I hear it all the time from my clients when we are tapping together. We’ll finish a round of tapping and they will report that while we are tapping their critical voice is saying the exact opposite to our tapping phrases.
I know how frustrating this can feel, but in reality it is one of the best outcomes to happen when you are tapping.
That seems counterintuitive, but it is quite true!
Listen here to see why and how you can leverage this to get more out of your tapping.
Making big decisions can be difficult because the choices aren't always clear-cut and there may be many pros and cons to consider.
When this happens it can cause us to seize up and fail to make a choice at all.
Here is a tap-along audio to help you clear your head and make the best choice you can.
As humans we are skilled at learning from our past.
This also means that we can be overly critical and spend too much time beating ourselves up over poor choices we have made in the past.
Part of us resists self-forgiveness because of the concern that we will repeat the same mistake over and over again.
Here is a tap-along audio to help you stop beating yourself up for the past and know that you have learned the lessons from your mistakes.
There is an amazing contradiction that exists for most people who use EFT. On one hand we know how powerful it is. On the other hand we don't use it as much as we could.
I have even heard many clients report that there are times when they actively resist tapping. Just last week I had a client tell me:
I knew I should tap because my emotions were getting the best of me. While thinking this there was a part of me that just said “No! I refuse to tap.” It was almost as if there was a small child inside of me that was throwing a temper tantrum refusing to do it.
There is a very good reason why we resist tapping.
Here is why we struggle AND what you can do about it.
Here in the United States the unofficial beginning of the holiday season kicks off tomorrow with Thanksgiving.
As much fun as the holiday season is, it can also feel stressful and overwhelming.
There is a never-ending list of tasks that need to be done to prepare for the holidays AND it seems like there is another holiday party to attend every night of the week.
It can quickly feel like too much.
Here is a simple tap-along audio help you manage the holiday craziness.
It is that time of year again (at least in the northern hemisphere) where every time you turn around there is another person coughing or sneezing.
I have found tapping is a great way to keep these seasonal bugs at bay and to help to get healthy once you have gotten sick.
This week I have the tapping script I use to get and stay health. I have provided both a pdf and audio of the script.
Please feel free to share these as far and wide as you would like.
One of the most common questions I receive is “Where should I start? I have so many issues to tap on that I feel paralyzed. What should I do?”
This is a great question.
The truth is there is no one place to start, but it is much more important that you do start. I know how intimidating tapping can feel the first time you are trying it on your own. You want to get it exactly right. You feel self conscious because you it feel and looks weird.
As you do it, you will feel more comfortable. As you feel more comfortable, it will be easier to do.
In this week's podcast I have for you a process that is great for new and experienced tappers alike. For new tappers it will provide a great guide to help you get your feet under you. For experienced tappers it will help to uncover new issues that need to be tapped on.
To do this process you will need to go to EFTSetupPhraseGenerator.com/
Listen to the podcast first, then go to the site to try it out.
Recently I was reminded of the Joan Didon quote “Self-respect is a discipline, a habit of mind that can never be faked but can be developed, trained, coaxed forth.”
I find this quote so encouraging because helps me to recognize that self-respect is a point of view about myself that I can cultivate.
This week I have for you some tapping that will help you (and me!) recognize that we are worthy of self-respect. Below you will find both a tap-along audio and the tapping script.
I choose to know I am worthy of respect…I choose to know that I am worthy of respecting myself…I don’t need to do anything to prove that I am worthy of self-respect…I am made for self-respect…I don’t need to do anything to gain my self-respect…I know I am not perfect…I know I make mistakes every day…I know there are things in my life I would like to improve…Even though I am not perfect…I am worthy of self-respect…I am worthy of seeing that I am good…I am worthy of seeing that I am lovable…It is possible to see that I am worthy and still know that I would like better…By respecting myself I am not stopping my growth…By respecting myself I am not stopping my healing…Who I am is not determined by other people…Who I am is not determined by what others think…My value is not determined by other people…My value is not determined by what other people think…I choose to know I am worthy…I choose to know I am lovable…I choose to know that I am worthy of being heard…I am worthy even if I don’t believe I am worthy…My belief in my worthiness is not a prerequisite to my worthiness…I am worthy of respect even if I don’t believe it right now.
In survey after survey public speaking finishes near the top of the list of people’s greatest fears. It’s a fear that can hold us back professionally and can cause us much anxiety and discomfort ahead of having to speak in front of groups.
Most basic tapping and EFT trainings teach that when we fear something we should look for the first time we had a bad experience. The problem with doing this when it comes to public speaking is that often the moment in our past that taught us that public speaking was dangerous had little or nothing to do with public speaking.
In this week's conversation I talk with EFT Founding Master Tania A. Prince about the many different root causes that can lead to a fear of public speaking and how we can tap for them.
