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The 10 Questions That Changed My Life

March 20, 2016 by Gene Monterastelli

Good morning,

I was having dinner with a friend I'll call “Sally” at a place that serves the most amazing chicken and waffles.

As we were enjoying dinner she explained that she was having a really hard time. She was in the middle of a move. Her job was stressing her out. She was thinking of changing careers. AND she had been sick for weeks.

I was listening closely as caring friend.

She stopped. Looked me dead in the eye and said, “I know you like to leave your work at work, but right now I don't need my friend Gene. I need Gene the coach. Help!”

So I smiled, ordered another drink, and began to ask her some questions.

It Only Took 10 Questions

Over the next 45 minutes I asked her ten questions. With each answer she gave I repeated back what she had said in my own words and asked a few follow-up questions.

At the end of 45 minutes she said, “Wow! You're so smart. Thank you for helping me out with that.”

The funny thing is, I didn't say anything smart.

I didn't offer any advice. I didn't make any suggestions. I didn't help her plan anything.

I simply asked ten questions and in the process of answering those questions she was able to see clearly what she wanted – and, more importantly, needed – which led to knowing the steps she needed to take, and the emotional blocks she needed to clear in order to be successful.

These Are Not Random Questions

When Sally asked me to put my coach hat on I didn't just start asking her random questions, but instead I worked her through a specific process designed to move us from confusion, to clarity, and then to action.

The 10 Question System (I know it's not an awfully catchy name) is very powerful and something I use in my own life as well as with my clients.

This system guides me when I'm trying to do something as small as reorganizing my office or something as large as creating a new product line.

I Want You To Learn This System

On the surface this system looks super simple and that is because it is simple.

BUT just because something is simple doesn't mean that it is easy to do at first.

To that end I have created a training program that will walk you through the full system. Not only will you know the right questions to ask and the right order in which to ask them, but you will understand the motivation behind each of the questions.

Once you master the why of each question it will stop being a formula and start to be something that you can integrate into your daily life as you make choices, as you are helpful to your friends and family, and can be integrated into client work if that is what you do.

And it is not just ten questions!

Each step along the way I teach you how you can tap for the information that comes up from each of the questions. You are not just figuring out what you want and need but also how to clear the issues that will (and always do) come up along the way.

What Is In The Program?

The system consists of more than 4 hours of audios which will teach you:

  • How and why we create limiting beliefs, and how to break down your goals in a way so that you can find every fear and limiting belief lurking in your subconscious.
  • Tools to knock out these limiting beliefs anytime, anywhere. THIS IS KEY: Not only will this tool set help you when you are sitting at home working through your goal list, but when any fear or limiting belief pops up in any situation you will be able to knock it out.
  • How to recognize when limiting beliefs are holding you back (because sometimes we don't even see them).
  • In addition to more than 4 hours of instruction you will also receive a digital workbook that will take you through the ten steps. Because this system works for any of your goals, when it is time to go after the next one you'll easily be able to print out a fresh copy of the workbook to guide you through the steps.

Bonus Tools To Help You Achieve Your Goals

This system is great at uncovering the root causes for not taking action and the limiting beliefs that make it difficult for you to take action.

I want you to be successful. I want you to achieve your goals. To that end I am adding 4 audio bonuses that you can use to knock out these common beliefs and fears:

Resistance To Change: If there weren't resistance to change we would already have changed. Sometimes this resistance has nothing to do with the specific change, but is about change in general. This audio will make you more comfortable with change, which will help you to take action. ($13.77 value)

Being Open To The Process: It can be scary to think that we will uncover our fears and limiting beliefs. This audio will help you to know that it is safe and good to do this investigation and work. ($13.77 value)

Believing You Are Worthy of Better: Almost daily I talk to clients who don't believe they deserve a better life. This audio helps you recognize your worthiness, which will help you take action. ($13.77 value)

Permission To Be Easy With Yourself: We are our own worst critics. We are harder on ourselves than anyone else ever could be. When we are kinder and more loving towards ourselves we are able to move forward faster. ($13.77 value)

That is $55 in free tap-along audios that you can use over and over again.

