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Pod #255: Regaining Focus With EFT

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Have you ever had one of those days where it is 3:30 in the afternoon and you realize you haven't managed to get anything done?

OR it is one of those days where you move from task to task to task, but somehow never seem to achieve anything?

OR you are just downright foggy and you can't seem to focus at all?

Tapping is the perfect tool to help you to regain your focus, clear out the mental cobwebs, and get stuff done.

This week I have the perfect tapping script to do exactly that!

Below the player you will find a text version of the tapping script that you can print out and take with you.

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I recognize the fact I am really unfocused…My mind is going in a million directions…Without landing on anything specific…Because it is floating from thing to thing to thing…I'm not getting anything done…I almost feel disoriented by it…I am frustrated by how unproductive I am being…This lack of focus is probably trying to keep me safe…It's probably trying to help me recognize that I am not prepared for what is in front of me…That something might go wrong if I do what I need to do…It’s all out of sorts…I appreciate it's trying to keep me safe in this way…At the exact same time I know I need to focus…I know I need clarity…I give myself permission to find that clarity…I give myself permission to take action now…Whatever it is I'm clinging that is out of focus…I give my system permission to let it go…If my system needs the distraction again…It will find its way back to it…I can release it right now…Because in this moment it is not useful…In this moment the lack of focus is not necessary…I imagine energy flowing through my body…Bringing me to sharp attention…Helping me to hone in on what is in front of me…If I do this…I can get my tasks done…I will be able to move on to what I want…I will be able to move on to what is useful…I give myself permission to shake off the lack of focus…To be fully present here.

Pod #254: EFT For The Frustration Of Not Doing EFT

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For me, knowing what to do and not doing it is more frustrating than not knowing what to do.

Not tapping when I know I should can quickly turn into beating myself up for failing to take good care of myself.

This week I have a tap-along audio to help you release the feelings of frustration, failure, and shame that come with not tapping when we know it is best of us.

Yes, I understand the irony of asking you to tap for not tapping, but it works.

Below the audio player is the full tapping script so you can tap along at your own pace if you would like.

I recognize the fact that there is a part of me that doesn't want to tap…That doesn't want to transform…That doesn't want to change the state that I am in…It would much rather stay static…It would much rather stay in one place…Because not doing anything feels so much safer…Even though there is an issue at hand that needs to be tapped for…There is a part of me that is afraid…If I change this I don't know what I'm going to change into…Even though this is uncomfortable…Even though this isn't perfect…It is known…It is predictable…It makes sense that I want to stay in this place…I give my system permission to know it is OK for me to feel stuck…Because staying stuck is a way that I can stay safe…Or at least that's how it feels emotionally…Even though intellectually I know this is not the place that I want to stay…Emotionally I am stuck…I give myself permission to be easy with myself…There is a part of me that is beating myself up because I'm not doing what I can to change and transform myself…I am frustrated with the fact that I am unwilling to reach for the tools at my disposal…I feel like a failure…I am ashamed…Because I'm not doing what I need to do…I'm not doing what is best for me…I give myself permission to make a fresh start…Regardless if I have tapped for it in the past or not…I give myself permission now to make good, useful choices…To help me to move forward in a way that is healthy…Beating myself up for not tapping in the past will not help me in the future…I give myself permission to allow myself to make the choices in a new way…It is safe for me to transform…It is healthy for me to transform…It is good that I'm willing to do the work…I give myself permission to tap for that issue that I've been afraid to approach…Knowing that I don't have to take care of it all right now…Knowing that I don't have to take care of it all at once…But it is an easy process that I am allowed to move through…I give myself permission to start right now…Making good, healthy choices to take care of myself.

Pod #253: EFT To Love Your Body More

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Our bodies are far from perfect.

With each passing moment they are aging and showing those changes.

We are our own worst critics when we look in the mirror. We see each and every blemish. We notice even the slightest change. Even the smallest imperfection can seem like a big deal.

At the exact same time, our bodies are amazing! They are a community of over 37 trillion cells that are working together every moment of the day. There are countless systems and processes working faultlessly to which we give no conscious thought.

