I recently asked some of my favorite tappers “What are the biggest mistakes made by beginning tappers?” Below you will find their answers. When everyone answered they didn’t know what anyone else was saying. I found it very instructive to see the number of similar answers that were given by many people.
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Things We Need To Hear From And To Say To Our Spiritual Self
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[Note: This is part 4 of a 5 part series. When all five parts are published you will be able to find them at Talk To The System.
When we are learning the basics of tapping we are taught the more specific we can get the more effective the tapping is going to be. This is not only true for specific issues, but also specific parts of the system. I was inspired by the exercise I call “The Grounding Process” to look at each part of our system and tap for it. ]
Sometimes we need to talk to our spirit. Sometimes we need to listen better, more closely, and more often to our spirit. For me the struggle is just needing to be still enough to listen.
Here is how I tap when thinking of my spirit (remember to take a deep breath):
I love the fact that I am soul…I need to remember that I am not a physical being with a spiritual life…I am a soul that is having a physical experience…This is something I forget all the time…I need to find time to just sit and be connected to my soul…It is always there…It is always the still small voice of inspiration…It never leaves…It never shuts up…But it rarely shouts…It is quiet…It is still…I need to create space to just listen…Not to listen for instruction…Not to listen for inspiration…But just to be…To be still with my spirit…My soul is not in a rush…I can learn from that…I can be in this moment…Knowing it is enough…Be still…Be still…Be still
I asked some my friends and fellow practitioners what they wanted to say to their soul and what they need to hear from their spiritual self. Take another deep breath and tap:
I am a beloved child of an amazing God. I believe this to be true but sometimes at the deepest core of myself I don’t trust that it is really true for me. I believe that maybe it is true for others but not for me because I’m too much of a mess and failure. Keep reminding me that I am a beloved child of God.
Tammy EvevardSometimes this world and our personal situations can cause us to feel hopeless, helpless and dispirited. Remember “This too shall pass”, and that life consists of constant cycles of change and growth.
Colleen FlanaganYou are not alone. You know exactly what you are here to do and you are doing it – with honor and integrity. You are always provided for, and you are always guided. Stay connected to the Divine and your way will be made clear.
Rev. Anne PresuelYou have permission to be part of my daily life…I know I forget you are there…It is not because I don’t care…it is because I forget…Please remind me you are there…Please remind me that I am a beautiful creation…Please remind me that I am made for love…Please remind me that I am worthy of love…Please remind me who I am…Please remind me that I need not be in a rush…
I call upon my eternal soul to remind of the most important truth…the truth that lets all my stories about my traumas, pains, wrongs and wounds fall aside as simply “stories”. Because my soul knows that I have never been broken, never been wounded, never been unloved, abandoned or hurt. I call upon my soul, my spirit to remind me that I am whole, eternal, loved and holy.
Margaret M. Lynch“Thank you for never giving up on me. I was one stubborn customer, yes?!”
Jondi Whitis“Even though I don’t always hear you, I trust that you are always guiding me.
Even though I don’t always know my purpose, I trust that you do.
Even though I sometimes rush and don’t connect with you, and take you for granted, I savor the moments when I slow down and my deep connection to Source flows easily through you.
Even though it’s taken me a while to connect with you, I’m so grateful to know you.
Deborah Donndelinger“Quit being afraid.
Quit being afraid to love yourself. Quit being afraid to let your ego die. Quit being afraid to serve other people. Quit being afraid to let other people into your heart. Quit being afraid to be, learn new things about yourself, the world, and God.
My spirit will one day make its way by to my creator. When that happens I want to melt into the divine the way I was meant to:
Unafraid. ”
John RoedelAll is possible.
Rhona Clews
What are the things your spiritual self needs to hear and what do you need to hear from you spiritual self? Click here to add your own thoughts and comments or read what others have to say. I would really love to hear what you think!
Pod #73: Why I Hate The Word Manifest – A Conversation About What We Create, What We Responsible For, and How To Make Choices
There is a lot of talk about the idea of what we manifest in our lives, both positive and negative. I personally think that we pay too much attention to manifesting and attracting and give nowhere near enough credit to personal choice and response. In this conversation with my friend Jondi Whitis we talk about what we can control, what we create, and what we are responsible for.
This is just one point of view and I would love to hear your thoughts on the topic.
What are your thoughts on create, manifest, and responsibility? I would love to hear your thoughts. Click here to add your own thoughts and comments or read what others have to say.
Things Your Intellectual Self Needs To Hear
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[Note: This is part 2 of a 5 part series. When all five parts are published you will be able to find them at Talk To The System.
