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Pod #83: The EFT Photo Technique w/ Marie Holliday

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The key to effective tapping/EFT is being able to tune into the issues that need work. There are many ways of doing this. The most common way is to say phrases out loud while tapping, but sometimes we don’t know what to say. The issue might be too deep, the memory might be too painful, or we just can't seem to come up with the right words to describe what is going on.

In this podcast I talk to Marie Holliday about a simple and elegant way to tap for issues called the photo technique. We talk about how easy it is to do, for which issues it works best, and how you can start using it right away with photos, icons, x-rays, or really any image to improve the tapping progress.

Please take the time to learn about this powerful technique, it is a great tool to add to your tapping/EFT toolbox.


Marie Holliday

Guest: Marie Holliday

Contact: web @ EFTSpain.com; Facebook at Facebook.com/eftspain

About Marie: Marie is an AAMET International EFT Practitioner and MasterTrainer of Trainers in English and Spanish. As a professional trainer she is continually pursuing the best in training. As a practitioner she continues to develop creative and innovative techniques such as her ‘Energy Exchange Photo Techniques’ and the ‘ CASTaway’ technique. Marie played an active part as a member of the AAMET International Executive Board and Co-Director of the AAMET International Training & Certification Board for many years.

In her practice, she now works more with animals and has developed energy techniques specifically for animals.
She is now holding her second Animal Energy World Conference where International Guest Speakers share energy work and techniques making them readily available for everyone to try with their pets, wildlife, abused and abandoned animals.

Tap Like Donald Trump: 5 Ways To Love Yourself

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There is no question that Donald Trump's public persona is one in which he thinks a great deal of about himself. I don't think it is a bad thing.

Sometimes I wonder if he is over-compensating for something else by talking such a big game about himself and his success. More than likely that is just my own insecurities being projected ontohis braggadociosness.

When it comes to seeking out teachers and role models for healing, growth, and self love Donald Trump probably isn't in the first six hundred thousand names that would come to mind. Regardless what you think of “The Donald” he reminds us of some great lessons that we can learn about loving ourselves. Here are few of my favorites.

Take a few moments to read through the following quotes and, more importantly (!), take a few moments to tap through the scripts. It will put you in a state of mind that will have your ready to move forward.

[Note: I did the best I could to verify that these are in fact Donald Trump quotes but it is possible that I have misquoted or misattributed some of them.]

“Anyone who thinks my story is anywhere near over is sadly mistaken.”

Every movie has that moment when the main character feels like they have missed their chance. If they would have only said that one thing or done that one thing it would be different.

Inevitably, by the end they have another chance.

We are no different. Our story isn't over. We can love ourselves knowing the story isn't perfect and isn't over.

My story isn't over…it hasn't worked out perfectly to this point…it feels like there are missed opportunities…it feels like these chances will never come again…but my story is not done…I am the author of my life…and I am going to create the ending I want…the fact that I have missed opportunities and made bad choices in the past…will only make it a better story when it all works out the way I want.

“As long as you’re going to be thinking anyway, think big.”

It takes a certain self belief to think we are worthy of better and more. There are few things that I find easier to underestimate than my own worth and ability. The hardest part of change and moving forward is the act of change. We are leaving the familiar and routine.

If we are going to take the effort to change, we might as well make it worthwhile. If we are going to dream we are worthy (and worthy of more) we might as was well go for dreaming big.

I want my life to be better…but sometimes it feels like I am asking for too much…I am dreaming too big…I am worthy of big dreams…it takes the same effort to dream small as to dream big…I give myself permission to dream big…even if I don't get everything in my big dream…I will be closer to what I really want.

“The point is that you can't be too greedy.”

Greedy feels like an ugly word. When we use the word greedy we are usually describing someone who is taking more than they deserve and taking from those in need. This might be true if there was a limit to resources, but there is not. There is more than enough and most of the time when we are adding to our life we are not stealing from others.

It is easy to talk ourselves out of moving forward because we think “we have enough”, “we have more than others”, or “we need to appreciate more what we have.” It is okay to know you are worthy of more. You don't have to call it greedy, it is great that you want better in your life.

