Everywhere you turn there seems to be bad news. It’s hard to be hopeful for the future when all you hear is doom and gloom. How can I use EFT to lift my mood and make it possible to thrive in these troubled times?
[Note: This article is by Chip Engelmann. Make sure you check out Chip’s web site ChipEFT.com for many great articles, ebooks, and recordings of past teleseminars.]
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It is easy to get sucked in. We turn on the TV and a talking head economist is accusing a politician of playing a political campaign fiddle while Rome burns. The Republicans blame the Democratic congress and the Democrats blame the Republican leadership. Of course, the press loves bad news because bad news increases ratings and increased ratings means advertising dollars. All you have to do is listen to your TV, “Times are tough and the worst is yet to come.”
The time has come for you to take action. Switch your TV to the Golf Channel. Go out and rent When Harry Met Sally. Stop watching the news. It is toxic.
No, I’m not talking about putting your head in the sand and hoping it will go away. However, the Law of Attraction states that whatever you put your attention on is what you will bring into your life. If you allow yourself to become emotionally immersed in the world’s economic turmoil, personal economic turmoil will follow. If you perceive that you live in a world of doom and gloom, you will find an endless stream of evidence to support living in a harsh environment. If you see the world as overflowing with abundance, your personal world will be abundant.
No, this is not wishful thinking. It is a powerful tool we can use to shape the course of our lives. If we put our attention on how we want our lives to play out, the mind will search through billions of pieces of information to find what we need in order to thrive. If we set our attention on a goal and expect it to be achieved, our mind will find the information we need to make it happen.
The key to improving our world is as simple as switching our attention from what we don’t want, to what we do want.
My wife and I recently attended one of Esther and Jerry Hicks’ events in Toronto. I’ll share with you something Esther shared that is extremely relevant today and should give you great hope.
“What if one person in a relationship is allowing [abundance] and the other is blocking?”
It’s a good question, right? The answer:
“One who is allowing is more powerful than a million who are not.”
What does that mean to us today? If every one of us takes our power to continue to see the world with hope and attention to what is good and what could be good, no matter what shows up in the news, we will profoundly affect the outcome both personally and as a society. So don’t give up and don’t give in – when you see what you don’t want, keep turning your attention back to what you do want.
People have pointed out that it is easy to say, but harder to do. We each have set ways of thinking about things.
You may notice that you have been feeling bad, thinking about what you don’t want, for three days before it dawns on you to retrain your attention on what it is you do want. It may take days to notice that you have been putting your attention on “The Economy,” and you are scared. But right now is all that matters, so refocus on what you want and you will feel better. Next time it may only take two and a half days to notice your attention has wandered. It’s a matter of learning through trial and error. You get better at it as you go along. Eventually, you will notice within a few seconds when your attention strays.
Yet it can be hard to focus on what you want when you are afraid, overwhelmed, or depressed. (It is no coincidence bad economic times are called depressions.) Luckily, EFT can help take the edge off. In fact, we can use EFT to lessen the emotional load and Dr. Pat Carrington’s Choices Technique to help us change our old perceptions.
- Even though I’m afraid I might lose my job…
- Even though I’m worried about my retirement…
- Even though I’m angry at the government..
- Even though I’m angry at those big companies…
- Even though I’m angry at myself for not being prepared…
- Even though I’m afraid I will lose my house…
- Even though I’m worried I can’t sell my house…
- Even though I’m afraid because I’m on a fixed income…
- Even though I’m afraid my health insurance won’t come through…
- Even though I’m worried my car won’t last until I can afford a new one…
- Even though I can’t handle one more thing…
- Even though I’m afraid the other guy will get elected…
- Even though I’m afraid the world is going to hell in a hand basket…
You get the idea. Tap on any of these types of statements that color your world.
It is, however, important not to put any more attention on what you don’t want than necessary to neutralize the negative emotions. The more time you spend looking for negative emotions, the more you will find. At some point, you must turn your attention back to what it is that you do want.
The Choices Technique is a good way of training your mind to focus on what you want, or the wonderful things you already have. We live in an abundant universe: lush green trees, beautiful birds, tenderly cared-for homes, creative people who love what they do are everywhere. It is been estimated that if we equally divided the wealth of the world between each of the 6 billion inhabitants, each person would have over ten million dollars. There is no shortage of money..
But many people tend to focus their thoughts on what is not right with the world. A set-up statement you might use is:
Even though I used to get drawn in to negative news,
I now chose to see abundance everywhere I look.
This is what you say three times as you tap on side of hand. Follow with three rounds of tapping. The first round, tap on
I used to get drawn in to negative news
The second round, tap on
I now chose to see abundance everywhere I look.
The third round, alternate back and forth with the two phrases
I used to get drawn in to negative news…
I now chose to see abundance every where I look…
Until you complete the round. It is important to end on the phrase that states what you do want. This exercise should be done three times a day for three weeks. You are attempting to change a mental habit.
Here are some other examples of set-up phrases you can use:
- Even though I used to spend my time thinking about what I don’t like about my life, I now choose to appreciate what makes me happy.
- Even though I used to believe I was powerless, I now choose to reclaim my power by believing I can do anything I want.
- Even though I tended to focus on not having enough money to pay my bills, I now choose to relish the relief I feel every time a bill is paid.
- Even though I used to complain every time something bad happened to me, I now choose to see how the Universe always works for my benefit with amazing synchronicity.
- Even though I used to think there was no way out, I now choose to trust that the next step and the next step will appear as I start moving toward what I want.
- Even though I used to believe what happened in rest of the world greatly affected me, I now choose to see that where I place my attention determines my experience.
Remember that this is a trial and error process. Don’t beat yourself up. Just guide your attention to what it is you want to experience. There is no hurry, you don’t have to be perfect before lunch time.
Maybe you feel like this might work for others, but won’t work for you. You don’t have what it takes. Well, you can use a variation of the Choices Technique to give yourself those attributes.
- Even though what I want is taking a long time to come, I give myself the patience to receive it.
- Even though I have trouble deciding what I want, I give myself permission to make a long list of those things that would make me happy.
- Even though I feel like I don’t deserve anything good, I choose to focus my attention on those things that I like about myself.
- Even though I can’t seem to get it, I give myself the insight I need to figure it out.
- Even though I feel so overwhelmed, I choose to find the baby steps I need to take to get things under control.
Finally, pay attention to what you tell others about the world, the economy and how it affects you. Are you casting yourself in the role of a victim or are you choosing words that maintain your responsibility? As Abraham said at the seminar, “You can’t beat the drum of where you are and still move to where you’re going.” Your experience of life reflects the story you tell. If you are a victim, find words that express that you have a more creative and self-determining role. Tell the truth, but make it the highest truth available to you.
For example, here are a series of sentences that might lead step-by-step from what you don’t want to what you do want. Notice how each truth sounds a little better than the one before it.
- The economy is in the crapper.
- Those politicians really were asleep at the wheel. It’s about time they did something.
- With the high speed communications we have today,
- there’s no way we’ll have anything as bad as the Great Depression.
- I’ve survived a lot of hard times in the past.
- No matter what happens, I’ll find a way – I always have.
- Maybe this wake-up call in the economy will lead to some good changes.
- I wonder how I can take advantage of this situation.
- I’ll bet I can come up with a good idea to help people and be profitable at the same time.
Your job is to tell the best story you can believe is true. As you do, notice how your life starts to change. Then see if you can tell a better and better story. You’ll find there is no limit to how good it can get.
You now have several tools to thrive no matter what appears to be going on around you.
linda rousseau says
excellent, very helpful…