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Pod #534: 60 Minutes Of Mindset Tapping

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Last weekend I did a one-hour livestream tap-along and took recommendations from the viewers as to which topics we should tap on.

During that hour we tapped on:

  • Giving ourselves permission to do self-care
  • Feeling hesitant to make important decisions
  • Perfectionism
  • Getting our enthusiasm back
  • Worry about upcoming changes that we don’t control
  • Fear of missing out
  • Concern about negative self-talk taking over our emotions
  • Fear of sharing your work with potential clients
  • Letting go of anger and resentment

Below you will find the recording of the live stream from YouTube as well as an mp3 version of the tap-along that you can download and take with you.

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Pod #447: Tapping To Feel Worthy To Be Here

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One of the most common issues I uncover in my client sessions is the feeling of not being worthy to be here.

It’s seldom the main issue my clients present when we start working together, but as we work we find instances from their past where they felt dismissed or ignored by the people who were important to them.

This creates a feeling of not believing you are worthy to be here at this moment. Here is a simple tap-along that will help you to recognize that you are worthy and valuable!

You can find the full tapping script of this audio as a pdf over at Tapping Q and A Podcast Scripts and Transcripts.

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Free Tapping Resources From Around The Web Responding To COVID-19

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Here is a growing list of tapping resources from practitioners all over the world.

The resources below are grouped by topic to make it easier to find what you need. There are two types of emotions when dealing with situations like this. They are what I am calling first wave emotions and second wave emotions.

The first wave emotions are the worry and anxiety we feel right at the beginning of a crisis. The second wave emotions are the emotions we feel after we have recovered from the initial shock and move on to worrying about what will happen next and the future.

The two audio players below are tapping for first wave and second wave emotions and I encourage you to start there. Then scroll down the page to find more specific resources to meet your needs.

A few things to remember:

  • Wash your hands thoroughly before tapping.
  • Tapping is not a replacement for proper medical care. If you are feeling sick please follow local guidelines about how and when to contact medical professionals.

If you know of other free resources that should be included in this list, please let me know

8 Tap-Alongs For First Wave Emotions

The audio below contains 8 different tap-alongs for different issues. You can see the full list of issues as well as time stamps so you can jump directly to the part of the audio you want >> by going here <<.

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7 Tap-Alongs For Second Wave Emotions

The audio below contains 7 different tap-along audios for different issues. You can see a full list as well as time stamps so you can jump directly to the part of the audio you want >> by going here <<.

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More tapping resources from around the web, grouped by topic:

Tapping Basics

Stress And Overwhelm

Immune System Support AND Physical Issues

Sleep Issues

Stress Eating

Loss and Grief

Dealing With The Unknown

Financial Worries

Moving Forward In A Positive Way

On-Line Group Tapping Replays

Make sure you are keeping an eye on your loved ones. Let me know how I can be helpful.

Pod #380: Tapping For When We Need To Make An Ask

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Human beings are social creatures.

That means that in order to thrive, we need to do more than just interact with others, we need to work together, whether collaboratively in a professional context, or by sharing enjoyable activities in our social lives.

Whenever we ask someone to do something with or for us, we risk being turned down. That may seem obvious, but there is a deeper issue at play because on a subconscious level, a rejection may be read as a rejection of us and who we are.

Even though this isn’t the case, if we are struggling with that emotion, we are unlikely to take the action that we want to take. When we don’t ask to connect and work with others, we miss opportunities and our lives aren’t as rich.

This week I have for you a simple tap-along (tapping script below) to help you to know it is safe to ask others, even if they might say no.

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I recognize that I really want someone to say yes…Because if they say yes, it will be good for me…And it will be good for them…Because we’re doing something together, our lives will be better…If I ask them to do this…I’m giving them the opportunity to say no…And when someone says no to my request…Especially a request I really believe in…Especially a request I really want…It is easy to feel that when they say no, they are rejecting me as a person…Like they are saying I am not worth their time…They are saying I’m not worth their effort…They are saying I am not worth their energy…They are judging me as unworthy…Because when I ask for something…It is because I believe in it…On some level my request is part of me…And when they turn down my request, it feels as if they are turning me down…I give myself permission to recognize that when people say no to me…They are saying this is the wrong fit…They are saying this isn’t the right time…They’re saying they’re not in the right emotional state to say yes…They are saying they don’t understand what I am offering…When someone rejects my offer…That is not the same as rejecting me… They aren’t making a value statement about me…They’re not making a judgment of me…They are stating where they are…Therefore it is safe for me to ask…When I ask I’m giving them permission to say no…It is not judgment…It is not a statement of who they think I am…I give myself permission to know my life is better when I ask for what I want…Even if most of the time people say no…Every time someone says yes it is an opportunity and experience I wouldn’t otherwise have…I give myself permission to be easy with myself as I ask…Knowing that my ask doesn’t have to be perfect…It is safe for me to want what I want…And it is safe for me to ask…It is even safe for me to hear them say no.

