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Pod #248: EFT For Holiday Stress

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The holiday season is a time for spending time with friends and family, parties, celebration, and fun.

But because there is soooooo much packed into this time of year there can also be a great deal of additional stress. To help you through the holiday season I have four different tapping scripts for you.

  • Too many activities going on (4m56s)
  • Having to spend time with people you might not choose to spend time with (9m27s)
  • Financial stress because of holiday spending (13m35s)
  • Feeling disconnected from the meaning of the season (18m05s)

Note: The time code after each of the topics above is the place in the audio where that particular tap-along begins. You will also find all four scripts below.

This is a crazy time of year…It feels like there are a million things going on…Parties that friends are throwing…Parties that work is throwing…Pageant that kids are in…It feels as if every time I look at my calendar there is one more thing I have to do…It feels like a marathon…Not a celebration…And because we are going non-stop it’s hard to appreciate each event…Some of the events I feel like I have to show up to…And not that I want to be there…Not that I enjoy it…But it is a requirement…Because it’s a requirement stacked on top of many other requirements it’s anything but fun…It’s anything but enjoyable…I even start to resent it…I give myself permission to know that I am allowed to say no…I give myself permission to know I don’t actually have to do everything…I give myself permission to know I’m allowed to leave early…I don’t have to stay until the bitter end…Just because I was invited doesn’t mean I have to say yes…Many of the things that I miss notice no one will even notice…Because everybody is overly busy…I give myself permission to know it is OK for me to take care of myself…It’s OK for me to focus on my own family and not feel like I have to do everything…Many of the people who have invited me places will actually enjoy it a lot more if I visit them in January…When nobody feels overwhelmed by the holidays…This holiday season I give myself permission to take care of myself…To say no to the things that are not helpful or healthy for me to do.

I recognize the fact that I’m going to be spending some time with people I don’t necessarily like…I’m going to be spending time with them because I’ve chosen to do that…Because I’ve decided it’s the right thing to do during this holiday season…But by choosing to be there I’m not saying I agree with their world view…I’m not saying that I want to spend lots of time with them…I know that there are going to be moments where they are going to say or do something that really frustrates me…That they are going to do something that drives me crazy…More than likely I will do something that drives them crazy as well…I recognize the fact that I am allowed to navigate this in a way where I’m putting my safety and health first…I give myself permission not to engage…I give myself permission to get up and leave the room when necessary…I give myself permission to know it is OK to leave early if I know I have to…Just because I’m interacting with someone does not mean they have to take up a huge amount of space in my head…Or a huge amount of space in my heart…Sometimes we decide it is best to show up places where there are people we don’t get along with…I don’t have to do this every day…I don’t have to do this all the time…I give myself permission to not worry about it…I give myself permission to let it go the instant I walk out the door…it is OK for me to take care of myself…It is OK for me not to engage…It is OK to let this pass until I have to do it again next year…Hopefully in the next year we will all have evolved and our interaction next time will be better

I recognize I spend a lot more money during the holiday season…On the gifts that I give…The social events that I attend…The food that I bought…All of this can create a great deal of stress…I recognize the fact that much of the spending that I do is on things that I feel like I have to do…That I don’t have a choice…That I don’t have an option…That it is something I must do or other people will judge me…Because I didn’t give the right gifts…Or I didn’t give the right amount of gifts…The reality is that most of the gifts that we receive…And most of the gifts we give…Are forgotten about very quickly…Because we already have so much stuff in our lives…We might appreciate it in the moment…But then it just joins everything else that we own…I give myself permission to be much more thoughtful about my buying decisions…To be to be much more thoughtful about the choices I make…Knowing that I can give less more thoughtfully…Still letting the people I love know I love them…I give myself permission to let go of the guilt which is compelling me to buy more…It just wants me to be safe…By acting like everyone else…I give myself permission to know I don’t need to do that…I can be thoughtful…I can be deliberate about it…I can give good gifts that I am proud of and spend less…I give myself permission to let go of the social conventions of what we are supposed to give…And give in a way that makes sense to me

