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Pod #610: Better results by releasing your hidden tapping agenda

May 8, 2024 by Gene Monterastelli

Tapping is deceptively simple.

It is so easy to teach the basics of tapping that I have done it before in under five minutes with a quick drawing on a bar napkin.

But hidden behind its simplicity are the subtleties of the art of delivery. Each issue, person, and resource state can require a different approach to get the maximum effect.

With this in mind, it is easy to fall prey to trying to find the exact best way to tap for an issue. Searching for the very best approach can lead us to overthinking the process, which may result in us not tapping at all.

This week in the podcast I share a simple tapping approach to counter this type of overthinking. This approach can be your full tapping session, a way to get unstuck in the middle of a tapping session or you can use it to start a tapping session.

It is so straightforward to add to your tapping tool box that you'll be able to start using it right away.

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Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Agenda, Resistance, Wordless

Pod #609: How to tap for tailenders

May 1, 2024 by Gene Monterastelli

One of the most important parts of the Tapping Action Journal is the instruction to spend time writing down notes at the end of each tapping session on what just happened.

You are encouraged to write down:

  • what surprised you
  • what you learned
  • any insights you gained
  • any tailenders you unearthed

Tailenders are the responses our subconscious mind gives at the tailend of a tapping phrase.

For example, I could tap on “I am going to make at least five new sales this week.” As soon as I tap on that phrase, my subconscious would respond with “No you are not. You failed before and are going to fail again!”

In other words, tailenders are your subconscious mind's rebuttal to what you are saying and tapping on.

I love tailenders because they tell us exactly what subconscious resistance is standing in our way of moving forward and they provide a road map for what to tap on next.

Last week, one of my students asked the question “I know I am supposed to tap on tailenders, but how exactly do I do that?”

In this week's podcast I share a simple four-step approach to choosing the right tailender to tap for next, and how to tap for that issue.

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Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: daily tapping, Resistance, Tailenders

Pod #608: Why empaths struggle with boundaries and how to tap for stronger ones

April 24, 2024 by Gene Monterastelli

Something I really love about the people I work with is their tendency to see the bigger world outside of themselves. They recognize the people in their lives who are struggling and in pain, and they also want to do something about it.

As wonderful as it is to want to help others, it can mean that we become known for being a helper, and the requests become increasingly frequent and demanding of our time and energy.

The next thing we know, we are helping everyone else to the point that we neglect our own needs and our lives, meaning we need to do the tough work of creating stronger boundaries.

If you are someone with an empathetic nature, creating and maintaining boundaries is even harder.

This week in the podcast, we explore how being a helper can turn into a full time job, how to create new boundaries, and why putting boundaries in place is particularly difficult for empaths.

We also spend time tapping to make it easier (even for empaths) to create boundaries.

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Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Boundaries, empath, helper

Pod #607: The 4 Types of Resistance

April 17, 2024 by Gene Monterastelli

For the 2024 Spring Energy Event I was asked to give a reflection on what I have learned in my personal and professional transformational journey.

For me, the measure of the value of transformation is seen in how our life is different. What do we believe that is different? How do we feel that is different? In what ways are we asking in new ways?

Because this has been my focus, I am supremely interested in the resistance to change. Even when we know the type of change we would like to make in our lives and how valuable that change is, we still don't change.

This led me to create a presentation where I shared the four basic root causes of our resistance to change as well as how to identify the story that is holding you back.

This week in the podcast I share the full presentation so you can learn along with everyone who attends live.

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Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Resistance, SAWD, SEE

Pod #606: Your Tapping Questions Answered

April 11, 2024 by Gene Monterastelli

One of my favorite ways to learn is by listening to the questions others ask.

When I am asking questions I am bringing my experience and preconceived notions to the questions. This is a useful way to learn, but sometimes I am too close to my own experience to ask the most useful question.

When someone else is asking a question they are often asking a question I never would have thought of. This gives me a chance to ponder the questions from a distance which allows me to hear the answer in a new way.

One of my favorite parts of the Authentic Action Academy is the Office Hour sessions. This is when my students have the chance to .ask me anything

They ask questions about what has been taught in class, how to get more out of their own tapping practice, and they even bring tapping requests.

My favorite part of these sessions is seeing all the comments in the chat box from what everyone else is learning through the process.

