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Journaling

January 26, 2009 by Gene Monterastelli


photo by Luigi Anzivino

A number of studies have indicated that the simple act of writing down what we are thinking and worrying about takes some of the charge out of the emotions. Dragging the thoughts into the light of day helps us to see what we are overreacting to and what is truly going on.

When we leave our thoughts alone in our head they have a tendency to be magnified. The mind serves as an echo chamber (especially in the middle of the night). Each time a thought or worry is bounced around it get stronger and stronger. We can combine Evolving Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT/EvEFT) with a simple task to take the charge out of our thoughts and feelings.

TYou simply set some time aside to write down everything that is bouncing around in your mind. Take the self-talk that is in your head and just let it flow. You don’t need any special journal to do this. You can even type it on the computer.

After you have done this you don’t have to save your writing. You can throw it away or just erase the computer file. The important task is to get it out of your head where it tends to be amplified.

I like to add EFT to this activity to continue to clean up the emotional charge. I do this is by opening a blank document on my computer and just letting my fingers go. I type as fast as the thoughts come to me. As this happens I start to see the things I am overreacting to, which takes some of the charge away.

After I finish typing I go back and re-read everything I have just written, tapping from point to point as I read. The emotions that have not been completely cleared out rise again while I read my own words. By tapping while reading my thought processes, I clear out even more of the emotional charge.

For the areas that have a great deal of emotional charge I read the passage two or three times while tapping.

In the process I tune in to the problem without worrying about exactly the right words to say because I’ve already produced them.

When I am done tapping I delete the file.

Filed Under: Tools Tagged With: Awareness, Don't Know What Words To Say, Phrases

Getting Back To That Session That Was So Powerful

January 22, 2009 by Gene Monterastelli


photo by Meredith Farmer

Occasionally we have unusually powerful Evolving Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT/EvEFT) sessions. When we sit down later to tap, we wish there was a way to recapture the healing aspects of that session or continue to work on those issues. It is much easier to do than one would think.

There are times when I can relate to the issue my client is bringing up, so while they tap on their issue, I get to tap on my issue at the same time. There are other times when I can feel in my body what my client is feeling and we get a chance to tap on the issue together.

Recently I had an amazing experience with a client that was completely different from either of these. We were about 40 minutes into a session and were tapping on an issue that I had no particular relationship to. Very suddenly, I started yawning uncontrollably.
In this sort of energy work yawning is generally a sign of releasing energetic blocks, but I have never been in a circumstance where I yawned 30 times in a row. It was amazing, and afterwards I felt great. A huge burden that I had been working on for a number of weeks was released.

A few days later I wanted to tap back into this experience because I knew more needed to be done. As I tapped I just started thinking about the previous session, and once again the yawns starting coming fast and furious.

I was able to tap for three straight minutes thinking only of that last session, and the yawns didn’t stop. At that point I had finished the work I could do at that time.

As I thought about this experience, it wasn’t a great surprise. One of the things we do in hypnosis work is place a post-hypnotic suggestion allowing us to return instantly to the issue we are working on. This prevents us from having to do all the work of getting to the same point in the next session.

This works equally well with EFT. If you have worked on an issue before and had a great level of success, all you need do is tune into that tapping session and start tapping again. You can pick up right where you left off working before.

Filed Under: Tools Tagged With: Awareness, Emotions, Focus, How To

I found myself being grounded and present every 15 minutes all day long!

January 20, 2009 by Gene Monterastelli

A Chime For The Soul
I spent the first three days of the New Year on retreat. It was everything a retreat is supposed to be. It was restful. It was challenging. It helped me to heal and gave me insight for more healing in the future.

We spent a great deal of time in silence. Each day began with a 20-minute contemplative sit. We were given two or three minutes of silence to quiet ourselves before each presentation and to absorb what we’d just heard after presentations.

Each of these silences started and ended with the striking of a chime. The simple pure sound pierced the air.

As the retreat wore on and we spent more time in silence the more I longed for these silences. Each time I heard that simple chime my body/mind/spirit knew exactly what we were doing — and loved it.

Taking It Home
The hard part of a retreat is going home and integrating this peace, reflection, and grounding into your daily life.

As we waited for the closing session to begin I was thinking of how I could bring this sense of grounding into my daily life.

The first thing that came to mind was that chime. I thought, “I could buy one of the chimes and use it before and after my own silent time.” But I immediately saw the flaw in this plan. I’d end up buying the chime and I might use it once or twice, but eventually it would end up as one more knickknack on my shelf.

Then my mind wandered to prayer traditions throughout the world that use the bell as a call to prayer.

The Annoyed Monk
A friend of mine is a monk who lives in an abbey with other members of his community. Several times a day the bells ring and they are required to drop whatever they’re doing to join the community in prayers.

He explained,

“At first, it can be really frustrating.  You can be right in the middle of an important task and you have to just stop.  It is the worst when you are really in the grove.  It can make it really hard to come to the chapel with a prayerful mind set when you are frustrated like this.

“But something happens when they ring the bells again calling us to prayer, you close your eyes, take a few deep breaths, and bring yourself present to the Glory of God in that moment.

“The frustration just melts away because you are grounded in the bigger picture.  You realize it is good that you have been pulled away form the daily tasks for a few minutes to put it all in perspective.”

My Call To Silence
That is what I wanted in my daily life, but I didn’t want to move into a hermitage to get it.

Since I spend most of my day sitting in front of my computer I decided to write a computer program that would chime every 15 minutes as a reminder to re-ground myself.

At first, like my monk friend, I was a little annoyed by the constant interruption. But I decided that I needed to give it an honest effort.

Initially I was very strict with myself. The moment the chime rang I stopped what I was doing, even if I was in the middle of typing a sentence or a word. I‘d close my eyes and do a simple grounding exercise that took less than sixty seconds.