Pod #377: When The Body Is The “Enemy” and Weight Release Is A “Battle”

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We often treat our bodies as if they are the enemy and the journey towards better health as a battle.

We can feel betrayed by our bodies, and feel hopeless and frustrated by our slow or lack of progress.

But our bodies are not our enemy. In reality, our bodies are doing what they can to be healthy and there are simply unseen obstacles to the healing process

Once we recognize that we are not separate from our bodies, and that they are trying to function in an optimal way, it becomes easier to work towards better health and well being.

Recently I was working with a client on returning to a healthier body after backsliding (again). After a great session he asked if we could spend some time on helping him to believe that progress was possible and to reconnect with his body.

When we had finished the session he said, “You should write that down so others can use it.” When I told him that I could share the recording if I had his permission, he insisted I did, so here it is.

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Pod #302: EFT For Resistance to Intentions and Progress

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A few weeks ago in Podcast 299 I shared with you a simple way to use intentions at the beginning of every day as gentle way of taking more positive action throughout the day.

I heard from a number of clients who tried the process and struggled to use it. One described how when she sat down to tap, she completely went blank. Not just for the tapping phrases, but she couldn’t remember the type of progress she wanted to achieve.

As unbelievable as it might seem, our system can put up resistance to our progress because on some level it believes it is unsafe for us to change and move forward. If there is a subconscious belief that progress is dangerous, it will do everything in its power to hold us back.

In this audio I demonstrate how to tap when there is a part of us that thinks progress is unsafe. (I have included the text version of the tapping script under the audio player below.)

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It seems really silly that I wouldn’t be taking useful action…I’ve named the goal…But for some reason I’m just not taking action…I know how valuable the change would be…I can feel my system self-sabotaging…But I’m not exactly sure why…In this process I’m open to discovering the resistance…I’m open to releasing that resistance…So I can move forward in a healthy way…I might be worried that it’s not safe for me to change…At some point in the past change did not work out well…My system is trying to keep me safe…By avoiding the possible pain that might come with change…In this moment it is safe for me to transform…In this moment it is safe for me to change…In this moment I can move forward happily and healthily as I make this change…It is possible there’s a part of me that doesn’t believe I’m worthy of change…Other people are allowed to change…Other people are allowed to transform…But not me…For some reason it is not safe for me to move forward in this way…Because there’s a part of me that doesn’t feel worthy of transformation…There’s a part of me that doesn’t feel worthy of healing…I am worthy of healing…I am worthy of transformation…I’m worthy of moving forward in a way that is healthy for me…I was made for transformation…There’s a part of me that might be afraid…That if I attempt this transformation or make this transformation…That others are going to judge me…Others are going to judge my effort…Others are going to judge what I’m attempting…I recognize the fact that this transformation is about me…It’s not about others…It’s not about what other people think…It’s not about what other people believe…I’m allowed to transform regardless of what other people feel…It is possible that there is a part of me that is afraid…That this transformation won’t live up to what I hope it does…It’s only going to be a fraction of my needs…And when I get to the end I will be disappointed…It will feel like a giant waste of time…It will feel like a giant waste of energy…It will feel like a giant waste of effort…Because it didn’t live up to my desire…It is very possible that this won’t turn out how I had hoped…That this isn’t going to turn out how I planned…But even with that being the case…Regardless of the transformation that comes…It is worth my time and effort to try…The effort that I am putting forth…Is about being successful…It’s about being healthy…It’s not about meeting a specific goal…My goals and intentions are just guidance…Helping me to experience transformation…I give myself permission to pursue this transformation…Even though the outcome is uncertain…It will be worth the effort regardless of the specific outcome.

Pod #301: EFT for Feeling Stillness and Peace

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Sometimes we tap with the aim of just feeling better, without a clear focus for our tapping. We might feel unsettled or out of sorts, but not in a precise way. From a tapping point of view this can pose a problem because often the best results come when we are very specific about an issue.

When this happens to me, I have a simple way to tap for peace, calm, and tranquility.

Here is a tap-along audio that’s perfect for those times and will help bring you peace. (Full tapping script below the audio player.)