When we are learning the basics of tapping we are taught the more specific we can get the more effective the tapping is going to be. This is not only true for specific issues, but also specific parts of the system. I was inspired by the exercise I call “The Grounding Process” to look at each parts of our system and tap for it. ]
I have the tendency to live in my head. I am very thoughtful person and am very capable of over thinking things. Because of this I can miss other information for other parts of my system. It is good to recognize our intellectual selves AND to help it to understand how it fits into the whole system.
Take a deed breath. Tune into your intellectual self and tap:
I am so happy that I have such a powerful intellectual part of my system…It solves problems at the speed of light…It assess situation before I have the change to realize that something needs to be analyzed…I love the fact that my intellect is able to learn and grow…My mind is made to grow and develop…I want my intellectual self to know that I know how much is does…And I am happy it is here…
I also want my intellectual self know that it is not alone…It is not the only part of my system…It is not the most important part of my system…But one more important part of my system…I want my intellectual self to know that it can and it needs to work with my other parts…That is needs to work with the wisdom of the gut and heart when making decisions…
I also asked a number of friends and fellow practitioners what they would want their mind/intellectual self to know and hear. Take another deep breath and continue to tap:
Let go, there’s no need to keep such a tight grip on everything.
Pamela BrunerAre you trying too hard? Does it feel like work? Stop.
Jade BarbeeI’m smarter than I think.
Tammy Evevard“Gosh darn it you are smart. (chuckle).
I’m sorry that others misunderstand your brilliance.
You are really good at trying to keep me safe. However I have a new job for you now.
Thank you for giving me all sides of the options here. You’ve done a good job.
Thank you for being part of the team. Your role is very important.”
Deborah DonndelingerBeautiful mind runs the show most of the time, thinking thoughts, thinking my life, thinking my feelings, remembering the past, projecting into the future and interpreting life through the thinking filter. I honor my brilliance AND i give my mind permission to let down, to slow down, to relax and let me FEEL into my body and life more. it’s okay, brilliant mind, it’s safe for me let go of some much thinking and analyzing and feel what i want…and from that place i am so much more inspired, creative and brilliant!
Margaret M. LynchYou are smart. You are capable of incredible things. You can always figure things out. You know how to handle each situation as it comes up. You know exactly the right thing to say in each situation.
Rev. Anne PresuelYou are as smart as you needs to be. And while you may get in the way of decisions that might be best left to the ‘gut’ to decide, I am grateful that I have my intellect to help protect me, reason things out, keep me safe, move me forward in life, remember the good things from the past and help me to walk into the future.
Lindsay KennyI spend too much time trying to prove to other people how much I know. The truth is I know very little. The problem is by the amount that I yammer on to other people you would never know that.
I am only 37 and I have a lot to learn about other people, the world, myself.
I need to say the words “”I don’t know”” a lot more often.
There is a lot of excitement in not knowing about a lot of things. It means that I have a long way to go before I become enlightened. It means that I am unfinished and I have many mysteries of the universe to solve before I pass on.
How boring it would be to know everything before turning 40!
I must not allow my world to be so small. I need to open myself to learning as much as I can in the time I have left. I also must be ready to allow my perspectives to shift based on new experiences or information I learn. Don’t become so deeply cemented into opinions or positions that I will never allow myself to change my mind.
Quit being afraid to learn.”
John RoedelI have the capacity and talent, as well as the determination, to express all that it desires to express. That there is plenty of time and plenty of room for self expression. Mind, you don’t run the show, but you have incredible things to contribute.
Rhona ClewsYou need to relax and understand that in any one circumstance you only going to perceive a small percentage of what is really happening. The bigger picture is almost never available to just the brain. Chill out. Relax. Enjoy the ride to greater understanding.
Alina FrankIt is okay to be great. I choose not to limit myself – or doubt myself – for fear of what others might think if I excelled. It is better to excel and show others how to do the same.
Brad Yates“At the end of the day, does it really matter what you forgot? Or didn’t accomplish from that ridiculously long To-Do-List? What you remembered – and did – was really good enough? (Trust me.)”
Jondi WhitisYou are not me, you are something I use, you are very bright and very smart, but you work for Me.
Andy Bryce
What are the things your intellectual self needs to hear? Click here to add your own thoughts and comments or read what others have to say. I would really love to hear what you think!
Things Your Physical Body Needs To Hear You Say
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[Note: This is part 1 of a 5 part series. When all five parts are published you will be able to find them at Talk To The System.
When we are learning the basics of tapping we are taught the more specific we can get the more effective the tapping is going to be. This is not only true for specific issues, but also specific parts of the system. I was inspired by the exercise I call “The Grounding Process” to look at each parts of our system and tap for it. ]
Our physical body is a truly amazing thing. It is literally billions of little pieces works in concert moving us through the day, keeping us safe and healthy from disease, and helping us to explore the world. It is something that I know I take for granted. Every tapping session I do with clients one of the first steps I do is have us ground ourselves in our bodies and thank it for all the amazing things it does in unconscious and subconscious ways.
