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Writing Articles To Build Your Practice – Part 3: Picking a Topic and Starting

December 11, 2010 by Gene Monterastelli

I know creating free content is a great way to show your competence and experience as a practitioner. You create so much stuff for your site and other sites. I would love to start to write stuff about tapping but don't know where to begin. How do you come up with ideas, and what is your process for writing?

photo by Gene Wilburn

In part 1 of this series we looked at what to keep in mind before starting. In part 2 we looked at the types of articles you can write. Now let's take a look at picking a topic and what you can do to make the writing process easier.

[All three parts of this series can be found @ content creation series]

Coming Up With Topics
Earlier I talked about ways of coming up with content for Q and A articles. Here is a more comprehensive list of the places I get ideas for all types of articles:

    Questions from readers: The first time I had an article published in Gary's newsletter I received 20 questions from his readers. Not all of them were enough to write full articles about, but I got some great ideas from their questions. Also, just because it comes to you as a question doesn't mean it has to be a question-and-answer type article. You can use the question to generate the idea for a regular article.

    Things that come up from client sessions: Almost every client session I have ever done sparked the idea for an article or tapping script. This doesn't mean that I want to write about all of them, but it provides real-world examples of what you could write about.

    Things I learn in my own tapping: I have found it much harder to come up with ideas from my own tapping because as I am tapping I am tuning-in to my issues and not thinking about content. With that being said, some of my best ideas have come from my own healing journey.

    Other sources of self-help material: Look at Anne Landers' web site. Read articles and comments on other self-help websites. Read self-help forums (not just tapping-based ones). People are going to forums looking for advice. Whenever people are seeking help ask yourself, “How would I help this person with tapping?” I came up with 25 tapping scripts from the ideas found in the comments section of a blog that asked, “Why is it hard to love yourself?” The same is true for self-help sections of bookstores. Just look at the titles. Read the titles. Write a tapping article on the same subjects.

    I ask my readers what they want to know more about I did a readers survey in March and just asked them what topics they wanted covered. I ended up with a list 30 deep of topics.

    Offer to tap for people: Every day I spend some time tapping for my readers’ needs. Each week I asked for surrogate tapping requests in my newsletter. Again, real world issues that I could write about.

When you start to think in terms of “Where are the topics I could write about?” you start to notice them everywhere. I carry a small notebook with one page dedicated to possible topics. When an idea comes, I jot it down. Then when I sit down to write I get the list out and see what is striking my fancy on that day.

Knowing when it is okay to move on
Just because you start writing something doesn't mean you need to finish writing it. That seems obvious, but it can be really easy to get wrapped-up in the idea that we have already spent so much time on this piece that we can't quit. We think, “If I give up on this piece I will have wasted time that could have been used for other things. I must make this effort worthwhile by finishing this.”

First, in my mind, spending time working on a new idea is never a waste of time. The process of working with a new idea makes me better at writing as well as better at explaining things to clients. Sometimes the only fruit of a writing session is I now know that this is not the way I want to explain this topic.

Second, not everything needs to be shared. The article you are reading was started during a writing session when I was working on something completely different. I really thought it was going to be a good idea. (It was going to be an article inspired by this Joey Roth print which hangs in my office.)

After about 20 minutes it was obvious that it wasn't going to work. As I was coming to terms with the fact that it wasn't going to work, the idea of this article popped into my mind. Sometimes a false start will lead us to a topic we wouldn't have found otherwise.

Third, just because it isn't working today doesn't mean it is not going to work. I have a whole folder filled with nothing more than started and half-finished articles. Every few weeks I sift through them. Sometimes I pick something up from the past because I have a new insight, sometimes I am inspired to write something new based on the false start, and sometimes I just think, “Yeah, there is a reason this never got finished.”

Don't feel like you need to finish everything you start in this writing session. Be easy with yourself, considering that this is not a linear process.

Create A Writing Schedule
I have time set aside every day to write. This is one of the few nonnegotiable tasks in my day. It might happen at a time it was not planned, but it will happen. I know I write better when I do it regularly and I am more likely to end up with work I am happy with if I am constantly working at it.

I am not saying that you need to write every day. If you are just starting out that might be too much. Even if you are just going to spend 45 minutes once a week writing, that is a perfect start. It is going to get you in the habit of doing it. By making it a habit you are saying it is important.

There are two choices that have transformed my website the most in the last three years. One of them is a regular writing schedule.

