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Pod #300: EFT For Releasing Unuseful Commitments

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Quit has become a dirty word.

American football coach Vince Lombardi is credited with saying that “Winners never quit and quitters never win!”

Early in the movie “Molly's Game” (based on the life of Molly Bloom) there is a flashback to Molly’s childhood and a session training to be a competitive skier. After hours of training she asks her father (who is also her coach) if she can quit because she is tired. Her father replies that she can quit only after she gives him a synonym for tired. She thinks about it for a moment and says “weak”. Feeling defeated she heads back up the hill to keep training.

There is a deeply ingrained mentality in our culture that honors pushing through, in working hard, in overcoming difficult times.

The problem is that there are many tasks, activities, and commitments that we should quit.

Sometimes the projects we start aren't what we thought they would be, do not give us the returns we expected, take way longer than we planned, or we have just plain outgrown them.

It is OK to let go of commitments that no longer serve us!

More than likely you felt some resistance as you read that last line. If that is the case, this is the perfect tap-along for you (below the audio player you will find a text version of the tap-along audio).

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I don't want to be seen as a quitter…I want my word to mean something…I want my commitments to mean something…I want the people around me to take me seriously when I make a commitment…There is a part of me that is afraid that if I do not follow through on my commitments then I'm going to be seen as a quitter…I'm going to be seen as a quitter by other people…I'm going to see myself as a quitter…I am afraid the moment I let myself out of a commitment I am setting a precedent for the future…In which I allow myself out of all future commitments…I recognize the fact that it is possible for me…To look clearly at the commitments I have made…To make the decision to let go of the commitments that no longer serve me…To let go of the commitments that are no longer helpful for me…To let go of the commitments that are no longer healthy for me…I'm able to do this because I recognize I now have new information about the commitment…I now have new information about myself…I recognize the fact that the commitment is no longer a good fit for me…Letting go of this commitment is not a failing…Letting go of this commitment does not mean that I'm a quitter…Instead I'm making a commitment to using my time, attention, and energy in a way that is so much more productive for me…By letting go of the commitments that no longer serve me…I am creating the space and capacity to make good healthy choices in this moment…Allowing me to commit to the things that serve me…Allowing me to commit to the things that are healthy for me…Allowing me to commit to myself in the best possible way…Letting go of commitments is not quitting…It's choosing a new and better future.

Pod #299: Setting Intentions In The New Year w/ EFT

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The beginning of a new year provides a great opportunity to reset and refocus.

Even though I am not the biggest fan of New Year's resolutions, I have found a way to make a small commitment to tapping each day that is making huge changes in the way that I behave and feel.

In this audio I share with you how I have used tapping for a simple intention at the beginning of my day to create this change.

The reason I love this process so much is because it doesn't require a complicated plan. It simply unfolds right in front of you, day by day.

This recording is of me doing the process to start the new year.

You will also find the tapping script I used below the audio player.

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My intention is to have a more generous spirit…Because when I have a more generous spirit…It helps me to be fully present throughout my day…It helps me to be truly connected to the people around me…It allows me to be the type of person I want to be in the world…There is a part of me that is worried…That if I am too generous…Then I will lose all of my boundaries…That if I'm too generous…People are going to take advantage of me…That if I am too generous…I'm going to lose myself in the service of others…Because I'm simply going to give it all away…My intention for today is to find opportunities to have a more generous spirit in a way that is healthy for me.

My intention is to find my way to more peace and calm…In the middle of a busy life and my very busy day…Because when I tune in and find peace and calm…I am much more aware of my full presence…I am not running on autopilot…I am more grounded in my body…I am worried that if I slow down…I'm not going to get enough done…I'm going to fall behind…I'm going to miss opportunities…I recognize the fact that when I am peaceful…I respond better and end up with what I truly want…My intention for today is to be open to finding my way to moments of peace and calm.

My intention is to be open to new opportunities…To find inspiration and ideas in unexpected places…Because I know that when I am on autopilot…I am missing new opportunities…I am missing out on grace…There is a part of me that is afraid that I will be distracted by new ideas…That I'm going to chase thousands of new ideas…And never actually get anything done…I appreciate the fact that my system is trying to keep me safe in this way…I appreciate the fact that it's trying not to be distracted…But I know that there are answers all around…there are opportunities all around…That are not distractions…But instead will make my life better…My intention is to be open to opportunity and inspiration as it shows up today.

Pod #298: The Art Of Love w/ Jake Khym

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Recently my friend Jake Khym was being interviewed on a podcast and he brought up the idea of “the art of love.” He talked about how being loving is a not only a skill, but a skill at which we can get better.

There wasn’t the time in that particular interview for him to go into detail about this idea, but I was fascinated and needed to hear more.

So this week's podcast is exactly that. Jake takes the time to explain how he approaches love as a skill, the four parts of the skill that we can improve, and specifically how we can improve at loving.

I know this topic isn't exactly about tapping, but most people are drawn to tapping because they want to live a fuller and richer life. Being better at loving is one of the ways to improve our lives AND the skilled tapper will find a number of tappable issues related to the conversation.

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Jake Khym (w/ wife Heather)

Guest: Jake Khym, BA, MA, RCC, CCC

Contact: web @ Life Restoration; twitter @jakekhym

About Jake: Jake offers inspiring and practical presentations throughout North America on many topics including the practical application of Christian psychology. Jake holds a BA in Theology and a Masters in Counselling Psychology. After working for almost 10 years in lay ministry, Jake has his own counselling practice and co-directs Life Restoration, a Catholic ministry offering restoration through counselling, workshops, and conferences. Jake and his wife Heather with their three children, Maria, Judah, and Eva, live in British Columbia, Canada.