Today we are going to tap to appreciate our bodies more. I have found that when I do this type of tapping regularly I am healthier and happier.

Below the audio player you will find a text version of the script.

I recognize the fact that I am connected to my physical body…It is a part of me…And in some ways it is me…There are times when I feel like I am fighting my body…When I feel like my body is fighting me…As if my body is letting me down…Or even intentionally trying to hurt me…Or intentionally trying to make my life more difficult…This feeling of frustration and this feeling of betrayal comes simply from wanting better…It comes from wanting to be healthier…It comes from a place of wanting to be stronger…And wanting to look at my body and love what I see…I appreciate the frustration because it wants something better for me…I appreciate my body's desire for me to be healthier…For me to be stronger…For me to look good…Even inside this frustration I know my body is amazing…It is trillions and trillions of cells working in community…Keeping me healthy moment to moment…Allowing me to experience what is around me…There is so much I don't have to think about…I don't have to think about breathing…I don't have to think about my heart beating…I don't have to think about my food digesting…I just move through the world…I love and appreciate that my body is doing all of this…I know in each moment my body is trying to do what is best for me…I know in each moment my body is trying to do what is healthiest for me…Even if it isn't making the healthiest choice, it is motivated by health and well-being…Sometimes my body is misinformed…I give my body permission to ask for what it needs…I give my system permission to do what it needs to do to keep me healthy…I give my body permission to state its needs…Because it is not some foreign object asking…It is me…I am it…There is no separation between my mind and body…There is no separation between my desires and what my body is doing…They feel disconnected…They feel incongruent…But I give them permission to grow and heal together as one…Because they actually are one…I give my system permission to move forward in a way that is best for all parts of me…I give myself permission to love my body…Because I am my body.

It’s not the Winter Solstice, it’s the Fatty Solstice

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Good morning,

I was having dinner with a friend last week and we were talking about the wonders of technology. Right now, I have a smart phone in my pocket, which is more than 1000 times more powerful than the computer I used when I was a professional computer programmer less than 20 years ago.

With this amazing computing power always at our fingertips, we are able to track our lives in very powerful ways.

Personally, I am able to see how much daily exercise I get via my health tracker. Professionally, I am able see which podcasts you download and the articles you read the most so that I can keep producing the content that you need.

Last year about this time, Foursquare published some interesting data. For those who don't know, Foursquare is an app that allows users to check in at different places, so you can let your friends know what you are up to.

With users all over the world, Foursquare are able to see trends in people's behavior by looking at all of their data.

The information they shared was about three particular dates.

  1. There is a decrease in the number of visits to fast food restaurants on the first Sunday of the new year. (In 2016 it was January 3rd)
  2. Depending on when New Year's Day falls, there is an increase in the number of visits to the gym on the first or second Monday of the new year. (In 2016 it was January 11th)
  3. The second Friday of February has the highest number of fast food visits of any day in the first three months of the year. (In 2016 it was February 12th)

Being clever, Foursquare declared the second Friday of February to be the Fatty Solstice.

There is a reason this happens!
When I read this story I wasn't surprised. There have been a number of studies on New Year's resolutions and how they simply don't work.

A New Year's resolution is nothing more than an exercise in willpower that happens at a particular time of year.

If you could make changes in your life using willpower alone, you wouldn't need a New Year's resolution.

Early April Shame
The truth is that you didn't need a data study to tell you that New Year's resolutions don't work. You already know this because you have tried and failed at resolutions in the past.

Even though data analysis can predict when resolutions will fail, we don't notice it in our own lives.

There might be a nagging feeling in the back of your head. Or from time to time you might remember that you want to be making better choices.

The next thing you know it is April. You remember your resolution and you remember you haven't given it a second thought in almost two months.

You are disappointed that your life isn't better.

You are frustrated at your lack of action.

You are ashamed because you promised yourself you would do better and you failed…again!

For me, the worst emotion is shame at having failed. I hate it!