I recognize the fact that the holidays will become very commercialized…Recognize the fact the holidays have become super busy…And it is so easy to get caught up in the obligations, it is easy to get caught up in all of the details…This holiday season I give myself permission to carve out the time that is necessary for me…To appreciate the season for what it really means…To connect with my family traditions…To connect with my loved ones…And to connect with my spiritual beliefs…To take time to reflect…To take time to appreciate…To take time to be in the moment…Even if I have to schedule that quiet time on my calendar…I give myself permission to be deliberate and intentional…To let go of the craziness…To let go of the hubbub…And to be fully present to what is going on…To be fully present to what I want to experience…I give myself permission to make the holiday season about the part of it that is important to me…To be present in the way that I want to be present…And not be wrapped up in all of the craziness and the details

Pod #247: EFT For Giving Thanks

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eft-forI have found in my own life that one of the most powerful emotions is gratitude. When we feel a sense of gratitude, even during trying times, it moves us to a disposition of possibility.

It is important to note that this is not some fake, Pollyannish sense of hopefulness. It is possible to have a healthy sense of what is truly going on in our lives and be thankful at the same time.

Here is a very simple tap-along to help you to connect with a healthy and genuine sense of gratitude.

Note: Below the player you will find the tapping script used in this audio. If you prefer tapping scripts to the audio versions of the tap-along, you should check out the Tapping Q & A app for both Android and Apple devices. I am in the process of adding printed tapping scripts from all past tap-along audios to the app. They can be accessed by clicking on the text tab once in the app. Download here: Apple App |Google/Andriod App

I recognize the fact that my life is not perfect…I recognize the fact that the world is not perfect…I recognize the fact there are lots of things that I would change if I could change them…I know the lives around me aren’t perfect either…But at the exact same time I appreciate the fact that there are many things that are good…There are many things that are great…Even though my body is not perfect…I am thankful to have a body to move through this world with…Even though my mind is not perfect I am thankful for my creativity…Even though my relationships aren’t perfect…I am grateful for my ability to connect with others…Even though my interactions with others aren’t perfect…I appreciate the fact that there are others who inspire me…I know the world is not perfect…But I can be thankful the exact same time…I am thankful for life…I’m thankful for choice…I am thankful for opportunity…I am thankful for inspiration…I am thankful for education…I am thankful for healing…I am thankful for transformation…I am thankful that I can learn from others…I am thankful that I can be challenged…I am thankful for a new day…I am thankful for a new opportunity…I am thankful for rest and relaxation…I am thankful for people in my life…I am thankful for challenge…I am thankful…I am thankful for time to be thankful…I am thankful…I am thankful…I am thankful…I am thankful.

Pod 246: Why It Is Important to Be Selfish

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whyitsimportanttobeselfishNote: This week’s topic is so important that I have written an article and recorded a podcast. The article shares the same ideas, but is not a transcript of the podcast. This way you can choose the form that works best for you. The tapping script is identical in both the article and podcast.

I think that being selfish gets a really bad rap. Most people think that being selfish is bad and we are taught from a young age to be giving and not selfish.

Personally I don’t believe that being selfish and being giving are opposites.

Instead, I believe that every action I take is a selfish one because it is a self-defining act. Let me give you a few ridiculous examples to help prove my point.

  • Right now as I type this article I am taking a deep breath in, which means I am being selfish. There is no other reason to breathe than to stay alive. That is very selfish.
  • When I choose to love my family I am being selfish because I want to be a loving person. When I choose to love someone (and it is a choice), I am defining myself as a loving person.
  • When I choose to run my practice and help other people, I am being selfish because I am choosing how I use my time. Yes, I am helping people, and that is a great thing, but I am not healing them. That is their choice. I am just a guide in the process. They are being selfish when they choose to heal. I am being selfish when I choose to articulate who I am as a person who guides others on this path.

I know these examples are extremes, but I think they bring out the point because we tend to think of being selfish in such extreme terms.

Not only is it OK to be selfish, it is impossible not to be selfish because every action we make with our conscious choice is a self-defining act.

When I work out to get healthier, I am being selfish because I could be doing other things with my time. When I study a new skill, I am being selfish in order to make myself a different type of person. I am being selfish when I take a nap so I can be more present to my clients later in the afternoon.