Tania A. Prince |
Guest: Tania A. Prince EFT Master
Contact: web @ eft-courses.co.uk, e-mail @ contact page
Biography: Tania is an EFT Master (one of fewer than thirty in the world). She has extensive experience of using EFT with clients and has worked on a vast range of issues, including fear of public speaking, blushing, panic attacks, success coaching, phobias, depression, addictions, anxiety, weight management, agoraphobia and serious illnesses, etc. She works from two clinics in Cheshire, England as well as working with clients throughout the UK and internationally via the phone. Her work has been featured on TV and radio shows both in the UK and abroad. She presents regularly at major international conferences and is a TAT Professionals Trainer.
(At least here in America) one of the most common pieces of advice you’ll hear for overcoming fear is to “just grit your teeth and fight your way through it!”
That advice is plain silly!
Fear is not something we should simply muscle through. Instead, it is a primitive emotion that does everything it can to keep us safe.
This week I have a conversation with Dr. Mary Ayers who was in exactly that situation. She had to do something that scared her and was told by those around her that she just had to overcome the fear and get on with it.
She decided to take another path. She faced the fear head on, figured out why it was there, and removed it. Not only does Mary share her own experience of transforming fear, she shares how she did it AND how you can do it too.
Guest: Dr. Mary Ayers
Contact: web @ TapIntoAction.com; web radio @ The Chickenshits Guide to Success; facebook @ Tap Into Action
About Mary: Dr. Mary Ayers knows how to get people un-stuck! With her years of experience as a therapist and a coach, you won't find the typical or ordinary coaching techniques in her programs. When it comes to taking action, she pulls out all the stops – delving deep to find those hidden fears and limiting beliefs. Known for her UNconventional, often “off the wall” methods, she will get you moving towards your goals without bullying, shaming or “pushing through the fear”. With over 27 years in the Human Development field, her accomplishments include 5 years as a coach with the Anthony Robbins Organization, EFT Expert on The Tapping World Summit, and Host of the radio show “The Chickenshits Guide to Success”.
Over the last few months I have been working on (OK, I hired someone to work on) a Tapping Q & A app for both Android and Apple smartphones.
Both of them are now available. In addition to having access to all the free resources on TappingQandA there will also be some app only exclusives.
You can download the app here:
Once you download it, send me an email from inside the app and I will send you a free tap-along audio.
Let me know what you think.
Gene
PS: If you download the Apple App make sure you turn on push notifications.
Perfectionism is tricky.
At its core perfectionism is motivated by wanting everything to be just perfect, because when everything is perfect it becomes manageable.
Making life manageable is great but the problem is that it will never be perfect. And when things are not perfect we can very easily fall into beating ourselves up for “failing” to meet impossible standards.
This week I have a tap-along to help us be gentler with ourselves for not being perfect, and to forgive ourselves for being unable to reach unattainable goals.
It is not uncommon for us to pick up the emotional beliefs or emotional burdens of our loved ones. In most cases we don't even realize we are doing it.
Emotional beliefs are often formed when we are children because we are so impressionable at a young age. We usually shoulder the emotional burdens of loved ones out of the desire to care for or protect them.
At a certain point we realize that we must let these go in order to be healthy. This week I have a tap-along to help you to release emotional burdens and beliefs that are not serving you.
Even if you don't think you have experienced either of these I encourage you to tap through this audio because we often don't realize what we are carrying emotionally.
I would love you to share your experience of this tap-along in the comments below.
There two common misconceptions in understanding how grief affects us.
First, many people believe that the 5 stages of grief as defined by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross (denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance) are the way humans always experience grief. Second, many people believe that grief is only experienced around extreme events, such as the death of a loved one.
Grief is a much more complicated and subtle process than those two perceptions would lead us to believe.
In this week's interview with Sherry O'Brian we talk about the many different ways that we may experience grief and how we process it.
I am guessing if you haven't had a loved one die recently you are thinking that this podcast isn’t for you. But I encourage everyone to listen to this because more than likely grief is present in your life in an unexpected way and you will find this conversation very helpful.
Guest: Sherry O’Brian
Contact: web @ mindbodyspirit-innergrations.com
About: Sherry O’Brian, LCSW, DCEP is a psychotherapist who has assisted thousands of individuals within her workshops, groups, and private practice to transform their pain into possibility. The inspiration behind Peaks and Valleys: Integrative Approaches for Recovering From Loss is her passion to provide a larger audience with these tools of transformation. Sherry has also developed a meditation CD, Release and Transform Burden: a meditation to awaken the healing light within, to assist others with releasing emotional pain, and transform their lives.
Sometimes we get caught up in our emotions and make poor choices that we later regret. We want to make the best choice, we know what the best choice is, and we still let our emotions get in the way.
