My walk home from Thanksgiving dinner took about a half an hour. It was a quiet afternoon and the Brooklyn streets were almost deserted.
As I was walking I started singing Sinéad O’Connor’s “Thank You For Hearing Me.” I find it to be a such a profound and holy song (and I don’t use the word holy lightly).
It would perfect to tap along to today.
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One of the main reasons we hold ourselves back from taking action is our need to be perfect.
We want everything we do to be great AND we want everyone around us to think we are great too.
Often times if even the smallest thought exists that others aren’t going to see us (and everything we do) as great we don’t take action.
Most of the time this isn’t a conscious choice. We just don’t take the action we want to take and just get busy with something else.
I was recently working with “Rachel” on this issue. We did some great tapping on tuning into some of the reasons why she needed everything to be perfect before taking action.
About 45 minutes after our session I received this email:
I did some more tapping after our session, which brought me to a lightbulb moment – I seem to have believed, for God knows how long, that in order for me to be “good enough”, everything I do has to be impressive. That is an impossible standard, of course, but one that quite insidious in my daily thoughts…
So, I now give myself permission to be unimpressive, to make unimpressive art, to have unimpressive ideas and opinions, to have unimpressive dreams and goals, to have an unimpressive plan for the summer, to read unimpressive books… you get the idea.
What a relief! With impressive out of the way it has created real room to breathe.
I couldn’t have said it better myself. It is amazing the space we can create for ourselves when we give ourselves permission to be unimpressive!
Take a deep breath and tap on this:
I give myself permission to be unimpressive…I give myself permission to make unimpressive art…I give myself permission to have unimpressive ideas and opinions…I give myself permission to have unimpressive dreams and goals…I give myself permission to read unimpressive books…I give myself permission to [insert your own ideas].
Take another deep breath.
How does that feel? Let me know down in the comment section. I would also love to hear the things you inserted for yourself.
If you would like guidance on how you can use tapping for issues like this one in just a few minutes every day, please check out the Ruach Center.
I recently came across this very interesting quote on one of my favorite websites explore:
The amount of sleep you get predicts the discipline your body can produce. Why? Sleep deprivation depletes the glucose level in your pre-frontal cortex, Barnes writes. This has consequences for your decision-making: If you don’t get enough sleep, you leave your self-control engine running on empty. If you do get enough sleep, you restore that fuel base.
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I knew that sleep was important, I knew that I always felt better after a good night’s rest, and made better choices as a result.
I just didn’t have a clue as to why that was the case.
If you are interested in the full research study on what was discovered you can check out details on the study.
Now that that is clear, did you know that it is really easy to tap for good night’s sleep?
Here is how I tap for a good night of sleep. The link will take you to the tapping script I use before I go to sleep and also a pdf you can print out and put on your nightstand so you don’t forget to do it.
Tap for a good night’s sleep.
Get a good night’s sleep.
Improve glucose levels in your pre-frontal cortex.
Make better choices tomorrow.
Do it tonight: Tap for a good night of sleep!
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Over the last few weeks I have done a lot of writing and recording on guilt and shame.
There have been two reasons for this. First, they have come up a lot in client calls as of late. Second, because they have been coming up so much for my clients I have been reflecting on them a lot in my own life. As I have stated before, shame is the emotion I find the hardest to deal with and the most debilitating.
A few weeks ago I attended the Spring Energy Event in the Hudson River Valley in New York. One of the speakers said something really interesting about guilt. (Unfortunately, I can’t remember who said it to give proper credit. If you were there and remember who it was please let me know so I can give credit.)
The statement was, “When you feel guilty about something you are holding the other person in a victim state.”
That is an amazing thought!
When I think I have done you wrong, not only does my guilt impact the way I see myself, but it also impacts the way I see you, and therefore the way I interact with you.
When I feel like I have hurt you, I will call you less, be hesitant in your presence, and be reluctant to spend time with you. Even if you don’t think I have done you wrong, my feeling of guilt about something I have done to you will hurt you now.
For me this is a real eye opener. I know it is good for me to tap for my own guilt, but taking care of myself isn’t always my strongest motivation to do work. But, I am more willing to do things that will help my loved ones.
By understanding that tapping for my own guilt and shame will help others encourages me to tap.
If you are looking for an easy way to tap for guilt or shame you can tap along with me in this short video.
What are your thoughts about seeing our own guilt as something that hurts others? Let me know below in the comments.
For me, the most painful and debilitating emotion is when I feel ashamed of something I have done wrong.
