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Pod #662: Tapping to clear your resistance to change

May 22, 2025 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

One of our biggest struggles in creating transformation and change in our lives is those moments where we know WHAT to do, we know HOW to do it, and we know WHY it is valuable to take an action…and yet we just don’t.

It is obvious what the next step is and for some reason we don’t take it.

Then, as a bonus, we beat ourselves up for not taking action. So as well as not moving forward, we feel bad for letting ourselves down.

This week in the podcast we explore where this resistance comes from, how to overcome it and (just as importantly) we will tap for all the emotions that come up when we let ourselves down.

If you are trying to create change in your life, then you must listen to this episode.

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Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Change, Fear, Resistance

Pod #661: Tapping to safely acknowledge my gifts

May 15, 2025 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

One of Marianne Williamson’s most cited quotes starts “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.”

It is quoted so often because of how deeply it resonates, speaking directly to the contradiction that is part of our lived human experience.

On one hand we want to live an authentic and rich life…on the other hand, our subconscious mind just wants us to be safe.

This desire to be safe keeps us small because if we are small, then we aren’t seen, and if we aren’t seen, then we are safe.

This week in the podcast, we explore the three biggest subconscious fears that keep us small and we do lots of tapping to clear those resistances.

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Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Action, giftedness, Resistance

Pod #660: Tapping for the fear of letting yourself down

April 30, 2025 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

Letting ourselves down is one of the deepest betrayals that we humans can experience.

It feels like such a harsh gut punch when it is something we know we should have been able to do.

After we let ourselves down in such a powerful way, our subconscious will do everything in its power, through resistance to take action so as to keep us safe. It reasons that since it was so painful to let ourselves down, the way to avoid that pain in the future is simply not to commit to something better.

Intellectually we know this is a bad plan, but the resistance will persist, trying (and often succeeding) to hold us back.

This week in the podcast we look at why we created this resistance, how to overcome it in the moment, and how to avoid it in the future.

If you are serious about healing and transformation, clearing the resistance to making commitments to yourself is essential.

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Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Commitment, Resistance, Safety

Pod #659: Should you improve or change? Finding the right path

April 24, 2025 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

The words change and improve are very close in meaning.

While both are associated with transformation, they do not mean exactly the same thing.

Improvement is about keeping something but doing it in a better way; change is about doing something in a new way.

In the transformational arena we long for change, but in doing this we sometimes diminish the value of improvement.

This week in the podcast, I explore the difference between these two ideas, when we should seek to improve or to change, and how best to bring these goals to our tapping practice.

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Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Change, Healing, improvement, Transformation

Pod #658: Tapping for issues that never go away

April 16, 2025 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

Not all stress is created equal.

There are those hyper stressful times, like driving on icy roads in a snowstorm at rush hour. It is super intense in the moment and then when it ends, it is over!

Then there is the low-grade stress of something that is taking a long time and is hanging over your head. The example I think of from my own life is doing my business taxes.

I’m not especially good at doing my taxes because I only look at the task once a year; it is also a big deal and if I make a mistake, there can be major consequences. This is a stress that is ever-present and feels oppressive, but is not all-consuming. It also doesn’t last forever because at some point my taxes will be filed and I will be able to move on…until the next year!

Finally, there is the type of stress that never seems to end. When thinking about this type of stress, I think about a postal worker sorting mail.

No matter how hard they work, there will always be more mail coming down the conveyor belt for them to sort. There is the pressure of needing to get their task done quickly, because more mail is coming, AND there is the stress of there being no end in sight.

Of the three types of stress listed above, the third is by far the hardest to tap for.

This week in the podcast, I share with you how I tap for issues (not just stress) that will always be there.

It works for stress, feeling overwhelmed, and persistent physical issues, to name just a few common issues.

Because straightforward tapping doesn’t work well for this type of stress, we are unlikely to tap for these issues because it feels fruitless.

The simple process I share in this week’s podcast is one you must know.

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Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Daily Practice, Overwhelm, Stress

Pod #657: Turn intellectual pushback into tapping progress

April 10, 2025 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

One of the most consistent struggles my clients have is coming up with the “right” words.

The problem is, there is no such thing as the right words when it comes to tapping. Instead there are words that are useful and words that are not.

I am consistently surprised at some of the tapping phrases that end up being useful. One example is when we tap on phrases that intellectually we know to be false.

When I ask my clients to tap on phrases that they know aren’t true, it creates a natural resistance. One on level, it feels illogical and on another, there can be anxiety about tapping in something bad or untrue.

This week in the podcast, I explore the power of tapping on phrases that we know are untrue and how to get the most out of doing exactly that.

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Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Resistance, Subconscious

Pod #656: Transforming and healing grief with tapping

April 2, 2025 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

Grief is unlike other emotions when it comes to tapping.

We can tap to step out of every other negative emotion, like anger, jealousy, frustration, or feeling overwhelmed.

But grief is something that we will feel forever. Twenty years after a loved one has died, we will still feel pangs of grief.

Instead of leaving grief, our relationship with it and how we live with it evolves over time.