The results were amazing!

Being Fully Present
In those few short seconds of taking pause I was able to refocus.

I found myself clearing stress that I wasn’t even aware was there.

I was able to put the tasks at hand in perspective.

I was more productive and focused in my work, and at the end of the day I felt great, not exhausted.

Then My Friends Ask For One
I told my friend Christi, who was on the same retreat, about the software program I had created and she said, “I WANT ONE!”

Within an hour of sending her the program she sent an e-mail saying:

“The first time the chime went off it was a little surprising because I had my speakers turned up too loud, but now I love this.  It is such a great way to break up the day.  I feel so much more grounded already.”

“Hey, I want one too!”
The more people I told about the program the more people were asking for one as well.

Before sharing it with others I decided to improve the program. I recorded a much more peaceful chime. I also made it so you can set whatever interval of time you would like between chimes.

Since this is a brand new product I am offering it for over 50% off the eventual price.

For the next two weeks I’m offering the Breathe Easy Reminder software for only $7.45. (The regular retail price will be $14.95).

(And yes there is a both Mac and PC versions.)

But that's not all!
If you order as part of this special introduction I have three free amazing free bonuses:

Bonus #1: 60 Seconds To Presence: 9 Exercises & Meditations That Can Be Done Anytime, Anywhere In Under 60 Seconds ebook ($17.49 value)

It is one thing to take pause every fifteen minutes through out your day, but it is something completely different to use that time to really ground yourself.  When you ground yourself you are less stressed and more present to the moment. Grounding yourself is not a complicated task.  You can do it in less than sixty seconds.

In this book I teach you 9 different grounding activities you can do in less than 60 seconds. This book contains my favorite techniques using EFT, Qi Gong, guided imagery, breathing exercises, and movement meditation.  You can choose a new one each day or find the one you respond to best to use over and over again.

Bonus #2: Anchoring Relaxation audio ($13.77 value)

There is a very powerful tool in NeuroLinguistic Psychology (NLP) called “anchoring”.  When using anchoring you are able to attach one emotion or motivation to another piece of stimulus.  In stop smoking work the feeling of “I am now a non-smoker and will be a non-smoker for the rest of my life” is anchored to the color red.  When the person sees the color red it reinforces this belief.  (Red is everywhere so they are re-reminding themselves of this over and over again all day!)

In this very special audio the feeling of relaxation and healing is anchored to the sound of the chime in the Breath Easy Reminder program.  After listening to this audio your body will be automatically disposed to the feeling of relaxation at the sound of the chime.  As the program runs through out the day on your computer you will be relaxed over and over again.

Bonus #3: Total Relaxation audio ($13.77 value)

In this audio I use my 10 favorite relaxation images and stack them one on top of another.  By doing this it takes advantage of a phenomena we refer to in hypnosis as “compounding”.  When you follow a suggestion of relaxation by another suggestion it multiplies the first.

By building one on top of the next it multiplies the relaxing and stress relieving power.

Look at what Jay wrote me after using the audio:

“The Total Relaxation audio is so powerful it took me two weeks before I knew how it ended because it put me right to sleep each time I listened to it.”

This audio is a prefect way to end a hectic day.

That is $45.03 in bonus!
Each of the bonuses by themselves are worth more than double the special introductory price of the software.

The three bonuses combined are worth more than SIX times the price of the software.

100% Iron Clad Guarantee!
I have seen the power of this little program.  As I said above I wrote the program at first just for myself.  I was looking for a way to create some grounding in my own life.

This has worked beyond my wildest dreams.

If you don't find that this program doesn't make you more grounded and calm as you sit at your computer I will refund your money AND you can keep the three bonuses as my gift to you just for trying it out.

You have nothing to loose but your stress and lack of grounding!
The program is so easy to use that including download time you will have it up in running in less than 2 minutes.

You know you want to bring peace and grounding to your day.

Bring a moment of peace right now!

And 15 minutes after that…

And 15 minutes after that…

(You get the idea!)

Order now!

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Peace and grounding,

Gene

PS: Image what it is going to be like to have your day punctured with peace, relaxations, and the feeling of being grounded.  You can have that feeling right now…and it takes less than sixty seconds to feel it.

Filed Under: Tools Tagged With: Awareness, Body, Focus, Peace

Let The Subconscious Fill in the Blanks

January 15, 2009 by Gene Monterastelli


photo by Adam Holloway

The most common reason my clients don’t do their EFT homework between sessions is, “I don’t know what words to say. When I tap with you it is so easy. When I’m on my own I get stuck.” But there is a way for the subconscious to solve this problem for you.

The reason may be lack of confidence, worry that you’ll do it wrong, worry that you’ll waste time, or that you simply don’t know how to approach the issue. At other times we may have a hard time saying some of the phrases out loud because they seem so ludicrous.

For example people who have a hard time believing they are worthy of being loved are not going to feel comfortable saying, “I deserve love, happiness, and well-being” because they really don’tt believe it.

It can be equally hard to say out loud (or even recognize) why we feel this way.

Rob Sherwin (http://www.tap4health.com/) has come up with a brilliant way to deal with the situation where we don’t know why we feel some way or it’s really hard for us to say out loud. His recommendation is to simply let the subconscious mind fill in the blanks for us. We could tap on something like this:

I don’t deserve healing because…
I don’t deserve to heal if it means…
I don’t know how to heal because…
If I heal then I will be stuck with…
I can’t heal because…
I am afraid to heal because…
I don’t want to heal because…
I don’t believe I deserve happiness because…
I don’t believe I deserve success because…
I don’t believe I deserve love because…

Filed Under: Tools Tagged With: Don't Know What Words To Say, Guest Author, How To

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