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I recognize the fact that I am not at peace…I have thoughts buzzing in my head…I have tension in my body…I have the distraction of all of the things I need to do…I appreciate the fact that I live in the modern world…And there is busyness…I also acknowledge the modern world is not my enemy…Busyness is not my enemy… But they do make it difficult for me to find peace…They do make it difficult for me to find calm…I give my system permission to release and let go of any tension held in my body…Knowing that whatever information is in that tension is information that I can understand in another way…When that tension melts away…I am fully grounded in my body…I can respond to what I need to respond to…In an easy and effective way…I give myself permission to be fully present in my body…To know that it is safe for me to be fully present in my body…I give myself permission to relax…I give myself permission to be in my body in this moment…I also acknowledge that my mind is buzzing…Filled with ideas and thoughts that are trying to get my attention…Part of me doesn’t want to let these go…Because if I let them go I will forget…I know that if something is important…It will come back…It will be fully present in my mind…In this moment I am allowed to be calm…I’m allowed to be still…I’m allowed to be mentally fully present in this moment…As I reach for this stillness…There is no other goal than being still in this moment…I’m not trying to achieve something at this time…Other than letting go…That will allow me to be at peace…That will allow me to be calm…That will allow me to relax and let go…I give myself permission to relax in this moment…And in doing so to be at peace.

Tap Along Audio: EFT For Emotions In The Wake Of Tragedy

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This tap-along audio and tapping scripts were originally created in the wake of the Boston Marathon bombing. They were created in a way that could be used for any tragedy.

Any tragedy this unexpected can leave us feeling very vulnerable because we recognize that there are so many things in the world beyond our control. When we are in the middle of this kind of experience we see the same images over and over again. It almost feels like they are being burned into our retinas and engraved in our minds.

There are two tapping sequences in this audio. The first is for dealing with the emotion of the tragedy. The second is for dealing with the tv images that we have seen over and over again. The scrips are typed out below the audio so you can print them out and take them with you.

It's really hard when we see tragedy…Especially tragedy of such a nature…Things that we don't expect…That come out of nowhere…That really take us off guard…They can really shake us to our core…Because they are so unexpected…They take us to a place where we feel like everything is out of control…It shines a light on on how incredibly random the world can be…How little we really control…We recognize this…When we recognize how little control we have…It can make day to day really hard…Because it simply feels like the world is acting on us…If we are lucky we will get through it unscathed…Part of us believes that this is only a matter of luck…Part of us believes that something bad could happen at any moment…It is true that the world is an unsafe place…It is true that there are things that can happen in an unexpected way…It's true that we don't have as much control as we would like to think…Just because we don't control everything doesn't mean that our life is out of control…Just because there are things that can hurt us does it mean that we are in danger of being hurt every single moment…We are more aware than we think of the danger around us…We are continually making choices to keep us safe…When things don't go perfectly or when things go wrong…We have the facilities and the skills to respond…Today is a new day…With unknown things coming at me…I give myself permission to recognize that I can respond to whatever comes my way…I always control my response…I always control my thoughts…I always control my emotions…Which gives me the opportunity to whatever comes…Even if it's not accepted…Even if it is tragic.

Over the last few days I've seen lots of horrific images…Some of those images I have seen over and over again…They feel like they're burned into my retinas and they feel like they are burned into my consciousness…That I will constantly be reminded of them…When I see a flashing light or I hear a loud bang…All of these images are going to come rushing back…I give myself permission to release and let go…I give myself permission to know I don't have to hold on to these images…I am aware of this type of danger…I know what I need to do to be safe…Holding on to these images are not going to keep me any safer…Re-remembering these images over and over again are not going to make me any safer…I give myself and I give my whole system permission to release and let go…I give myself permission to know that I can let go of these images and still be safe…I can let go of these images and still be aware of what's around me…I can let go of these images and be safe.

Pod #281: EFT For Dread

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Tapping for negative past experiences is often the easiest kind of tapping because we know the details of the past experience. While tapping we have the opportunity to state exactly what happened, how we interpret those events, how we felt about them back then, and how we feel now.

No matter how long we have to tap to find relief, the tapping itself is straightforward.

Tapping for the emotion of dread can be much less straightforward. Dread is a worry about the future and, since the future is unknown, it is much harder to find specific details to tap for.

Here is a tap-along audio and tapping script to help you to tap for dread. I recorded the audio while I was in the grip of feeling dread myself, so you have the opportunity to experience the way I tap when dealing with an issue firsthand.

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There is a deep feeling of dread…That is encompassing my entire body…Because it is dread there is no specific focal point…There’s no specific place that lives in my body…There is no epicenter to the pain…Even when I have a sense with the dread is and what it is about I don’t know what that is in detail…Which makes tapping for this emotion really hard…I give myself permission to know that it is okay to tap…It is effective to tap…Even when I don’t know exactly what I’m focusing on…Because of what is going on around me and because of the things outside of my control…My system is feeling a sense of dread…It’s feeling a sense of hopelessness…Things are bad…Or are going to continue to be bad…Or are going to get worse…I appreciate the fact of my system is pointing this out…I am fully aware of what is going wrong…I am fully aware of what might go wrong…My system has done its job…I give the dread permission to release…Because I am aware of what it is trying to point out…Letting go of the dread is not saying the current situation is okay…Letting go of the dread is not me giving up my power to take action…Letting go of the dread he’s not giving up…Instead by releasing the dread it puts me in a position to take action…It puts me in a position to move forward…It allows me to regain my control…Not control over everything…But control over me…Control over the small actions I can take…Control over the kindness that I can share…Control over being able to be present in this moment…Not ignoring what is going on…But instead not being debilitated by what is going on…Even when it feels hopeless…Even when it feels overwhelming…I give myself permission to allow myself to move forward…In This Moment, being a positive agent of change…That does not mean it is easy…That does not mean it is fun…That does not mean it is pain-free…It means that I am in a situation where I can control this moment in controlling how I respond…I am glad my system is recognizing things that are troubling…I appreciate my systems pointing out things that are difficult for my system to overcome the dread has done its job…It can release…It can let go…So I can move forward.

