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Pod #271: Tapping To Boost Creativity

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Embarking on a creative endeavor, whether for our personal or professional lives, can feel daunting.

We struggle with creativity because:

  • We want the ideas to emerge fully formed
  • We are worried that our efforts will be judged harshly by others
  • We are concerned about wasting time and not coming up with anything good
  • We don't know where to start so it feels like a waste of time and energy even to try

Because we don't want the process to go badly, we simply don't start (think of staring at a blank Word document and being taunted by that blinking cursor!).

This tap-along audio (with script below) will help you to clear the emotional blocks holding you back from creative endeavours. Take a few moments to tap through this audio (or script) before brainstorming or working on a task that requires creativity and you will find your flow much more easily.

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There is a part of me that wants to do this task successfully..But there is also a part of me feeling resistance…There's a part of me avoiding taking action…It is doing this to keep me safe…It is doing this to avoid danger…On the surface I know how silly that sounds…Being creative is not dangerous…But this part of me is worried…It is worried that I will waste my time…It is worried that I won’t come up with good ideas…It is worried that others will judge my ideas…It is worried that whatever I come up with isn't going to be good enough…This is going to be a giant waste of time and effort…I appreciate this worry…Because worry comes with the creative process…The creative process is uncertain…The creative process is full of unknowns…The creative process is full of bad ideas…The creative process is full of half ideas…I don't want to waste my time with those…I know what it feels like to get this right…I know what it feels like to have this completed…But that feels so far away…That feels so impossible in this moment…I give myself permission to recognize the fact that creativity is a process…Ideas are not going to spring from my head fully formed…It will take a little time…It will take a little effort…For me to find my way to the ideas that work for me…No one has to see the ideas that I come up with first…Unless I decide to share them…It's OK if they are half ideas…It's OK if they are incomplete ideas…It's even OK if they are bad ideas…Because no one is ever going to see them unless I decide to share them…So the process is safe…It doesn't have to be perfect…Many of the ideas I come up with might be seeds of much better ideas…I might not have those much better ideas right away…But I know spending time with the process will lead to what I need…It is OK if it takes time…It is OK if it slowly unfolds…It is even OK for me to spend time on this problem right now and not come up with a useful answer…There will be times when the creative process will involve me working through the least useful ideas first…That's OK…Because that is the process…I give myself permission to be easy with myself as I give myself the space to come up with ideas that are useful…I give myself permission to trust myself in this process…Knowing that good and useful ideas will come…If I give myself the space and time that I need…I will come up with ideas that are so good that they surprise even me.

Pod #270: How To Support Those With Serious Illness w/ Annabel Fisher, Annie Siegel Alexander, and Ange Finn

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When a loved one is diagnosed with a serious illness it can difficult to know what to do next.

On one level we want to be helpful but also recognise that they may need their space so we don't want to be intrusive. Often we are so shocked ourselves that we just don't know what to do next.

At the 2017 Spring Energy Event I was given the opportunity to moderate a panel discussion between Annabel Fisher, Annie Siegel Alexander, and Ange Finn. All three of these amazing women (and tapping practitioners) have battled life-threatening diseases. (You can read more about the three of them at the bottom of this post.)

The conversation is not primarily about how to use EFT for life-threatening illness, though all three of them talk about how tapping was helpful in their own journey. Instead we cover:

  • Their individual experiences of diagnosis and treatment
  • How they managed their emotional experience
  • How their loved ones responded to the situation

In the conversation you will hear practical advice on how you can best support your loved ones in these kinds of situations.

I feel fortunate to have participated in this very honest and powerful conversation in which these brave women were willing to share their stories.

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Ange Finn: Ange is an AAMET Accredited Certified Advanced EFT Practitioner. In addition to working with clients to resolve the patterns of behavior that keep them stuck, she also specializes in helping horseback riders overcome fear after falls. She can be found online at TapIntoYourself.com and RideWithoutFear.com

Annabel Fisher: Annabel is a British Columbia based practitioner who works with clients struggling with chronic and serious illnesses. She can be found online at EFTTappingSessions.com/ and you can also listen to her past Tapping Q&A podcast interviews here.

Annie Siegel Alexander: Annie uses EFT, Matrix Reimprinting, and hypnotherapy for anxiety, stress, relationships, and sleep problems. She can be found online at RoadToEmotionalFreedom.com/

Pod #269: How Tapping and Acupuncture Are Related (Part 2) w/ Beth Kearns

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Last August I had a conversation with acupuncturist Beth Kearns about each of the tapping points we use in the basic tapping routine. If you haven't listened to the conversation, I encourage you to go back to it because it is informative.