This sense of shame is SOOOOOOO BIG that many people stop trying to improve their lives because they hate the feeling of trying and failing so much.

Make this year different!
It doesn't have to be this way. Change is possible and it doesn't have to be a fruitless exercise in willpower.

To start off 2017 I have created a program that will help you to be successful in the short term AND will teach you how to make change happen in a simple, step-by-step way in the long term.

This process includes five steps.

Step 1: I am going to teach you the 5 tapping techniques I use most, both with my clients and when I am tapping for my own issues, AND the best time to use each of these techniques. Simply knowing we need to tap isn't enough, for me there is a particular way to tap in each situation.

Step 2: We will gain clarity about what it is you want and why you want it. We will not take action if we don't have a clear vision because we don't want to waste time or energy. If we are worried that creating a plan is just one more opportunity to let ourselves down, then we will never get around to planning.

Step 3: Making change in our lives often means we have to take new actions and learn new skills. I don't know about you, but I hate feeling stupid and incompetent. In this step we will clear all the worries and fears that come with not feeling like we can take the necessary steps to bring about change.

Step 4: Even if we have a clear plan, we won't take action if we are worried that taking action will have negative consequences. For example, we may worry that others will judge us because they think our goal is silly, or we could be worried that even though we know what to do, we might not succeed and we want to avoid feeling like a failure. In this step we will uncover and tap for all the negative thoughts and emotions that prevent us from taking action.

Step 5: In the last step we will take on the most surprising reason that we fail at making progress. Did you know that we often fear being successful at our goals? We can worry that we will be successful, but then backslide and worry that we will have to work even harder to maintain the success than we do to achieve it in the first place. Similarly we worry that if we are successful at this goal, others will expect us to be successful at everything. In this step we will knock out the fears around being successful.

The program will be delivered in the format of weekly teleclasses (which you can access via the phone or online). In each class I will work you through the steps, answer all of your questions about the process, and then we will tap. At the end of each class participants will have a chance to raise their hand about their personal blocks. I will then tap one-on-one with those participants.

The calls will be held on Tuesdays at 8pm Eastern time, January 17th – February 14th.

All calls will be recorded so if you can't make it, you will still have access to all of the content AND you can go back to tap along again and again.

For my friends in Europe (and everyone else)
I know 8pm Eastern time isn't convenient for those of you who live in Europe (or for some people in the US). So that you aren't missing out on the chance to get your questions answered and your chance to tap with me one-on-one, I will be holding two additional calls on Sunday January 29th and February 19th at 2pm Eastern.

You will have a chance to listen through the previous classes before the calls and get all of your questions answered.

Even if you were on the Tuesday evening call, you can still show up on these calls for some extra help.

Then there are the bonuses
If that was all there was to the program, it would be enough to set you up for success. But to ensure 2017 is the best year ever, I am adding these three bonuses:

  • Bonus Call – On February 21st at 8pm Eastern I am going to hold a "Tapping Jam". I will stay on call until everyone who has an issue that has come up over the program has a chance to tap with me one-on-one.
  • The 10-Question System – This is a great tool for planning, taking action, and uncovering emotional resistance to taking action. (I sell this for $197)
  • Tapping Script Book – I will have all of the tapping we do in class transcribed so that you can go back to tap along without having to search through the audios.

A Bargain At Twice The Price
You will receive the classes, the recordings of the classes, and all the bonuses for only $300.

If I told you that you weren't going to fail at your resolutions this year, would that be worth $300? For this promise I would pay a lot more than $300!

Add One-On-One Help!
Sometimes our issues are just too big for us face alone or we are too close to them to see them clearly. To help with this I am offering the opportunity to add on three one-on-one phone sessions with me.

Even though I am a tapping professional, I still regularly work with someone to help me get through my issues faster.

For only $500 more you can add three one-on-one sessions. Normally I would charge $675 for those sessions, so it is 25% off the session.

Money Back Guarantee
I want you to have the chance to see if this is right for you. If after the first class you decide this isn't for you, just let me know and I will send you a full refund. No questions asked!