When I feel ashamed, it is because I know I could have done better or I chose the wrong path. Many times I know the right thing to do and still choose the wrong thing. That produces a lot of feeling ashamed!
And as I hate feeling ashamed, I limit my risk. I don’t take chances. Because if I don’t take chances then I can’t make poor choices. And if I can’t make poor choices then I avoid feeling ashamed.
This emotional state is the most powerful source of self sabotage in my life.
A few weeks ago I woke up on a Saturday morning and decided I need to tap for feeling ashamed. This video is the result.
Feel free to tap along with me:
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One of the main focuses of My EFT Year program (which you can try for only $1) is working towards clearly defined goals.
I love goals and goal setting!
Much my personal success over the last decade was in direct proportion to how well I was using my goal list.
But there are times, even with the best goal setting tools in the world, when we can lose our momentum.
This is exactly what happened to me in February and March. As my British friends would say, I completely lost the plot. I made almost no progress towards my goals.
There was good reason for this. I traveled over 40 days in two months. Much of this travel was for work. It wasn’t that I was being lazy, but I still fell behind.
April is a new month! I am right back on track and have a great plan for moving forward.
Even with that said, I was dealing with a lot of frustration and guilt over feeling that I had squandered some opportunities. No matter how good my new plan was, I couldn’t move forward unless I did something about the frustration and guilt.
I realized that this was something that I really need to tap for, and I wanted you to experience that tapping too.
Here is me tapping for my guilt and frustration over squandered opportunities.
If you are looking for a way to stop self sabotage and move toward your goals you should check out My EFT Year
One of the issues I am asked about the most is tapping for a good night’s sleep. Below is the tapping script I use when I have trouble sleeping.
You can download a pdf version of the script here downloadable pdf.
[Note: If you find this script helpful I would encourage you to check MyEFTYear.com. This is the type of resource that shows up at least 4 days a week.]
Are you looking for something to help you sleep through the night? Try this right before you go to bed.
There are a number of things that didn’t go as planned today.
Some of them are still on my mind.
They are floating around in the forms of regret and disappointment.
At this point there is nothing I can do about these things.
I give myself permission to let these worries and anxieties to melt away.
If I need theses worries and anxieties again tomorrow I can re-find them.
More than likely after a good night’s sleep these things will seem less daunting and tomorrow I will have the opportunity to respond in a new way.
There are a number of things that I am thinking about that are going to happen tomorrow or sometime in the future.
There is nothing that I can do about these things tonight.
The best thing that I can do about the unknown that is coming in the future is to get a good night’s sleep so that when I wake tomorrow I will be well rested and re-energized to take on these tasks and opportunities.
When I climb into bed tonight I will fall asleep easily and gently.
When my head hits the pillow my body will naturally relax.
It will happen easily and gently.
Even if I don’t fall asleep right away that is OK because I know just resting in bed is going to do a lot for my system, giving it a chance to slow down and heal.
I know the part of my system that is responsible for sleep works very hard.
It wants me to sleep and to receive all the amazing benefits that come from a night of restful sleep.
I appreciate the part of me that is responsible for sleep, even though I sometimes am hard on myself and this part of my system when it has a hard time sleeping.
I want the part of my system that is responsible for sleep to know that it is not alone in providing me sleep.
The whole system is committed to a night of deep, relaxing, gentle sleep.
Whatever other parts of the system that the sleep part wants to call on, I give it permission to do that now.
AND I want it to know that I want it to work with the rest of the system.
My system works best when all the parts are working together.
I am going to have restful sleep tonight.
I am going to have gentle sleep tonight.
I am going to have re-energizing sleep tonight.
I am going to have healing sleep tonight.
I am going to sleep in such a way that it will feed my creativity and inspiration tonight.
In the morning I am going to wake up gently and easily.
I am going to wake up re-energized and ready to take on a new day.
I am going to wake with open eyes to new opportunities and bigger dreams.
I am going to wake knowing that this night’s sleep served me and the new day very well.
I give myself permission to have a gentle, restful night of sleep.
My sleep is important.
During sleep my system has the recharge and re-energize.
During sleep my conscious, subconscious, and unconscious minds have the opportunity to sort out all the new information and lessons form today.
While I am sleeping I don’t need to give any of these functions any thought.
My system can take care of all of this while I get a gentle, restful night of sleep.
It has been one of the worst flu seasons in years here in the States. And even if you managed to avoid the flu, there were lots of colds and stomach viruses going around. Below is the tapping script I use when I feel a bug coming on.
