Tapping Q & A with Gene Monterastelli - Get the most out of tapping and EFT

Why Didn’t Surrogate EFT Stop The Cancer?

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In the newsletter a few weeks ago I shared the story of visiting my much too young friend as her body was losing its battle with cancer. (You can read the full story: With A Heavy Heart)

In addition to many heartfelt responses of concern to my note, I received a number of questions about what I did while she was sick tapping-wise, and how I felt after the fact. For clarity I have summarized the questions (with answers) below.

I would love to hear your thoughts on these questions in the comments below.

After spending what could be many hours of tapping for your friend and her condition, were you ever hopeful that they would overcome this partially or totally?

When I am tapping for someone else I am always working from the starting point that the only thing that I can truly change in the world is me. When I am tuned into what I think others are feeling or experiencing physically I am paying attention to how I am reacting to these thoughts. I am paying attention to any emotion I feel and any physical sensation that I am having. Those are the things I am tapping on.

At the same time I believe that we are all connected in some way. When I transform myself I transform the world. Did I think by tapping in this way that my friend would be cured? I was open to that possibility. I have seen many things come from tapping that in my limited experience I never would have thought were possible.

I have come to a place in my life where I am no longer surprised by grace. When things happen outside my expectation I just think, “Of course that is possible. How could my thinking been so limited?”

When I was tapping I had no expectation of what the outcome was going to be.

Since she wasn’t healed do you feel like you failed (and did you tap for that feeling of failure)?

The feelings of failure I felt were around missing opportunities to be close to my friend sooner. I am sure I am not alone in feeling regret in filling my life with things that in retrospect weren't nearly as important as being with friends and loved ones.

The only thought I had as I sat at the airport on Sunday night waiting to fly home was, “We need to do better for those we love sooner.”

Based on how things turned out, would you tap in the same fashion for someone else who might be in the same situation?

As far as tapping goes I don’t know if there is anything I would have done differently.

Even if the tapping I did wasn’t “effective” or wasn’t done “the right way” for the situation. I sat thinking loving and caring thoughts for a friend. Nothing bad can come from that.

Is it really possible to tap to change someone else’s life or is it really up to them and what they choose to think, do, and believe?

This is really the core question about surrogate tapping.

To be honest: I HAVE NO IDEA!

I know that my thoughts, feelings, and emotions impact the people around me. They are responsible for their own choices, but I know they will respond differently to me showing up in a state of love versus a state of fear. If I tap for myself I will respond to others differently, which will give them opportunities to respond differently to situations.

Every relationship I have is a co-creation. When I transform myself I am transforming the nature of my relationships. It is possible that when I am healing something in myself for me to hold space for someone else to believe new thoughts about themselves.

If I show up in a spirit of love I make it easier for someone else to choose to believe they are worthy of love. I don’t make that choice for them. I am not responsible for them making that choice. But I can make it easier for them.

In the end when I am tapping surrogately for someone what I am doing is spending time thinking loving thoughts about them (good!) and healing the emotions I am feeling (also good!). Whatever comes of that is still beyond my limited understanding of the universe.

Will Saying Negative Phrases While Doing EFT Manifest Bad Things In My Life?

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Q: I am worried that if I say negative phrases I will bring negative things into my life. How can I use EFT without having to use negative phrases?

I receive this question a lot. To answer it we need to look at what is happening when we are tapping and how the words we say impact our success while tapping.

It is important to remember that what we are saying is much less important than what we are feeling when we tap.

The words we say while tapping are not magic.

What is important is where our focus and attention is when we are tapping. If we say, “this pain in my knee…this pain in my knee…” over and over again when we tap but we are thinking about everything that needs to be done once we finish tapping, then the knee isn’t going to feel better.

It is not the words but the focus.

This plays itself out in some interesting ways when we say both positive and negative phrases. To understand this let’s look at a weight release example. Let’s say the client wants to lose 40 pounds but is stuck because of the fact he has failed before and is worried that he will lose the weight only to gain it back again.