Get Feedback From People You Trust
Writing articles is something you are going to get better at over time IF you are willing to get better at it. After you have written a few things let some friends or trusted colleagues take a look at your work. When you do this, ask them for some very specific feedback.

Here are the normal questions I ask people who are reviewing my work:

  • Does the article make logical sense?
  • Is any of it too long or too short?
  • What is the strength of the article?
  • What could use improvement?

By asking very specific questions you are going to ensure you get the feedback that is most helpful to you in the process of getting better at writing stuff.

I always love reading other people’s stuff. If you would like some feedback on something you have written let me know.

Do something now!
Writing isn't something that happens on its own. It is something you have to do.

It doesn't have to be perfect. It doesn't have to be complete. It doesn't even need to end up as something that others see.

But you should write something.

It will get you closer to a great finished product that will make someone else’s life and healing journey easier.

Filed Under: Q&A Tagged With: Content Creation Series, Marketing, Practitioner

Pod #49: Being Full Present In The Moment w/ Ted Robinson

December 7, 2010 by Gene Monterastelli

One of the biggest challenges of the modern world is being fully present in the moment. Our attention seems constantly to be pulled in a million directions between the media we consume (even if it is just constantly chattering in the background), our loved ones, all the tasks that need to be done during the day, and everything we would like to achieve for our own growth. Being present in this moment is very challenging. In this interview with Ted Robinson we talk about how being present in the moment can benefit us and how we can use tapping to help us to achieve this state.

 

Ted Robinson

Guest: Ted Robinson

About Ted: Ted is a criminal defense lawyer and the director of the Center For Inner Healing on Long Island in NY. He is the author of a number of books, faculty for the National Guild of Hypnotists, and regularly works with clients one-on-one. Ted is also the host of a weekly TV show which is devoted to helping people be present in the current moment.

Contact: web @ centerforinnerhealing.com/; e-mail @ ted@centerforinnerhealing.com; phone @ (516) 248-5346

Links from this episode:

  • All of Ted's books
  • Clearing Resistance to Change tap along video
  • Top of the Morning tap along video

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Moment, Premium Member, Present, Spiritual, TapAlong Member, Ted Robinson

Speaking The Truth

December 5, 2010 by Gene Monterastelli

I have to have a very difficult conversation with my boyfriend. It is something that I have needed to do for a really long time, but I can't bring myself to do it because I am so scared. What can I do tapping-wise to make this easier?

photo by Anders Adermark

Speaking the truth can be a hard thing to do. Sometimes we are worried that we are going to hurt someone else with our words. Other times we are worried that they are going to be mad at us. These feelings are natural because we want to keep others safe and we want to keep ourselves safe.

Here are three of the things you can use Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)/tapping on before you talk to your friend to make it easier. Before each round of tapping, check to see how much of a concern each of these three areas are. If you haven't cleared the worry, do the tapping again.

Tapping to ease your nerves:

The conversation that I am going to have might be hard . . . I am going to have to say things that the other person might not want to hear . . . I am going to be saying things that are going to be hard to say . . . I choose to know that I need to have this conversation . . . I have been carrying this around for a long time . . . it is a burden that I need to let go of so I can heal and grow . . . to become who I truly am . . . even though it is going to be hard . . . by saying what needs to be said . . . I am going to get my thoughts and feelings out . . . the person I need to talk to will know where I truly stand . . . this will make moving forward an easier task

Tapping to communicate well:

One of the reasons this might be hard is that I don't know the exact right words to say . . . or how to say what needs to be said . . . there are moments where it feels like I have a million things that need to be said all at once . . . while other times I have no idea what needs to be said at all . . . it is okay that I don't know exactly what I need to say . . . I am going to give the other person a chance to ask questions . . . I am going to give the other person a chance to say how they understand what I just said . . . give me a chance to clarify anything that is misunderstood . . . this is not a speech that needs to be just right . . . but a conversation that has give-and-take in it . . . it is okay if I prepare notes before the conversation . . . I can even bring my notes for when we talk . . . so I make sure I share everything I need to share . . . the way I say it doesn't have to be perfect . . . what is important is that I am understood . . . and I understand where they are coming from . . . it will be a conversation . . . and that is good

Tapping to speak from only a place of love and kindness:

It is important that I share the truth . . . but it is possible for me to share the truth in a compassionate way . . . this does not mean that I am softening what I am going to say . . . or that I am holding back what needs to be said . . . but it is possible to say things in a compassionate way that is still truthful . . . I can consider how I would like to hear this type of truth from a friend . . . I am not responsible for how they react to the truth . . . their emotional state is their choice and their responsibility . . . but I can share what needs to be shared in the spirit of love . . . of loving myself . . . and loving others.