You don’t have to use the whole thing. Feel free to pick and choose the parts that work best for you.
Here is a downloadable pdf version of the script.
[Note: If you like this script I would encourage you to check MyEFTYear.com. This is the type of resource that shows up at least 4 days a week.]
My system is a powerful healing machine.
My system is made for health and well-being. I appreciate everything that my system does on unconscious and subconscious levels all day and night to keep me healthy and safe. I know my system isn’t perfect in doing this, but it is truly amazing in what is does.
I know that there are choices that I make that make it harder for my system to heal and grow. There are thoughts that I have, emotions that I feel, beliefs that I hold, things that I eat and drink, and choices that I make which makes it harder for my system to maintain optimum health. I apologize to my system for any of these that I have done, especially in the last twenty-four hours. I appreciate the fact that my system is willing to keep working towards my health and well-being.
There are many things that my system is holding onto that is slowing healing and growth. These can be in the forms of thoughts, emotions, beliefs, and substance in my physical body. Some of these are known while some are unknown or hidden. At one point the system thought these were helpful or still thinks they are helpful. I give my system permission to let go of anything that is blocking health and well being. If it needs these things in the future, I will be able to pick them up again. I give my system permission to let them go even if the system doesn’t understand what they are or why the system thought they were helpful at one point.
My system is a powerful healing machine. I give my system permission to release its healing power, not just now, but throughout the whole day and as I sleep tonight. I do not need to be conscious of this healing and growth. My system has permission to heal.
There are many systems in my body that do so many amazing things. There might be blocks and impediments to these parts working to their optimum potential.
I give my system permission to remove any blocks and provide to my body anything it needs for health and well-being.
I give my system permission to remove any blocks and provide to my digestive system for optimum health and well-being.
I give my system permission to remove any blocks and provide to my respiratory system for optimum health and well-being.
I give my system permission to remove any blocks and provide to my circulatory system for optimum health and well-being.
I give my system permission to remove any blocks and provide to my nervous system for optimum health and well-being.
I give my system permission and energy to remove any blocks and provide health and healing to my limbic system for optimum health and well-being.
I give my system permission to remove any blocks and provide to my glandular system for optimum health and well-being.
I give my system permission to remove any blocks and provide to my reproductive system for optimum health and well-being.
I know that as I move through the day I encounter many things that it is hard for my system to process or can be hard for my system to process. My system and my immune system do an amazing job of keeping me healthy as I encounter things through my whole day that are working against my health and well-being.
I want my immune system to know how much I appreciate how hard it works. I want my immune system to know it is not the only part of me that is trying to keep my safe and healthy. I give my immune system permission to access other parts of my system to ensure that I stay safe and healthy.
I give my system permission to heal and remove any known, unknown, and hidden obstacles that are preventing health and well-being.
I give my system permission to heal and remove any known, unknown, and hidden viruses that are preventing health and well-being.
I give my system permission to heal and remove any known, unknown, and hidden bacteria that are preventing health and well-being.
I give my system permission to heal and remove any known, unknown, and hidden fungi that are preventing health and well-being.
I give my system permission to heal and remove any known, unknown, and hidden ingestants that are preventing health and well-being.
I give my system permission to heal and remove any known, unknown, and hidden inhalants that are preventing health and well-being.
I give my system permission to heal and remove any known, unknown, and hidden contactants that are preventing health and well-being.
I give my system permission to heal and remove any known, unknown, and hidden injectants that are preventing health and well-being.
I give my system permission to heal and remove any known, unknown, and hidden emotions that are preventing health and well-being.
I give my system permission to heal and remove any known, unknown, and hidden memories that are preventing health and well-being.
I give my system permission to heal and remove any known, unknown, and hidden beliefs that are preventing health and well-being.
I give my system permission to heal and remove any known, unknown, and hidden darkness that is preventing health and well-being.
I had a really powerful session with a client yesterday. While dealing with hesitating to act we landed on the issue of feeling worthy to be present and worthy of attention.
This is a short, but very powerful audio about our right to be here, to be seen, and to act.
Even if it doesn’t sound like something that resonates with you, please tap to it.
I am worthy of being here…I am worthy of taking up space…I am worthy of existing… I am worthy of being seen…I am worthy of being here…I am worthy of acting…I am worthy of creating a life…I am worthy of being recognized…I am worthy of moving forward…I am worthy of being seen…I am worthy of taking up space…I am worthy of being known…I am worthy of being recognized…I am worthy to be here…