It is OK to be selfish.

The reason you are still feeling uncomfortable every time you read that is because it is easy to believe that selfish equals greedy, mean, heartless, and willing to hurt others. We need to be selfish. If we don’t take care of ourselves, we will never be able to take care of others.

We need to be selfish. If we don’t take care of ourselves then we aren’t taking care of ourselves.

We need to be selfish. If we don’t take care of ourselves we are never going to grow and heal in to who we truly are.

Yes, I know you are still resisting this, despite my repetition. That is OK. Tapping for this might sound like:

I don’t want to be selfish…Because I need to care for other people…There are people who have it so much worse than I do…That I can’t ask for anything more or better…And the things I have…I have squandered…It would be really selfish to ask for more…But I choose to know that selfish means I am making self-defining act…Every choice I make is a selfish act…I can love someone else and be selfish…Because I want to be love…I can care for someone else because they are in need and be selfish…Because I want to be giving…This doesn’t take anything away from those loving acts…This doesn’t mean they are less valuable…It just means that when I am sharing…I am also defining myself…It is OK to want better for myself…Because I can then share with others…It is OK to want more for myself because then I can share more of myself with others…I am worthy of taking care of myself…That is not greedy…That is being healthy….I need to be healthy…I must be healthy…It is OK that I don’t think being selfish is a bad thing…I don’t want to be mean…I don’t want to be greedy…But those are not the same as being selfish…To be selfish is to choose the type of self I want to be.

Pod #243: EFT For When We Are Waiting On Others To Make A Choice

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eft-for-when-you-are-waiting-on-others-to-chooseThere is so much of the world that we do not control. We are surrounded by people, just like us, who are making choices and exercising their free will.

In many ways, we can’t escape the impact of other people’s choices, especially when we are collaborating with others.

That means we often have to wait on someone else to make a choice so that we can move forward with what we want to do. We can be worried that they will make a choice that we don’t like OR we can feel stuck because we can’t do anything until they choose.

Here is a simple tap-along to find peace while waiting on others to choose.

A full transcript of the tap-along can be found below the player.

I recognize the fact that one of the reasons I am so frustrated is because I have a clear vision of what I want…it’s something I am super excited about and I know how good it’s going to be…I know how it’s going to make my life better…the problem is I can’t do it on my own…I need someone else to say yes…I’m glad I have someone I can work with…I’m glad I have someone I might be able to go through this with because it is going to be so much better because they are at my side…I know it is something that is impossible for me to do on my own…but it is really hard waiting for them to say yes because I want this so badly…if they wanted it like I want it then they already would have said yes…the fact that they haven’t said yes feels like a judgement…feels like they’re saying I’m not worthy…feels like they might want to do it but with someone else…it feels as if my desires aren’t important…it feels as if my wants aren’t important…I can understand that other people have choice…I’m glad other people have choice…I only want them to do what is right for them but I also recognize the fact it is hard waiting…I give myself permission to know that them not answering is not a judgement on me…them not answering is not a rejection…them not answering is simply them thinking…making sure it is the right fit for them …I’m glad they’re being thoughtful…I can appreciate that they’re being deliberate…this is how it fits into their life…it’s not a judgment of me…even if this doesn’t work out…no matter how great this is…this is not my last opportunity…this is not my last chance…this is not my only chance…I can and will have more opportunities…I give myself permission to be open to knowing that if I keep taking deliberate action good will come

Pod #231: EFT For Facing Past Choices

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My favorite phrase that I hear from my clients when we are in the middle of a session is “this probably has nothing to do with it, but…” and then they share some story that seems unconnected. We usually find that a story coming out of left field like this has everything to do with it.

It never ceases to amaze me how much we carry our past into each moment of our lives and how much that past impacts us. I have spoken to a number clients in the last few weeks who have felt that they weren’t worthy of something good in the present because of a poor choice they made in the past.

It is important that we take responsibility for our choices, but that does not mean that we have to remain a prisoner to our choices for all time. Here is a tap-along to help you face those past choices of which you are not proud.

Thank You For Hearing Me

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My walk home from Thanksgiving dinner took about a half an hour. It was a quiet afternoon and the Brooklyn streets were almost deserted.

