EFT/Tapping Q and A with Gene Monterastelli - Emotional Freedom Techniques

Pod #257: EFT To Clear Clutter

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When my space is cluttered I find it difficult to work efficiently and the mess becomes an emotional and energetic drag on my day.

Recently I replaced my kitchen table with one that fits the space much better than its predecessor and took the opportunity to organize the piles of clutter that had made it their home. My tiny NYC apartment feels much more open and comfortable because that space is cleared.

Sometimes dealing with clutter is about more than setting aside the time to clean up. If you are having a hard time decluttering your space, it’s likely that there is an emotional component at play preventing you from taking action.

In this week’s podcast I have for you my favorite technique for clearing out clutter and a tap-along to help you get started.

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I recognize the fact that there is a huge amount of clutter that I need to deal with…It feels so overwhelming…It feels like it’s never going to get done…Who knows what I’m going to find in those piles…I might be worried about what I’m going to discover…I also recognize the fact it feels like it is too much work…It is never actually going to get done…I am going to find myself stuck in the middle of this mess forever…I recognize the fact that if I take this a little at a time…If I clean this up bit by bit…Those small steps will make a huge difference…Every little bit of cleaning I do will move me closer to having this completed…Every bit of cleaning I do creates more space…It creates more movement…It makes my space more comfortable…Even if I only do some of this…It will make a difference in the long run…I give myself permission to allow that to happen…To see this as a gentle process…As I remove each little bit knowing I will feel better…I don’t have to do this all at once…If I do this a little at a time I will be done sooner than I could imagine.

Pod #256: EFT For When We Are Judgmental Of Others

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In order to have the type of life that we would like, it is important to make good choices about who and what surrounds us. One of the ways we can do this is to evaluate our circumstances and who we spend our time with.

But sometimes we can take this too far. We move from deciding if something is the right fit for us, to saying something is inherently bad. We decide it is unworthy of our time and attention.

When I judge someone or their beliefs harshly, it is often because I am fearful. On some level I am worried that their beliefs or actions will undermine me.

This week I have a tap-along and script for those times when we become too judgy and critical of those around us. The full tapping script can be found below the player.

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I recognize the fact there are times when I am very judgmental…There are times in which I am very harsh…Where I put other people down and think that they are not good enough…I am really embarrassed by the fact that I do this from time to time…It’s not who I want to be…It’s not how I want to treat others…When I act this way I feel a great sense of shame…I feel a great sense of disappointment…I am embarrassed…I recognize the fact when I act in this way it’s because I feel hurt…Or I feel attacked…Or I feel like I’m in danger…That is why I lash out…That’s why there’s a part of me trying to push someone else down…So I can feel safe…So I can feel secure…I give myself permission to be easy with myself…I must take responsibility for my thoughts, actions, and emotions…I can be gentle with myself when I make bad choices…Part of me feels ashamed…There is the part that knows that I can be better…The part that knows I was made for better…I give myself permission to be easy with myself…I encourage myself to strive to be all that I can be…To see the true worth of others…Without feeling insecure…To feel safety without feeling like I have to push someone else down…I know I can judge less…I want to be less judgmental…I give myself permission to love myself enough to know I no longer need to put others down…I commit to letting go of judging others.

Pod #255: Regaining Focus With EFT

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Have you ever had one of those days where it is 3:30 in the afternoon and you realize you haven’t managed to get anything done?

OR it is one of those days where you move from task to task to task, but somehow never seem to achieve anything?

OR you are just downright foggy and you can’t seem to focus at all?

Tapping is the perfect tool to help you to regain your focus, clear out the mental cobwebs, and get stuff done.

This week I have the perfect tapping script to do exactly that!

Below the player you will find a text version of the tapping script that you can print out and take with you.

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I recognize the fact I am really unfocused…My mind is going in a million directions…Without landing on anything specific…Because it is floating from thing to thing to thing…I’m not getting anything done…I almost feel disoriented by it…I am frustrated by how unproductive I am being…This lack of focus is probably trying to keep me safe…It’s probably trying to help me recognize that I am not prepared for what is in front of me…That something might go wrong if I do what I need to do…It’s all out of sorts…I appreciate it’s trying to keep me safe in this way…At the exact same time I know I need to focus…I know I need clarity…I give myself permission to find that clarity…I give myself permission to take action now…Whatever it is I’m clinging that is out of focus…I give my system permission to let it go…If my system needs the distraction again…It will find its way back to it…I can release it right now…Because in this moment it is not useful…In this moment the lack of focus is not necessary…I imagine energy flowing through my body…Bringing me to sharp attention…Helping me to hone in on what is in front of me…If I do this…I can get my tasks done…I will be able to move on to what I want…I will be able to move on to what is useful…I give myself permission to shake off the lack of focus…To be fully present here.

