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Pod #328: How And Why Your Past Experience Impairs Your Ability To Heal

September 12, 2018 By Gene Monterastelli 2 Comments

One of the reasons that the human species survives is because of our innate ability to learn. Every time we experience something new, we have the opportunity to learn how the world works and how our fellow humans react to a certain set of circumstances.

With each new experience, we are able to make subconscious comparisons with prior experiences. New information means we are able to update our understanding of ourselves and of the world we inhabit.

There are two problems with the way that we learn. First, we sometimes learn the wrong lesson. Because we may not fully understand a situation, we draw inaccurate conclusions. Second, at times we are presented with new information that conflicts with our old lessons and beliefs, so we choose (consciously or unconsciously) to ignore the new information.

This conflict means that sometimes not only do we not accept new information about ourselves and the world, but it actually gets in the way of our transformation.

In this week’s podcast I share with you:

  • How we build our understanding of who we are and how the world works
  • The pitfalls that this creates in the moment as we take action
  • How this slows or halts our ability to heal
  • How you can tap with this knowledge so you are no longer hindering your progress

Below the audio player I have included a tapping script for the tapping that we do at the end of the audio. I encourage you to listen to the full audio before tapping to the script because an understanding of the context for the tapping will make the tapping itself more powerful.

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I have picked up a belief about myself or the world that is not useful…It actually makes my life harder day to day…And as I acknowledge this is no longer useful…I’m not blaming myself for picking up this tool…I am not blaming myself for picking up this belief…When I picked up this belief…I thought it was something that I thought would truly serve me…I’m also not blaming the people who gave me this belief…They were doing the best that they could when they were teaching me…I also do not blame them because they might not have realized they were teaching me in that moment…They were doing the best they could and I was learning lessons from that…I give myself permission to let go of this belief…Because it is a tool that is no longer useful to me…I now recognize a more useful way to navigate the world…I now recognize more useful way to respond to my problems…At some point in the future…If need this belief again…I’m allowed to pick it up again…But if I choose to pick it back up…I will do so consciously because it is useful…It’s also possible that I will never pick up this belief again…I acknowledge that the beliefs about myself…And about the world…Are picked up with all good intention…But they are no longer useful now…When I picked them up in the past…I was doing the best that I could…Letting go of them now is the best that I can do right now…It is okay for me to let go of these experiences…It is safe for me to let go of these beliefs…What is most important is not my past…But instead what I choose to believe right now…I give myself permission to believe what is useful right now.

Related articles and podcasts:

  1. Making It Safe To Heal With EFT/Giving Ourselves Permission To Heal (part 1 of 10)
  2. Losing My Ability To Feel Emotions
  3. This Is Just Like My Mother/Father
  4. Pod #268: Letting Go of Limiting and Unhelpful Beliefs
  5. TapAlong: Feeling Like I Need To Suffer – Forgiving Self

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Comments

  1. Caron Harris says

    September 13, 2018 at 10:43 am

    Excellent, and very useful! Applies to me absolutely. Thank you for this episode.

    Reply

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