As I was walking I started singing Sinéad O’Connor’s “Thank You For Hearing Me.” I find it to be a such a profound and holy song (and I don’t use the word holy lightly).

It would perfect to tap along to today.
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I Don’t Want You Always To Be Impressive

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One of the main reasons we hold ourselves back from taking action is our need to be perfect.

We want everything we do to be great AND we want everyone around us to think we are great too.

Often times if even the smallest thought exists that others aren’t going to see us (and everything we do) as great we don’t take action.

Most of the time this isn’t a conscious choice. We just don’t take the action we want to take and just get busy with something else.

I was recently working with “Rachel” on this issue. We did some great tapping on tuning into some of the reasons why she needed everything to be perfect before taking action.

About 45 minutes after our session I received this email:

I did some more tapping after our session, which brought me to a lightbulb moment – I seem to have believed, for God knows how long, that in order for me to be “good enough”, everything I do has to be impressive. That is an impossible standard, of course, but one that quite insidious in my daily thoughts…

So, I now give myself permission to be unimpressive, to make unimpressive art, to have unimpressive ideas and opinions, to have unimpressive dreams and goals, to have an unimpressive plan for the summer, to read unimpressive books… you get the idea.

What a relief! With impressive out of the way it has created real room to breathe.

I couldn’t have said it better myself. It is amazing the space we can create for ourselves when we give ourselves permission to be unimpressive!

Take a deep breath and tap on this:

I give myself permission to be unimpressive…I give myself permission to make unimpressive art…I give myself permission to have unimpressive ideas and opinions…I give myself permission to have unimpressive dreams and goals…I give myself permission to read unimpressive books…I give myself permission to [insert your own ideas].

Take another deep breath.

How does that feel? Let me know down in the comment section. I would also love to hear the things you inserted for yourself.

If you would like guidance on how you can use tapping for issues like this one in just a few minutes every day, please check out the Ruach Center.

Want To Improve Your Self-Discipline? Tap For A Better Night’s Sleep

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I recently came across this very interesting quote on one of my favorite websites explore:

The amount of sleep you get predicts the discipline your body can produce. Why? Sleep deprivation depletes the glucose level in your pre-frontal cortex, Barnes writes. This has consequences for your decision-making: If you don’t get enough sleep, you leave your self-control engine running on empty. If you do get enough sleep, you restore that fuel base.


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I knew that sleep was important, I knew that I always felt better after a good night’s rest, and made better choices as a result.

I just didn’t have a clue as to why that was the case.

If you are interested in the full research study on what was discovered you can check out details on the study.

Now that that is clear, did you know that it is really easy to tap for good night’s sleep?

Here is how I tap for a good night of sleep. The link will take you to the tapping script I use before I go to sleep and also a pdf you can print out and put on your nightstand so you don’t forget to do it.

Tap for a good night’s sleep.

Get a good night’s sleep.

Improve glucose levels in your pre-frontal cortex.

Make better choices tomorrow.

Everybody wins!

Do it tonight: Tap for a good night of sleep!

Your Guilt Is Holding You Back AND It’s Holding Others Back

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Over the last few weeks I have done a lot of writing and recording on guilt and shame.

There have been two reasons for this. First, they have come up a lot in client calls as of late. Second, because they have been coming up so much for my clients I have been reflecting on them a lot in my own life. As I have stated before, shame is the emotion I find the hardest to deal with and the most debilitating.

If you missed some of the recents posts on this topic, make sure you check out here, here, and here.

A few weeks ago I attended the Spring Energy Event in the Hudson River Valley in New York. One of the speakers said something really interesting about guilt. (Unfortunately, I can’t remember who said it to give proper credit. If you were there and remember who it was please let me know so I can give credit.)

The statement was, “When you feel guilty about something you are holding the other person in a victim state.”

That is an amazing thought!

When I think I have done you wrong, not only does my guilt impact the way I see myself, but it also impacts the way I see you, and therefore the way I interact with you.

When I feel like I have hurt you, I will call you less, be hesitant in your presence, and be reluctant to spend time with you. Even if you don’t think I have done you wrong, my feeling of guilt about something I have done to you will hurt you now.

