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I Don’t Want You Always To Be Impressive

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One of the main reasons we hold ourselves back from taking action is our need to be perfect.

We want everything we do to be great AND we want everyone around us to think we are great too.

Often times if even the smallest thought exists that others aren't going to see us (and everything we do) as great we don't take action.

Most of the time this isn't a conscious choice. We just don't take the action we want to take and just get busy with something else.

I was recently working with “Rachel” on this issue. We did some great tapping on tuning into some of the reasons why she needed everything to be perfect before taking action.

About 45 minutes after our session I received this email:

I did some more tapping after our session, which brought me to a lightbulb moment – I seem to have believed, for God knows how long, that in order for me to be “good enough”, everything I do has to be impressive. That is an impossible standard, of course, but one that quite insidious in my daily thoughts…

So, I now give myself permission to be unimpressive, to make unimpressive art, to have unimpressive ideas and opinions, to have unimpressive dreams and goals, to have an unimpressive plan for the summer, to read unimpressive books… you get the idea.

What a relief! With impressive out of the way it has created real room to breathe.

I couldn't have said it better myself. It is amazing the space we can create for ourselves when we give ourselves permission to be unimpressive!

Take a deep breath and tap on this:

I give myself permission to be unimpressive…I give myself permission to make unimpressive art…I give myself permission to have unimpressive ideas and opinions…I give myself permission to have unimpressive dreams and goals…I give myself permission to read unimpressive books…I give myself permission to [insert your own ideas].

Take another deep breath.

How does that feel? Let me know down in the comment section. I would also love to hear the things you inserted for yourself.

If you would like guidance on how you can use tapping for issues like this one in just a few minutes every day, please check out the Ruach Center.

Want To Improve Your Self-Discipline? Tap For A Better Night’s Sleep

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I recently came across this very interesting quote on one of my favorite websites explore:

The amount of sleep you get predicts the discipline your body can produce. Why? Sleep deprivation depletes the glucose level in your pre-frontal cortex, Barnes writes. This has consequences for your decision-making: If you don’t get enough sleep, you leave your self-control engine running on empty. If you do get enough sleep, you restore that fuel base.


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I knew that sleep was important, I knew that I always felt better after a good night’s rest, and made better choices as a result.

I just didn't have a clue as to why that was the case.

If you are interested in the full research study on what was discovered you can check out details on the study.

Now that that is clear, did you know that it is really easy to tap for good night’s sleep?

Here is how I tap for a good night of sleep. The link will take you to the tapping script I use before I go to sleep and also a pdf you can print out and put on your nightstand so you don't forget to do it.

Tap for a good night’s sleep.

Get a good night’s sleep.

Improve glucose levels in your pre-frontal cortex.

Make better choices tomorrow.

Everybody wins!

Do it tonight: Tap for a good night of sleep!

Your Guilt Is Holding You Back AND It’s Holding Others Back

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Over the last few weeks I have done a lot of writing and recording on guilt and shame.

There have been two reasons for this. First, they have come up a lot in client calls as of late. Second, because they have been coming up so much for my clients I have been reflecting on them a lot in my own life. As I have stated before, shame is the emotion I find the hardest to deal with and the most debilitating.

If you missed some of the recents posts on this topic, make sure you check out here, here, and here.

A few weeks ago I attended the Spring Energy Event in the Hudson River Valley in New York. One of the speakers said something really interesting about guilt. (Unfortunately, I can't remember who said it to give proper credit. If you were there and remember who it was please let me know so I can give credit.)

The statement was, “When you feel guilty about something you are holding the other person in a victim state.”

That is an amazing thought!

When I think I have done you wrong, not only does my guilt impact the way I see myself, but it also impacts the way I see you, and therefore the way I interact with you.

When I feel like I have hurt you, I will call you less, be hesitant in your presence, and be reluctant to spend time with you. Even if you don't think I have done you wrong, my feeling of guilt about something I have done to you will hurt you now.

For me this is a real eye opener. I know it is good for me to tap for my own guilt, but taking care of myself isn't always my strongest motivation to do work. But, I am more willing to do things that will help my loved ones.

By understanding that tapping for my own guilt and shame will help others encourages me to tap.

If you are looking for an easy way to tap for guilt or shame you can tap along with me in this short video.

What are your thoughts about seeing our own guilt as something that hurts others? Let me know below in the comments.

Video: EFT For Shame

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For me, the most painful and debilitating emotion is when I feel ashamed of something I have done wrong.

When I feel ashamed, it is because I know I could have done better or I chose the wrong path. Many times I know the right thing to do and still choose the wrong thing. That produces a lot of feeling ashamed!

And as I hate feeling ashamed, I limit my risk. I don't take chances. Because if I don't take chances then I can't make poor choices. And if I can't make poor choices then I avoid feeling ashamed.

This emotional state is the most powerful source of self sabotage in my life.

A few weeks ago I woke up on a Saturday morning and decided I need to tap for feeling ashamed. This video is the result.

Feel free to tap along with me:

If you would like guidance in helping you to tap regularly come over to MyEFTYear.com.

Video: How To Use EFT After You Have Failed To Reach Your Goals (w/ Tap-Along)

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One of the main focuses of My EFT Year program (which you can try for only $1) is working towards clearly defined goals.

I love goals and goal setting!

Much my personal success over the last decade was in direct proportion to how well I was using my goal list.

But there are times, even with the best goal setting tools in the world, when we can lose our momentum.

This is exactly what happened to me in February and March. As my British friends would say, I completely lost the plot. I made almost no progress towards my goals.

There was good reason for this. I traveled over 40 days in two months. Much of this travel was for work. It wasn't that I was being lazy, but I still fell behind.

April is a new month! I am right back on track and have a great plan for moving forward.

Even with that said, I was dealing with a lot of frustration and guilt over feeling that I had squandered some opportunities. No matter how good my new plan was, I couldn’t move forward unless I did something about the frustration and guilt.

I realized that this was something that I really need to tap for, and I wanted you to experience that tapping too.

Here is me tapping for my guilt and frustration over squandered opportunities.

If you are looking for a way to stop self sabotage and move toward your goals you should check out My EFT Year