would agree with you. When my friend and EFT Master Rue Hass recommended this as the topic for our conversation I was curious.

In the end the conversation turned out to be so fruitful that I needed to split it into two parts.

When Rue is talking about luck she is talking about how we access the opportunities around us to move towards our goals. Even though I personally wouldn’t use the word luck to describe what she is talking about you will hear in our conversation that I do agree with her disposition.

You will find this conversation in contrast to most of the conversation around an attraction (and law of attraction) world view.


Rue Hass

Guest: Rue Hass

Contact Info: IntuitiveMentoring.com, rue (at) intuitivementoring (dot) com

How Rue describes herself: When I first meet a new client/customer/co-creative partner, I walk them through an interesting process of understanding their life as a story. It concludes with asking them to consider what they want their life to leave in the world as a legacy. How do they want the world to be a better place for their having been in it?

When I contemplate this in myself, and ask, “What do I want to focus on in this phase of my life, as a culmination of everything I have learned and gained?”, what emerges for me is the concept of “spiritual eldering.” This impulse finds expression in my work with individuals and local groups, inviting and assisting people and communities to move into a sense of the real transformative power of their spiritual Presence in the world.

I particularly like to work with young people, adolescents and young adults as a mentor/coach. I have always been drawn to the kind of kid who might find him/herself in trouble in school, academically or socially, but who on the inside is bright, sensitive, perceptive, intuitive, often artistic or athletic, deep hearted and imaginative, and who just doesn’t fit the norm. I want to make it easier for these young people to find their place in the world. I think they are here to save it.

Make sure you check out all of Rue’s guest articles and podcasts on Tapping Q and A.

Being Open To What Is Around You
Are you looking for help to being exactly what Rue talks about into your life? Are you ready to be able to access the opportunities that are around you every day? The Ruach Center was designed to help you do just that. There are over 150 resources to help you get clear about what you want and to help you access the opportunities around you. Take a few moments to check it out. You will be glad you did.

Pod #129 (part 1): Tapping For Luck w/ Rue Hass

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[Note: This is part 1 of our conversation. Listen to part 2 here.]

I am guessing as you read the title of this week’s podcast you are thinking, “Luck is an odd thing to tap for. They say try it on anything, but luck… really?”

I would agree with you. When my friend and EFT Master Rue Hass recommended this as the topic for our conversation I was curious.

In the end the conversation turned out to be so fruitful that I needed to split it into two parts.

When Rue is talking about luck she is talking about how we access the opportunities around us to move towards our goals. Even though I personally wouldn’t use the word luck to describe what she is talking about you will hear in our conversation that I do agree with her disposition.

You will find this conversation in contrast to most of the conversation around an attraction (and law of attraction) world view.

Listen to part 2 here.


Rue Hass

Guest: Rue Hass

Contact Info: IntuitiveMentoring.com, rue (at) intuitivementoring (dot) com

How Rue describes herself: When I first meet a new client/customer/co-creative partner, I walk them through an interesting process of understanding their life as a story. It concludes with asking them to consider what they want their life to leave in the world as a legacy. How do they want the world to be a better place for their having been in it?

When I contemplate this in myself, and ask, “What do I want to focus on in this phase of my life, as a culmination of everything I have learned and gained?”, what emerges for me is the concept of “spiritual eldering.” This impulse finds expression in my work with individuals and local groups, inviting and assisting people and communities to move into a sense of the real transformative power of their spiritual Presence in the world.

I particularly like to work with young people, adolescents and young adults as a mentor/coach. I have always been drawn to the kind of kid who might find him/herself in trouble in school, academically or socially, but who on the inside is bright, sensitive, perceptive, intuitive, often artistic or athletic, deep hearted and imaginative, and who just doesn’t fit the norm. I want to make it easier for these young people to find their place in the world. I think they are here to save it.

Make sure you check out all of Rue’s guest articles and podcasts on Tapping Q and A.

Being Open To What Is Around You
Are you looking for help to being exactly what Rue talks about into your life? Are you ready to be able to access the opportunities that are around you every day? The Ruach Center was designed to help you do just that. There are over 150 resources to help you get clear about what you want and to help you access the opportunities around you. Take a few moments to check it out. You will be glad you did.

Your Goals Are Holding You Back

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I am a huge fan of goal setting!

About once a year I sit down to craft out my goals for the next year. Once a month I look at my goals and rewrite them to meet the changes in my life. Every Monday morning I spend a few minutes reading and tapping with my goals.

I have found that goal setting has been hugely beneficial in my life and I don’t say that in a “I feel better” way. There is tangible evidence that I am more productive, happier, and healthier because of setting goals.

But there is a dark side to goal setting.

Sometimes we set the wrong goal.
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