Pod #275: EFT For Grief

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Unfortunately, death is an unfortunate fact of life. Even with the passing of a loved one is expected it is an emotionally difficult experience.

When we are facing the emotions that come after the death of a loved one, the goal is not to eliminate all of our emotion. Sadness is appropriate. Sadness is healthy. Instead we can tap to make sure that we are have proportional well informed emotions.

The tap-along audio and script that you can find below is perfect any time you are feeling the pain of the death of a loved one. It could be right when it happened, on the anniversary of their death, or on a random day that you are reminded of them.

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Having a loved one die hurts…I am overcome with sadness…Because I’m never again going to get a chance again to spend time with this person I loved…I won’t get to ask them for advice…I won’t get to share a joke…I won’t get to cry alongside them…Those moments are gone…Because of that I hurt deeply…The hurt that I am feeling is just my system telling me that I miss someone who is really important…I want my system to know that I am completely aware of that fact…I am aware of the loss…I am aware of the disconnection…I give my system permission to feel that sadness…I’m not running away from this sadness…I’m not avoiding the sadness…It is simply my experience in this moment…But I also recognize the fact…Then I don’t have to stay in that loss…It’s not the only part of this experience…How lucky am I to have had this person in my life…I know my life is better because of their presents in it…I know my life is richer because of that experience…And I appreciate deeply the fact that I knew them…Even though I miss them…I recognize the fact that this feeling isn’t going to last forever…That this sadness isn’t going to last forever…That this pain isn’t going to last forever…Even though in this moment it feels like it will…In this moment I’m allowed to feel grief…I don’t have to fight it…I give myself permission to know it’s not my total experience…This experience is more than the grief…I’m allowed to appreciate and I’m allowed to celebrate period I’m allowed to honor this friendship…They will be missed…I will feel the sadness of their loss again because they are loved…I don’t have to feel sadness to honor the friendship…Feeling sadness is one of the ways to honor the friendship…I give myself permission to honor it in so many other ways…I am so lucky they were in my life…Remembering that is so much more important than the sadness of their loss…This sadness will pass…This grief will pass…But my connection to them will remain forever.

Pod #271: Tapping To Boost Creativity

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Embarking on a creative endeavor, whether for our personal or professional lives, can feel daunting.

We struggle with creativity because:

  • We want the ideas to emerge fully formed
  • We are worried that our efforts will be judged harshly by others
  • We are concerned about wasting time and not coming up with anything good
  • We don’t know where to start so it feels like a waste of time and energy even to try

Because we don’t want the process to go badly, we simply don’t start (think of staring at a blank Word document and being taunted by that blinking cursor!).

This tap-along audio (with script below) will help you to clear the emotional blocks holding you back from creative endeavours. Take a few moments to tap through this audio (or script) before brainstorming or working on a task that requires creativity and you will find your flow much more easily.

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There is a part of me that wants to do this task successfully..But there is also a part of me feeling resistance…There’s a part of me avoiding taking action…It is doing this to keep me safe…It is doing this to avoid danger…On the surface I know how silly that sounds…Being creative is not dangerous…But this part of me is worried…It is worried that I will waste my time…It is worried that I won’t come up with good ideas…It is worried that others will judge my ideas…It is worried that whatever I come up with isn’t going to be good enough…This is going to be a giant waste of time and effort…I appreciate this worry…Because worry comes with the creative process…The creative process is uncertain…The creative process is full of unknowns…The creative process is full of bad ideas…The creative process is full of half ideas…I don’t want to waste my time with those…I know what it feels like to get this right…I know what it feels like to have this completed…But that feels so far away…That feels so impossible in this moment…I give myself permission to recognize the fact that creativity is a process…Ideas are not going to spring from my head fully formed…It will take a little time…It will take a little effort…For me to find my way to the ideas that work for me…No one has to see the ideas that I come up with first…Unless I decide to share them…It’s OK if they are half ideas…It’s OK if they are incomplete ideas…It’s even OK if they are bad ideas…Because no one is ever going to see them unless I decide to share them…So the process is safe…It doesn’t have to be perfect…Many of the ideas I come up with might be seeds of much better ideas…I might not have those much better ideas right away…But I know spending time with the process will lead to what I need…It is OK if it takes time…It is OK if it slowly unfolds…It is even OK for me to spend time on this problem right now and not come up with a useful answer…There will be times when the creative process will involve me working through the least useful ideas first…That’s OK…Because that is the process…I give myself permission to be easy with myself as I give myself the space to come up with ideas that are useful…I give myself permission to trust myself in this process…Knowing that good and useful ideas will come…If I give myself the space and time that I need…I will come up with ideas that are so good that they surprise even me.

