EFT/Tapping Q and A with Gene Monterastelli - Emotional Freedom Techniques

Pod #252: EFT For Starting 2017 With The Right Intentions

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Last week I shared with you a simple process for letting go of the issues, worries, and wounds of 2016.

This week we are going to tap to start 2017 off on the right foot.

I love this particular tapping process because it is a chance for us to turn inward and give all parts of our system the chance to state what they need in the year ahead.

Just like last week, I recommend that you do this process once a day for a week. I am certain you will be amazed by how the process changes each time you do it.

I would like something better…I would like to be successful…I would like to transform..I would like to move forward…I recognize the fact that I get in my own way…that I don’t do the actions that I want to do…that I don’t stay focused…this is really disappointing…in many cases I know exactly what to do…in many cases I know exactly how I want to do it…and I still don’t do it…it is because my system is trying to keep me safe…it is because my system is trying to keep me healthy…it is because my system doesn’t want me to be in over my head…it avoids the actions that could get me in trouble…it avoids the steps that are difficult…I appreciate the fact that my system is trying to keep me healthy in this way…I also appreciate the fact my system is working too hard…it is seeing the things that are dangerous and blowing them out of proportion…I give myself permission to create the space to make it safe for me to make difficult choices…to make it safe for me to take new actions…there are times that I do not set goals because I don’t want to face failure…my subconscious mind thinks but if I never set a goal then I will never have the opportunity to fail…I appreciate it is trying to keep me safe in this way and I recognize that it’s over functioning…it is safe for me to have dreams…it is safe for me to have goals…It is safe for me to pursue something better…

There are times that I do not take action because I don’t know how to do the action…or I don’t know the exact step to take…my system doesn’t want to waste time…my system doesn’t want to waste energy…my system doesn’t want to waste effort…the way that it does this is it prevents me trying…because if I never try anything new I can’t look foolish and stupid…I appreciate that my system is doing this to keeping me safe…but I also recognize the fact every single thing that I can do is something I had to learn how to do…at one point I couldn’t do it…everything that I can do I learned how to do…I give myself permission to allow myself to move forward in such a way that I do not need to be perfect the first time

I recognize there are times when I know what to do..I know how to do it..and I still don’t take action…because I am afraid of taking that action is not going to be good..It’s not that there’s a problem with the action…but I am worried about trying…I’m worried others are going to see me and judge me…I’m worried that others are going to dismiss my effort…I’m worried that others are going to think that I’m foolish…I’m worried that others are going to think that I’m wasting my time…I give myself permission to know that these are the actions I should be taking…to know that these are the actions that are right for me…to know that as I move forward creating this path and becoming who I am is best for me.

They’re also times that I do not take action because my system fears success…it is worried that if I work hard to be successful I will have to work hard to stay successful…it is worried that others will see me being successful at this and will be expected to be successful all the time…I’m worried that being successful is not going to be enough and I’m going to be let down…I give myself permission to know that even imperfect success is better than this…to know that as I move forward success will build on success…and more progress will come…I give myself and my system permission to know that when I don’t take action…it is just my system taking care of me…I know my system it is simply over functioning…I trust myself to take action…I trust myself to be healthy…I trust myself to move forward anyway…even when things do not work out each action brings me closer to the success that I made for.

Pod #250: EFT For A Good Night’s Sleep

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On some level we know that getting a good night’s sleep is important. I know the quality of my sleep impacts how I handle each day. But did you know:

Sleep plays a vital role in good health and well-being throughout your life. Getting enough quality sleep at the right times can help protect your mental health, physical health, quality of life, and safety.

The way you feel while you’re awake depends in part on what happens while you’re sleeping. During sleep, your body is working to support healthy brain function and maintain your physical health. In children and teens, sleep also helps support growth and development.

The damage from sleep deficiency can occur in an instant (such as a car crash), or it can harm you over time. For example, ongoing sleep deficiency can raise your risk for some chronic health problems. It also can affect how well you think, react, work, learn, and get along with others.