There are three main differences between tapping and acupuncture. The first and most obvious is that we tap with our hands and an acupuncturist uses needles. Second, when we are tapping we usually say phrases out loud and if not, we are still focused on a particular issue. This is not required with acupuncture. Third, when tapping we use the same seven to fifteen tapping points for any issue. An acupuncturist uses a custom set of points on the body for each issue from a choice of hundreds.

In this conversation Beth explains her intake process to me, what she is looking for when working with clients, and how she decides which points to use. We even play act the intake process with me talking about the specific issue that first brought me to tapping.

I found all of this information extremely interesting.

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Beth Kearns
Beth Kearns

Guest: Beth Kearns

Contact Beth: web @ BethKearnsAcupuncture.com

About Beth: Beth is a fully licensed acupuncturist in the State of Colorado. She is a certified Diplomat (Dipl.Ac) by the National Certification Commission in Acupuncture and Oriental Medicine (NCCAOM). She completed the four-year program at the Institute of Taoist Education and Acupuncture (ITEA) in Louisville, CO. ITEA is a Classical Five-Element Acupuncture school. In addition to acupuncture, Beth is also an advanced Neuro-Structural Integration Technique (NST) practitioner. Beth is a teacher at ITEA and loves sharing this amazing form of acupuncture with students. She is available to bring acupuncture and NST to businesses and groups and give lectures on many topics including acupuncture, depression/anxiety, grief, women’s issues, and much more.

Pod #268: Letting Go of Limiting and Unhelpful Beliefs

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We enter this world as a blank slate. With each new experience and relationship we begin to form a series of beliefs about the world and our place within it.

These beliefs become the bedrock of our emotional experience because they determine our interpretation of everything that happens to us in life.

This becomes problematic when the beliefs informing our experience are not useful or are outdated. For example, if I believe it is unsafe for me to be who I am called to be, I will live my life constantly feeling like an impostor because I am not being true to myself.

At the 2017 Spring Energy Event I was given the opportunity to talk about how we form our beliefs and what to do when those beliefs become limiting and no longer serve us.

In the talk I cover:

  • How our beliefs are formed
  • The eight operating principles I work from when working on changing or releasing limiting beliefs
  • A simple process you can use to identify the beliefs holding you back and how to tap to transform them

Below the audio player you will find the notes from the presentation.

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Operating principles:

  1. We always make the best choice possible based on the __ we have and the _________________ that we are in.
  2. The goal is to have well _________________ responses.
  3. We learn _________________ because it is fuel efficient.
  4. Fear is our _________________.
  5. Trauma is caused by events that are _________________, _________________, _________________, and in which we have a _________________.
  6. Our primary work is _________________ rules, patterns, and cause/effect relationships.
  7. We are notoriously bad _________________ to our own experience.
  8. As practitioner my goal is to be _________________.

How To Identify The Belief

  1. Imagine taking the action
  2. Feel it in the body
  3. Ask it:
    1. What is it afraid of?
    2. What proof does it have this is true?
    3. Who will be disappointed if you let go of this belief?
    4. Who also holds that this belief is true?
    5. What goes wrong if you release this belief?

How To Release The Belief

  1. Name the new belief you would like to have
  2. When I tap for this:
    1. I am not letting go of the people who gave it to me
    2. I am not saying they tried to hurt me
    3. I am not saying they are wrong for trying to give it to me
    4. I am not saying I am wrong for picking it up
    5. I am not saying it wasn't useful for them
  3. When tapping for this I am
    1. …Picking up a new belief…
    2. …That is helpful in the moment…
    3. …I have the right to pick up the old belief in the future if I decide it is useful…

Overcome The Three Biggest Obstacles To Tapping Success

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When people first sign up for my mailing list I send them an email asking them for the two biggest obstacles they encounter when tapping for their issues.

Far and away the three most common responses are:

  1. Not taking the time to tap even when you know you should.
  2. Not knowing what to say when tapping.
  3. Not knowing where to start with a particular issue.

In many ways I think the second and third responses are the reasons for the first. If you don't know what to say or where to start, you will avoid tapping. Nobody likes to feel incompetent.

In the end, it feels safer subconsciously and emotionally not to try than to deal with feeling inadequate.

