I read all these stories about how people get amazing results with EFT right away. It’s just not happening for me. What am I doing wrong?

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Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) is easy to use, it can be used on many types of issues, and it can be done anytime anywhere. But even with that being said, the main reason people first become interested in learning EFT is because they hear stories of how EFT changes lives. We all want to heal and improve our lives and are intrigued when we hear others are solving similar problems to the ones we have. The stories most often told are the “one-minute miracles”. We have all heard the stories of people who have fought with some physical or emotional issue for years only to have it go away in moments. These are more than just urban legends. I have seen it in my own practice.

These occurrences are frequent, but they are not the norm. (I believe someday one-minute miracles will be the norm as we continue to learn how the body/mind/spirit system works.) Just because you don’t experience a one-minute miracle doesn’t mean EFT isn’t working, and it doesn’t mean you’re doing EFT wrong.

Personally I think every round of EFT is successful regardless of the amount of progress that is made (even if no progress is made at all). I believe this because with every round of EFT we do we receive some feedback we can learn from. As an added bonus, a round of tapping is so short we receive feedback very quickly, helping us to adjust our approach for our next round of tapping and allowing us to move to healing quickly. If we heed the feedback we receive with each round of tapping we can quickly resolve the current issue. In my experience there are four typical outcomes to a round of tapping that give us information. .

1) The pain/emotion reduce in intensity.
Obviously, this is the best case scenario, the ultimate goal we are trying to reach with tapping. If the intensity decreases we are on the right track and should keep moving in this direction.

2) The pain/emotion increases in intensity.
On the surface this would seem to be a bad outcome. “We are trying to get away from an issue and now there’s more of it? That can’t be a good thing?” But it really is. Increased intensity simply means that we have tuned into the issue more than before. For example, let’s suppose my right knee is injured. All day as I move around there is an ever-present dull ache. The moment I sit down to take a break the pain seems to swell and become very sharp. My knee didn’t start hurting more the moment I sat down. Instead, since my mind wasn’t fully focused on my daily tasks, my thoughts drifted to my knee and I became aware of how much pain I was really in. It is simply an issue of how much I’m focusing on the pain. When I tap on an issue and the intensity goes up, it means I’m on the right track.

3) The pain/emotion changes in location, texture, or type.
This type of feedback is very common. A pain that started in our shoulders is now in our hip. A feeling of anger becomes frustration. A sharp pain that felt like a stabbing pain now is a very warm dull ache. This might not appear to be progress, at first glance. If I start with a pain in my neck that has an intensity of 6 and after a round of tapping it’s a pain in my hip that has an intensity of 6, I still hurt. Any time we have a change in some characteristic of what we’re working on, it really is progress because the change signifies that we are moving down the right path. Change always means progress, with EFT.

Side note: When this happen it is important that we change what we’re tapping on. If the pain moves from the neck to the hip, the next round of tapping must address the pain in the hip. If the emotion changes from anger to frustration, the next round of tapping is must be directed at the frustration. The tapping we do should reflect the issue as it is in the moment we start the next round of tapping.

4) There is no change in intensity.
At first blush this doesn’t seem like desirable feedback, but in reality it is good news. If we do a round of tapping and make no progress at all then we have learned the current set up isn’t right, and we need to change something. At this point we start to look to the reasons that EFT most commonly doesn’t work. Did we clear psychological reversal (PR)? Are we hydrated enough? Are we being specific enough? In this case what seems to be failure is good news because it tells us we need to try something different.

It is all good news!
No matter what the outcome from a round of tapping, it is good news. With every round of tapping we are either healing or gaining information about what to do next.

With each round of tapping you do, remember to be easy with yourself. One round of tapping costs you less than one minute of your day, it’s easy to do, and no matter what the outcome is, you are one step closer to healing. If you don’t have a one-minute miracle, take the information you’ve learned from this round of tapping and go on.