That is a direct quote from Heart, Blood, and Lung Institute at the National Institute of Health which is run by the US Department of Health and Human Services.

Here is an updated version of the tapping I do before I go to bed to ensure a good night’s sleep. I have included both an audio and text version of the script (below).

You can access script in the text area of the TappingQ&A App, which you can download free of charge here: Apple App |Google/Andriod App

As I get ready for bed…I recognize the day has been stressful…I recognize the day has been full…My mind is still racing with all of these thoughts and all of these concerns…I give myself permission to set them aside so that I can now rest…Those worries that I carry with me are just a part of me trying to keep me safe…The worry is simply saying “Keep an eye on this”…”Don’t forget that”…”Please be on guard”…I appreciate the fact my system is trying to keep me safe…I appreciate the fact my system is trying to keep me healthy…I’m aware of everything I’m worried about…I am aware of everything I’m stressed about…Because I am aware I do not have to worry…The worry has done its job…The stress has done its job…If I need to worry about these things tomorrow I give myself permission to do exactly that…I don’t need that worried right now…I give myself permission and I get my entire system permission to relax and let go…To exhale deeply and to gently rest…Because gentle rest will bring me health…Gentle rest is good for my well-being…I give my system permission to gently let go of all tension and easily get off to sleep…As I sleep tonight I give my system permission to let go of everything that is no longer necessary…Letting go of thoughts, beliefs, and programing that are unnecessary…Today I learned lessons about stories that I have picked up that no longer serve me…Now is the perfect time to let those stories go…As I sleep tonight it is much like a computer that is getting an upgrade to its operating system…This sleep tonight is a chance for me to reset…To wake up with a clean slate…To see the world more clearly after I let go of the beliefs that are no longer useful…I give my system permission to rest deeply knowing that I am safe…I give my system permission to rest gently knowing that I can take this moment of comfort so that when I wake up tomorrow…I will wake up clear headed…I will wake up relaxed…I will wake up refreshed…Ready to take on a new day…But I don’t need to think about that now…All I need to notice is that it is time for rest and gentle relaxation…I am made for both of those…I give myself permission to sleep…I give myself permission to rest

Pod #248: EFT For Holiday Stress

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The holiday season is a time for spending time with friends and family, parties, celebration, and fun.

But because there is soooooo much packed into this time of year there can also be a great deal of additional stress. To help you through the holiday season I have four different tapping scripts for you.

  • Too many activities going on (4m56s)
  • Having to spend time with people you might not choose to spend time with (9m27s)
  • Financial stress because of holiday spending (13m35s)
  • Feeling disconnected from the meaning of the season (18m05s)

Note: The time code after each of the topics above is the place in the audio where that particular tap-along begins. You will also find all four scripts below.

This is a crazy time of year…It feels like there are a million things going on…Parties that friends are throwing…Parties that work is throwing…Pageant that kids are in…It feels as if every time I look at my calendar there is one more thing I have to do…It feels like a marathon…Not a celebration…And because we are going non-stop it’s hard to appreciate each event…Some of the events I feel like I have to show up to…And not that I want to be there…Not that I enjoy it…But it is a requirement…Because it’s a requirement stacked on top of many other requirements it’s anything but fun…It’s anything but enjoyable…I even start to resent it…I give myself permission to know that I am allowed to say no…I give myself permission to know I don’t actually have to do everything…I give myself permission to know I’m allowed to leave early…I don’t have to stay until the bitter end…Just because I was invited doesn’t mean I have to say yes…Many of the things that I miss notice no one will even notice…Because everybody is overly busy…I give myself permission to know it is OK for me to take care of myself…It’s OK for me to focus on my own family and not feel like I have to do everything…Many of the people who have invited me places will actually enjoy it a lot more if I visit them in January…When nobody feels overwhelmed by the holidays…This holiday season I give myself permission to take care of myself…To say no to the things that are not helpful or healthy for me to do.

