For me, one of the hardest feelings is that of feeling like an outsider. When you are in a room full of people, feeling like you don’t belong and your head spins with imagining what everyone is thinking about you – and NONE of it is good!
Last weekend I found myself feeling exact this way – even though I know that, in reality, most people are far too caught up in their own lives to spend much time worrying about or judging me. Here is a tap-along audio and tapping script for when you find yourself in the same situation.
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I feel like an outsider…I feel like nobody gets me…Even if there were the time and space to explain myself…They still wouldn’t understand…Or they wouldn’t accept me…Or they would say I don’t belong…It is painful being in a situation where I am surrounded by people…And yet I feel completely alone…When I sense a connection in the room that I’m not a part of…It feels like there is no entry point…Where I feel like my presence is a burden to others…The only thing to do is to try to escape…I recognize the fact my emotions are working way too hard…I recognize the fact that I do have common ground…There are connections that I can make…I don’t always have to feel like I’m on the outside…Even if they don’t fully understand me…I do have something to offer…There are ways that we can connect…Even if I am not totally at home I can find connection…I can find community…I can be accepted for who I am…Without having to prove myself…I am valuable…I have something to offer…I can connect in a true human way…I am not as alone as I feel…I do not have to fear…I can be completely who I am…Even though it feels scary to be vulnerable…Even though it feels overwhelming to be who I am…Even when it feels like I have nothing to offer…Or that they will never understand…I give myself permission to trust myself…I give myself permission to trust others…I give myself permission to believe in human connection…Knowing that I can create space where I feel at home…My fear of judgment is trying to keep me safe…My fear of judgment is working way too hard…This does not mean I become careless…This does not mean I become reckless…This does not mean I become completely unguarded…Trusting myself and trusting others does not mean I’m letting all of my barriers down…I can be more open and connect more while still keeping myself safe…While still keeping myself healthy…I give myself permission to trust myself…I give myself permission to trust others…I give myself permission to know that I am acceptable…I give myself permission to know that I am lovable…I am lovable in big and small ways.
I found this wonderful! Even though I am not feeling alienated at the moment, I have been uncomfortable at parties and other mass events for as long as I can remember. This is such a good thing to tap on, and thank you very much for sharing it, and sharing your own vulnerability with us all.
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Thank you for sharing this in an eft tapping. I sighed deeply many times. I released a lot.
I recognised the feeling, I had it 3 weeks ago with business partners but managed to be present in the feeling so it could move. But your words made me go deeper in that feeling, so I now understand it on a deeper level.
Thanks Gene, I have gradually got into a space in social settings where I have been able to not be so judgemental of others. This has allowed me to just enjoy the moment more often and the other benefit is that I don’t worry so much about what they thought of me. I am fortunate in having a number of close friends, so why should I be worried about what some others, who I might never meet again think about me? But I have to admit part of this strategy doesn’t always work when I come across closed off ‘right wingers’ in social situations. I do judge where they are coming from, but I still don’t worry about what they think of me. Love Amer
Thank you for sharing your vulnerability and this beautiful tapping. I experienced moments of this recently at an event that I very much looked forward to and out of the blue. I stayed very quiet, especially in group format, and did not get as much out of it as I might have. One on one I was fine and had many great connections. Great insights and super tool. With gratitude.
Hello Gene,
I have in the past felt that way and I felt it did relax me and aloud me to let go of a stressful emotion with your soothing voice.
Thank-you kindely Gene!
Marie Kabis