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TapAlong: It Doesn’t Always Have To Be Hard

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There is a very American ethic that says that if something is worth having it is worth working hard for. Great virtue is attached to working hard so that you are able to say you “deserve” what you received. I have nothing against hard work, but it doesn’t always have to be hard. I take flights because it is much easier than travelling in a covered wagon. I use my stove because it is easier than cooking over a campfire. I shop for food because it is easier than farming.

We often feel bad about taking the easy way out. There is nothing wrong with having things come to us easily. We are worthy of things being easy.

Here is a great little tap-along to help you to be easy with yourself.

Tapping Ninja Video – Knock Out The Last Little Bit w/ The Collarbone Eye-Roll

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Sometimes when we tap we are able to reduce our SUDs level down to less than a two, or to the point where it feels like just a shadow of the issue. When this happens there is a very simple way to knock out that last little bit. In this video I explain how to do this.

Click here to read what others have to say or add your own thoughts and comments. I would really love to hear what you think!

Video Transcript

Hi! This is Gene Monterastelli, the Editor of TappingQandA.com and welcome to another Tapping Ninja video. We call them tapping ninja because these are super simple, super quick techniques that you can use to cut to the chase and improve your tapping right away.

Today what I'd like to talk about is the collarbone eye-roll. Now if you spent time looking at the early, early EFT videos produced by Gary Craig you saw a much more complicated tapping procedure than most of us are used to today. That there was a gamut procedure where we’re tapping in the back of our hand and doing a number of things with our eyes and humming and counting. We used many more points.

And as time has gone, what many practitioners have learned is that we can shorten the protocol, and shorten the protocol and just use the basic points in the body and make lots of progress. But because of this, I think something really important has been lost and that’s the collarbone eye-roll.

Now to do it, all you need to do is three simple things all at once. Number one, you tune in to the issue at hand like you're used to doing. Number two, you're just going to tap on the collarbone point. And number three, what you're going to do is you're going to hold your head straight but you're going to roll your eyes from floor to ceiling, roll your eyes from floor to ceiling just like that.

Now, the time we use the collarbone eye-roll is when we have an issue and we’ve gotten the SUDs level to a two or less. So there's just a little wisp, a little remaining shadow of the issue at hand. Because often times it will feel like it's gone but for some reason there's a little space where it was there. This is a perfect time for the collarbone eye-roll.

So, after you’ve been tapping on an issue for a while, you’ve got it reduced to a two or less where it feels like it's gone but there's something hanging around. Just take a few moments to do the collarbone eye-roll. Tune in to the issue. Tap on the collarbone and roll your eyes from floor to ceiling two or three times. And then take a moment and retune in to see what's there. And I've found this to be a really helpful, really powerful way to put yourself in a circumstance where you're going to knock out that last little bit. So, the next time you're tapping, take a moment and try it out.

For Tapping Q and A, this is Gene Monterastelli. Make sure you go to TappingQandA.com/videos to check out all of our instructional videos and see all the other great free resources we have.

Things Your Heart/Emotional Self Needs To Hear

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[Note: This is part 3 of a 5 part series. When all five parts are published you will be able to find them at Talk To The System.

When we are learning the basics of tapping we are taught the more specific we can get the more effective the tapping is going to be. This is not only true for specific issues, but also specific parts of the system. I was inspired by the exercise I call “The Grounding Process” to look at each part of our system and tap for it.]

Our hearts are powerful. In a moment they can feel and release emotions that can overcome everything we are thinking and seemingly everything else in the world. I have tendency to live in one of two extremes. I am either so immersed in my emotions that I miss everything else or I try and block them out. I need to spend more time listening to my emotional self without losing touch with everything else.

Here is a simple way to tap for our emotional selves. Take a nice deep breath and tap:

It is ok to feel what you're feeling…I want to hear what you have to say…I know every emotion is information about how I experience the world…I don't need to fix or change any of my emotions…I am sorry that I don’t listen to you more….You don’t have to be stuck in the past…I hear the messages you have about the past…They have served their purpose…Thank you for helping to feel so deeply…It is not a bad thing to feel deeply…even when you feel things that aren't always pleasant…thank you for helping me to experience the richness of life.

