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Pod #49: Being Full Present In The Moment w/ Ted Robinson

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One of the biggest challenges of the modern world is being fully present in the moment. Our attention seems constantly to be pulled in a million directions between the media we consume (even if it is just constantly chattering in the background), our loved ones, all the tasks that need to be done during the day, and everything we would like to achieve for our own growth. Being present in this moment is very challenging. In this interview with Ted Robinson we talk about how being present in the moment can benefit us and how we can use tapping to help us to achieve this state.

 

Ted Robinson

Guest: Ted Robinson

About Ted: Ted is a criminal defense lawyer and the director of the Center For Inner Healing on Long Island in NY. He is the author of a number of books, faculty for the National Guild of Hypnotists, and regularly works with clients one-on-one. Ted is also the host of a weekly TV show which is devoted to helping people be present in the current moment.

Contact: web @ centerforinnerhealing.com/; e-mail @ ted@centerforinnerhealing.com; phone @ (516) 248-5346

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Speaking The Truth

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I have to have a very difficult conversation with my boyfriend. It is something that I have needed to do for a really long time, but I can't bring myself to do it because I am so scared. What can I do tapping-wise to make this easier?

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Speaking the truth can be a hard thing to do. Sometimes we are worried that we are going to hurt someone else with our words. Other times we are worried that they are going to be mad at us. These feelings are natural because we want to keep others safe and we want to keep ourselves safe.

Here are three of the things you can use Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)/tapping on before you talk to your friend to make it easier. Before each round of tapping, check to see how much of a concern each of these three areas are. If you haven't cleared the worry, do the tapping again.

Tapping to ease your nerves:

The conversation that I am going to have might be hard . . . I am going to have to say things that the other person might not want to hear . . . I am going to be saying things that are going to be hard to say . . . I choose to know that I need to have this conversation . . . I have been carrying this around for a long time . . . it is a burden that I need to let go of so I can heal and grow . . . to become who I truly am . . . even though it is going to be hard . . . by saying what needs to be said . . . I am going to get my thoughts and feelings out . . . the person I need to talk to will know where I truly stand . . . this will make moving forward an easier task

Tapping to communicate well:

One of the reasons this might be hard is that I don't know the exact right words to say . . . or how to say what needs to be said . . . there are moments where it feels like I have a million things that need to be said all at once . . . while other times I have no idea what needs to be said at all . . . it is okay that I don't know exactly what I need to say . . . I am going to give the other person a chance to ask questions . . . I am going to give the other person a chance to say how they understand what I just said . . . give me a chance to clarify anything that is misunderstood . . . this is not a speech that needs to be just right . . . but a conversation that has give-and-take in it . . . it is okay if I prepare notes before the conversation . . . I can even bring my notes for when we talk . . . so I make sure I share everything I need to share . . . the way I say it doesn't have to be perfect . . . what is important is that I am understood . . . and I understand where they are coming from . . . it will be a conversation . . . and that is good

Tapping to speak from only a place of love and kindness:

It is important that I share the truth . . . but it is possible for me to share the truth in a compassionate way . . . this does not mean that I am softening what I am going to say . . . or that I am holding back what needs to be said . . . but it is possible to say things in a compassionate way that is still truthful . . . I can consider how I would like to hear this type of truth from a friend . . . I am not responsible for how they react to the truth . . . their emotional state is their choice and their responsibility . . . but I can share what needs to be shared in the spirit of love . . . of loving myself . . . and loving others.

Writing Articles To Build Your Practice – Part 2: Types of Articles

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I know creating free content is a great way to show your competence and experience as a practitioner. You create so much stuff for your site and other sites. I would love to start to write stuff about tapping but don't know where to begin. How do you come up with ideas, and what is your process for writing?


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In part 1 of this series we looked at things to keep in mind before starting. Now that you are a little more comfortable with knowing you don't have to do everything all at once, let's take a look at the different types of articles you can write.

[Once published all three parts of this series can be found @ content creation series]

Here is an incomplete list of the types of articles you could write.

Question and Answer
I obviously have a soft spot for this type of article because it is where I got my writing start when it comes to the topic of Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)/tapping.

The reason this is a great place to start is because you are already doing this. When you talk about tapping, people are asking you questions. You are better at answering questions than you think.

There are a number of advantages to a Q and A article.

First, it helps you to focus. When we are answering a question, the agenda and direction of the article is set for us. We are just filling in the gaps of the missing information.

Second, the reader knows where it is going. When we start with a question it becomes very clear what the goal of the article is and a reader knows if it is for them or not.

Third, it is easier to begin. Often times I have a hard time writing the opening paragraph or two of an article. I know what the meat of the article is going to be, but I don't know how to get there. When you start with a question you don't have to spend a great deal of time getting to the topic. You can just start with the information you know.

There are a number of ways to come up with questions:

  • What questions do you get the most frequently from people you are talking about tapping with? If you are getting the question a lot, then you know there is interest in the topic.
  • What questions did you have about tapping? Explain what you learned. Telling our own story is a great way to get into explaining something.
  • Is there a topic you want to write about but don't know where to begin? Come up with a question that focuses you. Forty percent (40%) of the Q and A articles on this site are questions I make up just to focus my writing.
  • Look at the forums and comment sections of other websites. Even if those aren't questions that have been posed directly to you, they obviously are questions that people have. Visit the EFT forum and in 10 minutes you will find four or five topics that you could write about.

Response Articles
Another very easy way to start writing is to respond to what someone else had written. You can either respond to an article as a whole or you can break it down into parts to explain how you see the issue.

For example, in The Growing Up Method I took a three-step process created by Natalie Hill and gave my take on each of the three steps. My goal was to take something that I thought was really well explained and add my own insights to what she presented.

In Past, Present, Future Daimon Sweeny writes a very nice reflection on a very short podcast I recorded. I'm sure his process was nothing more than, “Hey this is kind of interesting, but I also think this…”

Case Studies
A case study is nothing more than explaining

  • What issue a client or friend came to you with
  • How you responded
  • Why you did what you did
  • What the results were

This is one of the easiest types of articles because you are just retelling what happened.

Here is a shorter and longer examples of this type of article.

Tapping Scripts
Everyone loves tapping scripts. One of the most overwhelming parts of tapping for beginners is knowing what to say when they are tapping. Not only are you making it easier for someone to work with their issue when you create a tapping script for them, but you are also training them to do this on their own.

When we are working with clients the words just seem to come. Right after a session, take a few moments to write down some of the tapping scripts you just used. I have gotten to the point where I can write a script in under 10 minutes.

Even if you have nothing else on your site, a new tapping script once a week will be very valuable to readers that will keep them coming back for more.

Conclusion
So, these are just a few types of articles you can write. In Part 3 we are going to look at starting the writing process.

Pod #48: EFT For Physical Issues w/ Carol Look

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Tapping is great for physical pain and physical issues. When most people are introduced to tapping they learn to deal with pain by tapping on “this pain in my knee…this pain in my knee…this pain in my knee”. In this interview with Carol Look we examine more advanced ways to look at the emotions associated with physical pain and how in many cases when we deal with the emotional issues we find our way to physical relief.
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