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TapAlong: Feeling Like You Need To Learn A Lesson Before Moving On – Forgiving Self

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At times I have found myself stuck in this thought: “I can't move on until I learn an important lesson from the past.”

It is true that we need to learn from our experiences. That is what growth and evolution is all about. Often we will keep ourselves trapped in some past event until we feel like we have learned that great lesson we needed to learn.

But there isn't always a lesson to be learned from the past. Sometimes the only thing we learn is that we don't want to be stuck in that place any more. It is ok to move on without feeling like we have to learn some significant lesson.

Here is a tap along audio to help you do just that.

TapAlong: Feeling Like I Need To Suffer – Forgiving Self

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On more than one occasion I have thought, “I made a mistake and deserve to suffer for it.”

Culturally the belief is that when someone has done something wrong they should be punished. Even if we don't personally think this, it is such a pervasive cultural value that it’s easy to understand how it can creep into our beliefs as well.

When we do something wrong a part of us often feels that we deserve to be punished. Additionally, because we hold ourselves to such high standards, we’ll inflict a stern punishment on ourselves which we are often unwilling ever to let go.

It is OK to recognize that we don't need to suffer for our past choices. We can learn from them and move forward. Here is a tap-along audio to help you do just that.

TapAlong: It Doesn’t Always Have To Be Hard

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There is a very American ethic that says that if something is worth having it is worth working hard for. Great virtue is attached to working hard so that you are able to say you “deserve” what you received. I have nothing against hard work, but it doesn’t always have to be hard. I take flights because it is much easier than travelling in a covered wagon. I use my stove because it is easier than cooking over a campfire. I shop for food because it is easier than farming.

We often feel bad about taking the easy way out. There is nothing wrong with having things come to us easily. We are worthy of things being easy.

Here is a great little tap-along to help you to be easy with yourself.

TapAlong: Being Judgmental Of Others

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Wayne Dyer said, “When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself.”

I am much more judgmental of others than I would like to admit. I think I am a kind person. I think I give others the benefit of the doubt. But there are times when I judge others too quickly. I don’t do this because of who they are, but because of who I am. Often when I am judging others it is because they remind me of something in myself that I don’t like. I don’t like to be judged and I am going to work on being less judgmental.

TapAlong # 29A: I Don’t Have To Be Perfect

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It is great that we spend time naming what we want our life to look like. It is wonderful that we create plans for how we are going to achieve it.

But it is not going to happen the way we planned. It’s just not. Unexpected things will crop up. There will details we have missed. There will be days where we just choose to watch TV instead of doing what we need to do to move forward.

And that is OK.

I am not saying that we don’t need to try, but it is OK if we are not perfect. It is good for us to be easy with ourselves when it comes to not being perfect. If we beat ourselves up too much about not being perfect we will find ourselves not even wanting to try.

Be easy with yourself.