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Pod #58: Tapping For Your Sex Life w/ Gina Parris

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In Pod #11: Tapping for Romantic Relationships I talked with Gina Parris about how we can tap to improve our romantic relationships. In this interview we take the next step and talk about how we can use tapping to improve our sexual relationship to reflect the emotional intimacy we share with our partners. It can put a real strain on a relationship when we don't feel truly connected to our partner and often we don't know how to talk about it, or even where to start. In this interview Gina shares practical tips for using tapping to rekindle the passion and fire in relationships.


Gina Parris

Guest: Gina Parris

Contact:
web @ GinaParris.com
web @ WinningAtRomance.com

About Gina: Gina Parris is an internationally sought-after peak performance speaker and coach who has spent twenty years helping people overcome their obstacles to reach their full potential – joyfully. Her clients range from professional athletes to solo-preneurs. She is passionate about helping people balance all the areas of their lives so that their relationships thrive amid great personal and professional growth.

Breathing Life Into Anger

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Lately I have been having a lot of trouble with anger. I am able to do some tapping for it, but it isn't giving me total relief and it is coming back again and again. Do you have any thoughts on how I can tap for this?


photo by Darren Hester

Anger is a powerful and wonderful emotion. It exists to keep us safe. It is the power that allows us to fight back when we are being attacked. It sharpens our focus and it gives us strength.

But it is also a very primitive emotion. It is not always very discerning. It can take the smallest slight and perceive it as an attack. When it does this it raises its ugly head. Because it is such a powerful emotion it is important to clean it out at the roots.

One of my favorite techniques for working with anger is to give it the time, space, and power to yell it self out. Anger doesn't persist when it doesn't have something pushing back on it.

[Note: It is important to note that you should only try this technique in a space that is safe where you are not going to let the anger get the best of you.]

We begin by tapping. I have my client then move from tapping point to tapping point throughout the whole process.

Next, I have my clients tune in to the anger. I do this my having them notice how it feels in the body. Is it fists that want to punch, fire in the veins, a voice that wants to scream, or a series of thoughts running through their mind?

After they have described to me what the anger feels like I have them breathe life and energy into the anger. I have then take a number of deep breathes. As the oxygen enters the body I instruct them to feel it powering the anger.

Once the anger has grown into its full power I ask them to just let the anger scream it self out. I give them the option to do this in their head or to do it out loud. If there is someone they are angry at I encourage them to have the anger yell anything and everything it needs to say.

After I have them do this for a while and they feel like they are done I have them do it some more. And then I have them do it some more. And then I have them do it some more until the anger has just shouted itself out.

It is amazing how quickly anger can lose its power when it doesn't have something fighting against it or trying to hold it back. By doing this while tapping it just makes the whole process happen faster.

After you have done this to the point of boredom it is good to check in to see what new emotions are at the front of the mind. Many times the anger is not the root issue, but once the anger has gotten itself out of the way it now creates space for us to work on the root cause.

Once the deep root is revealed it is going to make it much more likely for the anger to not come back because instead of just dealing with the symptom of anger, you are able to get to what is much deeper.

Bonus Pod #20: The Round-Up

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photo by padams

Back in the fall I asked 10 practitioners that I admire and respect to answer 5 questions about the healing process, the healing journey, and their work with clients.

The questions I asked them were:

  • What lessons have you learned about healing from a client?
  • What is something you have changed your mind about when it comes to healing, working with clients, or your own transformation process?
  • If you were to start your own healing journey over again what would you do differently?
  • What is one thing you wish your clients believed about themselves?
  • What is one thing you wish your clients believed about healing process?

You can check out their answers in the Round Up Archive

Let me know your answers in the comment section below.

Pod #57: Tools v Delivery, Clearing Resistance, Finding Roots Cause, and Worry v Fear

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This is a slightly different type of podcast. Instead of a straightforward teaching or an interview it is much more a conversation. The topic of the conversation with my friend Jondi Whitis where we talk about using tapping protocols and how we find our ways to core issues.

  • Techniques/Tools v Art of Delivery
  • Simple v Complex
  • Stories about how we chance and how that effects how we chance
  • How we find our ways the right tapping phrases
  • Resistance and the absence of resistance
  • The eraser in my pocket
  • How do we find the core issues better
  • How to get clients to find more information about the issues
  • The power of shutting up and listening (aka the comfortable silence)
  • Choosing the issue to start with
  • Worry v Fear
  • How to talk about issues (esp. with kids)

Pod #56: Ritual, Daily Routine, And Find Peace w/ Jesse Jacobs

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Today's podcast is an interview with Jesse Jacobs and is little different. I first heard Jesse interviewed by Dan Benjamin on the business show “The Pipeline“. Dan was interviewing Jesse about the tea house that he runs in San Francisco. What caught my attention was the last five minutes of the interview in which he started to talk about his use of the power of ritual in creating work that he loves and a life that nourishes him.

In this interview we spend a little time talking about how he moved from being a techie to creating a space where people could relax, be at peace, and make real connections with others. The bulk of the interview is spent talking about this idea of ritual, its power, how it can ground us, and how we can add daily ritual to our lives.

I find this interview helpful in two ways. First, it opened my eyes to the power of being in the moment (especially when it comes to all the senses). Second, we look at how we can create a daily ritual (like tapping) to create grounding for our day.

 

Jesse Jacobs

Guest: Jesse Jacobs

Contact: web @ Samovar tea houses; web @ Jesse's blog Real Ritual; twitter @realritua

About Jesse: Jesse Jacobs is the founder Samovar Tea Lounge. The goal of Samovar is to be the “antidote to the frenzied world”. In addition to running Samovar Jesse writes the blog Real Ritual that focuses on being grounded in the moment in the different aspects of our lives.

Jesse lists the “Tenets of the Real Ritual Life” as Love Yourself, Go Slow, Drink Tea, Be Art, Embrace Change, Just Focus and Breathe.