EFT/Tapping Q and A with Gene Monterastelli - Emotional Freedom Techniques

Pod #281: EFT For Dread

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Tapping for negative past experiences is often the easiest kind of tapping because we know the details of the past experience. While tapping we have the opportunity to state exactly what happened, how we interpret those events, how we felt about them back then, and how we feel now.

No matter how long we have to tap to find relief, the tapping itself is straightforward.

Tapping for the emotion of dread can be much less straightforward. Dread is a worry about the future and, since the future is unknown, it is much harder to find specific details to tap for.

Here is a tap-along audio and tapping script to help you to tap for dread. I recorded the audio while I was in the grip of feeling dread myself, so you have the opportunity to experience the way I tap when dealing with an issue firsthand.

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There is a deep feeling of dread…That is encompassing my entire body…Because it is dread there is no specific focal point…There’s no specific place that lives in my body…There is no epicenter to the pain…Even when I have a sense with the dread is and what it is about I don’t know what that is in detail…Which makes tapping for this emotion really hard…I give myself permission to know that it is okay to tap…It is effective to tap…Even when I don’t know exactly what I’m focusing on…Because of what is going on around me and because of the things outside of my control…My system is feeling a sense of dread…It’s feeling a sense of hopelessness…Things are bad…Or are going to continue to be bad…Or are going to get worse…I appreciate the fact of my system is pointing this out…I am fully aware of what is going wrong…I am fully aware of what might go wrong…My system has done its job…I give the dread permission to release…Because I am aware of what it is trying to point out…Letting go of the dread is not saying the current situation is okay…Letting go of the dread is not me giving up my power to take action…Letting go of the dread he’s not giving up…Instead by releasing the dread it puts me in a position to take action…It puts me in a position to move forward…It allows me to regain my control…Not control over everything…But control over me…Control over the small actions I can take…Control over the kindness that I can share…Control over being able to be present in this moment…Not ignoring what is going on…But instead not being debilitated by what is going on…Even when it feels hopeless…Even when it feels overwhelming…I give myself permission to allow myself to move forward…In This Moment, being a positive agent of change…That does not mean it is easy…That does not mean it is fun…That does not mean it is pain-free…It means that I am in a situation where I can control this moment in controlling how I respond…I am glad my system is recognizing things that are troubling…I appreciate my systems pointing out things that are difficult for my system to overcome the dread has done its job…It can release…It can let go…So I can move forward.

Pod #275: EFT For Grief

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Unfortunately, death is an unfortunate fact of life. Even with the passing of a loved one is expected it is an emotionally difficult experience.

When we are facing the emotions that come after the death of a loved one, the goal is not to eliminate all of our emotion. Sadness is appropriate. Sadness is healthy. Instead we can tap to make sure that we are have proportional well informed emotions.

The tap-along audio and script that you can find below is perfect any time you are feeling the pain of the death of a loved one. It could be right when it happened, on the anniversary of their death, or on a random day that you are reminded of them.

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Having a loved one die hurts…I am overcome with sadness…Because I’m never again going to get a chance again to spend time with this person I loved…I won’t get to ask them for advice…I won’t get to share a joke…I won’t get to cry alongside them…Those moments are gone…Because of that I hurt deeply…The hurt that I am feeling is just my system telling me that I miss someone who is really important…I want my system to know that I am completely aware of that fact…I am aware of the loss…I am aware of the disconnection…I give my system permission to feel that sadness…I’m not running away from this sadness…I’m not avoiding the sadness…It is simply my experience in this moment…But I also recognize the fact…Then I don’t have to stay in that loss…It’s not the only part of this experience…How lucky am I to have had this person in my life…I know my life is better because of their presents in it…I know my life is richer because of that experience…And I appreciate deeply the fact that I knew them…Even though I miss them…I recognize the fact that this feeling isn’t going to last forever…That this sadness isn’t going to last forever…That this pain isn’t going to last forever…Even though in this moment it feels like it will…In this moment I’m allowed to feel grief…I don’t have to fight it…I give myself permission to know it’s not my total experience…This experience is more than the grief…I’m allowed to appreciate and I’m allowed to celebrate period I’m allowed to honor this friendship…They will be missed…I will feel the sadness of their loss again because they are loved…I don’t have to feel sadness to honor the friendship…Feeling sadness is one of the ways to honor the friendship…I give myself permission to honor it in so many other ways…I am so lucky they were in my life…Remembering that is so much more important than the sadness of their loss…This sadness will pass…This grief will pass…But my connection to them will remain forever.

Pod #271: Tapping To Boost Creativity

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Embarking on a creative endeavor, whether for our personal or professional lives, can feel daunting.

We struggle with creativity because:

  • We want the ideas to emerge fully formed
  • We are worried that our efforts will be judged harshly by others
  • We are concerned about wasting time and not coming up with anything good
  • We don’t know where to start so it feels like a waste of time and energy even to try

Because we don’t want the process to go badly, we simply don’t start (think of staring at a blank Word document and being taunted by that blinking cursor!).

This tap-along audio (with script below) will help you to clear the emotional blocks holding you back from creative endeavours. Take a few moments to tap through this audio (or script) before brainstorming or working on a task that requires creativity and you will find your flow much more easily.