Pod #262: EFT For Encouragement

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My clients constantly tell me, “I know I should be tapping, but I don’t want to spend time stuck in yukky negative emotions.”

I can sympathize. Connecting with and feeling our negative emotions isn’t much fun. Even though tapping is a powerful tool to shift them, it makes sense that we avoid what is uncomfortable.

This week I have a tap-along audio filled with positive affirmations. I recommend tapping along at the beginning of your day, before tackling a difficult task, or any time you just need a pick-me-up.

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I am brimming with energy.
I am overflowing with joy.
I possess everything necessary to be successful.
Creative energy surges through me.
Today I will find new and brilliant ideas.
I abandon my old habits and pick up new habits that serve my health and my wellbeing.
My efforts are being supported by the universe.
My dreams are coming true before my eyes.
Happiness is my birthright.
I feel joy and contentment.
By allowing myself to be happy, I inspire others to be happy as well.
I look at the world around me and smile with a deep feeling joy.
My heart is overflowing with love.
I expect to be successful because success is my natural state.
I feel powerful, capable, confident, and energetic.
I am a solution focused problem solver.
I am unique. It feels good being alive and being me.
I act from a place of personal strength.
I find deep inner peace with who I am.
Every cell in my body is made for energy and for health.
I pay attention and listen to what my body needs.
I am a peacemaker wherever I go.
I am focused and engaged with the task at hand.
I am grateful for this moment.
I observe my emotions without getting attached to them.
Every day I am more and more at ease.
I draw from my inner strength.
I trust myself.
Today will be a gorgeous day to remember.
I show compassion and I show love.
I choose to see the light that I am to this world.

Pod #258: EFT For Feeling Dissatisfied With Progress Being Made

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There is an odd phenomenon that happens when we make progress. Even though we are working towards our goals, there is a part of us feels dissatisfied with the progress. This can even happen when we have reached our goals. There is a part that still wants to pick away and criticize what we are doing.

This happens because change feels scary, even if that fear exists only on the subconscious level. Change means we are doing something new, which is unpredictable, and the subconscious often reads this as dangerous.

That explains why we shortcircuit our progress, undercut our actions, and sometimes even stop ourselves from taking any action at all.

This week I have for you a simple tap-along that will help to quiet the subconscious when it is dissatisfied with progress, which will help you to take more action.

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I know what I want…I know what actions I want to take…I know the goals I want to achieve…Intellectually I can see very clearly how taking these actions is best for me…Achieving these goals is best for me…But there is a part of me that is concerned…There is a part of me that is worried…It is afraid of what will come next…Even though what I have in this moment is far from perfect…Even though there is some pain in this moment…What I’m experiencing right now is predictable…What I’m experiencing right now is known…Because of that fact it is manageable…It is far from perfect…But I know what is coming and I know how to respond to it…The part of me that wants predictable is just trying to keep me safe…It is worried that unpredictable is unsafe…In order to keep me stuck in this spot it is undermining my actions…It is belittling my goals…It’s not doing this because there is something wrong with the action…It is not doing this because there is something wrong with my goal…It is only doing this because it doesn’t want me to change…It is using the tactic of picking on the choices I am making…It is taking on the tactic of belittling my goals…I recognize the fact that this part is trying to keep me safe…I recognize the fact that it is trying to keep me healthy…But it is working way too hard…It is choosing an unhealthy tactic…It is choosing a tactic that is safe…I give myself permission to know that change is good…I give myself permission to know that I can step into the unknown and still be safe…The actions I am taking are thoughtful…The actions I am taking are deliberate…I give myself permission to transform…Knowing that if the new way isn’t right for me…I can always return to the old way…I trust the transformation…I trust myself…I give myself permission to take bold action today…Knowing that I can do this and still be safe.

Pod #257: EFT To Clear Clutter

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When my space is cluttered I find it difficult to work efficiently and the mess becomes an emotional and energetic drag on my day.

Recently I replaced my kitchen table with one that fits the space much better than its predecessor and took the opportunity to organize the piles of clutter that had made it their home. My tiny NYC apartment feels much more open and comfortable because that space is cleared.

Sometimes dealing with clutter is about more than setting aside the time to clean up. If you are having a hard time decluttering your space, it’s likely that there is an emotional component at play preventing you from taking action.

