Tapping Q & A with Gene Monterastelli - Get the most out of tapping and EFT

Things Your Heart/Emotional Self Needs To Hear

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[Note: This is part 3 of a 5 part series. When all five parts are published you will be able to find them at Talk To The System.

When we are learning the basics of tapping we are taught the more specific we can get the more effective the tapping is going to be. This is not only true for specific issues, but also specific parts of the system. I was inspired by the exercise I call “The Grounding Process” to look at each part of our system and tap for it.]

Our hearts are powerful. In a moment they can feel and release emotions that can overcome everything we are thinking and seemingly everything else in the world. I have tendency to live in one of two extremes. I am either so immersed in my emotions that I miss everything else or I try and block them out. I need to spend more time listening to my emotional self without losing touch with everything else.

Here is a simple way to tap for our emotional selves. Take a nice deep breath and tap:

It is ok to feel what you're feeling…I want to hear what you have to say…I know every emotion is information about how I experience the world…I don't need to fix or change any of my emotions…I am sorry that I don’t listen to you more….You don’t have to be stuck in the past…I hear the messages you have about the past…They have served their purpose…Thank you for helping to feel so deeply…It is not a bad thing to feel deeply…even when you feel things that aren't always pleasant…thank you for helping me to experience the richness of life.

I need my emotions to inform the other parts of my system…Because my emotions have very important pieces of information about myself and about the world…I love the fact I can feel emotions…They give me a chance to enjoy a richness in this world…My emotions are very much about where I am this moment…It is good to be connected to this moment in that way…I love my heart…I love my emotions…Even if they get the best of me…I don’t need to fear my emotional self.

I asked a number of friends and fellow practitioners what they would like to say to their heart/emotional self. Take another deep breath and tap:

Know that it's OK to love and to be vulnerable. Thank you for continuing to beat, in spite of it being broken, over and over again.
Keep open, in spite of the risk of being hurt. It's where your joy, happiness and love comes from.
Keep alive by sharing it with others.
Lindsay Kenny

Know when you are talking to me and that I am willing to listen. That I am really ready to be led by you. I am grateful and open to joy. That I know that it knows the way.
Rhona Clews

I love you
Pamela Bruner

Literally – You are strong. You know exactly how to keep pumping life through this beautiful body.
Metaphorically – You are beautiful and powerful and open. You are kind-hearted and know grace and graciousness, and aren’t afraid to use the power of love whenever and wherever you know it is appropriate.
Rev. Anne Presuel

Seeking after joy and happiness is a good thing – not selfish.
Tammy Evevard

You are in charge. I trust your wisdom to guide me.
Thank you for being so expansive that we can weep together.
Your capacity for love astounds me. Thank you.
Your strength astounds me.
Deborah Donndelinger

Be more emotionally honest with people. Have the courage to tell those in my life that I love them and how grateful I am that they are in my life.
Have courage to have me stand up for myself and my family when other people may not be treating us with kindness.
It is ok to be less afraid to express to the world how I feel. Don't hide everything under an icy sheet of humor or indifference. Be willing to show love to those who support me and show conviction to those who would see me fail.
You have permission to stop being afraid to have emotions.”
John Roedel

I forgive myself for forgetting that I have always been doing my best, that I have always been perfect exactly as I am, as a human with a spirit evolving through life. I give myself permission to let go – even if just for a few minutes – of the energy of “I should have done it better” and “I don't think I deserve YET…” so I can remember that I deserve love, pleasure, peace and compassion right here and now. I gift myself the gift of compassion and wrap myself around my heart with a huge hug of accepting love.
Margaret M. Lynch

What are the things your emotional self needs to here? Click here to add your own thoughts and comments or read what others have to say. I would really love to hear what you think!

Pod #72: Strengthening Romantic Relationships with Tapping/EFT w/ Alina Frank

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Our romantic relationships take up a great deal of our time and energy. They can bring us great joy and great frustration (and sometimes both at the same time). Even though each relationship is a new and different experience we can find ourselves falling into the same patterns. Some repeat themselves from relationship to relationship, whilst others keep repeating themselves inside the same relationship.

In this interview with Alina Frank we talk about how we can identify these patterns and how they were created. We also spend time looking at how we can use tapping/EFT to clear the negative patterns in our current relationships and those of repeating the same type of negative relationship experiences.