In March I hosted an Ask Me Anything session, where anyone who showed up could do exactly that…ask me anything about tapping.

The session was recorded and I pulled 4 questions which I thought you would also enjoy learning from and tapping along to.

The four topics I have pulled for you are:

  • Clearing limiting beliefs around our ability to be successful
  • Finding and clearing the root cause of emotional eating
  • How to deal with the grief around the death of someone who hurt us
  • How do I know if I should be tapping on the negative or positive when trying to clear and issue

I know you will learn a lot from this conversation.

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Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: AMA, Grief, Resistance, Weight

Pod #605: How to tap when your goals are getting in your way

April 3, 2024 by Gene Monterastelli

Goals are a powerful tool in helping us to move forward. They give us clear direction, they help to create clarity for our best next steps, and they serve as a measuring stick for us to evaluate the action we take.

Goals are great!

Except when they aren't.

Sometimes goals can feel like a constraint, homework, or something we “have to do”. When this happens, they become more of a hindrance than a help.

This week in the podcast we explore how to create a goal, as well as a healthy relationship to that goal, based on what we are trying to achieve and our personal context.

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Pod #604: How to tap when you let yourself down

March 27, 2024 by Gene Monterastelli

One of the phrases I spend a lot of time tapping on with my clients is the idea that “time is a zero sum game”. What I mean by this phrase is that if you are doing one thing, you can't be doing anything else.

It means that when we choose to do something, we are choosing not to do anything else.

Because this is the case, it is so easy to judge ourselves harshly as we look at our past choices. When we look to our past, not only are we able to see how we invested our time, we also see all the actions we could have taken…but did not.

I know I can be really hard on myself and my past choices when I feel I have squandered time and opportunities. 

In the last week I found myself feeling deeply disappointed with my past choices. Normally, this leads to frustration for not taking the best action, and sadness over the wasted opportunities.

For the first time in ages I wasn't just frustrated or saddened, I was mad. And not just a bit mad…I was raging.

The more I thought about my mistakes, the madder I felt. In this week's podcast I share with you what happened and how I responded.

Not only do I explain my approach, I also do a fair bit of tapping. I hope you find this approach useful. 

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Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Anger, Disappointment, Resistance, self-esteem

Pod #603: How to tap for more than one issue at a time

March 20, 2024 by Gene Monterastelli

When most of us learned the basics of tapping, one of the first bits of advice we received was to “be as specific as possible when you are tapping.”

Sometimes this is straightforward; the issue is singular and clear, so we know exactly where to start.

At other times, our issue involves multiple emotions, and it is hard for us to tell where one emotion ends and the next begins.

When this happens, the advice to “be as specific as possible when you are tapping” is difficult to apply, if not impossible.

In this week's podcast I share my favorite approach to use when there is no clear starting point for an issue. This handy tool will allow you to tap on multiple issues at once.

The approach can be used at the beginning or the end of a tapping session, and can also be applied to a session as a whole.

Listen as I lead you through the entire process after I provide the instruction. This is an essential tool for your tapping toolbox!

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Pod #602: The tapping script that is written just for you

March 13, 2024 by Gene Monterastelli

Tapping is a tool that is simple to explain and understand, but not necessarily easy to do.

The biggest hurdle most new tappers (and even experienced tappers) encounter is not knowing what to say when tapping.

When we first learn tapping we are guided by a skilled practitioner or teacher who seems to come up with perfect tapping phrases with little effort. We can't wait to add tapping to our daily routine.

Then you find yourself tapping on your own and you can't seem to come up with any tapping phrases. What seemed so easy for your teacher now feels impossible on your own.

Your mind goes blank.

You feel frustrated and disappointed that it “just doesn't work for me” and you might even give up altogether.

This week in the podcast I share my favorite way to write a tapping script that is perfect for you.

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Pod #601: 15 Years of the Tapping Q & A Podcast w/ Brad Yates

March 6, 2024 by Gene Monterastelli

On March 3rd, 2009 the first episode of the Tapping Q & A Podcast went live…and within 90 minutes that same episode was taken offline because of a major editing error.

Fifteen years (and 600+ episodes) later, the show is still going. In that time, the podcast has featured wisdom and insights about tapping, healing and transformation from some of the brightest minds in change work.