In this week’s podcast I have for you my favorite technique for clearing out clutter and a tap-along to help you get started.

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I recognize the fact that there is a huge amount of clutter that I need to deal with…It feels so overwhelming…It feels like it’s never going to get done…Who knows what I’m going to find in those piles…I might be worried about what I’m going to discover…I also recognize the fact it feels like it is too much work…It is never actually going to get done…I am going to find myself stuck in the middle of this mess forever…I recognize the fact that if I take this a little at a time…If I clean this up bit by bit…Those small steps will make a huge difference…Every little bit of cleaning I do will move me closer to having this completed…Every bit of cleaning I do creates more space…It creates more movement…It makes my space more comfortable…Even if I only do some of this…It will make a difference in the long run…I give myself permission to allow that to happen…To see this as a gentle process…As I remove each little bit knowing I will feel better…I don’t have to do this all at once…If I do this a little at a time I will be done sooner than I could imagine.

Pod #256: EFT For When We Are Judgmental Of Others

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In order to have the type of life that we would like, it is important to make good choices about who and what surrounds us. One of the ways we can do this is to evaluate our circumstances and who we spend our time with.

But sometimes we can take this too far. We move from deciding if something is the right fit for us, to saying something is inherently bad. We decide it is unworthy of our time and attention.

When I judge someone or their beliefs harshly, it is often because I am fearful. On some level I am worried that their beliefs or actions will undermine me.

This week I have a tap-along and script for those times when we become too judgy and critical of those around us. The full tapping script can be found below the player.

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I recognize the fact there are times when I am very judgmental…There are times in which I am very harsh…Where I put other people down and think that they are not good enough…I am really embarrassed by the fact that I do this from time to time…It’s not who I want to be…It’s not how I want to treat others…When I act this way I feel a great sense of shame…I feel a great sense of disappointment…I am embarrassed…I recognize the fact when I act in this way it’s because I feel hurt…Or I feel attacked…Or I feel like I’m in danger…That is why I lash out…That’s why there’s a part of me trying to push someone else down…So I can feel safe…So I can feel secure…I give myself permission to be easy with myself…I must take responsibility for my thoughts, actions, and emotions…I can be gentle with myself when I make bad choices…Part of me feels ashamed…There is the part that knows that I can be better…The part that knows I was made for better…I give myself permission to be easy with myself…I encourage myself to strive to be all that I can be…To see the true worth of others…Without feeling insecure…To feel safety without feeling like I have to push someone else down…I know I can judge less…I want to be less judgmental…I give myself permission to love myself enough to know I no longer need to put others down…I commit to letting go of judging others.

Pod #255: Regaining Focus With EFT

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Have you ever had one of those days where it is 3:30 in the afternoon and you realize you haven’t managed to get anything done?

OR it is one of those days where you move from task to task to task, but somehow never seem to achieve anything?

OR you are just downright foggy and you can’t seem to focus at all?

Tapping is the perfect tool to help you to regain your focus, clear out the mental cobwebs, and get stuff done.

This week I have the perfect tapping script to do exactly that!

Below the player you will find a text version of the tapping script that you can print out and take with you.

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I recognize the fact I am really unfocused…My mind is going in a million directions…Without landing on anything specific…Because it is floating from thing to thing to thing…I’m not getting anything done…I almost feel disoriented by it…I am frustrated by how unproductive I am being…This lack of focus is probably trying to keep me safe…It’s probably trying to help me recognize that I am not prepared for what is in front of me…That something might go wrong if I do what I need to do…It’s all out of sorts…I appreciate it’s trying to keep me safe in this way…At the exact same time I know I need to focus…I know I need clarity…I give myself permission to find that clarity…I give myself permission to take action now…Whatever it is I’m clinging that is out of focus…I give my system permission to let it go…If my system needs the distraction again…It will find its way back to it…I can release it right now…Because in this moment it is not useful…In this moment the lack of focus is not necessary…I imagine energy flowing through my body…Bringing me to sharp attention…Helping me to hone in on what is in front of me…If I do this…I can get my tasks done…I will be able to move on to what I want…I will be able to move on to what is useful…I give myself permission to shake off the lack of focus…To be fully present here.

Pod #254: EFT For The Frustration Of Not Doing EFT

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For me, knowing what to do and not doing it is more frustrating than not knowing what to do.

Not tapping when I know I should can quickly turn into beating myself up for failing to take good care of myself.

This week I have a tap-along audio to help you release the feelings of frustration, failure, and shame that come with not tapping when we know it is best of us.

Yes, I understand the irony of asking you to tap for not tapping, but it works.

Below the audio player is the full tapping script so you can tap along at your own pace if you would like.