Alina Frank

Guest: Alina Frank

Contact Alina: web @ TapYourPower.net; twitter @tapyourpower; email @ here

About Alina: Alina Frank is a highly sought after international EFT and Matrix Reimprinting trainer. Her trainings provide continuing education credits for many healing arts professionals including social workers and massage therapists. Along with her husband, Dr. Craig Weiner, Alina Frank runs the EFT MBA program which focuses on business and marketing skills for new or struggling EFT coaches. Through their annual tapping conference in the Pacific NW they've raised thousands of dollars for continuing EFT research.

How have you used tapping to improve your relationships? What patterns do you see yourself falling into in relationships? Click here to add your own thoughts and comments or read what others have to say. I would really love to hear what you think!

TapAlong: Being Judgmental Of Others

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Wayne Dyer said, “When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself.”

I am much more judgmental of others than I would like to admit. I think I am a kind person. I think I give others the benefit of the doubt. But there are times when I judge others too quickly. I don’t do this because of who they are, but because of who I am. Often when I am judging others it is because they remind me of something in myself that I don’t like. I don’t like to be judged and I am going to work on being less judgmental.

Tapping Ninja Video – A Question You Have To Ask Yourself When Looking For What To Change

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Click here to read what others have to say or add your own thoughts and comments. I would really love to hear what you think!

Video Transcript

Hi! This is Gene Monterastelli, the Editor of tappingqanda.com and welcome to another Tapping Ninja video. We call them Tapping Ninja videos because these are simple small techniques that you could add to your tapping protocol to make your transformation and your work more effective and last longer.

Today what I'd like to offer you is the most important question I ask myself and the question that I ask my clients. The question is simply this, how is it working for you? Now this can be applied in two ways. First we can apply to the work that we’re doing with tapping or any other protocol and second, it can be applied to the choices that we’re making in our daily life.

Now when it comes to looking at the way that we do work, tapping is something that’s really, really malleable, it's something that we can try in lots of ways, it's something that we can add protocols to. We can add NLP. We can add guided imagery. There's lots of things that we can do. And so the question comes, what am I suppose to do and how am I suppose to use it? Well, it's very simple. How is it working for you?

You can try a new tapping technique. You can try a new protocol in under 60 seconds. Maybe if you're really uncomfortable saying the phrases and the words out loud when you're tapping, and maybe you want to give yourself a pass and you want to do it quietly in your head because you know that that might work. Well, how is it working for you?

Now you do that for 15 minutes or you do it for a single round of tapping, when you're done, how does it compare to your normal tapping? Did make it easier? Did you make more success? Were you more comfortable because you weren’t having to say uncomfortable things out loud? If that’s the case, great, it worked for you. But it's also possible because you haven’t said anything out loud, you're not tuning in as sharply as you once did because to create words requires a certain level of focus. And so it might be more comfortable while tapping, but the amount of progress you make just disappears, so it's not really working for you.

So when you're looking at a new way to tap or something that’s going to make it more comfortable, how is it working for you?

Secondly, the question is really when it comes to looking at our own life. It’s a question I'd like to ask my clients when they're defending their actions or thinking it’s the best way for them to act. How is it working for you?

If it's not making any progress, then it's obviously not working or if it's keeping stuck, it's obviously not working. We all know the cliché definition insanity. It's doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. But often times, we don’t think of the pattern that we’re repeating and so by asking the question, how is it working for you? It's going to help us to evaluate what really is working and what isn't.

I'm angry all the time. Well, how is it working for you? When we start to look at what it's doing, then we can evaluate different opportunities and different chances because we have something to compare it to. But we need to recognize the pattern that’s there in order to change it. And one of the ways to see that is to look at the outcome. How is it working for you? It’s a simple question but if you ask it, it's going to help you to reframe, you need to recognize the change that needs to happen and I need to dive a little deeper.

For Tapping Q and A, this is Gene Monterastelli. I hope you enjoyed this little tip and hopefully you will come back and join us soon. Bye-bye.

Talking Emotions and Tapping With Kids /w Jondi Whitis

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I want to talk to my kids about their emotions and to teach them to tap, but I don't know how to start. Do you have any recommendations?

I love tapping with kids, but not everyone is as comfortable as I am working with them. I had a chance to chat with Jondi Whitis of TappingStar about how to talk to kids about emotions, tapping, and what adults can do better when talking to kids about their emotions.

I hope you enjoy this interview!