That is why we need a different approach when tapping for grief.

In this week’s podcast, I explore the unique nature of grief and how you can use tapping to heal your relationship with it.

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Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Grief, Healing, Sadness

Pod #655: Respond, don’t react! Tapping for recognizing and managing stress quickly

March 26, 2025 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

We often refer to tapping for stress and feeling overwhelmed as emotional first aid. That is because we are applying a tool for quick relief in the moment in the same way we would use first aid for a physical injury.

But there is one key difference between first aid and emotional first aid.

When we are physically injured, our first thought is “I need to take care of this right now!” When we need emotional first aid, we are so caught up in our emotions that we don’t realize we need to do something about what we are feeling.

Listen to this week’s podcast to learn how to use tapping as an emotional first aid tool and how to ensure you reach for tapping in the moments you most need it.

Because it doesn’t do you any good to know how to tap for stress, but don’t actually do it! Following these simple steps will ensure you tap more and short circuit stress and overwhelm promptly.

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Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Daily, Overwhelm, Stress

Pod #654: Tapping for tasks you despise

March 19, 2025 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

A number of years ago I was visiting my friend “Mike” and his family.

Mike asked his youngest son, who was about five at the time, to tidy his room before dinner.

His son replied, in the most overwrought and dramatic voice possible, “But whyyyyyyyyyyyy? I am just going to make it messy again!”

I can relate!

There are SO MANY tasks on my to-do list that I dislike doing and there are even some that I despise.

In this week’s podcast, I share some simple ways you can clear your resistance to doing the tasks you despise.

I can’t promise that tapping will make those tasks enjoyable, but you will get more done and you won’t have those dreaded tasks hanging over you any longer.

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Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: chores, house work, tasks

Pod #653: Tapping for exhaustion and feeling emotionally drained

March 12, 2025 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

There is a huge difference between bouncing back from being tired and being exhausted.

When we are tired, we simply need to refill our tank.

When we are exhausted, we first have to recover from being exhausted before we can even consider refilling our tank.

In this week’s podcast, I share seven simple ways you can help yourself when you are feeling exhausted or emotionally drained.

And the great thing about these seven ideas is that you don’t have to do them all in order to bounce back. Instead, you can pick and choose the two or three that work best for you.

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Pod #652: Stop picking up others emotional burdens without feeling like a selfish jerk

March 5, 2025 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

One of the hardest parts of being a caring person is witnessing others in pain.

When we see someone struggling, it feels natural to want to step in and help.

With that being said, there is a fine line between being helpful and taking responsibility for someone else’s suffering.

This becomes doubly hard where emotional burdens are concerned. While we might be able to assist with practical struggles, we can’t pick up someone else’s emotional struggle.

In this week’s podcast I explore:

  • Why we are prone to picking up other people’s emotional burdens
  • How to release these burdens without feeling unkind or selfish
  • How to avoid picking up the emotional burdens of others in the future

If you care deeply about others but often find yourself overwhelmed by their emotions, this episode is for you.

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Pod #651: Permission to feel: Embracing emotions without judgment

February 26, 2025 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

There is this moment in every tapper’s life when we move from “This tapping thing is amazing” to “Oh my goodness there are soooooo many issues for me to tap on. Every time I clear one issue I find four more!”

It’s easy to feel frustrated and demotivated when this happens.

You might even stop tapping altogether because it feels like the tapping is creating more problems than it is solving (when we know it is really just uncovering what is already there).

This week in the podcast, I share with you what I do when I feel overwhelmed with all the work I need to do and the fact that there seem to be so many emotions.

By tapping in this way we can move from feeling overwhelmed by our emotions, to recognizing it is just one more step on our healing journey.

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Pod #650 Drowning in issues? Afraid of big emotions? Try this simple approach

February 19, 2025 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

Over the years, so many of my clients and students have told me that two of the biggest obstacles preventing them from sitting down to tap are having too many issues so that they don’t know where to start, and the fear that their emotions will be too big to handle when tapping.

It makes total sense that these obstacles make it hard for us to tap because they are both rooted in our subconscious mind’s wish to keep us safe.

When it comes to having too many issues, the subconscious mind is worried about us wasting time. It is concerned that we are going to pick the wrong issues or an issue that will not make a big difference. Even though we tap, we aren’t doing it in the most useful way. So, in order not to waste our time, we get around to tapping at all.

Where being overwhelmed with emotions is concerned, the subconscious is just trying to keep us safe. It knows how deeply we can feel emotions and it doesn’t want to feel the pain of being SUPER emotional.

This week in the podcast, I share a simple way for you to overcome both of these issues so that you can tap in the most useful way and allow healing and transformation to happen.

The process is called the Container Process. Listen to the podcast to learn the process, when it is best used, and follow along with my demonstration. You don’t even have to memorise the process, just follow along and tap as I do all the heavy lifting.

This is a process every tapper should know.

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Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Overcoming tapping resistance, Overwhelm, Too many issues to tap on

Pod #649: How slowing down speeds up emotional healing with tapping

February 12, 2025 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

Even though we might not be conscious of it, every time we sit down to tap, our desire is for total, instantaneous, eternal transformation.