Very Special Deal

The system normally costs $189, but for the next two weeks I am making a special offer. In addition to the $55 in bonus tap-along audios you can get the system in one of three ways.

1) The Full Program: You receive the bonus audios and the full program for only $97. That is a 49% discount. Get It Now!

2) The Program + A Little Help: You will receive the bonus audios, the program, and one full hour working one-on-one with me to help you quickly knock out the stubborn issues uncovered by the system for only $197. That is an 89% discount on the program. Get It Now!

3) The Program + A Lot Of Help: You will receive the bonus audio, the program, and five one-on-one sessions with me. Imagine what it will like to have someone walking with you helping to clear out these issues. You get all of this for $787. When you do this you receive the whole system free of charge! Get It Now!

Act Today!

People just like you are taking control of their lives and taking the action that they want. Join them today. Don't miss this opportunity to transform the way you approach your problems.

When you order you will be given instant access to all the downloads.

Do it now: Yes! I want access to the system right now.

Gene

PS: The longer you wait to get clear, the longer you are going to be stuck where you are right now. That is time that you are never going to get back. The sooner you take action, the sooner you will have what you want. Order now! https://tappingqanda.com/actnow

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Pod #212: EFT To Help You Be A Better Parent w/ Heather Chauvin

March 16, 2016 by Gene Monterastelli

eft for parenting

I am constantly amazed at how willing parents are to put their children first. It’s common for parents to make sure their child's needs are met before they do anything for themselves. As well meaning as this is, it can cause problems in the long term.

By always putting their family first and not taking care of themselves parents can find themselves unable to be the best parent they could be. One of the most important ways that parents can take care of their children is to make sure they also take care of themselves.

This week I interview Heather Chauvin about how parents can use tapping to be better parents.


Heather Chauvin

Guest: Heather Chauvin

Contact: web @: http://heatherchauvin.com; podcast @ Mom's In Control; Free Gift @ 21 Day Mom Is In Control Challenge

About Heather: Heather Chauvin has been named the next generation’s thought leader in parenting and women’s leadership. Her mission is to crack women open to their deepest potential and lead the life their soul craves. She reaches thousands of readers worldwide and leads innovative retreats and coaching programs that teach women to succeed in their most sacred work in parenting and business. Heather’s the creator of the New & Noteworthy Podcast, Mom Is In Control and has been featured on the OWN network, Huffington Post, TV outlets and others. Through her Courageous Rewrite Initiative, Heather has given voice to many humans who have courageously taking inspired action towards creating a life they’re proud of.

With wit and wisdom, Heather inspires a global community of women to take back control of how they want to lead, work, play and parent.

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Children, Heather Chauvin, Kids, Parent

Pod #211: EFT For The Fear Of Letting Others Down

March 9, 2016 by Gene Monterastelli

EFT For The Fear Of Letting Others Down

There is a very primitive part of our nature that knows we are safest when we belong. This instinct was a key to survival for our nomadic ancient ancestors who sought safety in numbers at times of danger.

While we no longer have to worry about being attacked by large animals, humans still have a strong instinct that tells us belonging means safety. This is one of the reasons it can feel so devastating when we let someone else down.

In addition to not living up to our work or their expectations, letting down others triggers the fear of ostracisation and we feel unsafe as a result. Even if this is far from the reality of a situation, it is often how we respond emotionally.

This week we tap for the fear of letting others down. Even if you can't think of a specific example in your life right now, it is likely that this issue is lurking below the surface. Take a few moments to tap along.

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Friends, Let Down, Loved Ones, Worry

The Best Resource I Have Ever Created (PLEASE READ!)

March 5, 2016 by Gene Monterastelli

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Good morning,

As you may know, for two years I was lucky enough to teach tapping as part of an advanced anger management class in a county jail.

Yes!

I had guys in prison jumpsuits tapping along with me and really liking it.

I quickly realized that a number of inmates would never make it to my classes because of other obligations, such as studying for their high school diploma or working through a rehab program.

So I wrote a book containing all the tools I taught in class to make this powerful and transformative emotional work possible for them, despite not being able to attend the class.

