In last week’s podcast I talked about (and shared the scientific evidence) as to why it can be useful to swear while tapping. Even if we accept that swearing is useful, it doesn’t necessarily mean that we are comfortable doing it.
When I say uncomfortable I don’t mean in terms of using swear words. Instead, we may feel bad because we are angry at all. Anger feels like such a strong and primitive emotion that we may believe that we should be above it and feeling angry represents some sort of personal failing.
Feeling angry from time to time is both natural and healthy. This week we are going to tap for being OK with the fact that we sometimes feel anger. (As always, the full tapping script can be found below the audio player.)
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I know I have a rich emotional life…My emotions are useful…My emotions are one way in which my system communicates with me…And because of this…It is useful information…I also recognize the fact…That there is a part of me that thinks I am above emotional responses…That believes I have transformed so much…That I should no longer be overcome by these emotions…I should be able to deal with everything…In a calm and reasonable way…The fact that I am feeling these emotions feels like I have failed…Feels like I have made a mistake…Feels like I haven’t evolved as much as I think I have…But I give myself permission to know that I’m allowed to feel my emotions…I give myself permission to feel the whole spectrum of emotions…I give myself permission to know that emotions are healthy…I give myself permission to know my emotions are natural…I don’t want my emotions to be disproportionate…I don’t want to lash out at others with my emotions…But I am allowed to feel them…I am allowed to experience them…It is healthy for me to feel deep emotion…It is not a failing to feel emotion…It is not a shortcoming to feel emotion…Emotions are information…It is unhealthy for me to repress my emotions…I give myself permission to articulate my emotions in a clear honest and authentic way…I am healthier when I articulate my emotions…I am happier in the long term when I articulate my emotions…I give myself permission to feel…I give myself permission not to hold back…I give myself permission to grow through my emotional experience.
My goodness, I’m crying now, and I am so happy. It means so much to me that I am allowed to feel my feelings. I learned at such a young age, that expressing my feelings is so bad; it could kill my parents, or my feelings were completely ignored, so my feelings were bad or meaningless. I am going to use this tapping daily, so I can really learn to give myself permission to feel all my feelings. There is a part of me that knows it is healthy to feel my feelings and there is a part of me that is convinced that I should avoid feeling my feelings at all cost, to keep me safe. So it depends on which part is in the driver seat of my life. Many times it is a surprise for me, who is in the driver seat, because I don’t feel it. When I feel bad, or insignificant, I don’t feel it; I’m not allowed to feel it, automatically. What I do feel, is tension in my belly and when I try to feel love, I cannot feel it, because my heart is closed
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