If you spent any time on Facebook this week I’m sure you noticed a lot of people’s profile pictures were of a giraffe.
This wasn’t because people love giraffes. It was because they had lost a bet. It went like this…on Sunday morning I saw this posted on a friend’s Facebook wall:
Here is the riddle: 3 am, the doorbell rings and you wake up. Unexpected visitors… it’s your parents and they are here for breakfast. You have strawberry jam, honey, wine, bread, and cheese. What is the first thing you open?
Remember… message me only. If you get it right, I will post your name here. If you get it wrong, you have to change your profile picture to a giraffe for three days.
I read the post and immediately fired off my reply, “The front door of course.” I waited confidently knowing I was going to receive a congratulatory message back.
Three minutes later I was changing my profile picture to the photo you see above.
My Ego Got In The Way
This is an interesting bet. I would not have answered this bet with a guess. The only way I would have responded was if I knew I was right. The bet was designed to play on my over-confidence
I ran into trouble (not that it was real trouble) because I was convinced I was right when I was not.
I see the same thing all the time with my clients (and myself) when it comes to working on the right issue. We get caught up in what we “know” to be the root cause of our issue.
This isn’t because we are egomaniacs who think we are right all the time, or because we are stupid. No, the reason is that we are often so close to our own issues that it can be really difficult to see things clearly. And in not seeing everything clearly we are convinced what we see is true.
When this happens we can end up wasting a lot of time tapping for the wrong issue!
How To Get Out Of Your Own Way
Here three things to help you to get out of your own way.
1) Work with a practitioner.
In addition to the expertise and experience a good practitioner brings, they have the advantage of not being inside your head. They have perspective on the issue that we don’t have and can see things more objectively.
One of the advantages of working with a practitioner is that we don’t even have to do all the work with the practitioner. My clients often gain new insight working with me and then take that new information to continue tapping on their own.
2) What if it is something else?
I really like asking the question, “What could be the root cause of this issue if what I thought was the root cause of the issue was proven to be wrong?”
I know that question doesn’t look like much, but when we give ourselves permission to let go of what we think is right we are better able to explore other possible solutions.
3) Ask lots questions from many angles.
Sometimes when we are working on a issue we are looking at it the wrong way. For example, let’s say you wanted to create a blog about a hobby you love. You are really excited to get started, but for some reason it never happens. You decided that the reason that you are not creating the blog is because you are worried people are going to judge the quality of your work.
That seems very logical. Not being a professional writer and then sharing your writing with world can be scary. You spend the next few weeks tapping for being seen, being judged, and being good enough.
After all this tapping you feel great, you feel confident…and still you don’t do any writing.
The real problem turns out to be that you have no idea how to create a website and don’t want to feel stupid trying something new.
The tapping that was done was helpful, but it wasn’t for the issue that was holding you back.
When you have an issue you have been tapping for, but can’t seem to knock it out, it might be time to find a new angle on the problem and this is a great tool to help you do just that.