One of the most difficult ideas that my clients wrestle with is that of forgiveness and I have found that they often lack a clear understanding of what forgiveness is and what it is not.
When we forgive someone else it can feel like we are saying it is okay, that they don’t have to take responsibility for their actions, or that they are allowed to hurt us again.
This is NOT what forgiveness is!
Instead forgiveness is the process of choosing no longer to be stuck in the past emotionally.
In this episode I define what I understand forgiveness is and what it is not. This will help you to embrace forgiveness in a healthier way.
I also demonstrate how I tap for this idea of forgiveness to make it even easier to integrate.
You can find the full tapping script as a pdf of this audio over at Tapping Q and A Podcast Scripts and Transcripts.
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Gene, this is such a timely tapping topic for me, since I recently tapped with a woman who was very resistant to forgiving someone from her childhood. I think tapping on “what forgiveness is NOT,” is so insightful! Thankyou so much for this one…I will remember to use this set-up prior to the forgiveness rounds the next time this issue comes up in my practice. Your mentioning about forgiving oneself, also, is so very important….we are indeed the wounded healers, afterall, aren’t we?
Blessings,
Ruth
Great timing. I had just realized yesterday that I needed to forgive someone, as she is friends with my new landlady at my business. Uh oh, I better take care of this, before she walks in our mutual door! Thank you.
I`ve tapped while you were tapping on the website and when you finished I found myself wiping my tears, why? It did touch me I think. It was funny
because while I was tapping I was imagining two persons at the same time, who I have to forgive. But my question
is how stop thinking in not to forgive them if they constantly make your life
a hell everyday in your own house? Then I thought in the part that you recommend that forgiveness is not to let them harm you and not to be poisened.
Anyway, besides forgiveness what can we tap to create positive change
in them?
THANK YOU GENE! THAT REALLY HELPED ME. I WAS IN A FEARFUL PLACE & IT HELPED TO ALLEVIATE THOSE FEELINGS. BLESSINGS TO YOU.
I just loved the approach of the negative/positive….what forgiveness is NOT so that we can go ahead and freely forgive…lovely take on this difficult subject. I know I will certainly use this technique. Keep up the good work.Thank you.
Many thanks for this, I had ‘forgotten’ that I had someone to forgive and your podcast is so applicable. However, I could not ‘tap-a-long’ and keep up with what you were saying because the phrases were so long and fast … … thank you anyway, its always good to receive your emails x
Gene: This was an excellent podcast, however the one thing that bothers me, is that you use the word ‘NOT” so very often. We have all been trained to believe that our brains do not recognize the word “not”, but just skips over that word. Can this podcast be re-done with many of the “not” words deleted. I will still continue to listen to this podcast, but my mind does have a problem with the word “not”. Thank you.
thank you for this little tapping and explanation of how forgiveness works. It has helped me release some emotional charge I had on this issue. Thanks for your generosity, Gene. With Love, Pargash
Thank you, Gene. Agree! My husband, Michael has written a book about forgiveness called, We Must Forgive To Live, so we live this truth! Hard to do at times, but so essential! Pauline Parlee