I am worried that if I get more in my life people are going to see me as greedy…It is going to look like I think I am better than others…it feels like I am depriving those in need…it feels like I am not appreciative of what I have…It is good that I want more and better in my life…it is good that I know I am worthy of more and better…it is not being greedy…it is becoming who I truly am.

“I try to learn from the past, but I plan for the future by focusing exclusively on the present. That's where the fun is.”

We are not our past. Our past choices have informed who we are. Our past choices have created the current situation of our life. Who we are is the choices we make right now. We can choose to be something we have never been before in a moment.

This isn't always the easiest thing to do, but it is possible. It requires us to love ourselves enough to know we can be different…and we can.

I am not my past…My past informs who I am…My past informs how others see me…My past has helped to create where I am right now…I have learned many things from my past…But I am not my past…I get to be whatever I want in this moment…I don't need to be a prisoner of my past…In this moment I give myself permission to make a new choice…To be someone new…To know that I can take all the lessons from my past…and become someone who I want to be…In this moment…With new choices.

“Part of being a winner is knowing when enough is enough. Sometimes you have to give up the fight and walk away, and move on to something that's more productive.”

I hate failing, especially when I fail in a very public way. We tell our friends what we are going to do and then we bump into obstacles that are unexpected or we realize it isn't what we wanted after all.

When this happens it is really hard to walk away. We have already spent a lot of time working towards to the goal. It will feel like a waste if we walk away. It will feel like we are failure. But it doesn't have to be that way.

It is okay to believe we are better than what we have committed to in the past. If the goal no longer serves us it is okay to let it go. That is not a failure. It is a statement that we are worthy of better than these outdated goals.

It is hard when our plans don't work out…it is hard when we don't reach the goals we have named…but there are going to be things that no longer serve us…It is going to be best for us if we walk away from these past efforts…At the moment it might feel like we have wasted our time…And we need to stick with it because we have invested so much…But in reality we need to move on…To free ourselves up to move closer to the goals that now serve us better…It is okay okey to let old un-useful goals and projects go if they are no longer useful to me…this is for the best…We need to love ourselves enough to let it go…To work towards what is best for us.

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Now that you have tapped through these 5 scripts there is one more thing you can do to help get more comfortable in your own skin. Take a moment and tap trough these 10 randomly generated phrases. (If you would like more phrases just refresh this web page and will generate ten more.)

Even though this should be working, it's not, and I don't know why I accept myself, I respect myself and I love myself

Even though I have this issue and I am worried it is never going to change I honor myself for wanting better

I know that I can find peace well-being Even though I have this issue and it feels overwhelming

Even though I have this issue and I don't believe I can love and accept myself I'm beginning to be willing to feel the possibility of loving and accepting myself anyway

I believe this is the beginning of something better Even though I have this issue and I am afraid of change

God forgives me Even though I may not accept and love myself as I am just yet

Even though I have this issue and part of me doesn't want to heal this I know that I can find peace

I choose to allow my subconscious to work it out Even though I have this issue and I can't take it anymore

I believe something better can come out of this Even though this feels awful

I know I am more than this one aspect of my life Even though if I heal this issue I won't have an excuse for my life being messed up

Pod #82: How Parents Can Tap For Their Children (And Themselves) w/ Carol Tuttle

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Often when parents come to tapping they are looking for something to fix or change their children. In reality, when we are surrogate tapping for others we are making a transformation in ourselves that in turn creates space for others to change.

In this interview Carol Tuttle and I talk about how parents can use tapping for their children, themselves, and to transform all the relationships within the family.


Carol Tuttle

Guest: Carol Tuttle

Contact: web @ CarolTuttle.com; twitter @CarolTuttle; blog @ TheCarolBlog.com; radio show @ Carol Tuttles Better Parenting Show; facebook @ TheCarolTuttle

About Carol: Carol Tuttle is a 20 year pioneer in the personal development field. She is the best-selling author of “Remembering Wholeness” and the creator of Energy Profiling and Dressing Your Truth. Her legions of fans acknowledge her for making a lasting difference in their lives through her books, CDs, DVDs, home study courses and online learning portals. If you are ready to “live your truth” Carol Tuttle will help you in that pursuit.