Take a deep breath. Feel yourself grounded in your body. Start tapping and say this to your physical body:
I love you…I appreciate everything you do for me that is seen and unseen…You keep me safe through out the day in ways that I never know about…I don’t have to think about my health and well being in every moment because you do it for me…Thank you. Thank you…Thank you…I know you are not perfect…I know that you don’t keep everything at bay…I know there are times where you over function…or misunderstand threats to my health and well being…but I know that you are always working from a place of wanting the best for me…even if you don’t make the right choices…you are always making what you think are the best choices…
Know that you are not alone in your work…you are not the only part of me that is trying to keep me healthy and safe…You have other parts of the systems that are willing to work with you…Know that you are not expected to do it alone…You are allowed to ask for help…You need to ask for help…I want you to ask for help…Please tell me what you need to do your job better…
I am sorry that I don’t always listen to you…I am sorry that you have to work so hard to get my attention…It is not that I don’t care…It is not that I don’t want to listen…I just sometimes forget to listen…I sometimes get so in my head that I forget to listen to my physical system…Please keep letting me know what I need to do to be healthier…Please let me know what I need to do to just be at peace in you…In this moment.
I also asked number of my friends and fellow practitioners what they would what their physical body to hear. There are also great phrases to tap along to. Take another deep breath and tap…
You are strong. You are beautiful. You are powerful. You know exactly what you need to maintain balance, and you are completely capable of maintaining balance. You know exactly how to heal any situation, and you do just that, whenever it is needed.
Rev. Anne PresuelFocus on how you want to feel and how you want to be. Breathe.
Jade BarbeeEven though I reject you in so many ways, I honor my body, my solid, real physical body. I am opening to really FEELING my body, my solid presence, my humanity, my foundation of strength, power and energy. I am opening to remembering that my body LOVES being ALIVE…every cell in my body wants to live and LOVES living and changing and growing. I notice my body and remember that I am alive with energy, sensation and swirling power and I say THANK YOU to my beautiful body.
Margaret M. LynchYou don’t have to do everything, and be so tense. You can relax.
Pamela BrunerI’m sorry I haven’t been listening. I’m listening now.
I’m sorry I haven’t been able to hear your messages. I’m open to hearing your innate wisdom now.
I’m sorry I haven’t been making good choices. I’m willing to let you guide me now.
Deborah DonndelingerYou are loved, that I am interested in listening to your needs, that there is plenty of time for rest, fun and play. I am interested in exploring new ways of honouring you and making you feel good. I am listening.
Rhona ClewsI love and appreciate all the billions of functions it performs for you each and every day.
Alina FrankIt’s never too late! I love you, anyway. And by the way, you’re doing a good job keeping up with all this I’m throwing at you! Deep apologies for making you carry all this around!
Jondi WhitisThank you for all your messages, especially the ones you have to repeat, thanks for not giving up on me. Thank you for being so healthy and being such a great place to live for a while.
Andy BryceThat strength begins with choices. I choosing to take care of my body which creates inner strength too.
Tammy Evevard
What are the things your physical self needs to hear? Click here to add your own thoughts and comments or read what others have to say. I would really love to hear what you think!
When Caregivers Are Careworn
[Note from Gene: It is very easy for those of use take care of other to choose to not take care of our selves. In this article Jondi Whitis offers some insight in how we can approach taking care of ourselves as we care for others.]
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All of us are caregivers at one time or another, and as energy practitioners, we’re certainly caregivers, but what happens to those among us who choose this as a full-time vocation? Or those among us suddenly thrust into this role as a long-term situation?
Caregiving is challenging and spiritual work, in my book. It’s intensity and duration make it particularly grueling in some cases, and it’s critically important to get your batteries “put in correctly”, as Gary Craig would say, as well as to keep those batteries charged!
I don’t know about you, but I am clear about this part of my capabilities. I see it like I see an athlete’s:
I am a Sprinter. Not a Marathoner. I have gifts and passion for the instant bolt and the intense, deep, bursts of effort that a Sprinter would use to run and win the dash. But the skillset that a Marathoner owns feels daunting to me. The very long, drawn-out, frequently intense, day-to-day efforts that a full-time caregiver faces make these people heroic in my eyes.
Do you know some of each type? Good. Recognizing our strengths, and those of others, allows us to connect with one another, making each party stronger still. It sets up a natural teaching environment whereby we learn from one another, and celebrate each new skill on this journey we travel together. Supporting one another in this way not only keeps our tools sharp, but our hearts open, our egos in check, and eyes wide open to the mystery and wonder of healing, within us and all around us.
Why not give yourself a little gift today? Give yourself the gift of insight.
First, look at yourself with a loving eye and ask: which kind of runner ARE you? (And let that be marvelous, no matter what the answer.)