I recognize the fact that there is a part of me that doesn’t want to tap…That doesn’t want to transform…That doesn’t want to change the state that I am in…It would much rather stay static…It would much rather stay in one place…Because not doing anything feels so much safer…Even though there is an issue at hand that needs to be tapped for…There is a part of me that is afraid…If I change this I don’t know what I’m going to change into…Even though this is uncomfortable…Even though this isn’t perfect…It is known…It is predictable…It makes sense that I want to stay in this place…I give my system permission to know it is OK for me to feel stuck…Because staying stuck is a way that I can stay safe…Or at least that’s how it feels emotionally…Even though intellectually I know this is not the place that I want to stay…Emotionally I am stuck…I give myself permission to be easy with myself…There is a part of me that is beating myself up because I’m not doing what I can to change and transform myself…I am frustrated with the fact that I am unwilling to reach for the tools at my disposal…I feel like a failure…I am ashamed…Because I’m not doing what I need to do…I’m not doing what is best for me…I give myself permission to make a fresh start…Regardless if I have tapped for it in the past or not…I give myself permission now to make good, useful choices…To help me to move forward in a way that is healthy…Beating myself up for not tapping in the past will not help me in the future…I give myself permission to allow myself to make the choices in a new way…It is safe for me to transform…It is healthy for me to transform…It is good that I’m willing to do the work…I give myself permission to tap for that issue that I’ve been afraid to approach…Knowing that I don’t have to take care of it all right now…Knowing that I don’t have to take care of it all at once…But it is an easy process that I am allowed to move through…I give myself permission to start right now…Making good, healthy choices to take care of myself.

Pod #253: EFT To Love Your Body More

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Our bodies are far from perfect.

With each passing moment they are aging and showing those changes.

We are our own worst critics when we look in the mirror. We see each and every blemish. We notice even the slightest change. Even the smallest imperfection can seem like a big deal.

At the exact same time, our bodies are amazing! They are a community of over 37 trillion cells that are working together every moment of the day. There are countless systems and processes working faultlessly to which we give no conscious thought.

Today we are going to tap to appreciate our bodies more. I have found that when I do this type of tapping regularly I am healthier and happier.

Below the audio player you will find a text version of the script.

I recognize the fact that I am connected to my physical body…It is a part of me…And in some ways it is me…There are times when I feel like I am fighting my body…When I feel like my body is fighting me…As if my body is letting me down…Or even intentionally trying to hurt me…Or intentionally trying to make my life more difficult…This feeling of frustration and this feeling of betrayal comes simply from wanting better…It comes from wanting to be healthier…It comes from a place of wanting to be stronger…And wanting to look at my body and love what I see…I appreciate the frustration because it wants something better for me…I appreciate my body’s desire for me to be healthier…For me to be stronger…For me to look good…Even inside this frustration I know my body is amazing…It is trillions and trillions of cells working in community…Keeping me healthy moment to moment…Allowing me to experience what is around me…There is so much I don’t have to think about…I don’t have to think about breathing…I don’t have to think about my heart beating…I don’t have to think about my food digesting…I just move through the world…I love and appreciate that my body is doing all of this…I know in each moment my body is trying to do what is best for me…I know in each moment my body is trying to do what is healthiest for me…Even if it isn’t making the healthiest choice, it is motivated by health and well-being…Sometimes my body is misinformed…I give my body permission to ask for what it needs…I give my system permission to do what it needs to do to keep me healthy…I give my body permission to state its needs…Because it is not some foreign object asking…It is me…I am it…There is no separation between my mind and body…There is no separation between my desires and what my body is doing…They feel disconnected…They feel incongruent…But I give them permission to grow and heal together as one…Because they actually are one…I give my system permission to move forward in a way that is best for all parts of me…I give myself permission to love my body…Because I am my body.

Pod #252: EFT For Starting 2017 With The Right Intentions

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Last week I shared with you a simple process for letting go of the issues, worries, and wounds of 2016.

This week we are going to tap to start 2017 off on the right foot.

I love this particular tapping process because it is a chance for us to turn inward and give all parts of our system the chance to state what they need in the year ahead.

Just like last week, I recommend that you do this process once a day for a week. I am certain you will be amazed by how the process changes each time you do it.

I would like something better…I would like to be successful…I would like to transform..I would like to move forward…I recognize the fact that I get in my own way…that I don’t do the actions that I want to do…that I don’t stay focused…this is really disappointing…in many cases I know exactly what to do…in many cases I know exactly how I want to do it…and I still don’t do it…it is because my system is trying to keep me safe…it is because my system is trying to keep me healthy…it is because my system doesn’t want me to be in over my head…it avoids the actions that could get me in trouble…it avoids the steps that are difficult…I appreciate the fact that my system is trying to keep me healthy in this way…I also appreciate the fact my system is working too hard…it is seeing the things that are dangerous and blowing them out of proportion…I give myself permission to create the space to make it safe for me to make difficult choices…to make it safe for me to take new actions…there are times that I do not set goals because I don’t want to face failure…my subconscious mind thinks but if I never set a goal then I will never have the opportunity to fail…I appreciate it is trying to keep me safe in this way and I recognize that it’s over functioning…it is safe for me to have dreams…it is safe for me to have goals…It is safe for me to pursue something better…

