One of my favorite aspects of the tapping community is how willing people are to share their wisdom and experience. Recently I asked a number of practitioners I admire about how they approach healing, client work, and their own journey. Below are some of my favorite answers to one of those questions. Make sure you check out all five questions.
What is something you have changed your mind about when it comes to healing, working with clients, or your own transformation process?
That I’m not their source. I’m not their guru, I’m not “taking on” patients. I’m here to assist them, not help them, so by being connected myself, they find that connection within them. Kim D’Eramo, D.O.
Whole healing focuses on the whole person. There isn’t one technique that works for everyone all the time. I searched for years. Some techniques do have miraculous stories of healing. Those clients’ core issues were often found in one layer of the human experience: physical, emotional, mental, moral, or spiritual (energetic). A deep wound or trauma usually affects most or all the layers. Whole healing, moving beyond surviving into thriving, focuses on the flow of vibrant life through all five layers of the human experience. Alan Davidson
That helping clients heal is more in the things like the quality of presence, the amount of palpable safety you can help them connect with, the felt sense of compassionate patience and witness you create for them to ‘unpack their own suitcases’ much more than the specific modality or tools you use. Jondi Whitis
Before learning EFT/Tapping, I practiced as a psychotherapist who never asked about the body and the physicality of stress. I only focused on thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. I missed an entire dimension of information and intervention. Robin Bilazarian, LCSW
Recently I’ve come more to use no-words tapping, similar to Gunilla Hamne and Ulf Sandström’s Trauma Tapping Technique (TTT) method, when starting out with a new client or teaching people to tap for themselves. No words takes the edge off, doesn’t confuse, and people are more likely to use tapping for themselves when they don’t have to worry about what to say. In training starting with no-words tapping gets the message across that the tapping does the work. It’s then easier to get people out of suggestions and using language to influence. Gwyneth Moss
When I first started I thought the transformation process was about healing the emotional and physical body. After working with children with cancer, I realized that healing the body wasn’t the only goal. Sometimes the transformation process was about getting better physically and living a longer, happier life. Sometimes it was about helping the person release false beliefs and actually leave their body with an inner calm and peace. Both journeys are beautiful and heart-warming. Deborah D Miller
Sometimes the healing process brings deeper restoration than quick healing fixes. Jake Khym
When I first came into the healing profession I came from a science background. At some level that limited me, I didn’t believe that the techniques could heal everything. It didn’t fit with my “scientific perspective”. Now I am very different. I believe everything is possible. I am open to the possibility of what may happen when I work with clients. The reason for this is that I have seen so many amazing transformations through the years. Transformations that have occurred even when the client’s doctors have said, nothing more can be done to help you with this problem. Tania A Prince
I changed my mind about the need to try relentlessly to get everything down to zero, with myself and with others. I’ve learned to help my clients understand that getting an issue to a low but manageable level can sometimes be enough, so that we don’t put pressure on ourselves to achieve complete neutrality on an issue. Ange Finn
That healing can happen in an instant – it doesn’t need to take weeks or months. Peta Stapleton
We are all more resilient than we think we are. Just when you think nothing can change or when you think you have done everything possible to make a change, or when you think you have to learn to live with pain, or it’s just meant to be this way…there is always another way. There is ALWAYS another way. Julie Schiffman
I now know from experience that many of the things I accepted as true about me were really just beliefs that I had attached to. Now, I don’t accept anything is necessarily set in concrete, everything is potentially open to change. Steve Wells
Trying to force change with affirmations doesn’t work: No one likes to be told what to do. Trying to force change by tapping in positive affirmation usually results in more resistance to change. Instead, I would rather tapping on the resistance and barriers to change and then test if the affirmation feels real rather than trying to beat it into me.
This also applies to the more extreme forms of personal change where the consequences of not changing are magnified to cause you so much pain that your system cannot stay there and instead you must go to a different place. There are much more gentle ways to make change without the fear, drama, and intensity. Rod Sherwin
I used to believe that everyone wants to heal as quickly as possible, but that just isn’t true. The blocks and reversals that go along with chronic conditions stand in the way of full alignment between the subconscious and conscious choice to heal quickly.
When I first started working with clients, I was very intent on being totally present and very observant. I think I was afraid I would miss some all-important signals, and therefore shortchange my clients.
Over time I came to realize that the more relaxed I am, the more easily I can tune in to the client’s needs and my own intuition. Then I can be of service at the highest level possible and participate in the healing process more fully. The more relaxed I am, the more relaxed and trusting my clients are, enabling them to open up faster, go deeper, and speed up their own healing process. Who knew that could all come from me relaxing more?
I used to believe that it was possible to heal without experiencing any pain, and if we were intentional about our healing and growth process, we could grow without discomfort. I no longer believe that – instead, I think that discomfort shows us where we need to heal, and gives us opportunities. We can remove discomfort and pain (that’s what healing is all about, both emotional and physical) but we don’t grow if we never experience it.