When tapping is not producing progress, it does not necessarily mean that tapping is not working.
There are a number of reasons why you might not be seeing results. The three most common reasons are resistance to change, dehydration, and not being specific enough. When I encounter someone who is not making progress these are the steps I take.
First, we clear resistance. To do this tap on the side of the hand and use the four set up phrases:
Even though I feel [insert issue] I love and accept myself.
Even though I feel [insert issue] I forgive myself for however I contributed to this.
Even though I feel [insert issue] I forgive anyone else who contributed to this.
Even I feel [insert issue] for the rest of my life, I love and accept myself.”
We then do a full round of tapping on the issue. If progress is made we can continue working on this issue. If there is still no progress we look to the second possible reason tapping is not working.
The second most common reason for not making any progress is not having enough water in the system. This is an easy problem to solve. Drink some water.
You don’t have to drink so much that you are floating away. In most cases a small glass is more than enough. After taking a drink, wait a minute or two and then try doing another round of tapping. If you make progress you can continue to work on the issue. If you don’t make any progress you move to the third possible reason you are not making progress.
The third common hurdle is of not being specific enough about our issue when we are tapping.
Tapping is a powerful tool, but it is much more like a laser than a wrecking ball. When you are using a wrecking ball, you just need to be kind of close to knock down what you are after. With a laser, you need to be much more precise. In order to make progress with tapping we must be as precise about the issue as possible.
For example you might be tapping on feeling frustrated, which is rather general. It is not uncommon to fail to make progress when we are this general. The most effective way of getting more specific is by asking, “Why?”
Here is a conversation with a client to show how this might play out:
Client: I am very frustrated!
Gene: Why are you frustrated?
Client: Because the family business is closing.
Gene: Why does that frustrate you?
Client: Because I am worried about being able to take care of my family.
Feeling frustrated about the business closing and worrying about not being able to care for my family are very different issues. At first glance and without a lot of self-examination, it might feel like frustration. But that is not the core issue and tapping on frustration is unlikely to produce a lot of progress. When we start to tap on the worry about being able to caring for the family we are much more likely to make progress.