The podcast has been downloaded millions of times and listened to by people in more than 150 countries.

In a very special episode of the podcast, Brad Yates joins Gene to talk to him about all that he has learned from the podcast. It is a great opportunity for you to learn those lessons without having to go through the 15-year archive. (Though you are more than welcome to do that as well!)

Enjoy the reflection and lessons from the past 15 years.

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Pod #600: Tapping Tool – Self-Coaching

February 28, 2024 by Gene Monterastelli

Tapping is something that is simple to explain, but isn't necessarily easy to execute.

We know that tapping success comes from tuning in to the issue and then tapping on the points.

But tuning in to an issue can be tricky, particularly when we are in a heightened emotional state.

When I am struggling to define what I am experiencing, I reach for a simple tool that I call “self-coaching”. It is something you already know how to do, you just haven't realized you can use this approach when tapping on your own.

This week in the podcast I share the process and how easy it is to use.

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Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: How To, Phrases, tool

Pod #599: Tapping Tool – The wisdom of a mentor

February 21, 2024 by Gene Monterastelli

None of the success that I have enjoyed in my life is something that I have accomplished on my own.

My past and present are filled with inspiring teachers and mentors, and I often reach out for help when I am working on a project or task.

I have achieved so much more and my life is immeasurably better because of these mentors.

That said, I don't always have access to my mentors. They are busy, I can't get hold of them, and some of them have passed away.

But just because I can't access them in the moment does not mean that I am without their guidance.

This week in the podcast I share with you one of my favorite ways to access the wisdom of my mentors, even when they aren't with me, and how to incorporate that into your tapping.

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Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: guidance, Instruction, wisdom

Pod #598: How I start every tapping sessions

February 14, 2024 by Gene Monterastelli

Tapping is such an easy tool, that at a moment's notice we jump right in and start tapping.

Even though this is the case, I think it is important that we don't rush in too quickly. To help me get the most of a tapping session I have created two checklists that I read through before I start tapping. There is one checklist for when I am doing personal tapping and another for when I am working with a client.

These lists are designed to make sure I am fully present to the work I am doing AND to make sure I am getting the most out of each tapping session.

You can find the checklist here.

You can hear a full explanation of what each point means and why I focus on them in this week's podcast.

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Pod #597: How to stay on track while tapping

February 7, 2024 by Gene Monterastelli

One of my favorite parts of tapping is the fact that when we sit down to tap, not only do we get a chance to clear and release issues but we also have the opportunity to discover other issues that are deeper under the surface.

The cliche that is most often used (because it contains truth) is doing this work is like peeling an onion. As we remove one issue we find another one underneath.

This is powerful because it gives us access to deep work that we can do, but it can also be a distraction. What we thought was one issue now feels like five issues.

When this happens two outcomes can occur. We can become so overwhelmed by the amount of work that we need to do that we stop tapping or we can end up jumping from issues to issues losing our focus. If we end up jumping from issue to issue we end up in the situation where we do a lot of work (tapping on lots of issues) without making much progress because we aren't focused enough to get work done.

This week in the podcast I share with you the way I tap to make sure I stay focused on one issue without being overwhelmed or jumping all over the place.

The process is so simple that after you hear the instruction once you will be able to implement it right away.

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Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: better results, Focus, How To

Pod #596: The question you must ask before you sit down to tap

January 31, 2024 by Gene Monterastelli

Over the last four or five years I have had a major shift in how I think about tapping. This shift is moving from the idea that tapping is an approach, to tapping being a tool.

This realization has not only changed the way I think about tapping, it has also changed the way I think about transformation as a whole.

No two rounds of tapping are the same. When I say that, I don't just mean I change the words I am using or I change the issues I am addressing. Instead, one round of tapping might be to calm myself down in the middle of a stressful situation, and another might be me working on a childhood trauma that I am still carrying with me.

Even though I am tapping on exactly the same physical points, those two types of tapping are radically different from each other.

In this week's podcast, I explore what it means to see tapping as a tool with many different approaches. From this understanding we look at the different types of approaches we can take when tapping. I also share one key question with you that you should ask yourself before every tapping session to get the most out of it.