I recognize the fact that I’m going to be spending some time with people I don’t necessarily like…I’m going to be spending time with them because I’ve chosen to do that…Because I’ve decided it’s the right thing to do during this holiday season…But by choosing to be there I’m not saying I agree with their world view…I’m not saying that I want to spend lots of time with them…I know that there are going to be moments where they are going to say or do something that really frustrates me…That they are going to do something that drives me crazy…More than likely I will do something that drives them crazy as well…I recognize the fact that I am allowed to navigate this in a way where I’m putting my safety and health first…I give myself permission not to engage…I give myself permission to get up and leave the room when necessary…I give myself permission to know it is OK to leave early if I know I have to…Just because I’m interacting with someone does not mean they have to take up a huge amount of space in my head…Or a huge amount of space in my heart…Sometimes we decide it is best to show up places where there are people we don’t get along with…I don’t have to do this every day…I don’t have to do this all the time…I give myself permission to not worry about it…I give myself permission to let it go the instant I walk out the door…it is OK for me to take care of myself…It is OK for me not to engage…It is OK to let this pass until I have to do it again next year…Hopefully in the next year we will all have evolved and our interaction next time will be better

I recognize I spend a lot more money during the holiday season…On the gifts that I give…The social events that I attend…The food that I bought…All of this can create a great deal of stress…I recognize the fact that much of the spending that I do is on things that I feel like I have to do…That I don’t have a choice…That I don’t have an option…That it is something I must do or other people will judge me…Because I didn’t give the right gifts…Or I didn’t give the right amount of gifts…The reality is that most of the gifts that we receive…And most of the gifts we give…Are forgotten about very quickly…Because we already have so much stuff in our lives…We might appreciate it in the moment…But then it just joins everything else that we own…I give myself permission to be much more thoughtful about my buying decisions…To be to be much more thoughtful about the choices I make…Knowing that I can give less more thoughtfully…Still letting the people I love know I love them…I give myself permission to let go of the guilt which is compelling me to buy more…It just wants me to be safe…By acting like everyone else…I give myself permission to know I don’t need to do that…I can be thoughtful…I can be deliberate about it…I can give good gifts that I am proud of and spend less…I give myself permission to let go of the social conventions of what we are supposed to give…And give in a way that makes sense to me

I recognize the fact that the holidays will become very commercialized…Recognize the fact the holidays have become super busy…And it is so easy to get caught up in the obligations, it is easy to get caught up in all of the details…This holiday season I give myself permission to carve out the time that is necessary for me…To appreciate the season for what it really means…To connect with my family traditions…To connect with my loved ones…And to connect with my spiritual beliefs…To take time to reflect…To take time to appreciate…To take time to be in the moment…Even if I have to schedule that quiet time on my calendar…I give myself permission to be deliberate and intentional…To let go of the craziness…To let go of the hubbub…And to be fully present to what is going on…To be fully present to what I want to experience…I give myself permission to make the holiday season about the part of it that is important to me…To be present in the way that I want to be present…And not be wrapped up in all of the craziness and the details

Pod #247: EFT For Giving Thanks

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eft-forI have found in my own life that one of the most powerful emotions is gratitude. When we feel a sense of gratitude, even during trying times, it moves us to a disposition of possibility.

It is important to note that this is not some fake, Pollyannish sense of hopefulness. It is possible to have a healthy sense of what is truly going on in our lives and be thankful at the same time.

Here is a very simple tap-along to help you to connect with a healthy and genuine sense of gratitude.