I know I behave in this way from time to time.

There is a simple solution, but first a little story…

It was a great big experiment
Back in January I had this wild idea of offering just a few people the opportunity to tap with me for 15 minutes once week for an entire year. When I made the offer I mainly felt confident that it would work, but at the same time I was a little nervous.

First, I was nervous because I had never made an offer like this before and I didn't know how my audience would respond. Second, I had never worked clients in that way before. I was confident in my ability and confident in the power of tapping regularly, but I didn't know how the format it would work out for clients.

It was an experiment.

AND it turned out even better than I planned. I absolutely love these client calls! It is so much fun to work with a client over a long period and have the chance to help them exactly where they are each week.

What the participants are saying
It's one thing for me to feel like the process has been a success, it is something else to hear from the people with whom I have been tapping. Last week I sent each of the participants a note asking if they would be willing to share their experience.

Here is what a few of them had to say:

“With the combination of tapping, Gene's insights, and the recordings to use forever after, SO much is accomplished in just 15 minutes! I'm very grateful — and a little amazed — by the richness of these short sessions.”

“When I saw Gene’s offer for weekly 15-minute tapping sessions, I jumped at the chance. I appreciate the brevity of the appointments, the ease of scheduling sessions online, getting reminders via email, and that Gene calls me and I don’t have to do anything but answer my phone. I would probably not find time to tap without these quick weekly sessions. Gene has a gift for finding exactly the right thing to tap about in a thoughtful and non-judgmental way.” — Catherine

“Tapping with Gene has been one of the most effective forms of personal development work I have experienced. Gene has the unique gift for grasping the topic I want to work on with minimal explanations and instantly finds the right words to help uncover core issues. Additionally his sense of humor makes working with him as pleasurable as it is rewarding.”

“Here’s what you need to know – 1) It’s definitely worthwhile and amazing value for money, and 2) 15 minutes is definitely long enough for a highly impactful session! Furthermore, Gene records the sessions which means I can go back to them at any time and draw on what we did together on that day. I now have new resources I didn’t have before that are helping me each day to cope in a world where we’re all way too busy and believe that perfection is the standard.” — Caren Hendrie

“This is the most helpful thing that I am doing right now for my business and for my personal healing. Gene is a first-class coach who focuses just on my needs and the weekly sessions allow me just the right amount of time to digest what we discuss and to have my questions ready for the next session. Feeling totally supported in this way means I can take bolder steps. Things are really shifting.” — Dan

Why work with a practitioner?
One of reasons that tapping with another person can feel so much more powerful than tapping alone is because it solves the three problems listed above. First, you show up to tap because you have made the commitment, second, they provide the words for you, and third (when they are a skilled practitioner) they help you quickly to get to the root cause of what is going on.

Clients have told me countless times, “I had no idea that was the real issue. Thanks for helping me to find it!”.

Room for 6 more people
It’s been a lot of fun doing this type of work and I have seen how powerful these regular sessions have been for my clients, so I have decided to open up the offer to six more people in a slightly modified way.

You can have someone to help you to tap every week for the next six months for only $997. That price represents a 30% discount off my normal hourly rate.

There are only six spots. Once they are filled, that’s it. In order to be fully present to each of my clients I have to limit how many new people I can take on.

Read all of the details below carefully before you sign up. If you have any questions all you need to do is reply to this email.

  • You will receive a 15-minute session once a week for six months (26 weeks).
  • You are allowed to skip two weeks and have them added to the end of the six months.
  • You may not combine weeks to create longer sessions.
  • I am available for sessions 7:00 am to 5:30 pm Eastern time Tuesday, Thursday, and Friday. My regular office hours are between 10:00 am and 5:30 pm. I have added the extra morning hours just for this program.
  • Because of travel I am not always available every single Tuesday, Thursday, and Friday, but will always be available at least two of these days a week.
  • It is the client's responsibility to schedule their sessions on my online calendar.
  • The purchase is non-refundable.
  • Every effort will be made to record the sessions so that you can go back and tap along to the audio again in the future, but there is no guarantee the session will be recorded. I make every effort to make this happen, but very occasionally technical issues that corrupt the audio get in the way.

I know. All of those details seem kind of heavy and not in the spirit of healing. I wrote those bullet points in blunt terms to make sure that we are all on the same page.

Like I said, there are only six spots.

If you would like to sign up, you can do so here: https://tappingqanda.com/6months

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