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Pod #274: How To Tap When Your Emotions Are So Strong You Can’t Find The Right Words

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A key reason we don't tap in the moment is because we are so engulfed by what we are feeling that we don't remember tapping is something helpful we can do.

Or sometimes we may remember to tap, but we still don't do it because we don't know where to start. In the middle of strong emotions it can be difficult to describe what we are feeling. We can't find the words to describe the root cause and we aren't thinking clearly enough to come up with a reframe for the situation.

Because we can't find an entry point to tapping, we simply don't do it.

Here is a simple 3-step process to use when you are in the moment and don't know what to say when you are tapping. The process is so simple that you will be able to master it after listening just once.

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Pod #273: EFT For Big Decisions

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Back in Pod #199 I shared with you a tap-along audio to help you when you are facing a big decision. The tap-along is about trusting yourself, creating space, and knowing that everything will work out for the best.

I went back to listen to it again and I think it is an excellent and useful tap-along.

At the same time, I think there is more we can do to create space for making good choices when facing a big decision.

This week I have for you a simple tool with step-by-step instruction on how you can use tapping in the decision-making process. It's more than just feeling better about making the choice, but tapping while you are figuring out what is best for you.

If you use the tool, please let me know how it worked for you in the comment section below.

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Pod #272: EFT For The Frustration Of Stalled Progress

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When tapping works, it feels like magic. You tap on a few points, you say a few phrases, and you get relief.

When tapping doesn't work, you feel like a fool. You are sitting alone in your room muttering phrases to yourself, tapping on your body, and hoping it will get better.

When this happens to me, not only do I question tapping in the moment, I also question all of the tapping I did in the past. I wonder if I have imagined my past successes.

This week I have for you a simple tap-along that you can do when you feel like you have reached a plateau in your progress. I recorded it in the middle of feeling this exact frustration. So this isn't me giving you an option for this type of tapping, it is actually me dealing with it for myself.

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Right now I am frustrated by the fact that I am not moving forward…No matter what I try…I'm not making any progress at all…When I am stuck in this place…It’s difficult for me to focus…It's difficult for me to take action….It is difficult for me to believe that it is possible to be better…Right now I am trying really hard…I'm doing everything I know how to do…I'm putting forth full effort…But it’s making no difference at all…It feels like a waste of time…It feels like I'm going backwards…It feels like no matter what I do, it is useless…Not only am I questioning what I'm doing right now…I'm questioning everything I did before…Was my past success a fluke?…Were my past efforts actually helpful?…I hate feeling stuck like this…I hate feeling like I can't move forward…Even though all of this is true…I can recognize the fact that this is a process….Sometimes when we are in the middle of a process…It doesn't go as smoothly as we would like…It doesn't move forward as easily as we would like…I recognize the fact the effort that I am putting forth right now is adding to my success…Even if I can't see the success in this moment..Even if I can't feel that success with this effort…I'm not going to be stuck like this forever…The simple fact that I have invested some time to try and transform this issue…To keep moving forward…Is good…I give myself permission to do the work…To know the results are going to come…Even if they're not coming right now…Even if they're not coming as fast as I would like…The results are going to come…I trust myself…I trust the process…I trust my toolset…Knowing that when I put forth this effort…I'm eventually going to make progress…I am open to the possibility of that progress being quick…I am open to the possibility of that happening easily…I give myself permission to trust myself….I trust the process…To keep taking action…Knowing that this will ultimately lead me to my goal.

Pod #271: Tapping To Boost Creativity

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Embarking on a creative endeavor, whether for our personal or professional lives, can feel daunting.

We struggle with creativity because:

  • We want the ideas to emerge fully formed
  • We are worried that our efforts will be judged harshly by others
  • We are concerned about wasting time and not coming up with anything good
  • We don't know where to start so it feels like a waste of time and energy even to try

Because we don't want the process to go badly, we simply don't start (think of staring at a blank Word document and being taunted by that blinking cursor!).

