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TapAlong #21A: Mediocrity and Greatness

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Mediocrity asks “Why?” with hesitation. Greatness asks “Why not?” with expectation. – @TheSingleWoman

One of the biggest and most significant shifts we can make is moving from asking “why?” to asking “why not?” When we do this we are shifting from thinking about the place where we are stuck to moving towards what we can become. This is a powerful transformation. Even by simply being aware of what is possible, we feel like we are moving forward to something that is new and better.

TapAlong #16A Dealing With Shame And Blame For Past Choices

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Shame is an interesting emotion. It makes us recoil inside ourselves, wanting us to hide from our past and our present. Despite this negativity, shame is rooted in a good place because it wants us to have done better, and wants us to do better in the future. The problem is that it prevents us from moving forward because it is trying to keep us safe from repeating our mistakes. Because of this we can feel crippled by shame, but we don’t have to remain stuck in that place.

Tapping To The Lessons I Learned While Tapping

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photo by Stephan Reinwald

When I am tapping I like to write down the insights I have while tapping. Sometimes they are things I already know (and have known forever) and other times they are completely new insights. I might only get one or two of these insights when I sit down to tap, but when I collect them over time I end up with a lots of wisdom that I need to hear.

Here is a list of the some of the insights I have had recently while tapping. Every now and then I like to come back and tap to them.

PS: This is also a great way to end a tapping session. Just state what you have learned to reinforce the learning and the change.

  • Accountability structures are good for my progress.
  • I have more needs than I care to admit.
  • If I do work every day (or regularly) progress is inevitable.
  • It is time to heal.
  • I am really ready to heal.
  • Sometimes when things don't work out we find new and better things.
  • Some issues and tasks are made harder by avoiding them.
  • Even if people who are close to me don't appreciate the work I am doing, it can and will be appreciated in other places by other people.
  • I know lots of things that are good for me even if I am not willing to admit it in my conscious mind.
  • I need to take care of myself because I will receive the best care this way as I am the only one who has taking care of me as a responsibility. I can (and should) ask for help, but I am responsible for this work.
  • It is time to let others take responsibility for themselves. This is not longer my job.
  • It is good (and serves others) when I follow my dreams.
  • It is hard for people who are wounded for them not to act out of their wound.
  • I can't assume I understand what really happened or what others really think.
  • I can't assume others understand me.
  • I need to examine how I see myself.
  • My patterns are easy to change when I take the time to look at and understand them.
  • I am better at what I do than I give myself credit for.
  • Doing work is better than not doing work.
  • One easy change I can make is to work on change every day.
  • Physical health can be improved with lots of small choices and it doesn't have to be about massive workout routines.
  • It is good I am making this change now.
  • I don't have to do everything in my life alone to move forward. There are lots of people I can partner with.
  • Just because I have been stuck for a very long time doesn't mean I have to stay stuck in the future.
  • I am open to change happening in a way that is unexpected and surprisingly easy.
  • When I give myself the benefit of the doubt it is easier to give others the benefit of the doubt.
  • Sometimes the hardest person to love is myself.
  • Wanting the best for others is not about wanting less for me.
  • Wanting the best for others is not about fixing them.
  • Desire isn't bad because it is motivation to doing more, trying more, and being focused.
  • My complete focus on one outcome can lead me to miss other, better outcomes.

Click here to read what others have to say or add your own thoughts and comments. I would really love to hear what you think!

TapAlong #15A Accepting Compliments

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One of the things I have struggled with over the years is accepting compliments. They made me feel uncomfortable. They made me feel judged. They made me feel like I needed to point out the things that were wrong with me. Over time I have learned that it is OK to take a compliment. It gives me a chance to recognize that I am good at something and that others also see the things I do well.