For me this is a real eye opener. I know it is good for me to tap for my own guilt, but taking care of myself isn’t always my strongest motivation to do work. But, I am more willing to do things that will help my loved ones.

By understanding that tapping for my own guilt and shame will help others encourages me to tap.

If you are looking for an easy way to tap for guilt or shame you can tap along with me in this short video.

What are your thoughts about seeing our own guilt as something that hurts others? Let me know below in the comments.

Video: EFT For Shame

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For me, the most painful and debilitating emotion is when I feel ashamed of something I have done wrong.

When I feel ashamed, it is because I know I could have done better or I chose the wrong path. Many times I know the right thing to do and still choose the wrong thing. That produces a lot of feeling ashamed!

And as I hate feeling ashamed, I limit my risk. I don’t take chances. Because if I don’t take chances then I can’t make poor choices. And if I can’t make poor choices then I avoid feeling ashamed.

This emotional state is the most powerful source of self sabotage in my life.

A few weeks ago I woke up on a Saturday morning and decided I need to tap for feeling ashamed. This video is the result.

Feel free to tap along with me:

If you would like guidance in helping you to tap regularly come over to MyEFTYear.com.

Video: How To Use EFT After You Have Failed To Reach Your Goals (w/ Tap-Along)

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One of the main focuses of My EFT Year program (which you can try for only $1) is working towards clearly defined goals.

I love goals and goal setting!

Much my personal success over the last decade was in direct proportion to how well I was using my goal list.

But there are times, even with the best goal setting tools in the world, when we can lose our momentum.

This is exactly what happened to me in February and March. As my British friends would say, I completely lost the plot. I made almost no progress towards my goals.

There was good reason for this. I traveled over 40 days in two months. Much of this travel was for work. It wasn’t that I was being lazy, but I still fell behind.

April is a new month! I am right back on track and have a great plan for moving forward.

Even with that said, I was dealing with a lot of frustration and guilt over feeling that I had squandered some opportunities. No matter how good my new plan was, I couldn’t move forward unless I did something about the frustration and guilt.

I realized that this was something that I really need to tap for, and I wanted you to experience that tapping too.

Here is me tapping for my guilt and frustration over squandered opportunities.

If you are looking for a way to stop self sabotage and move toward your goals you should check out My EFT Year

EFT For A Good Night’s Rest

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One of the issues I am asked about the most is tapping for a good night’s sleep. Below is the tapping script I use when I have trouble sleeping.

You can download a pdf version of the script here downloadable pdf.

[Note: If you find this script helpful I would encourage you to check MyEFTYear.com. This is the type of resource that shows up at least 4 days a week.]

Are you looking for something to help you sleep through the night? Try this right before you go to bed.

There are a number of things that didn’t go as planned today.

Some of them are still on my mind.

They are floating around in the forms of regret and disappointment.

At this point there is nothing I can do about these things.

I give myself permission to let these worries and anxieties to melt away.

If I need theses worries and anxieties again tomorrow I can re-find them.

More than likely after a good night’s sleep these things will seem less daunting and tomorrow I will have the opportunity to respond in a new way.

There are a number of things that I am thinking about that are going to happen tomorrow or sometime in the future.

There is nothing that I can do about these things tonight.

The best thing that I can do about the unknown that is coming in the future is to get a good night’s sleep so that when I wake tomorrow I will be well rested and re-energized to take on these tasks and opportunities.

When I climb into bed tonight I will fall asleep easily and gently.

When my head hits the pillow my body will naturally relax.

It will happen easily and gently.

Even if I don’t fall asleep right away that is OK because I know just resting in bed is going to do a lot for my system, giving it a chance to slow down and heal.

I know the part of my system that is responsible for sleep works very hard.

It wants me to sleep and to receive all the amazing benefits that come from a night of restful sleep.

I appreciate the part of me that is responsible for sleep, even though I sometimes am hard on myself and this part of my system when it has a hard time sleeping.

I want the part of my system that is responsible for sleep to know that it is not alone in providing me sleep.

The whole system is committed to a night of deep, relaxing, gentle sleep.

