Two weeks ago I shared with you what a bunch of my favorite tappers think are the biggest mistakes made by beginner tappers. Now I have have some of their answers to, “What are the biggest mistakes made by pro tappers?”
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Pod #101: What Happens When We Heal But Our Life Is No Different
EFT is a powerful tool when it comes to healing and transformation. Burdens and wounds that we have carried for decades can be cleared. It is an amazing thing to experience this type of freedom in our lives.
After this type of release there can be a let down because after healing something so powerful we feel like our life should be much different. Sometime we can release so much and still feel the same day today.
Here are few thoughts on how to respond to the let down of things feeling like they are the same after healing something large.
Does Using EFT Erase Your Memory?
 photo by Kristin Nador |
Here is part of an email I received from a reader last week:
“I had a profound experience with my first EFT session whilst just tapping along and now I'm almost scared to indulge in some more. It's as if I have large chunks of my memory missing. Am I really erasing my memories?”
This is a great question because it is a common experience. AND if we are worried that tapping will “erase” our memories it makes sense that we wouldn't want to use it.
There are two things we need to understand in order to answer this question: how memory works, and what happens to memories when using Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT).
Your Memory Isn't Accurate
The first thing to note is that our memory is not an accurate representation of what has happened. Our memories are incomplete interpretations of the past. If you don't believe me, ask three of your family members to tell the story of what happened last year over the holidays and you will be given three different versions of events.
In addition to our memories not being a perfect representation of what happened, they also alter over time. Each time we access a memory we are not just replaying what happened, but we are also adding to it.
That is why as time goes by our past looks better and better (or worse and worse). Not only are we remembering something that happened in the past, but each time we think about this past we add positive feelings to the memory.
Many people would describe their first kiss as a magical moment. The reality may have been it was an experience shared by two 13 year olds who had no idea what they were doing, but as the moment is recalled over and over again it is slowly turned into the most magical moment ever.
The fact that tapping changes the way we remember things is not surprising because we are always changing and reforming our memories without even realizing it.
We Didn't Erase It, We Released It
Once we understand that the memory is not static we can start see what happens to our memories when we are tapping.
Our memories are not just the fact of what happened. In addition to, “she said this, he said that, and then someone walked in,” our emotion also forms part of the memory.
The memory is: She said this and felt worried. He said that and I felt overwhelmed. He walked in I felt like I had an ally.
In many cases the emotions we remember (and relive when we remember) are a large portion of the memory. When we tap on a memory we release the emotion associated with the memory.
If the memory was 70% emotion and we release all the emotion, then we are only left with 30% of the memory. When this happens it feels like the memory has been erased. It is much like if we only had 30% of the pieces of a jigsaw puzzle. The picture would be so incomplete we couldn't tell what we were looking at.
It Is Part Of The Healing Process
When you tap on a deeply emotional past memory there is a very real possibility that it might feel like you are erasing your memory. In really you are just letting go of the emotional charge that is part of the memory. This is a natural part of the healing process and it is OK. There is no need to worry.
AND when this happens you are freeing yourself up to fill the space occupied by the emotion with better and richer feelings.
Pod #100: The Web Of Life w/ Gwyneth Moss
We do not live in a vacuum. Not only do the choices we make impact others (and vice versa) in the moment, but there is also a lasting impact from the relationships we have had in the past.
Some of these relationships have obvious deep impact, while others affect us in ways of which we are unaware.
In this interview I talk to Gwyneth Moss about a new approach that she uses in helping people to understand and unpack the web of life. This is a tool that she uses only occasionally because of the unique circumstances required to execute it well.
Even though this is something that you won't reproduce there are many lessons to be learned that you can add to your own tapping right away.
 Gwyneth Moss |
Guest: Gwyneth Moss
Contact: web @ EFThelps.com; email @ contact form; web @ Annual EFT Gathering
About Gwyneth: Gwyneth Moss is one of the original EFT Masters and the founder of the EFT Gathering annual community conference which has run since 2009. With a degree in Physics and an MBA she is known for the clarity and depth of her teaching style and for her innovative techniques which include EFT Imagineering; Protective Distancing; Projection Tapping; The Surrogate EFT Protocol and more. Gwyneth teaches EFT in the glorious countryside of Yorkshire and at Esalen, Big Sur, CA.
EFT For A Good Night’s Rest
One of the issues I am asked about the most is tapping for a good night’s sleep. Below is the tapping script I use when I have trouble sleeping.
You can download a pdf version of the script here downloadable pdf.
[Note: If you find this script helpful I would encourage you to check MyEFTYear.com. This is the type of resource that shows up at least 4 days a week.]
Are you looking for something to help you sleep through the night? Try this right before you go to bed.
There are a number of things that didn't go as planned today.
Some of them are still on my mind.
They are floating around in the forms of regret and disappointment.
At this point there is nothing I can do about these things.
I give myself permission to let these worries and anxieties to melt away.
If I need theses worries and anxieties again tomorrow I can re-find them.
More than likely after a good night’s sleep these things will seem less daunting and tomorrow I will have the opportunity to respond in a new way.
There are a number of things that I am thinking about that are going to happen tomorrow or sometime in the future.
There is nothing that I can do about these things tonight.
The best thing that I can do about the unknown that is coming in the future is to get a good night’s sleep so that when I wake tomorrow I will be well rested and re-energized to take on these tasks and opportunities.
When I climb into bed tonight I will fall asleep easily and gently.
When my head hits the pillow my body will naturally relax.
It will happen easily and gently.
Even if I don't fall asleep right away that is OK because I know just resting in bed is going to do a lot for my system, giving it a chance to slow down and heal.
I know the part of my system that is responsible for sleep works very hard.
It wants me to sleep and to receive all the amazing benefits that come from a night of restful sleep.
I appreciate the part of me that is responsible for sleep, even though I sometimes am hard on myself and this part of my system when it has a hard time sleeping.
I want the part of my system that is responsible for sleep to know that it is not alone in providing me sleep.
The whole system is committed to a night of deep, relaxing, gentle sleep.
Whatever other parts of the system that the sleep part wants to call on, I give it permission to do that now.
AND I want it to know that I want it to work with the rest of the system.
My system works best when all the parts are working together.
I am going to have restful sleep tonight.
I am going to have gentle sleep tonight.
I am going to have re-energizing sleep tonight.
I am going to have healing sleep tonight.
I am going to sleep in such a way that it will feed my creativity and inspiration tonight.
In the morning I am going to wake up gently and easily.
I am going to wake up re-energized and ready to take on a new day.
I am going to wake with open eyes to new opportunities and bigger dreams.
I am going to wake knowing that this night’s sleep served me and the new day very well.
I give myself permission to have a gentle, restful night of sleep.
My sleep is important.
During sleep my system has the recharge and re-energize.
During sleep my conscious, subconscious, and unconscious minds have the opportunity to sort out all the new information and lessons form today.
While I am sleeping I don't need to give any of these functions any thought.
My system can take care of all of this while I get a gentle, restful night of sleep.