Pod #254: EFT For The Frustration Of Not Doing EFT

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For me, knowing what to do and not doing it is more frustrating than not knowing what to do.

Not tapping when I know I should can quickly turn into beating myself up for failing to take good care of myself.

This week I have a tap-along audio to help you release the feelings of frustration, failure, and shame that come with not tapping when we know it is best of us.

Yes, I understand the irony of asking you to tap for not tapping, but it works.

Below the audio player is the full tapping script so you can tap along at your own pace if you would like.

I recognize the fact that there is a part of me that doesn’t want to tap…That doesn’t want to transform…That doesn’t want to change the state that I am in…It would much rather stay static…It would much rather stay in one place…Because not doing anything feels so much safer…Even though there is an issue at hand that needs to be tapped for…There is a part of me that is afraid…If I change this I don’t know what I’m going to change into…Even though this is uncomfortable…Even though this isn’t perfect…It is known…It is predictable…It makes sense that I want to stay in this place…I give my system permission to know it is OK for me to feel stuck…Because staying stuck is a way that I can stay safe…Or at least that’s how it feels emotionally…Even though intellectually I know this is not the place that I want to stay…Emotionally I am stuck…I give myself permission to be easy with myself…There is a part of me that is beating myself up because I’m not doing what I can to change and transform myself…I am frustrated with the fact that I am unwilling to reach for the tools at my disposal…I feel like a failure…I am ashamed…Because I’m not doing what I need to do…I’m not doing what is best for me…I give myself permission to make a fresh start…Regardless if I have tapped for it in the past or not…I give myself permission now to make good, useful choices…To help me to move forward in a way that is healthy…Beating myself up for not tapping in the past will not help me in the future…I give myself permission to allow myself to make the choices in a new way…It is safe for me to transform…It is healthy for me to transform…It is good that I’m willing to do the work…I give myself permission to tap for that issue that I’ve been afraid to approach…Knowing that I don’t have to take care of it all right now…Knowing that I don’t have to take care of it all at once…But it is an easy process that I am allowed to move through…I give myself permission to start right now…Making good, healthy choices to take care of myself.

Pod #253: EFT To Love Your Body More

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Our bodies are far from perfect.

With each passing moment they are aging and showing those changes.

We are our own worst critics when we look in the mirror. We see each and every blemish. We notice even the slightest change. Even the smallest imperfection can seem like a big deal.

At the exact same time, our bodies are amazing! They are a community of over 37 trillion cells that are working together every moment of the day. There are countless systems and processes working faultlessly to which we give no conscious thought.

Today we are going to tap to appreciate our bodies more. I have found that when I do this type of tapping regularly I am healthier and happier.

Below the audio player you will find a text version of the script.

I recognize the fact that I am connected to my physical body…It is a part of me…And in some ways it is me…There are times when I feel like I am fighting my body…When I feel like my body is fighting me…As if my body is letting me down…Or even intentionally trying to hurt me…Or intentionally trying to make my life more difficult…This feeling of frustration and this feeling of betrayal comes simply from wanting better…It comes from wanting to be healthier…It comes from a place of wanting to be stronger…And wanting to look at my body and love what I see…I appreciate the frustration because it wants something better for me…I appreciate my body’s desire for me to be healthier…For me to be stronger…For me to look good…Even inside this frustration I know my body is amazing…It is trillions and trillions of cells working in community…Keeping me healthy moment to moment…Allowing me to experience what is around me…There is so much I don’t have to think about…I don’t have to think about breathing…I don’t have to think about my heart beating…I don’t have to think about my food digesting…I just move through the world…I love and appreciate that my body is doing all of this…I know in each moment my body is trying to do what is best for me…I know in each moment my body is trying to do what is healthiest for me…Even if it isn’t making the healthiest choice, it is motivated by health and well-being…Sometimes my body is misinformed…I give my body permission to ask for what it needs…I give my system permission to do what it needs to do to keep me healthy…I give my body permission to state its needs…Because it is not some foreign object asking…It is me…I am it…There is no separation between my mind and body…There is no separation between my desires and what my body is doing…They feel disconnected…They feel incongruent…But I give them permission to grow and heal together as one…Because they actually are one…I give my system permission to move forward in a way that is best for all parts of me…I give myself permission to love my body…Because I am my body.