Pod #297: Step-By-Step Process To Reach Your Goals With EFT w/ Kris Ferraro

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One of my favorite ways to use tapping is to remove whatever is standing in the way of taking action towards creating the life we desire.

In this conversation with my friend Kris Ferraro, we go through a simple step-by-step process she has created to help you get clarity about what you want, how to identify the emotional blocks you have to taking action, and how to tap for those blocks.

Kris has also created a handout you can use to follow the process. Download it here.

Interview with Linda Woods mentioned by Kris.


Kris Ferraro

Guest: Kris Ferraro

Contact: web @ KrisFerraro.com; email @ me@krisferraro.com

About: Kris Ferraro is an Energy Coach, Author, and Speaker based in northern NJ. She is the creator of Spiritual Freedom Techniques, a series of practices that combine ancient wisdom with EFT for transformation. Kris is a “true believer” in everyone's innate ability to heal. She helps clients release their debilitating emotional patterns so they can step into their power and purpose. Her book, “Energy Healing: Simple and Effective Practices to Become Your Own Healer”, published by St. Martin's Press, introduces energy psychology to new audiences.

Pod #296: EFT For Getting Clear About Our Calling w/ Gregg Levoy

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Tapping for pain and distress is easy. You can name exactly what is wrong (the pain) and you have a clear idea of what you want (relief).

Tapping to create a life that we love can be a little bit tricker because we are often unsure of exactly what we want that life to be like. My friend Gregg Levoy refers to this idea of creating the life we were made for as a calling, as if our soul is calling us towards fulfilment. Once we have a clear idea of our calling, we can use tapping to help us work towards it.

In this conversation Gregg and I talk about what exactly a calling is and how to get clarity about it in your own life. In addition, I have added four easy ways in which you can use tapping to gain clarity about your calling by clearing the blocks standing in the way of taking positive action.

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Gregg Levoy

Guest: Gregg Levoy

Contact: web @ GreggLevoy.com

About Gregg: Gregg Levoy is the author of Vital Signs: The Nature and Nurture of Passion, and the bestselling Callings: Finding and Following An Authentic Life rated among the “Top 20 Career Publications” by the Workforce Information Group.

He has presented lectures and seminars for the Smithsonian Institution, Environmental Protection Agency, Microsoft, National Conference on Positive Aging, American Counseling Association, National Career Development Association, and others, and been a frequent guest of the media, including ABC-TV, CNN, NPR and PBS.

A former adjunct professor of journalism at the University of New Mexico, and former columnist and reporter for USA Today and the Cincinnati Enquirer, he has written for the New York Times Magazine, Washington Post, Omni, Psychology Today, Reader’s Digest, and many others.

Tapping scripts from the podcast

Being open to inspiration:

I give myself permission to be open to inspiration…To hear calling…In big and small ways…I give myself permission to hear this calling in ways that are unexpected…In ways that are even wacky…Because I know I have access to the information to lead myself by the right path…This does not mean I expect the next seventy five years of my life to show up with clear instruction in the next four and a half minutes…I know that this inspiration will come in many forms…Sometimes obvious…Sometimes subtle…I give my system permission to know it is okay for me to feel a little overwhelmed…To feel uncertain…But knowing that…Inspiration can come…Inspiration will come…I give myself permission to respond to it.

Being open to questions, not just answers:

I am open to having answers…I am open to having clear information…But I recognize the fact sometimes my calling is going to show up as questions…It's not going to show up as clear answers…As much as I would like to have clear answers…It is okay if I get questions…Because when I am working with inspired questions…I'm going to find my way to unexpected answers…Sometimes inspiration is a process…It's not necessarily a straight line…I give myself permission to be open to the process…To be open to receiving questions…To be open to exploring questions without answers…Knowing full well that these questions can leave me on the right path.

Not needing answers for the long haul:

When I receive information…When I receive inspiration…When I'm in touch with my calling…I recognize the fact but this isn't necessarily my calling for the rest of my life…This isn't who I am supposed to be forever…This isn't what I'm supposed to do forever…Instead it is information for today…Information that's going to help me to craft tomorrow…Information that's going to move me forward in the near-term…It is possible that I could be called to this for the rest of my life…It is possible that this is much more short-term…I give myself permission to trust myself…To trust the process…Engaging with my inspiration…Knowing I will be soon inspired again.

Beating ourselves up for not having answers sooner:

When I encounter insight…When I encounter clarity…When I'm in touch with what I should do and who I should be…It can feel obvious…Because it's strike such a deep chord with who I am…How I want to be…When this happens it's really easy to beat myself up for not discovering this sooner…For not being open sooner…Not being ready sooner…But I recognize the fact that this is all part of the process…It might be obvious now…But it took what came before for it to become obvious now…I give myself permission to be easy with myself…For beating myself up…For not figuring it out sooner…The only thing that matters in this moment is what I choose to do in this moment…In response to this inspiration…I forgive myself for not figuring this out sooner…I give myself permission to be gentle with myself…For not getting here faster…I trust this process…Now is the right time for me to be here…I choose to be in this moment and not look back…I choose to create the next moment and not look back…Now is the right time.