Note: Below the player you will find the tapping script used in this audio. If you prefer tapping scripts to the audio versions of the tap-along, you should check out the Tapping Q & A app for both Android and Apple devices. I am in the process of adding printed tapping scripts from all past tap-along audios to the app. They can be accessed by clicking on the text tab once in the app. Download here: Apple App |Google/Andriod App

I recognize the fact that my life is not perfect…I recognize the fact that the world is not perfect…I recognize the fact there are lots of things that I would change if I could change them…I know the lives around me aren’t perfect either…But at the exact same time I appreciate the fact that there are many things that are good…There are many things that are great…Even though my body is not perfect…I am thankful to have a body to move through this world with…Even though my mind is not perfect I am thankful for my creativity…Even though my relationships aren’t perfect…I am grateful for my ability to connect with others…Even though my interactions with others aren’t perfect…I appreciate the fact that there are others who inspire me…I know the world is not perfect…But I can be thankful the exact same time…I am thankful for life…I’m thankful for choice…I am thankful for opportunity…I am thankful for inspiration…I am thankful for education…I am thankful for healing…I am thankful for transformation…I am thankful that I can learn from others…I am thankful that I can be challenged…I am thankful for a new day…I am thankful for a new opportunity…I am thankful for rest and relaxation…I am thankful for people in my life…I am thankful for challenge…I am thankful…I am thankful for time to be thankful…I am thankful…I am thankful…I am thankful…I am thankful.

Pod 246: Why It Is Important to Be Selfish

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whyitsimportanttobeselfishNote: This week’s topic is so important that I have written an article and recorded a podcast. The article shares the same ideas, but is not a transcript of the podcast. This way you can choose the form that works best for you. The tapping script is identical in both the article and podcast.

I think that being selfish gets a really bad rap. Most people think that being selfish is bad and we are taught from a young age to be giving and not selfish.

Personally I don’t believe that being selfish and being giving are opposites.

Instead, I believe that every action I take is a selfish one because it is a self-defining act. Let me give you a few ridiculous examples to help prove my point.

  • Right now as I type this article I am taking a deep breath in, which means I am being selfish. There is no other reason to breathe than to stay alive. That is very selfish.

  • When I choose to love my family I am being selfish because I want to be a loving person. When I choose to love someone (and it is a choice), I am defining myself as a loving person.

  • When I choose to run my practice and help other people, I am being selfish because I am choosing how I use my time. Yes, I am helping people, and that is a great thing, but I am not healing them. That is their choice. I am just a guide in the process. They are being selfish when they choose to heal. I am being selfish when I choose to articulate who I am as a person who guides others on this path.

I know these examples are extremes, but I think they bring out the point because we tend to think of being selfish in such extreme terms.

Not only is it OK to be selfish, it is impossible not to be selfish because every action we make with our conscious choice is a self-defining act.

When I work out to get healthier, I am being selfish because I could be doing other things with my time. When I study a new skill, I am being selfish in order to make myself a different type of person. I am being selfish when I take a nap so I can be more present to my clients later in the afternoon.

It is OK to be selfish.

The reason you are still feeling uncomfortable every time you read that is because it is easy to believe that selfish equals greedy, mean, heartless, and willing to hurt others. We need to be selfish. If we don’t take care of ourselves, we will never be able to take care of others.

We need to be selfish. If we don’t take care of ourselves then we aren’t taking care of ourselves.

We need to be selfish. If we don’t take care of ourselves we are never going to grow and heal in to who we truly are.

Yes, I know you are still resisting this, despite my repetition. That is OK. Tapping for this might sound like:

I don’t want to be selfish…Because I need to care for other people…There are people who have it so much worse than I do…That I can’t ask for anything more or better…And the things I have…I have squandered…It would be really selfish to ask for more…But I choose to know that selfish means I am making self-defining act…Every choice I make is a selfish act…I can love someone else and be selfish…Because I want to be love…I can care for someone else because they are in need and be selfish…Because I want to be giving…This doesn’t take anything away from those loving acts…This doesn’t mean they are less valuable…It just means that when I am sharing…I am also defining myself…It is OK to want better for myself…Because I can then share with others…It is OK to want more for myself because then I can share more of myself with others…I am worthy of taking care of myself…That is not greedy…That is being healthy….I need to be healthy…I must be healthy…It is OK that I don’t think being selfish is a bad thing…I don’t want to be mean…I don’t want to be greedy…But those are not the same as being selfish…To be selfish is to choose the type of self I want to be.