This tap-along audio (with script below) will help you to clear the emotional blocks holding you back from creative endeavours. Take a few moments to tap through this audio (or script) before brainstorming or working on a task that requires creativity and you will find your flow much more easily.

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There is a part of me that wants to do this task successfully..But there is also a part of me feeling resistance…There's a part of me avoiding taking action…It is doing this to keep me safe…It is doing this to avoid danger…On the surface I know how silly that sounds…Being creative is not dangerous…But this part of me is worried…It is worried that I will waste my time…It is worried that I won’t come up with good ideas…It is worried that others will judge my ideas…It is worried that whatever I come up with isn't going to be good enough…This is going to be a giant waste of time and effort…I appreciate this worry…Because worry comes with the creative process…The creative process is uncertain…The creative process is full of unknowns…The creative process is full of bad ideas…The creative process is full of half ideas…I don't want to waste my time with those…I know what it feels like to get this right…I know what it feels like to have this completed…But that feels so far away…That feels so impossible in this moment…I give myself permission to recognize the fact that creativity is a process…Ideas are not going to spring from my head fully formed…It will take a little time…It will take a little effort…For me to find my way to the ideas that work for me…No one has to see the ideas that I come up with first…Unless I decide to share them…It's OK if they are half ideas…It's OK if they are incomplete ideas…It's even OK if they are bad ideas…Because no one is ever going to see them unless I decide to share them…So the process is safe…It doesn't have to be perfect…Many of the ideas I come up with might be seeds of much better ideas…I might not have those much better ideas right away…But I know spending time with the process will lead to what I need…It is OK if it takes time…It is OK if it slowly unfolds…It is even OK for me to spend time on this problem right now and not come up with a useful answer…There will be times when the creative process will involve me working through the least useful ideas first…That's OK…Because that is the process…I give myself permission to be easy with myself as I give myself the space to come up with ideas that are useful…I give myself permission to trust myself in this process…Knowing that good and useful ideas will come…If I give myself the space and time that I need…I will come up with ideas that are so good that they surprise even me.

Pod #270: How To Support Those With Serious Illness w/ Annabel Fisher, Annie Siegel Alexander, and Ange Finn

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When a loved one is diagnosed with a serious illness it can difficult to know what to do next.

On one level we want to be helpful but also recognise that they may need their space so we don't want to be intrusive. Often we are so shocked ourselves that we just don't know what to do next.

At the 2017 Spring Energy Event I was given the opportunity to moderate a panel discussion between Annabel Fisher, Annie Siegel Alexander, and Ange Finn. All three of these amazing women (and tapping practitioners) have battled life-threatening diseases. (You can read more about the three of them at the bottom of this post.)

The conversation is not primarily about how to use EFT for life-threatening illness, though all three of them talk about how tapping was helpful in their own journey. Instead we cover:

  • Their individual experiences of diagnosis and treatment
  • How they managed their emotional experience
  • How their loved ones responded to the situation

In the conversation you will hear practical advice on how you can best support your loved ones in these kinds of situations.

I feel fortunate to have participated in this very honest and powerful conversation in which these brave women were willing to share their stories.

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Ange Finn: Ange is an AAMET Accredited Certified Advanced EFT Practitioner. In addition to working with clients to resolve the patterns of behavior that keep them stuck, she also specializes in helping horseback riders overcome fear after falls. She can be found online at TapIntoYourself.com and RideWithoutFear.com

Annabel Fisher: Annabel is a British Columbia based practitioner who works with clients struggling with chronic and serious illnesses. She can be found online at EFTTappingSessions.com/ and you can also listen to her past Tapping Q&A podcast interviews here.

Annie Siegel Alexander: Annie uses EFT, Matrix Reimprinting, and hypnotherapy for anxiety, stress, relationships, and sleep problems. She can be found online at RoadToEmotionalFreedom.com/