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Pod #595: Tailenders – The most value part of a round of tapping

January 24, 2024 by Gene Monterastelli

One of the very first ideas I was introduced to when I was learning the basics of tapping was something called a “tailender”.

Tailenders are the little (or big) pieces of resistance that speak up when we are tapping.

For example I could tap on the phrase “I am going to lose 25 lbs to start the year.” The moment I finish saying that phrase, my subconscious mind speaks up with “No you are not. You failed before and you are going to fail again!”

It is a tailender because it is something that is said on the tailend of us saying something else.

I have come to realize in my own tapping practice and also working with clients that these tailenders are actually the key to deep lasting transformation.

This week in the podcast we do a deep dive into what tailenders are, why they exist, and how we can use them to facilitate a more powerful healing process.

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Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Resistance, Subconscious, Tailenders

Pod #594: Tapping when you are feeling emotion beaten up AND how to bounce back

January 17, 2024 by Gene Monterastelli

My daily tapping practice is NOT designed to make my life go perfectly. Instead, it is designed to build my emotional resilience.

What I mean by this is that the more emotionally resilient I am when something goes wrong, either it doesn't impact me and my progress OR it has minimal impact on me.

Even when we spend time working on building our resilience, it doesn't mean that we are impervious to taking emotional hits. Sometimes, really big things happen which can knock us off our stride. At other times, the sum total of lots of many small things going wrong adds up.

That is exactly what happened to me in December. So many small things went wrong over the course of a number of weeks. Some of those were errors that I had made. Others were because of external factors beyond my control.

In some ways, it felt like a death by a thousand paper cuts.

In this week's podcast I share about my experience, how it impacted my emotional resilience, and what I have been doing to bounce back.

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Pod #593: I want you to feel beautiful – Tapping Mini-Tools (Part 5)

January 10, 2024 by Gene Monterastelli

I have spent a lot of time thinking about what it means to live an authentic life. One of the ways I would describe this sensation is being comfortable in my own skin.

And when I say that, I don't just mean comfortable as in not in pain, but comfortable in a way of luxuriating in something I was made for.

It is much like a beautifully made pair of leather shoes that have been broken in to fit you absolutely perfectly.

In 2022, one of the presenters at the Eden Energy Fest was describing their work and said “When I am helping others I feel beautiful!”

That phrase continues to rattle around in my head ever since I heard it. It is perfect.

In this week's podcast I talk about how I used that idea to create a simple, but powerful tapping tool.

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Pod #592: 4 questions to end the day– Tapping Mini-Tools (Part 4)

January 3, 2024 by Gene Monterastelli

We have all experienced lying in bed at night trying to get to sleep 

BUT our racing minds keep us awake. 

Usually we are replaying everything that didn't work out today, and worrying about everything that could be difficult tomorrow.

As our thoughts spin, we become increasingly unsettled, which makes sleep even harder.

Regardless if you are someone who anxiously tosses and turns in bed at night, letting go of the stress from our day and releasing worry about tomorrow is a good thing for everyone.

This week, as we continue the Tapping Mini Tools series we look at four questions that are perfect for letting go of today's stress and worries about tomorrow.

The questions can be used at the end of your work day or just before you go to bed at night. AND there is a great way you can use these questions to tap your children at the end of the day.

In this week's podcast I share the four questions and how to use them to maximum effect.

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Pod #591: Step into the slipstream – Tapping Mini-Tools (Part 3)

December 27, 2023 by Gene Monterastelli

It would be very easy to assume by looking at a group of migratory birds, like ducks, flying in a V-Formation to assume the bird in the front in the leader.

But if you watch the flight for any length of time you will notice that the leader changes quite frequently.

The bird in the front is not the leader, but instead the one who is working the hardest as the other birds fall into the slip-stream. The slip-stream is the space created behind a moving object that is easier to move through.

By flying in this way it is easier for the flock to move, with less effort by taking advantage of aerodynamics of the slip-stream.

I found that it is possible to create a slip-stream in my daily life. And I don't mean walking in a V-Formation as we move through the day, but instead it is possible to find an emotional slip-stream which makes the day easier.

This week in the podcast as we continue the Tapping Mini-Tools Series I am going to share with you the way I create and emotional slip-stream to make it easier to get through the day will a little tapping.

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