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There is a part of me that wants to do this task successfully..But there is also a part of me feeling resistance…There’s a part of me avoiding taking action…It is doing this to keep me safe…It is doing this to avoid danger…On the surface I know how silly that sounds…Being creative is not dangerous…But this part of me is worried…It is worried that I will waste my time…It is worried that I won’t come up with good ideas…It is worried that others will judge my ideas…It is worried that whatever I come up with isn’t going to be good enough…This is going to be a giant waste of time and effort…I appreciate this worry…Because worry comes with the creative process…The creative process is uncertain…The creative process is full of unknowns…The creative process is full of bad ideas…The creative process is full of half ideas…I don’t want to waste my time with those…I know what it feels like to get this right…I know what it feels like to have this completed…But that feels so far away…That feels so impossible in this moment…I give myself permission to recognize the fact that creativity is a process…Ideas are not going to spring from my head fully formed…It will take a little time…It will take a little effort…For me to find my way to the ideas that work for me…No one has to see the ideas that I come up with first…Unless I decide to share them…It’s OK if they are half ideas…It’s OK if they are incomplete ideas…It’s even OK if they are bad ideas…Because no one is ever going to see them unless I decide to share them…So the process is safe…It doesn’t have to be perfect…Many of the ideas I come up with might be seeds of much better ideas…I might not have those much better ideas right away…But I know spending time with the process will lead to what I need…It is OK if it takes time…It is OK if it slowly unfolds…It is even OK for me to spend time on this problem right now and not come up with a useful answer…There will be times when the creative process will involve me working through the least useful ideas first…That’s OK…Because that is the process…I give myself permission to be easy with myself as I give myself the space to come up with ideas that are useful…I give myself permission to trust myself in this process…Knowing that good and useful ideas will come…If I give myself the space and time that I need…I will come up with ideas that are so good that they surprise even me.

Pod #262: EFT For Encouragement

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My clients constantly tell me, “I know I should be tapping, but I don’t want to spend time stuck in yukky negative emotions.”

I can sympathize. Connecting with and feeling our negative emotions isn’t much fun. Even though tapping is a powerful tool to shift them, it makes sense that we avoid what is uncomfortable.

This week I have a tap-along audio filled with positive affirmations. I recommend tapping along at the beginning of your day, before tackling a difficult task, or any time you just need a pick-me-up.

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I am brimming with energy.
I am overflowing with joy.
I possess everything necessary to be successful.
Creative energy surges through me.
Today I will find new and brilliant ideas.
I abandon my old habits and pick up new habits that serve my health and my wellbeing.
My efforts are being supported by the universe.
My dreams are coming true before my eyes.
Happiness is my birthright.
I feel joy and contentment.
By allowing myself to be happy, I inspire others to be happy as well.
I look at the world around me and smile with a deep feeling joy.
My heart is overflowing with love.
I expect to be successful because success is my natural state.
I feel powerful, capable, confident, and energetic.
I am a solution focused problem solver.
I am unique. It feels good being alive and being me.
I act from a place of personal strength.
I find deep inner peace with who I am.
Every cell in my body is made for energy and for health.
I pay attention and listen to what my body needs.
I am a peacemaker wherever I go.
I am focused and engaged with the task at hand.
I am grateful for this moment.
I observe my emotions without getting attached to them.
Every day I am more and more at ease.
I draw from my inner strength.
I trust myself.
Today will be a gorgeous day to remember.
I show compassion and I show love.
I choose to see the light that I am to this world.

Pod #258: EFT For Feeling Dissatisfied With Progress Being Made

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There is an odd phenomenon that happens when we make progress. Even though we are working towards our goals, there is a part of us feels dissatisfied with the progress. This can even happen when we have reached our goals. There is a part that still wants to pick away and criticize what we are doing.

This happens because change feels scary, even if that fear exists only on the subconscious level. Change means we are doing something new, which is unpredictable, and the subconscious often reads this as dangerous.

That explains why we shortcircuit our progress, undercut our actions, and sometimes even stop ourselves from taking any action at all.

This week I have for you a simple tap-along that will help to quiet the subconscious when it is dissatisfied with progress, which will help you to take more action.

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I know what I want…I know what actions I want to take…I know the goals I want to achieve…Intellectually I can see very clearly how taking these actions is best for me…Achieving these goals is best for me…But there is a part of me that is concerned…There is a part of me that is worried…It is afraid of what will come next…Even though what I have in this moment is far from perfect…Even though there is some pain in this moment…What I’m experiencing right now is predictable…What I’m experiencing right now is known…Because of that fact it is manageable…It is far from perfect…But I know what is coming and I know how to respond to it…The part of me that wants predictable is just trying to keep me safe…It is worried that unpredictable is unsafe…In order to keep me stuck in this spot it is undermining my actions…It is belittling my goals…It’s not doing this because there is something wrong with the action…It is not doing this because there is something wrong with my goal…It is only doing this because it doesn’t want me to change…It is using the tactic of picking on the choices I am making…It is taking on the tactic of belittling my goals…I recognize the fact that this part is trying to keep me safe…I recognize the fact that it is trying to keep me healthy…But it is working way too hard…It is choosing an unhealthy tactic…It is choosing a tactic that is safe…I give myself permission to know that change is good…I give myself permission to know that I can step into the unknown and still be safe…The actions I am taking are thoughtful…The actions I am taking are deliberate…I give myself permission to transform…Knowing that if the new way isn’t right for me…I can always return to the old way…I trust the transformation…I trust myself…I give myself permission to take bold action today…Knowing that I can do this and still be safe.