I often hear from frustrated clients because they have tapped for an issue, but they haven't made any progress. When this happens they question whether tapping can help.
The reality is that in many of these cases the issue isn’t whether tapping will work, but instead what is the best way to tap for an issue.
This week I have for you a simple four-step process to ensure you are tapping in the most effective way to get to the root cause of an issue.
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For me, one of the hardest feelings is that of feeling like an outsider. When you are in a room full of people, feeling like you don’t belong and your head spins with imagining what everyone is thinking about you – and NONE of it is good!
Last weekend I found myself feeling exact this way – even though I know that, in reality, most people are far too caught up in their own lives to spend much time worrying about or judging me. Here is a tap-along audio and tapping script for when you find yourself in the same situation.
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I feel like an outsider…I feel like nobody gets me…Even if there were the time and space to explain myself…They still wouldn't understand…Or they wouldn't accept me…Or they would say I don’t belong…It is painful being in a situation where I am surrounded by people…And yet I feel completely alone…When I sense a connection in the room that I'm not a part of…It feels like there is no entry point…Where I feel like my presence is a burden to others…The only thing to do is to try to escape…I recognize the fact my emotions are working way too hard…I recognize the fact that I do have common ground…There are connections that I can make…I don't always have to feel like I'm on the outside…Even if they don't fully understand me…I do have something to offer…There are ways that we can connect…Even if I am not totally at home I can find connection…I can find community…I can be accepted for who I am…Without having to prove myself…I am valuable…I have something to offer…I can connect in a true human way…I am not as alone as I feel…I do not have to fear…I can be completely who I am…Even though it feels scary to be vulnerable…Even though it feels overwhelming to be who I am…Even when it feels like I have nothing to offer…Or that they will never understand…I give myself permission to trust myself…I give myself permission to trust others…I give myself permission to believe in human connection…Knowing that I can create space where I feel at home…My fear of judgment is trying to keep me safe…My fear of judgment is working way too hard…This does not mean I become careless…This does not mean I become reckless…This does not mean I become completely unguarded…Trusting myself and trusting others does not mean I'm letting all of my barriers down…I can be more open and connect more while still keeping myself safe…While still keeping myself healthy…I give myself permission to trust myself…I give myself permission to trust others…I give myself permission to know that I am acceptable…I give myself permission to know that I am lovable…I am lovable in big and small ways.
It can tough to see our loved ones making choices that aren't serving them well. Because we have distance from their situation, we are able to see the bigger picture in that way that they cannot.
What can be even more difficult is that often they are so deeply entangled in the issue that they aren't able to hear our our advice.
This week I have for you a simple process that you can tap to when you are wanting better for someone in your life. While remaining responsible for their own actions, this process can help to create the space needed for them to gain a fresh perspective, which opens up the possibility of change.
Not only do I have the simple step-by-step process explained in the audio, but I have also included a link where you can download it and 13 other tapping tools free of charge.
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Sometimes I put off tapping because I don't feel I have enough time for an in-depth tapping session. But often you don't need much time to make a huge difference to how you are feeling.
Recently I had a small physical issue that was more of an inconvenience than the cause of any great pain. I never thought to tap for it because it was so small.
Eventually I got around to tapping for it, which was really effective and I couldn’t believe I’d waited so long! Here’s the simple three-step process I used. Give it a try!
Many of our beliefs are held at a subconscious level and some of them do not serve us well. They may be inaccurate in the way we describe ourselves, our relationships, and the world and this inaccuracy causes us problems in daily life because subconsciously we believe them to be true.
Once we identify these beliefs we can then use tapping to transform them into a clearer reflection of the way the world works.
Beliefs that have been passed on to us by our loved ones are particularly hard to change. This is because part of us fears that if we let go of the belief, we will also be letting go of the person who gave it to us.
Logically we know this isn't the case, but because this perception exists at a subconscious level it can slow or even halt our progress.
This week I have a simple process you can use to transform the beliefs that have been passed on by others, with a tap-along section at the end.
In the audio I also share with you how you can get a free written version of this tool, the tapping script, and 13 other great tapping tools.
Here is the tapping script that you are going to use as part four of this process. In the audio above, not only do I share the first 3 steps.
I know that I am approaching this just like the people in my life…and I know that approach is not serving me…but there is a part of me that doesn’t want to let this belief go…there is a part of me that believes that if I let this belief go then I am letting them go…that I am saying that they are wrong…I am saying that I don’t love them…I am saying that I am not grateful for what they have done for me…but I know this is not true…I can let go beliefs that they had without letting go of them…I can know that I love them and that they love me and not hold everything they said or did as true…They were imperfect…and it is OK to say that they were and are imperfect…and there are many beliefs that served them in a time and place that don’t serve me…they want what is best for me…and they might think that one way is right…but even when they want things for me that aren’t perfect for me…they do this because they want what is best for me…I can do what is best for me and love my parents…I can do what is best for me and appreciate everything they have done for me…I can do what is best for me and keep the relationship strong…letting go of something they have given me is not the same as letting them go.