Positive v Negative Phrases

There are two ways to approach tapping on this issue.

First, we could address the fear of losing weight only to gain it back again head on. We would tap saying something like:

I have failed before at losing weight…and I’m worried that I will fail again…every time I lose the weight it creeps back…this time will be different…not only do I have a plan to lose the weight…but I have a support system in place…to help me keep it off.

Second, we could decide that we are only going to tap on the positive:

I am going to lose weight…I am going keep the weight off…I am going to look awesome…I am going to feel so much better.

All of these statements are great things to be tapping on, but what is being said is not all that is going on. Every time one of those phrases is said out loud if there is any part of the system that doesn’t believe the phrase to be true, the critical voice will speak up to voice its objections. It might go something like this:

What is said out loud: I am going to lose weight.
What the internal critical voice says in response: And then gain it right back.

Out loud: I am going keep the weight off.
Critical voice: No you aren’t. You failed before and you will fail again.

Out loud: I am going to look awesome.
Critical voice: Only for a short period of time.

Out loud: I am going to feel so much better.
Critical voice: And then the weight will come back and you will feel like crap.

You can see that when we only focus only on the positive and there is a part of us that doesn’t believe the positive statement, the negative will show up.

The good news about this that it doesn’t matter if we use positive or negative phrases because either way we will find our way to tapping on the issues needing attention.

Which Should I Tap On?

The question becomes “Should I use positive or negative phrases while tapping?” For me, the answer is both.

If I recognize a specific limiting belief or block, like the fear of gaining the weight back, my tapping will be most effective if I go right at that issue.

At the same time when I state the goal I want to achieve in the positive I will find my way to self talk and limiting beliefs that I didn’t know existed.

I recommend when tapping to alternate between both positive and negative phrases so that you get both of these benefits.

What To Do When You Feel Like You Have Stopped Moving Forward With An Issue

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My client was so frustrated!

We had been working on an issue for a number of sessions and he felt like we were dealing with the same issues, with the same complaints, with the same outcomes.

The truth was that he had made a lot of progress AND he was getting the same outcome.

When this happens it can be so frustrating because we have put in the work, we know we have healed many issues, but it doesn’t feel like it is bearing any fruit.

I’m Stuck In Quicksand!

Sometimes making progress feels like trying to get out of quicksand.

There is a huge difference between being in quicksand up to your neck and being in quicksand up to your knees. When you are in quicksand up to your neck you are only 10% free and when you are in up to your knees you are 75% free.

But there is a problem. Even though being in quicksand up to your knees is much better than being in quicksand up to your neck, you are still stuck.

The same thing can happen when we are working on a persistent issue. We can spend time (even a great deal of time) working on an issue. Although we have released a great deal around the issue we are still stuck because the part that is left continues to have a grip on us.

It is easy to feel discouraged and like we are failing in the healing process because we are not reaping the rewards of our progress. The good news is that it’s much easier to get out of quicksand when we are only up to our knees, and we truly are much closer to freedom and healing, but we may fail to notice this because we are focusing on still being stuck.

If you feel like you are spinning your wheels with your tapping here is a tapping script you can use:

I have been working on this issue for a very long time…I want to be free of this issue…I know tapping has worked for me in the past…and I want it to work now…the fact that I have done so much work…and not seen any real progress is frustrating…I feel like giving up on this issue…I feel like giving up on tapping…but I choose to know that tapping is a process…I know healing is a process…there are times when I will make progress with an issue…and still not be free of the issue…sometimes healing an issue is like getting out of quicksand…I can make progress when I am working my way towards freedom…but I am still stuck…it is possible to recognize that even when I am not completely free of an issue…I am closer to being free of the issue…with each round of tapping I become a little clearer…with each tapping session I become a little clearer…even if I am not completely out of the quicksand on this issue…I am more free than I was before…I am closer to being free of this…I give myself permission to keep moving forward…knowing that with each moment of healing I experience…I am that much closer to being free of this issue…it is ok that I get frustrated at the fact that it doesn’t feel like I am making progress…it is ok that I feel this isn’t working as fast as I would like…this is because there is a part of me that wants better…I am glad there is a part of me that wants better…and I want this part of me to keep working for better…as bit-by-bit I clear this issue.