I need my emotions to inform the other parts of my system…Because my emotions have very important pieces of information about myself and about the world…I love the fact I can feel emotions…They give me a chance to enjoy a richness in this world…My emotions are very much about where I am this moment…It is good to be connected to this moment in that way…I love my heart…I love my emotions…Even if they get the best of me…I don’t need to fear my emotional self.

I asked a number of friends and fellow practitioners what they would like to say to their heart/emotional self. Take another deep breath and tap:

Know that it's OK to love and to be vulnerable. Thank you for continuing to beat, in spite of it being broken, over and over again.
Keep open, in spite of the risk of being hurt. It's where your joy, happiness and love comes from.
Keep alive by sharing it with others.
Lindsay Kenny

Know when you are talking to me and that I am willing to listen. That I am really ready to be led by you. I am grateful and open to joy. That I know that it knows the way.
Rhona Clews

I love you
Pamela Bruner

Literally – You are strong. You know exactly how to keep pumping life through this beautiful body.
Metaphorically – You are beautiful and powerful and open. You are kind-hearted and know grace and graciousness, and aren’t afraid to use the power of love whenever and wherever you know it is appropriate.
Rev. Anne Presuel

Seeking after joy and happiness is a good thing – not selfish.
Tammy Evevard

You are in charge. I trust your wisdom to guide me.
Thank you for being so expansive that we can weep together.
Your capacity for love astounds me. Thank you.
Your strength astounds me.
Deborah Donndelinger

Be more emotionally honest with people. Have the courage to tell those in my life that I love them and how grateful I am that they are in my life.
Have courage to have me stand up for myself and my family when other people may not be treating us with kindness.
It is ok to be less afraid to express to the world how I feel. Don't hide everything under an icy sheet of humor or indifference. Be willing to show love to those who support me and show conviction to those who would see me fail.
You have permission to stop being afraid to have emotions.”
John Roedel

I forgive myself for forgetting that I have always been doing my best, that I have always been perfect exactly as I am, as a human with a spirit evolving through life. I give myself permission to let go – even if just for a few minutes – of the energy of “I should have done it better” and “I don't think I deserve YET…” so I can remember that I deserve love, pleasure, peace and compassion right here and now. I gift myself the gift of compassion and wrap myself around my heart with a huge hug of accepting love.
Margaret M. Lynch

What are the things your emotional self needs to here? Click here to add your own thoughts and comments or read what others have to say. I would really love to hear what you think!

Pod #72: Strengthening Romantic Relationships with Tapping/EFT w/ Alina Frank

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Our romantic relationships take up a great deal of our time and energy. They can bring us great joy and great frustration (and sometimes both at the same time). Even though each relationship is a new and different experience we can find ourselves falling into the same patterns. Some repeat themselves from relationship to relationship, whilst others keep repeating themselves inside the same relationship.

In this interview with Alina Frank we talk about how we can identify these patterns and how they were created. We also spend time looking at how we can use tapping/EFT to clear the negative patterns in our current relationships and those of repeating the same type of negative relationship experiences.


Alina Frank

Guest: Alina Frank

Contact Alina: web @ TapYourPower.net; twitter @tapyourpower; email @ here

About Alina: Alina Frank is a highly sought after international EFT and Matrix Reimprinting trainer. Her trainings provide continuing education credits for many healing arts professionals including social workers and massage therapists. Along with her husband, Dr. Craig Weiner, Alina Frank runs the EFT MBA program which focuses on business and marketing skills for new or struggling EFT coaches. Through their annual tapping conference in the Pacific NW they've raised thousands of dollars for continuing EFT research.

How have you used tapping to improve your relationships? What patterns do you see yourself falling into in relationships? Click here to add your own thoughts and comments or read what others have to say. I would really love to hear what you think!

TapAlong: Being Judgmental Of Others

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Wayne Dyer said, “When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself.”

I am much more judgmental of others than I would like to admit. I think I am a kind person. I think I give others the benefit of the doubt. But there are times when I judge others too quickly. I don’t do this because of who they are, but because of who I am. Often when I am judging others it is because they remind me of something in myself that I don’t like. I don’t like to be judged and I am going to work on being less judgmental.