The phrase “sticks and stones can break my bones, but words will never hurt me” is often taught to us as children. As adults, we know this isn’t true. It would be great if what other people said about us didn’t have the power to hurt us, but we are doing ourselves a disservice by pretending it doesn’t.
Here is a simple 3-step process to tease out the reason why certain words hurt more than others and help you to identify the source of the hurt. Is it the words themselves, who is saying them, or who is hearing the words when they are spoken?
All three of those possibilities can add to the feeling of hurt. When you are able to recognize the different components causing the hurt, it will be much easier to tap to gain relief.
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You always have something good to share and today’s pearls : ) really helped me to clarify some issues I’ve been reacting to .
Thank you so much for the huge amount you give out to us all.
This has been so helpful
I thought the pointers were very helpful. I just wish the video included a short tapping session that i could do right now to help me deal with these hurtful words since I’m new to this whole tapping thing. Love that all this helpful advice is free.
Really brilliant breakdown. Thank yo, Gene. I’m an experienced tapper who read a hurtful tweet yesterday. It has surprised me by how much it stings and how much I’m dwelling on it. I’ve already tapped lots today but your breakdown has given me lots more aspects. I’m off to rate their SUDS and start with the highest to tap on. I guess sometimes yoou can’t see the wood for the trees when it’s your own stuff!
Oh, and I realised one more aspect you didn’t mention – some of my upset harks back to earlier memories, also very tappable (eg the public nature of the tweet I read brought up issues about being ridiculed and made fun of at school…with *everyone* knowing…or so it seemed at the time…)
Tap, tap, tap…
How does this apply when the person just completely ignores you even standing in the room and won’t acknowledge your presence or that you’re speaking to them?