Maintaining high standards for ourselves is a good thing and means we have goals to shoot for and measuring sticks with which to evaluate our progress.
Unfortunately, it is all too easy to fall into self-criticism and self-judgment if we fall short of these standards. So much so that it rarely feels like a choice, but the moment we fall short, the internal critical voice comes roaring forward to berate and belittle us.
Even when we are critical of ourselves, we are still able to extend kindness to others and give them the benefit of the doubt.
Evaluating our actions is a good thing…but becoming overly self-critical is harsh and unhealthy.
When I am too hard on myself, one of my best friends gently chides me in a way that transforms the way I feel about myself and what comes next.
He doesn’t say, “Gene, you are being too hard on yourself!” because that would not shift my mind or mood.
Instead, he says something completely different that turns everything around.
In this week’s podcast I share the one phrase that changes my perspective in these situations, and how that phrase can be incorporated in our tapping.
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One of the highlights of this year’s 24 Hours of Tapping was the conversation that I had with Kerri Rhodes. Kerri is one of the program directors of the Helping Addicts Recover Progressively (HARP) program in the Chesterfield (VA) County Jail.
Most of the time, when we sit down to tap, we are trying to create positive change.
The primary goal of our subconscious mind is to keep us safe.
Wanting to belong is a basic human desire.