Carol is the mother of 5 children (4 of whom are married) and has been married to Jon Tuttle for over 30 years. They are the owners of their family based business and employee their 2 sons, daughter, daughter-in-law, and son-in-law. They love the harmony and abundance they create as a family and enjoy not only working together, but playing together.

What We Can Learn About Healing And Growth From The Actor Who Said “I Am Not Taking That Feedback” To Her Friends And Family

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Riki Lindhome is a delightful actor, comedian, and musician. She has a podcast called Making It in which she interviews actors, directors, stand-up comedians, and casting directors about how their careers have unfolded and what lessons they have learned along the way.

On more than one occasion on the podcast Riki has related a story from the beginning of her own career. Early on she realized that she was a long way from where she wanted to be and her dreams of being a full time actor seemed like a long shot. As she tells it, naturally her confidence wasn’t super high. Friends and family would offer what they thought, were helpful pieces of advice like “Oh that is going to be really hard”, “Make sure you get a good degree” and “Have you considered other careers?”

Riki would tell them, “I am not accepting those statements right now. If you don’t have something that is helpful or encouraging to say you are going to have to keep it to yourself.”

How awesome is that?!?

She had enough sense to see that the things her loved ones were going to say to her were only going to nurture the already planted seeds of doubt and make things even harder.

Our loved ones often say things to us that they believe are helpful, encouraging, or they think by warning us of possible danger they are keeping us safe. In reality they aren’t being helpful, and often make us feel worse than we already feel.

It is good that we have people in our lives who are worried for us and want the best for us. Just because they want the best for us doesn’t mean they know what is best for us or that they are being helpful. We can appreciate their concerns, without, in Riki’s words, “accepting those types of statement at this time.”

Here is a tapping script to help you get into a place where you can let loved ones know you appreciate their concern but that you need to make choices for yourself.

I know the people in my life want what is best for me…They want me to be safe…They want me to be happy…But they want in their terms…They see what is possible through their eyes…They see what is possible through their experience…They don’t know what is right for me…Because I have my own definition of that…This doesn’t mean I know exactly where I am going…This doesn’t mean that I am totally confident in the path I have chosen…But it is my path…That I have chosen for myself…I give myself permission to let the people in my life know that I appreciate that they want what is best for me…I give myself permission to tell the people in my life that at this time their feedback isn’t helpful…I give myself permission to tell the people in my life that I am not accepting any comments from them at this time that are not encouraging…It might be hard to tell my loved ones this…But it is the best thing for me…If they truly want what is best for me…They are going to accept follow my request…I know that from time to time I am going to need to remind them that I am not accepting that type of feedback…But it is the best thing for me…I wouldn’t eat junk food before I run a race…And I am not taking anything that isn’t supportive or healthy for my dreams…I need to choose what I am taking in to make sure I reach my goal.

I would love to hear how loved ones in your life have tried to be helpful but ended up being undermining to you. How did you combat their comments to keep moving in the right direction?

Pod #81: Celebration, Law of Attraction, And A New Way To Understand It w/ Carol Look

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I think that giving thanks and celebrating big and small successes is a really important thing to do. It is also important to recognize the gifts that come with adversity when things don't work out as planned.

Last December I was lucky enough to be a guest on Carol Look’s radio program. We talk about what we mean by celebration, giving thanks, abundance, create v responsibility, and we do a lot of tapping on how we can become clear in order to make good choices in our lives to move us towards achieving the greatness we are worthy of.

Contact Carol: web @ CarolLook.com; twitter @CarolLookEFT;

Side note: Personally, I am a little uncomfortable with a lot of the law of attraction language and conversation. Some it borders on the woo-woo, and some of it is downright ridiculous. I don’t claim to have all the answers, but I do think I have a unique point of view, which we examine in this interview.