Second, truly see another you admire and give thanks for their gifts. Contact them, tell them what you admire about them, then share an insight or observation that’s worked really well for you. Open yourself, your ears and heart to receive their insights, in return.
Third, linked by your Intentions to help and heal others as well as yourselves, tap a little for yourself.
Note: Enter into this tapping session with gladness, that you can give of yourself to some who gives wholly of themselves each day to another. Set your Intention together to restore, strengthen and find new springs or energy, resourcefulness, peacefulness and compassion within.
KC: Even though I am weary and I there is no end to this in sight, I want to accept myself.
KC: Even though I am so tired, and don’t know if I can continue this way, I really do want to accept myself, and I’m doing the best that I can.
KC: Even though I don’t know how much more of this I can take, I accept that this is how I really feel, and some days that has to be enough. I want to accept myself even on days like this.
TH: I’m exhausted.
EB: Really exhausted.
SE: It never lets up. It’s overwhelming.
UE: What if it never lets up? It’s never-ending.
UN: I’m so tired, so….I don’t know how to keep going when I feel this way.
CH: What if I can’t? Then what?
CB: It’s terrifying to think I can’t go on, but it’s also terrifying to think what if I CAN? Just because I CAN, does that mean I have to? And for how long?
UA: Is there any good end to this?
UN: I can’t think of one right now. I’m not feeling very resourceful. Just alone. Just exhausted.
WR: Too tired! Can’t think, can only do – and barely that! Alone and exhausted.
KC: Too tired, too exhausted, hard to keep this up. Don’t even know if I want to!
KC: Even though I find it hard to keep going; is there any good end to this? I do accept myself. Most of the time, anyway.
KC: Even though I am worried; what if I can’t continue on this way? What if I have to? I really do want to accept myself, and this is the best I can do right now. I’m pretty sure that’s the truth.
KC: Even though I feel that if I ask for help or tell anyone how I’m feeling they’ll think I’m a bad person, I accept this is how I really feel. Don’t I get to feel like being helped, too? I accept myself and this feeling.
TH: I don’t know if I can go on this way, so tired and feeling guilty.
EB: Exhausted and guilty. Really? Hmm, maybe not guilty, maybe just….alone and unhappy.
SE: This tiredness that makes my brain hurt, that makes me feel burnt-out. And why’d I ever think I’d be good at this? Did I really have a choice? It’s hard to tell anymore.
UE: What about ME? Did I just say that?! What if that is actually okay?
UN: Maybe it’s not my fault.
CH: Maybe it’s not their fault, either. Maybe it’s no one’s fault. I’m just exhausted, that’s all.
CB: Maybe I could just use a little break. Maybe I could use a little ‘care’, too.
UA: Is it possible I could get help, too? That it’s okay to ask? Who would I ask, anyway?
UN: I can’t ask for that – I’M the caregiver – I’M the one who…..the one who what?
WR: Maybe I could ask. Maybe someone would help. I don’t know. I’m willing to consider it, anyway.
KC: Even caregivers need care, I guess. How would that feel? Could I let that feel good?
KC: Even though I find it hard to ask for help, I accept myself. I really do.
KC: Even though I’m supposed to be the caregiver, maybe I need care, too. And I really do want to feel better, like my old self. Maybe this is the best I can do right now, though. Maybe I really do accept me.
KC: Even if I ask for help or tell anyone how I’m feeling and they won’t listen, could that be okay just to try it? I accept that I feel nervous about saying this out loud, about asking for help.
TH: Maybe I’m not a bad person, to ask for help. Maybe it doesn’t make me weak or look bad to ask for help.
EB: Maybe I could reach out. Maybe no one actually knows what a toll this is taking on me.
SE: What if they reject me? What if they say, “No.” Is there anyone else I could talk to?
UE: Maybe I need to say it to someone new. Maybe there’s help out there for me I didn’t know about.
UN: I don’t know what I’m doing anymore, but I’m willing to admit I need some help here.
CH: I don’t even know where to begin. I’m nervous about asking for help and being rejected.
CB: I’m nervous either way. What if they say “Okay.” What if they don’t?
UA: Either way, I might feel better, just saying it out loud.
UN: Maybe I could say it out loud and feel better.
WR: I really do want to feel better. I already do feel a little better. Hmmm.
KC: Maybe I will reach out. Who knows what could happen? Maybe something good. What’s the worst that could happen? I’ve heard the word “No” before. I can take it. But what if it’s a “Yes.” What if I could have help? What if I could get a break, and feel better?
You can reach Jondi at EFTbrooklyn.com, or hear her interviews with EFT experts on EFT Radio On-Line on BlogTalkRadio; she specializes in helping others help themselves with the loving power of EFT, humor, warmth and forgiveness. |