Working With An EFT Practitioner Is Not Right For Everyone. Is It Right For You?

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I recently received an email from Kevin in Ireland asking a number of really good questions about reaching out for help with an issue. Not everyone needs to be working with a practitioner.

Have you ever considered working with a practitioner?

Here are my thoughts on working with someone.

If tapping is such a ‘do it yourself’ protocol, why would I bother working with a practitioner?

There are a number of issues that tapping is great for where you can use it on your own without needing any help. As a practitioner I provide four things for my clients: distance, experience, expertise, and encouragement/accountability.

Distance: Sometimes it is hard to see the forest for the trees. When we are in the middle of something emotional it is very difficult to see it clearly. Because I am not experiencing the emotions being felt by my client myself, I can often see an issue more clearly. This is true for anyone we share with, not just practitioners. We can regularly find insight into what is going on in our lives by seeking the outside point of view of a trusted friend. Sometimes it is helpful to share this with people we don’t see frequently.

Experience: Having worked with many clients I recognize patterns and root causes that a client would not be able to see on their own. This experience allows me to help clients to move forward much more quickly than they would working alone.

Expertise: EFT is a very simple thing that be done by anyone. It is possible to use the basic recipe and tap on most issues. Even though this works, it is not always the fastest way to relief. With my my training I am able to combine tapping with many other tools that speed the healing process in a way a client could not do on their own.

Encouragement/Accountability: It is easy to feel overwhelmed by our own issues. They don’t feel good and the last thing we want is to stay stuck in the middle of them. Sometimes it is easier just to run and hide instead of engage. As a practitioner I help my clients to stay focused and support them as they are going through difficult issues, helping them to get to the other side.

Why should I pay so much money to someone I don’t know to work with them over the phone or Skype?

You need to be careful with any buying decision. I wouldn’t just pay anyone I found online to work with one-on-one. It is important that you are making the right choice for you.

Here are a few things I would consider before hiring anyone:

  • What type of training do they have?
  • How long have they been a practitioner?
  • Do they have experience with my particular issue?
  • Do they work with someone for their own issues?
  • Have they created resources that I can look at to gauge if they are a good fit for me?

It is easy to get answers to these questions. Just ask. Any practitioner worth their salt will happily provide answers.

You can also look at their website. What have they created? Does it fit with who you are and what you are looking for?

One of the main reasons that I have over 500 free resources on my website is so that potential clients can get a sense of who I am, what I believe, and how I work. For example, if you took a few minutes to “Recovering Self – A Healing Manifesto” you would have a good idea if we were a good fit.

I couldn’t get EFT to work with my issue while tapping on my own. Is a practitioner going to guarantee me success?

The short answer is: NO.

Tapping is a wonderful tool that works for many things. Just because it is a wonderful tool that is easy and quick to use, it is not the best tool for every situation. (For example: If you have be stabbed, go to the emergency room. Don’t tap!)

Also, there are issues that tapping will not going to work for, or at least not in a timely way. Know that even when you work with someone who is very skilled with your issue success is still not guaranteed.

If you are going to work with someone it is advisable to ask them about the types of success they have with clients and with your particular issue.

Are there any professional associations for tapping where I can check on the certification of particular practitioners?

Right now there isn’t one centralized organization (even though many would claim to be). Tapping and EFT are relatively new and because of this there is no real standardization of training. Some trainings will give a certificate if you show up to all the classes, some will give a certificate if you pass a test after the class work, and some will give a certificate after class attendance, passing a test, and supervised work with clients.