Whatever other parts of the system that the sleep part wants to call on, I give it permission to do that now.

AND I want it to know that I want it to work with the rest of the system.

My system works best when all the parts are working together.

I am going to have restful sleep tonight.

I am going to have gentle sleep tonight.

I am going to have re-energizing sleep tonight.

I am going to have healing sleep tonight.

I am going to sleep in such a way that it will feed my creativity and inspiration tonight.

In the morning I am going to wake up gently and easily.

I am going to wake up re-energized and ready to take on a new day.

I am going to wake with open eyes to new opportunities and bigger dreams.

I am going to wake knowing that this night’s sleep served me and the new day very well.

I give myself permission to have a gentle, restful night of sleep.

My sleep is important.

During sleep my system has the recharge and re-energize.

During sleep my conscious, subconscious, and unconscious minds have the opportunity to sort out all the new information and lessons form today.

While I am sleeping I don’t need to give any of these functions any thought.

My system can take care of all of this while I get a gentle, restful night of sleep.

EFT To Stay Healthy During Flu Season

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It has been one of the worst flu seasons in years here in the States. And even if you managed to avoid the flu, there were lots of colds and stomach viruses going around. Below is the tapping script I use when I feel a bug coming on.

You don’t have to use the whole thing. Feel free to pick and choose the parts that work best for you.

Here is a downloadable pdf version of the script.

[Note: If you like this script I would encourage you to check MyEFTYear.com. This is the type of resource that shows up at least 4 days a week.]

My system is a powerful healing machine.

My system is made for health and well-being. I appreciate everything that my system does on unconscious and subconscious levels all day and night to keep me healthy and safe. I know my system isn’t perfect in doing this, but it is truly amazing in what is does.

I know that there are choices that I make that make it harder for my system to heal and grow. There are thoughts that I have, emotions that I feel, beliefs that I hold, things that I eat and drink, and choices that I make which makes it harder for my system to maintain optimum health. I apologize to my system for any of these that I have done, especially in the last twenty-four hours. I appreciate the fact that my system is willing to keep working towards my health and well-being.

There are many things that my system is holding onto that is slowing healing and growth. These can be in the forms of thoughts, emotions, beliefs, and substance in my physical body. Some of these are known while some are unknown or hidden. At one point the system thought these were helpful or still thinks they are helpful. I give my system permission to let go of anything that is blocking health and well being. If it needs these things in the future, I will be able to pick them up again. I give my system permission to let them go even if the system doesn’t understand what they are or why the system thought they were helpful at one point.

My system is a powerful healing machine. I give my system permission to release its healing power, not just now, but throughout the whole day and as I sleep tonight. I do not need to be conscious of this healing and growth. My system has permission to heal.

There are many systems in my body that do so many amazing things. There might be blocks and impediments to these parts working to their optimum potential.

I give my system permission to remove any blocks and provide to my body anything it needs for health and well-being.

I give my system permission to remove any blocks and provide to my digestive system for optimum health and well-being.

I give my system permission to remove any blocks and provide to my respiratory system for optimum health and well-being.

I give my system permission to remove any blocks and provide to my circulatory system for optimum health and well-being.

I give my system permission to remove any blocks and provide to my nervous system for optimum health and well-being.

I give my system permission and energy to remove any blocks and provide health and healing to my limbic system for optimum health and well-being.

I give my system permission to remove any blocks and provide to my glandular system for optimum health and well-being.

I give my system permission to remove any blocks and provide to my reproductive system for optimum health and well-being.

I know that as I move through the day I encounter many things that it is hard for my system to process or can be hard for my system to process. My system and my immune system do an amazing job of keeping me healthy as I encounter things through my whole day that are working against my health and well-being.

I want my immune system to know how much I appreciate how hard it works. I want my immune system to know it is not the only part of me that is trying to keep my safe and healthy. I give my immune system permission to access other parts of my system to ensure that I stay safe and healthy.

I give my system permission to heal and remove any known, unknown, and hidden obstacles that are preventing health and well-being.

I give my system permission to heal and remove any known, unknown, and hidden viruses that are preventing health and well-being.