It's Not An Anger Management Book
One day in class I had the guys writing answers to some questions be used with the next tool I planned to teach them.

One of the guys stopped and looked up at me. He said, “Mr. Gene this isn't an anger management class. This is an emotion class.” He paused for a second or two and then said, “And I'm OK with that,” and returned to his work.

He was right. I only framed the class as an anger management class because I knew that it would appeal to a lot of the inmates. Many of the men I met in jail were there as a direct result of their inability to control their anger. None of them would have been looking for an “emotions class”.

Once I had them on board with the approach and gained their trust, we could spend time on the deeper issues that were showing up as anger.

So this book is not an anger book, despite its title. It is about responding to all emotions in a healthy and proportional way.

The Best Resource I Have Ever Produced
Of all of the tools I have created, I believe this the best one! The comprehensive tools it teaches are presented in a straightforward, user-friendly, step-by-step fashion.

In the last week I have sent pdf copies of it to five of my clients. I told them, “I think that you’d find this tool in my anger book really useful. Let me send you a copy of it.”

I want you to have a copy of it too!

You Can Have A Copy Free Of Charge
I believe in the power of the tools in this book and I’d love everyone to be using them so I have set up a ‘name your own price’ deal for the pdf version of the book.

Which means that if you want a free pdf copy you can have one.

All of the proceeds from the book sales go towards supplying copies of the books to inmates. Each one costs me about $3.20 to print and send to an inmate. So if you do decide to buy it you will know exactly how many men and women you will be helping.

If you don't want a pdf version the book you can also purchase a Kindle or paperback version. (Unfortunately, I can't do name your own price for those two versions.)

I Will Match Your Contribution
In addition to all proceeds of the sales going buying more books I am going to match all sales in March and April with an equal donation to Kiva.

Kiva is an organization that makes micro loans to help people move from poverty to being able to take control of their circumstances. Socio-economic factors are a key contributor behind why people commit crime.

This way we are helping people who have made poor choices and helping people in desperate need avoid having to turn to crime.

You can access the book here:

Paperback for $19.95

Kindle Version for $9.95

Name your own price and download a PDF version. (And, yes, you can make that price $0!)

NOTE About Matching Donations: Kiva is an organization that makes micro loans to help people move from poverty to being able to take control of their circumstances. Socio-economic factors are a key contributor behind why people commit crime.

This way we are helping people who have made poor choices and helping people in desperate need avoid having to turn to crime.

I Am Serious About The Book Being Free
I don't want you to feel like I am laying a guilt trip on you. If right now you can't afford to buy the book then please, please, please download it free.

It contains powerful information and I want you to have it.

PS: The shopping cart for the pdf will default to $10, which is the Kindle price, but you can change to less (even 0) or more, if you are so inclined. Get it here:

  • Paperback for $19.95
  • Kindle Version for $9.95
  • Name your own price and download a PDF version.

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Pod #210: Systems For Healing w/ Deborah Donndelinger

March 2, 2016 by Gene Monterastelli

Systems for healingWe all know that the more specific we can be when tapping, the more effective it will be. As a concept this is easy to understand, but in practice it is much harder to implement.

Humans are complicated creatures. We can talk about the difference between our mind, body, and spirit, but the lines between these three are blurry. As a simple example, the thoughts in my mind can impact my physical body.

To help manage the complicated system that we are, employing a healing framework as a lens to facilitate the healing process can be helpful. This week I have a conversation with Deborah Donndelinger about three such systems to help us find our way to root causes.

Deborah compares and contrasts the three, shares how to use each, and which might be most useful for you based on the issues you are tapping for.


Deborah Donndelinger

Guest: Deborah Donndelinger

Contact: email @ deb@eftwithdeborah.com; web @
DeborahDonndelinger.com; facebook @ EFTwithDeb; phone @ 410-861-0333

About Deborah: Deborah is an EFT practitioner and personal development coach living in central Maryland. She works with clients, near and far, using tapping, human design, and other tools as they journey from self-judgement and doubt to trusting and understanding themselves. She's the creator and author of the book Family Energetics.

Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Deborah Donndelinger, Enneagram, System of Healing

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