We can know exactly what triggers us and even when we spend time tapping on an issue that triggers us emotionally, we can still find ourselves highly emotional in a moment when these issues come up again. This week I share how you can tap for these instances so that you will be happy with your choices as the emotions come up.
Make sure you listen to see why I have chosen the artwork in this post.
My clients are always telling me that they would like to tap every day but have a hard time making it a habit.
One of the reasons I think people struggle with creating a daily tapping habit is that they don't know what to tap for. And because they don't know where to start they feel silly or frustrated and so they don't do it.
My friend Wendy Merron has created a wonderful tapping process for the beginning and ending of the day that she calls “AM/PM Tapping”. I love its simplicity and find that it’s the perfect way to start and end a day.
You can download a printout of the process here
Below you can hear Wendy describing the process and also hear us tapping through it so you can tap along too.
Guest: Wendy Merron
Contact: web @ TheCenterOfSuccess.com ; facebook @ Powerful Thinking on Purpose; book @ Powerful Thinking on Purpose
About: Wendy Merron is a Board Certified Hypnotist (BCH), Certified National Guild of Hypnotist Instructor, Adjunct NGH Faculty Member, and founder of the Greater Philadelphia Chapter of the National Guild of Hypnotists. She teaches the NGH Hypnosis Training Course at The Center of Success. Nurses, students, therapists, and people interested in the power of hypnosis have come from as far away as The Netherlands to learn hypnosis at The Center of Success in Pennsylvania. In addition to her Hypnosis credentials Wendy Merron is recognized as an accomplished Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) Certified Trainer and Practitioner. Emotional Freedom Techniques Courses are also taught at the Center of Success.
Wendy speaks and holds workshops based on her book, Powerful Thinking on Purpose.
Our physical bodies are constantly communicating information to our conscious minds to help us navigate our daily lives. Some of this information is obvious and direct. For example, feeling pressure on your shoulder lets you know someone is touching us trying to get our attention, or we feel pain when touching something hot.
It also communicates is less obvious ways. We feel tension when we are stressed or heavy-hearted when we are sad.
Most of us are not as in tune with our physical bodies as we could be. Because of this we could be missing valuable information that our body is trying to communicate. In this conversation with Julie Schiffman we talk about how to be more in tune with our physical body and how we can use this information to accelerate the healing process.
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Guest: Julie Schiffman
Contact: web @ JulieSchiffman.com; facebook @ Julie Schiffman EFT; instagram @Julieschiffman_tapintolife; youtube channel @ Julie Schiffman; YouTube demonstrations @ over 100 videos
About: Julie Schiffman, MSW, is an internationally recognized Expert EFT Practitioner. For more than 20 years, she has counseled thousands of clients, helping them break through physical and emotional barriers. Her life-changing YouTube videos have been viewed more than 4 million times.
She is best known for her expertise in helping others heal from pain, disease, weight issues, phobias and other emotional and physical stressors.
She was formerly the chief EFT practitioner for Dr. Mercola’s Center for Natural Health for over 15 years. Julie has been a featured presenter at the “Tapping World Summit” every year since its inception in 2008.
Back in July I shared a tap-along audio for the shame of making a bad choice. I was overwhelmed by the positive response I received.
This week we go a little bit deeper in responding to the emotion of shame.
I hope you enjoy this tap-along audio.
Much of my client work revolves around helping people to take action. Most of my clients are trying to find a way to use their gifts and talents to help those around them in some way, but for some reason are holding themselves back.
This inability to act often stems from times in their childhood or more recent past where they were judged harshly by their loved ones for being different.
When this happens it makes perfect sense that they wouldn't feel comfortable using their giftedness in the present.
Today's podcast is a tap-along aimed at this exact issue. Even if you don't feel like this applies to you, you might be surprised how this type of experience may be impacting you subconsciously.
Take a few moments to tap along.
Even though we don't consciously remember coming into this world, we are fully conscious in utero and at the time of our birth. Because we are conscious, these experiences contribute to how we build models of the world that impact the way we live our daily lives.
In this interview Sharon King shares how Matrix Reimprinting (a tool set that uses tapping) can be used to help clear these unconscious memories.
Guest: Sharon King
Contact: web @ MagicalNewBeginnings.com/; twitter @SharonEFT; Facebook @ Sharon King; YouTube @ channel
About: Sharon has worked for a number of years specializing in the birth experience, and how it affects our emotional health during our childhood and adult life. She went on to develop the Matrix Birth Reimprinting protocols which became a foundational cornerstone in a self-help technique called Matrix Reimprinting and currently trains other practitioners worldwide. Sharon leads the field in this area, and her techniques are published in the book Matrix Reimprinting Using EFT, which is was released by publishing giants Hay House in August 2010 and she is currently writing her own book Heal Your Birth, Heal Your Life: Tools to Transform Your Experience of Birth and Create a Magical New Beginning.