I give my system permission to heal and remove any known, unknown, and hidden bacteria that are preventing health and well-being.

I give my system permission to heal and remove any known, unknown, and hidden fungi that are preventing health and well-being.

I give my system permission to heal and remove any known, unknown, and hidden ingestants that are preventing health and well-being.

I give my system permission to heal and remove any known, unknown, and hidden inhalants that are preventing health and well-being.

I give my system permission to heal and remove any known, unknown, and hidden contactants that are preventing health and well-being.

I give my system permission to heal and remove any known, unknown, and hidden injectants that are preventing health and well-being.

I give my system permission to heal and remove any known, unknown, and hidden emotions that are preventing health and well-being.

I give my system permission to heal and remove any known, unknown, and hidden memories that are preventing health and well-being.

I give my system permission to heal and remove any known, unknown, and hidden beliefs that are preventing health and well-being.

I give my system permission to heal and remove any known, unknown, and hidden darkness that is preventing health and well-being.

TapAlong: Feeling Bad For Taking Care Of Ourselves

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We know that we have to be healthy in order to be helpful to other people, but sometimes it can be really hard to make time to care for ourselves. We feel like we already have so much that it is hard care for ourselves.

Today we have a great little tap along to help you be OK with tapping for ourselves. (AND if there is a part of you that felt like you shouldn’t do this, then it is telling you to do it now.)

TapAlong: Feeling Bad Because We Started Tapping So Late

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When we first learn to tap we feel very empowered. All of a sudden we have a great tool that we can use anytime and anywhere.

As good as this feels, that good feeling can pass. At a certain point in the healing process it is very common to feel like we have wasted lots of time. We ask ourselves, “Why didn’t I do this sooner?”

It is easy to beat ourselves up over this. If you are feeling bad about not starting the healing process sooner I have a great little tap along for you.

TapAlong: I Can’t Believe It! I Should Have Known Better – Forgiving Myself

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More than once I have thought, “I should have known better.”

There are times when we make mistakes and poor choices where we did the best we could. In hindsight we recognize that we could have done better. There are other times when we knew better and as we were making choices we knew how it would turn out. We knew we were not making the right choices for creating our better self.

These times are particularly hard. It is easy to not forgive ourselves in these moments but we need to be able to heal and move forward. Here is a great little tap along to help with this situation.

TapAlong: Feeling Like You Need To Learn A Lesson Before Moving On – Forgiving Self

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At times I have found myself stuck in this thought: “I can’t move on until I learn an important lesson from the past.”

It is true that we need to learn from our experiences. That is what growth and evolution is all about. Often we will keep ourselves trapped in some past event until we feel like we have learned that great lesson we needed to learn.

But there isn’t always a lesson to be learned from the past. Sometimes the only thing we learn is that we don’t want to be stuck in that place any more. It is ok to move on without feeling like we have to learn some significant lesson.

Here is a tap along audio to help you do just that.

TapAlong: Feeling Like I Need To Suffer – Forgiving Self

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On more than one occasion I have thought, “I made a mistake and deserve to suffer for it.”

Culturally the belief is that when someone has done something wrong they should be punished. Even if we don’t personally think this, it is such a pervasive cultural value that it’s easy to understand how it can creep into our beliefs as well.

When we do something wrong a part of us often feels that we deserve to be punished. Additionally, because we hold ourselves to such high standards, we’ll inflict a stern punishment on ourselves which we are often unwilling ever to let go.

It is OK to recognize that we don’t need to suffer for our past choices. We can learn from them and move forward. Here is a tap-along audio to help you do just that.

TapAlong: It Doesn’t Always Have To Be Hard

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There is a very American ethic that says that if something is worth having it is worth working hard for. Great virtue is attached to working hard so that you are able to say you “deserve” what you received. I have nothing against hard work, but it doesn’t always have to be hard. I take flights because it is much easier than travelling in a covered wagon. I use my stove because it is easier than cooking over a campfire. I shop for food because it is easier than farming.

We often feel bad about taking the easy way out. There is nothing wrong with having things come to us easily. We are worthy of things being easy.

Here is a great little tap-along to help you to be easy with yourself.