When someone says they are a certified EFT practitioner it is important that you gain an understanding of what that really means.

Do You Still Have Questions Or Are Thinking Of Working With A Practitioner?

If you are interested in working with someone one-on-one to get past an issue that is holding you back but still aren’t sure, let me know. We can set up a free consultation to answer all your questions and relieve your fears. You might just need some encouragement or instruction to start heading in the right direction. You can reach me directly on the contact page.

EFT For Stress That Leads To Overeating

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I was recently working with a client on the issue of mindless eating.

When I use the term “mindless eating” I mean any eating that we are doing without thinking “I would like to eat this right now”. This can include eating prompted by cravings, emotional eating, unconscious habitual eating, eating when we are not hungry and eating more than we intended.

Over the course of a one hour session we touched on lots of smaller issues which were all connected to what was behind the mindless eating. Below you will find a transcript of the tapping scripts we used during the session.

These transcripts do not constitute the entire session. It just the tapping phrases between the conversation investigation.

Please let me know if you find these types of scripts helpful and if you would like me to do something like this again in the future. If you would like to work with me one-on-one visit WorkWithGene.com for details.

I Can’t Stop! I Must Stop!

Sometimes we find ourselves being pulled in two different directions. One part of us wants us to stop and another part must keep making the same bad choice again and again. Here we tapped for the inner conflict:

There’s a part of me that just keeps reaching for food…It’s almost something I can’t control…Even when I’m doing that, I know I shouldn’t be doing it…There’s a part of me that just can’t stop…There’s this odd dichotomy in it…There’s a part of me that knows it’s a bad choice…There’s a part of me that knows that I don’t enjoy it…There’s a part of me that knows that I’m just going to feel gross afterwards…Even as I’m moving the bread to my mouth, I can say, “This is really bad choice.”…There’s a part of me that still makes that choice…It thinks it’s the best…Something in the short term to make me feel better…To distract me from the things I don’t want to do…To give me something to do so I’m not bored…To fill some space that feels empty…And all of those are good things to want…This is just the absolute wrong way to do it…And I know it’s the wrong way to do it…While I’m doing it I know it’s the wrong way to do it…And it just stinks when I’m doing it…Because I know it’s not what I want…But there’s a part of me that just doesn’t get that…It’s stuck in the old ways…It’s more than stuck in the old ways…Almost as if the old way is all there is…And it can’t see any other alternative…And I appreciate the fact that it wants me to be healthier…And I appreciate the fact it wants me to feel comfortable…But this has nothing to do with being healthy…In the long term…It’s filling up some small need…I appreciate the fact it’s trying to do something…But it needs to be something that’s healthier.

I Always Need To Be Doing Something

We live in a world where we are always doing something, sometimes even multi-tasking. We don’t deal with idle time well. Sometime we just have to do something, even if it is mindless eating, to fill that time. Here we tapped for eating to fill idle time.

There’s a part of me that knows I need to be doing something…That I should never be doing nothing…That I need to be moving forward…And I need to be productive…There are things that need to be done…And I don’t want to do them…So I just choose to do something…So I’m productive…So I’m filling the time…So I’m doing something…I have a clear idea of what needs to get done…I could tell you the ten things I need to get done very soon…And when I’m really stressed…The last thing I wanna do…Is fight with some task…And add more stress…And I don’t wanna sit still…And just do it and not being stressed…So it makes perfect sense…That a part of me…Is going to wanna move away from being stressed…And move away from the things I don’t wanna do…It would be one thing to take a vacation…Because I’m choosing to leave things behind…And I’m planning for it…And it’s another thing to be idle…I know things need to get done…I give myself permission to know…I’m allowed to take little mini vacations…During my day…Even if it’s just for five or 10 minutes…Where I step away from the task…And I step away from the stress…And I don’t have to choose something to fill that space…If I do choose to fill that space…I wanna choose something healthy…Like a little fresh air…Or to tap a little bit…But I choose to know…I recognize the fact…My system is just trying to avoid that gross stress…And I don’t blame it for doing that…Because it’s no fun just being stressed.

