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Pod #693: How to tap when you feel like crap

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One of the conundrums of tapping is the fact that you tap because you want to feel better, but you aren't as good at tapping when you feel bad because you are in a lower resource state.

To put it another way, when you need tapping the most, you are the least effective version of yourself as a tapper.

But just because you aren't at the peak of your tapping abilities does not mean you are destined to fail when you sit down to tap.

This week in the podcast, I share a simple game plan where I teach you:

  • what you can do ahead of time to tap effectively when you feel bad
  • the first thing you should tap on when you don't feel great
  • the second thing you should tap on right after that
  • how to continue your tapping session to get the most out of it

Having a plan for those times when you’re not at your best is key for getting help when you most need it. And the best time to learn this is right now!

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Pod #692: Why I tap to encourage unhealthy behaviors

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It is all too common for tappers to look back at their path to healing and think, “What on earth was I doing? I know better than that! Why do I keep making bad choices when I know exactly what to do?”

This comes up most often in my individual coaching sessions when my clients talk about reaching for distracting behaviors instead of tapping.

They know at the moment that the best choice would be to tap, but instead they doomscroll social media, fall down YouTube rabbit holes, reorganize their spice rack (again), or mindlessly eat a bunch of unhealthy crap.

Annoyingly, this does make sense, taken from the perspective of trying to keep themselves safe. Actor and writer Tom Lennon described it perfectly in an interview by Kevin Pollak on a book tour. When Kevin asked if he liked to write, Tom said something to the effect of, “You will know I have a writing deadline coming up because my kitchen floor will be so clean you could perform surgery on it.”

We do not choose distractions because we are weak, or because we believe they are the best choice. We choose them to feel more comfortable at the moment.

The problem is that, in hindsight, we only see that we could have made a healthier choice.

When I find myself in these moments, I don't tap to stop the unhealthy behavior. I actually do the opposite! I tap to do the unhealthy behavior, but the key distinction is I am choosing to do it consciously.

When we move from being unconscious to a conscious awareness of our distracting behaviors, we regain control. And with control we can spend less (or even no) time on distracting behaviors and we don't beat ourselves up.

In this week's podcast I am going to show you:

  • How to catch yourself in the moment right before you unconsciously start doing the healthy action
  • How to tap with compassion in the moment, without letting yourself off the hook
  • How to tap so that you constrain (and often eliminate) the unhealthy behavior

It is an unusual but incredibly powerful form of tapping.

I know you will love it!

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Pod #691: Why you should celebrate with tapping

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If you are tapping, it almost always means you are focusing on something negative, like challenging emotions, physical pain, difficult times from your past, or limiting beliefs.

This makes a lot of sense because tapping is a powerful tool for bringing about change and transformation.

But just because tapping is great at responding to life's difficulties does not mean it's the only way to tap. Tapping for celebration is another great use for tapping that most of us miss.

As we celebrate seventeen years of the Tapping Q&A Podcast this week, I share with you why you are missing out if you are not tapping while celebrating.

The podcast covers how tapping for celebration:

  • Accelerates your healing
  • Encourages you to tap more
  • Changes the way you feel in the moment beyond just relieving pain or discomfort

You may not have experienced this type of tapping before, but after this episode, you will want to use it much more often!

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Pod #690: The key to tapping success is more than the right words

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When most of us first learned tapping we were taught to be “as specific as possible” when coming up with tapping phrases. This is sound advice, which is backed up by scientific research.

But your success with tapping relies on more than just the words you say and what you focus on when you are tapping. How you feel in the moment has just as much impact on your tapping success.

And when I say “how you feel” I don't mean the emotions you are feeling in the moment that you are tapping on. Rather, I am referring to every part of your resource state.

Your resource state includes whether you are tired or rested, if you are sick, if you are in a quiet place where you can focus, if you are well hydrated, and when you last ate, to name just a few.

It is something that most tappers miss and failing to take your resource state into account when you are tapping could be setting you up for disappointment and frustration.

This week in the podcast we explore:

  • How to assess your resource before you start to tap
  • How to create realistic expectations for your tapping
  • How to improve your resource state in the moment so you can get more out of your tapping

Once you understand how your resource state impacts your tapping, it will be easy for you to transform both your expectations and your resource state.

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Pod #689: When your expectations sabotage your tapping progress

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One of the most powerful tools in the healing and transformational tool box is having clear goals.

This is true in big picture ways, such as what I would like to achieve this year, and small picture ways, such as what I would like to get out of this next round of tapping.

I believe in this idea so deeply that in my Tapping Mastery Blueprint I teach the first thing you should do before starting to tap is to ask yourself the question “What is the goal of this round of tapping?”

Although goals are powerful, sometimes they can get in the way of your healing and transformation. This happens when your goals are too big for the moment. Too much pressure and expectation can become measuring sticks for failing, killing off your motivation.

This week in the podcast I share:

  • How goals and expectations can hinder our progress
  • How to spot when this is happening to you
  • How to tap to release feelings of frustration and failure

This is not about radically transforming your tapping goals, but how to recalibrate them in such a way that you tap more and get more out of each round of tapping.

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