While our desire makes a lot of sense, there are two obstacles in our way.

First, we don’t always have access to total, instantaneous, eternal transformation. For better or worse, sometimes transformation just takes time. Second, swift transformation isn’t always the safest way for us to move forward.

This week in the podcast, we explore our relationship (and frustration) with how long it can take to heal, how we can be sure we are SAFELY getting the most out of each round of tapping, all the while not being too discouraged by the pace of change.

Once I understood and embraced these ideas, it actually improved the quality and speed of my transformation. I found that slowing down allowed me to heal more quickly, which has also informed the work I do with my clients and students.

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Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Emotional Healing, Personal Growth

Pod #648: What to do when your tapping transformation feels slow or stuck

February 5, 2025 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

Sometimes tapping feels nothing short of magical!

We are struggling with an issue or an emotion and then, after a few rounds of tapping, we feel so much better. This transformation can feel profound to the extent that the world actually looks different. (That is not an exaggeration. My clients often report how the world literally looks brighter and more welcoming after tapping.)

Then there are those issues where despite putting in the time to tap, nothing changes. We try different approaches. We make lists of every possible tail-ender and aspect.

But no matter what we try, we just can’t seem to make any progress.

Not only does the tapping feel like a waste of time, we start to lose faith in tapping altogether.

In this week’s podcast, I share with you what to do when it feels like your transformation has plateaued and your tapping is not working.

Being stuck like this is more common than you might think. Join me for straightforward tools and approaches that will help you to start moving forward again.

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Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Feeling Stuck, Lack of Progress

Pod #647: How the word “feel” can supercharge your tapping results

January 29, 2025 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

One of the fundamentals I repeatedly return to when I am working with clients or teaching practitioners is: We emotionally respond to the world in the way that we describe it.

That is to say, the words we use when talking about our lives impact how we feel about our lives or a particular situation.

Recently, I have started adding the word “feel” when I describe what I am thinking, feeling or experiencing at any given moment. This has created a powerful shift in how I perceive situations AND it has made it easier to create change and transformation in my life.

This week in the podcast, I share with you how I have started using this simple word in my daily life, the tangible positive change it has created, and how you can do the same thing.

It is easy to dismiss or overlook this idea, but I encourage you not to miss out on a powerful tool.

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Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Emotions, Feelings, state

Pod #646: The missing key to tapping for overwhelm

January 22, 2025 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

For the longest time, I found tapping for feeling overwhelmed one of my most frustrating issues.

The reason it was so frustrating is because no matter how many times I tapped for overwhelm, it always came back. Sometimes it came back multiple times in the same day.

When we aren’t making the progress we want, it is easy to get frustrated with the fact that “I have to tap for overwhelm again!” We not only lose faith in tapping for that particular issue, we may also find our faith in tapping overall is eroded.

This frustration went away for me once I realized there are some issues, like overwhelm, that will not be resolved forever. Instead, these issues require a certain approach.

Making this discovery moved me from being discouraged to excited about tapping for feeling overwhelmed.

This week in the podcast I explain why issues like overwhelm are different AND the best way to tap for them.

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Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Daily, Frustration, Overwhelm, Stress

Pod #645: The Perfect Transformation Duo: Tapping + Affirmations

January 15, 2025 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

When I did a quick internet search on the “history of affirmation,” the first article I clicked on started with the line, “The first recorded use of affirmations dates back to the ancient Egyptian civilization. Affirmations were inscribed on amulets and other objects.”

BUT affirmations don’t just work. For an affirmation to create change, it needs to be a useful affirmation. Notice that I didn’t say the “right” affirmation. That’s because one affirmation might be useful today but not tomorrow.

In this week’s podcast I explore how to gauge whether an affirmation will be useful for you AND how to use tapping to supercharge the power of the affirmation.

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Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Affirmations, Mindset Shift, Self-Growth Strategies

Pod #644: Tapping for impostor syndrome

January 8, 2025 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

The dawning of a new year is a great time for reflection and planning. We have the chance to see what we would like to release, what we would like to change, and what we would like to add to our lives.

Something that causes me the most frustration is when I have created a vision for the life I want to live and then end up not making it reality because of self-sabotage.

One of the biggest causes of self-sabotage is impostor syndrome. When you feel like you do not belong, you keep our head down so you aren’t noticed. That means you don’t take action, which makes it impossible to create the life you desire.

This week in the podcast, I share how I uncover the impostor syndrome in myself and how I use tapping to clear it.

AND yes, we do lots of tapping.

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Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Resistance, Self Worth

Pod #643: Tapping to create peace and calm – Version 2

December 25, 2024 By Gene Monterastelli Leave a Comment

In the last week of November, I shared an experimental tapping exercise of tapping along to the sounds of a babbling brook.

I was pleasantly surprised at how well the experiment was received.

This week in the podcast, I have a wintery version of the same type of tapping.

I have been tapping along to this every evening for the last few weeks and it has been magical.

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Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Calm, Peace, Rest

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