I Don’t Have To Do Everything On My To-Do List At Once

There is a lot that we need to get done on any given day. Each of these tasks are manageable, but if we look at everything at once it can feel very overwhelming. Here we tapped to help relieve the feeling of overwhelm.

I recognize there’s a lot that needs to get done…But it doesn’t need to get done all at once…That it’s good to appreciate all the work that needs to happen…But if I put myself in a space…Where I think it emotionally needs to be done all at once…Of course it’s going to feel overwhelming…If something is going to take multiple hours…And I think about it all right now…Of course it’s going to be overwhelming…I give myself permission…To focus on these things one at a time…And only worry about one of the things that I’m going to do right now…I can be aware of the other tasks that need to be done…But I can give myself permission…To be in a circumstance where I don’t have to do them all at once…If I take them one at a time…They’re less big…And they’re much more manageable…None of the tasks are super hard…They’re just impossible to do them all at once.

There Is Just So Much To Do

There are time where there is just too much. Even when we break it down into small steps if feels like to much. Here we tapped for dealing with too much to do.

Just repeat after me. There’s so much that needs to get done…There’s stuff that needs to get done for work…There’s stuff that needs to get done to help the family…There’s stuff that needs to get done for me…And with a full house, it seems like it’s all happening at once…And those quiet moments are few and far between…And it feels like I have to get everything done in that short amount of time…Because I know what happens when these things don’t get done…And each day it’s a different task…Or a different list of tasks…And a whole bunch of outcomes that could happen from that…And I’m really worried they’re not all going to get done…And I really don’t wanna have to deal with when they don’t all get done…Because I can see what can go wrong…I can see it really clearly…And I don’t want to be caught in the middle of that…And I just get overwhelmed…Because I wanna do it all at once…Because I need it all done…I don’t wanna deal with all those other things…But I choose to know…If I do each task one at a time…If I don’t try and bite off too much all at once…It’s possible for me…To get everything done….And be okay with getting everything done…And I can feel the resistance inside of me…When I’d make a simple statement like that…Because it just never feels like it’s all going to get done…Every single time something gets crossed off the list…It feels like four more things had been added…And I always feel like I’m behind…Which means I’m always going to feel overwhelmed…And as long as I feel overwhelmed…It’s really easy to make poor eating choices.

I Don’t Trust Myself To Take Short Breaks

It is good to take breaks throughout the day so that we can stay sharp. The problem with taking a short break is it can quickly turn into spending 90 minutes on facebook or cleaning up the living room. Here we tapped for not being able to trust ourselves to take a short break.

There’s a part of me that doesn’t trust me…That if I go and take a little bitty break…It’s going to turn into a giant break…It’s going to go from releasing a little stress…To being another avoidance technique…It won’t be that I’m blowing off steam…It’ll be that I’m just escaping…It’s really no different than eating a bunch of bread…I’m just filling time with something…So I don’t have to face the tasks at hand…So it’s really important…I find a way to manage my day…Where I understand that it’s achievable and doable…That I carve out specific times to take care of myself…And I create boundaries to make sure that they don’t bleed over and take over the day…It’s good to release some steam…And let go of the overwhelm…But it doesn’t do me any good…If I end up wasting an hour and a half…Because that’s just going to make the day much worse…Because I’m going to be even farther behind…So I need to find a way…To keep myself accountable…That isn’t going to take the whole day…Because all of a sudden eating makes more sense…All of a sudden eating makes more sense…Because I can’t get lost to it for an hour and a half…But there’s a physical limitation that I could eat…Even when I’m eating mindlessly…There’s a stop point…So it becomes a good distraction…And it doesn’t consume 90 minutes…So it’s really important I find a way…To be able to release the stress…To be able to take care of myself…And do it in a way that allows me to still be productive…Without getting distracted.