Filed Under: Q&A Tagged With: Comunication, Phrases, Relationships, Speaking, Truth

Writing Articles To Build Your Practice – Part 2: Types of Articles

December 1, 2010 by Gene Monterastelli

I know creating free content is a great way to show your competence and experience as a practitioner. You create so much stuff for your site and other sites. I would love to start to write stuff about tapping but don't know where to begin. How do you come up with ideas, and what is your process for writing?


photo by churl

In part 1 of this series we looked at things to keep in mind before starting. Now that you are a little more comfortable with knowing you don't have to do everything all at once, let's take a look at the different types of articles you can write.

[Once published all three parts of this series can be found @ content creation series]

Here is an incomplete list of the types of articles you could write.

Question and Answer
I obviously have a soft spot for this type of article because it is where I got my writing start when it comes to the topic of Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)/tapping.

The reason this is a great place to start is because you are already doing this. When you talk about tapping, people are asking you questions. You are better at answering questions than you think.

There are a number of advantages to a Q and A article.

First, it helps you to focus. When we are answering a question, the agenda and direction of the article is set for us. We are just filling in the gaps of the missing information.

Second, the reader knows where it is going. When we start with a question it becomes very clear what the goal of the article is and a reader knows if it is for them or not.

Third, it is easier to begin. Often times I have a hard time writing the opening paragraph or two of an article. I know what the meat of the article is going to be, but I don't know how to get there. When you start with a question you don't have to spend a great deal of time getting to the topic. You can just start with the information you know.

There are a number of ways to come up with questions:

  • What questions do you get the most frequently from people you are talking about tapping with? If you are getting the question a lot, then you know there is interest in the topic.
  • What questions did you have about tapping? Explain what you learned. Telling our own story is a great way to get into explaining something.
  • Is there a topic you want to write about but don't know where to begin? Come up with a question that focuses you. Forty percent (40%) of the Q and A articles on this site are questions I make up just to focus my writing.
  • Look at the forums and comment sections of other websites. Even if those aren't questions that have been posed directly to you, they obviously are questions that people have. Visit the EFT forum and in 10 minutes you will find four or five topics that you could write about.

Response Articles
Another very easy way to start writing is to respond to what someone else had written. You can either respond to an article as a whole or you can break it down into parts to explain how you see the issue.

For example, in The Growing Up Method I took a three-step process created by Natalie Hill and gave my take on each of the three steps. My goal was to take something that I thought was really well explained and add my own insights to what she presented.

In Past, Present, Future Daimon Sweeny writes a very nice reflection on a very short podcast I recorded. I'm sure his process was nothing more than, “Hey this is kind of interesting, but I also think this…”

Case Studies
A case study is nothing more than explaining

  • What issue a client or friend came to you with
  • How you responded
  • Why you did what you did
  • What the results were

This is one of the easiest types of articles because you are just retelling what happened.

Here is a shorter and longer examples of this type of article.

Tapping Scripts
Everyone loves tapping scripts. One of the most overwhelming parts of tapping for beginners is knowing what to say when they are tapping. Not only are you making it easier for someone to work with their issue when you create a tapping script for them, but you are also training them to do this on their own.

When we are working with clients the words just seem to come. Right after a session, take a few moments to write down some of the tapping scripts you just used. I have gotten to the point where I can write a script in under 10 minutes.

Even if you have nothing else on your site, a new tapping script once a week will be very valuable to readers that will keep them coming back for more.

Conclusion
So, these are just a few types of articles you can write. In Part 3 we are going to look at starting the writing process.

Filed Under: Q&A Tagged With: Content Creation Series, Marketing, Practitioner

Pod #48: EFT For Physical Issues w/ Carol Look

November 29, 2010 by Gene Monterastelli

Tapping is great for physical pain and physical issues. When most people are introduced to tapping they learn to deal with pain by tapping on “this pain in my knee…this pain in my knee…this pain in my knee”. In this interview with Carol Look we examine more advanced ways to look at the emotions associated with physical pain and how in many cases when we deal with the emotional issues we find our way to physical relief.
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Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Carol Look, Pain, Physical Response, Premium Member, TapAlong Member

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