There are times that I do not take action because I don’t know how to do the action…or I don’t know the exact step to take…my system doesn’t want to waste time…my system doesn’t want to waste energy…my system doesn’t want to waste effort…the way that it does this is it prevents me trying…because if I never try anything new I can’t look foolish and stupid…I appreciate that my system is doing this to keeping me safe…but I also recognize the fact every single thing that I can do is something I had to learn how to do…at one point I couldn’t do it…everything that I can do I learned how to do…I give myself permission to allow myself to move forward in such a way that I do not need to be perfect the first time

I recognize there are times when I know what to do..I know how to do it..and I still don’t take action…because I am afraid of taking that action is not going to be good..It’s not that there’s a problem with the action…but I am worried about trying…I’m worried others are going to see me and judge me…I’m worried that others are going to dismiss my effort…I’m worried that others are going to think that I’m foolish…I’m worried that others are going to think that I’m wasting my time…I give myself permission to know that these are the actions I should be taking…to know that these are the actions that are right for me…to know that as I move forward creating this path and becoming who I am is best for me.

They’re also times that I do not take action because my system fears success…it is worried that if I work hard to be successful I will have to work hard to stay successful…it is worried that others will see me being successful at this and will be expected to be successful all the time…I’m worried that being successful is not going to be enough and I’m going to be let down…I give myself permission to know that even imperfect success is better than this…to know that as I move forward success will build on success…and more progress will come…I give myself and my system permission to know that when I don’t take action…it is just my system taking care of me…I know my system it is simply over functioning…I trust myself to take action…I trust myself to be healthy…I trust myself to move forward anyway…even when things do not work out each action brings me closer to the success that I made for.

Pod #250: EFT For A Good Night’s Sleep

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On some level we know that getting a good night’s sleep is important. I know the quality of my sleep impacts how I handle each day. But did you know:

Sleep plays a vital role in good health and well-being throughout your life. Getting enough quality sleep at the right times can help protect your mental health, physical health, quality of life, and safety.

The way you feel while you’re awake depends in part on what happens while you’re sleeping. During sleep, your body is working to support healthy brain function and maintain your physical health. In children and teens, sleep also helps support growth and development.

The damage from sleep deficiency can occur in an instant (such as a car crash), or it can harm you over time. For example, ongoing sleep deficiency can raise your risk for some chronic health problems. It also can affect how well you think, react, work, learn, and get along with others.

That is a direct quote from Heart, Blood, and Lung Institute at the National Institute of Health which is run by the US Department of Health and Human Services.

Here is an updated version of the tapping I do before I go to bed to ensure a good night’s sleep. I have included both an audio and text version of the script (below).

You can access script in the text area of the TappingQ&A App, which you can download free of charge here: Apple App |Google/Andriod App

As I get ready for bed…I recognize the day has been stressful…I recognize the day has been full…My mind is still racing with all of these thoughts and all of these concerns…I give myself permission to set them aside so that I can now rest…Those worries that I carry with me are just a part of me trying to keep me safe…The worry is simply saying “Keep an eye on this”…”Don’t forget that”…”Please be on guard”…I appreciate the fact my system is trying to keep me safe…I appreciate the fact my system is trying to keep me healthy…I’m aware of everything I’m worried about…I am aware of everything I’m stressed about…Because I am aware I do not have to worry…The worry has done its job…The stress has done its job…If I need to worry about these things tomorrow I give myself permission to do exactly that…I don’t need that worried right now…I give myself permission and I get my entire system permission to relax and let go…To exhale deeply and to gently rest…Because gentle rest will bring me health…Gentle rest is good for my well-being…I give my system permission to gently let go of all tension and easily get off to sleep…As I sleep tonight I give my system permission to let go of everything that is no longer necessary…Letting go of thoughts, beliefs, and programing that are unnecessary…Today I learned lessons about stories that I have picked up that no longer serve me…Now is the perfect time to let those stories go…As I sleep tonight it is much like a computer that is getting an upgrade to its operating system…This sleep tonight is a chance for me to reset…To wake up with a clean slate…To see the world more clearly after I let go of the beliefs that are no longer useful…I give my system permission to rest deeply knowing that I am safe…I give my system permission to rest gently knowing that I can take this moment of comfort so that when I wake up tomorrow…I will wake up clear headed…I will wake up relaxed…I will wake up refreshed…Ready to take on a new day…But I don’t need to think about that now…All I need to notice is that it is time for rest and gentle relaxation…I am made for both of those…I give myself permission to sleep…I give myself permission to rest