Not Doing Anything Makes It Worse

There are times that when we take a break to think about what is going on it becomes very easy to be overwhelmed with every thing. In these cases it makes sense that we are going to do something to discract ourselves. In this case we tapped for needing to do anything to block out the stress of what needs to be done.

It makes sense that if I’m not doing work…That the pile is going to get deeper and deeper…But it’s possible for me to work…It’s possible for me to work…In a more efficient way…When I’m sitting really idle…Not only am I not getting anything done…It’s also really easy…To recognize all the things that aren’t done…And that makes the feeling even worse…So the goal is not to be stuck in an idle place…And not to be stuck in an overwhelmed place…Because when I’m really overwhelmed…I’m going to make choices that are me trying to escape…Me trying to escape…And when I feel really idle…I’m going to recognize all that needs to get done…And feel even more overwhelmed…And want to escape again…So the goal is…To put myself in a circumstance…Where I’m doing the things that need to get done…But I’m not getting caught in all of them at once…Because if I take the task one at a time…Each task is going to be manageable…In which each task is manageable…It’s going to get done as quickly as possible…And I can move on to the next thing…And that will make a more peaceful process…I feel less stressed…And I’ll get everything done…And I won’t have to escape…Because I’m going to be efficient…And things aren’t going to be building up…And I’m not going to be overwhelmed…Because I’m not doing everything all at once…

I Can’t Control Everything

It is one thing to have control over the choices we are making. That is manageable. What is hard is the fact that there are things we don’t control that can add stress to out live. Here we tapped for being overwhelmed and stressed by the things we can’t control.

And that makes it hard…To get everything done I wanna get done…Because as new things show up…It makes things get harder…When things show up…That feel like they specifically make it more complicated…Which makes it really easy to get overwhelmed…But I choose to know…That the less stressed I am…That the less overwhelmed that I am…The easier it is to respond…When unexpected things show up… Because often times unexpected things show up…And I deal with them with no problem…And I don’t remember those times…Because they didn’t cause me a problem…I only remember…The times that things show up…That are overwhelming…Or too much…And the more calm I get…The more I take tasks one at a time….The less overwhelmed I become…So even when unexpected shows up…It’s easier for me to respond…Because it’s not too much.

If I Could Just Get A Little Organized

Most of the time, no one thing causes us stress. Most of the time it is a combination of many things stacking up. When we are able to get organized then the small things are less likely to get stacked up. He we tap on getting organized.

I always feel like I’m trying to catch up…I always feel like I’m behind…And when I’m behind, it means I have to hurry…That I don’t do as good a job as I’d like…That just adds more stress and anxiety…That adds more overwhelm…Which adds more to the desire to escape…I choose to know…It’s important that I get my time organized…It doesn’t have to be organized perfectly…I don’t have to schedule every second of the day but I know when I make the time to organize…Even though that takes time…It pays off in the long term…And I – it’s important that I invest that time…And the more times that I invest that time…The more organized I get…And the less time I have to spend organizing…And the easier it is to get organized…And I just need to step into that space…To give myself permission to spend the time it takes…To get organized…Because if I don’t take the time to set it up right…It take time to do it over again…Which I don’t have…Which adds to the overwhelm…Which adds to the needing to escape.

Little Changes Add Up

Sometimes the change we make happens in lots of small steps. It becomes very easy to feel like progress is not happening in small steps because the change is hardly noticeable. Here we tap for recognizing that small steps add up to big things.