Avoid the shame. Avoid the failure. Get it right this year!
Don’t make 2017 another year of missed opportunities. Start off the year on the right foot. Have the success, progress, and transformation you are longing for.

Yes! I am going to make 2017 my best year ever by joining the class: https://tappingqanda.com/?p=12151

Yes! I am going to make sure I progress even faster by joining the program and working with Gene one-on-one: https://tappingqanda.com/?p=12150

What Are Your Questions?
I know this is a lot of information to take in at once. If you have any questions, just reply to this email and I will respond to you directly.

Do it now! What are you waiting for? Avoid the April shame.

Program: https://tappingqanda.com/?p=12151

Program PLUS 3 one-on-one sessions: https://tappingqanda.com/?p=12150

Gene

PS: Imagine what it will be like not to need to create resolutions next year because you have a better way of making change in your life. https://tappingqanda.com/?p=12151

Pod #252: EFT For Starting 2017 With The Right Intentions

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Last week I shared with you a simple process for letting go of the issues, worries, and wounds of 2016.

This week we are going to tap to start 2017 off on the right foot.

I love this particular tapping process because it is a chance for us to turn inward and give all parts of our system the chance to state what they need in the year ahead.

Just like last week, I recommend that you do this process once a day for a week. I am certain you will be amazed by how the process changes each time you do it.

I would like something better…I would like to be successful…I would like to transform..I would like to move forward…I recognize the fact that I get in my own way…that I don't do the actions that I want to do…that I don't stay focused…this is really disappointing…in many cases I know exactly what to do…in many cases I know exactly how I want to do it…and I still don't do it…it is because my system is trying to keep me safe…it is because my system is trying to keep me healthy…it is because my system doesn't want me to be in over my head…it avoids the actions that could get me in trouble…it avoids the steps that are difficult…I appreciate the fact that my system is trying to keep me healthy in this way…I also appreciate the fact my system is working too hard…it is seeing the things that are dangerous and blowing them out of proportion…I give myself permission to create the space to make it safe for me to make difficult choices…to make it safe for me to take new actions…there are times that I do not set goals because I don't want to face failure…my subconscious mind thinks but if I never set a goal then I will never have the opportunity to fail…I appreciate it is trying to keep me safe in this way and I recognize that it's over functioning…it is safe for me to have dreams…it is safe for me to have goals…It is safe for me to pursue something better…

There are times that I do not take action because I don't know how to do the action…or I don't know the exact step to take…my system doesn't want to waste time…my system doesn't want to waste energy…my system doesn't want to waste effort…the way that it does this is it prevents me trying…because if I never try anything new I can't look foolish and stupid…I appreciate that my system is doing this to keeping me safe…but I also recognize the fact every single thing that I can do is something I had to learn how to do…at one point I couldn't do it…everything that I can do I learned how to do…I give myself permission to allow myself to move forward in such a way that I do not need to be perfect the first time

I recognize there are times when I know what to do..I know how to do it..and I still don't take action…because I am afraid of taking that action is not going to be good..It's not that there's a problem with the action…but I am worried about trying…I'm worried others are going to see me and judge me…I'm worried that others are going to dismiss my effort…I'm worried that others are going to think that I'm foolish…I'm worried that others are going to think that I'm wasting my time…I give myself permission to know that these are the actions I should be taking…to know that these are the actions that are right for me…to know that as I move forward creating this path and becoming who I am is best for me.

They're also times that I do not take action because my system fears success…it is worried that if I work hard to be successful I will have to work hard to stay successful…it is worried that others will see me being successful at this and will be expected to be successful all the time…I'm worried that being successful is not going to be enough and I'm going to be let down…I give myself permission to know that even imperfect success is better than this…to know that as I move forward success will build on success…and more progress will come…I give myself and my system permission to know that when I don't take action…it is just my system taking care of me…I know my system it is simply over functioning…I trust myself to take action…I trust myself to be healthy…I trust myself to move forward anyway…even when things do not work out each action brings me closer to the success that I made for.