There’s lots of ways that I can reduce stress…Because there’s lots of things that cause stress…. So it’s not that I have to do one thing to eliminate all the stress…It’s not that I have to do one thing to stop the eating…Each thing that I do…That chips away at the stress…Makes it so I have to escape less…Which means I’m going to do the eating less…And there’s lots of things I can do…That start to reduce the stress…One of them is getting a little more organized… But that’s not the only thing…That’s not the lynch pin… It’s just one more thing…And I give myself permission to know…That as I keep chipping away at this…And make transformation to lots of little bits…It’s going to make a difference…And it’s short and long term…And I’m going to do this eating less and less…And it’s going to slowly fade away… It’s not, I have to change and fix everything…Which creates an immediate stop…Instead it’s slowly chipping away…And lots of little easy steps…That leads to the whole thing being transformed…Transformed in a lasting way…I give myself permission…To recognize that I can have progress…Without have to fixing all of it…And without having to fix one part completely…But doing it step by step.

There Is Always Going To Be Stress

Stress is a fact of life. It is always going to be there, but it is not always going to be there in the same amount. We need to recognize that we have some control over the amount of stress in our lives. Here we tap for knowing that we can control some of the stress in our lives.

It feels like stress is inevitable… There are things that are going to catch me off guard… And there are things that are going to feel overwhelming… But most of the time when I feel stressed…It’s because lots of things have been combined together… But most of those things….Are really big deal by themselves…what we’re trying to do…Is move to the place… Where the small things don’t add up into big stress… So that the times when real stress shows up… We can take those choices…They are the quick fix… It’s not that big of a deal if once a month I have a little bread when I feel stressed…It is a big deal if I’m doing it every single day…There are going to be times of stress…There’s going to times of overwhelm… But that isn’t something I have to experience every single day… I can put myself in a position… Where I manage the stress in such a way…The feelings of overwhelm… The feelings of too much…Are few and far between…And when that happens…That I can respond to that stress in lots of ways…But I don’t have to make those choices… Every single day… If I don’t feel stressed and overwhelmed every single day…

This Habit Is Never Going To Change

There are times when we change the underlying issue but the habit persists because it has been the way we have operated for so long. Here we tap for changing old habits that have been here forever.

There’s a part of me that sees this as a habit… The choice I’m always going to make… The choice that I make every single time… And part of the work that needs to happen…Is enrooting this as the choice I make every single time… It’s almost as if…I’m pulling out the big guns…To deal with a little bitty mosquito…Because that’s the tool I always use… And each time I make a choice… Where I don’t reach for the food… When I’m feeling a little stressed…I’m reinforcing… And making it easier…For me to make good choices in the future…I wanna do things to reduce my stress…And I wanna do things where I’m making better choices when I am stressed… I wanna make good choices for the long term… And I wanna make good choices that are proportional… Where I’m choosing a response…In an appropriate way… Based on how big the stress is…And that’s something that’ll happen step by step…Because when I feel less stressed…There will be less moments where I need to let go the stress… And each time I make a better choice… I’m going to put myself in a position where I reinforce that

The Old Choices Seem To Be The Easiest

Sometimes our old habits are what we choose because they are so easy. Eating is much easier than taking a short walk or taking time to tap. Here we tap for knowing that it is possible choose the slightly harder response because it has lasting benefits.

Food feels like the easiest choice… Because it’s always at hand… Because it’s so effective… In muting the stress feeling…And it takes so little effort… For it to work…I don’t have to do any tapping…I don’t have to go for a walk…I can keep doing what I’m doing most times… And eat at the same time… Or scarf it down really, really quick… So it doesn’t take a lot of effort…And it doesn’t take a lot of time… So it makes lots of sense…That that’s what I keep reaching for…But I choose to know… It’s important that I make good long term choices… As well as good short term choices… And I need to break the habit…Of reaching for the easiest thing… And that takes little work…That takes a little planning…That takes knowing what I would choose otherwise…And spending the energy… To make the right good choice… And that’s work… And that’s no fun…But I’d rather make… Good long term choices…Than the easy choice…That isn’t good for the long term…And if I have a plan of attack… And if I look out for these things coming… It’s going to be a little easier… To make a good choice…In the moment… Which is going to create a circumstance…Where I have a habit…Of making lasting good choices…