Learning EFT can be very exciting at first. Tapping is so easy.
Anyone can do it!
It can be done anywhere!
It seems to work for everything!
You download podcasts, tapping scripts, and ebooks. You attend online seminars and sign up for programs. You start working on a personal peace procedure (listing every bad memory you have in your life to tap on in turn). You decide you are going to tap for your health, your relationships, your creativity, and getting a better job.
It just becomes too much!
You feel overwhelmed with how much work you need to do, how far you want to go, and not feeling like there is enough time to get to it all.
It’s going to OK!
Take a big deep breath and relax…you don’t have to do it all right now!
Healing is process; it is not a moment. You will not be able to do it all at once. It is OK to have the process to unfold over time. You want a long-term, lasting fix. You don’t want something that is quick, but not lasting.
Here are 6 things you can do to keep from feeling overwhelmed with tapping and the amount of change you want to effect.
Limit Your Daily Tapping Sessions To 7 Minutes
On an average day I spend about seven minutes tapping. I start my day by making sure I am relaxed and calm about my day ahead. I know that on the surface it doesn’t seem like I am doing very much for my healing process, but these seven minutes makes a huge difference.
By starting your day with a relaxed and balanced state of mind you can respond easily to the unexpected. When you respond more easily to the unexpected you keep your stress levels down. This means that you will accumulate less stress over the course of the day. Less stress means less overreaction. And less overreaction means less stress.
When you release all the stress from your day before going to bed you sleep better. Sleeping better means you start the next day in a better place. And when you start your day in a better place…well you know how it goes…see above!
I am not saying that you shouldn’t go after major issues. I am not saying that you shouldn’t tap for longer than seven minutes. But you really only need to do longer tapping sessions once or twice a week. If you combine doing daily stress management with a few longer sessions each week you will make lots of progress.
Give Yourself Permission To Not Do It All Right Now
Many of our issues are intertwined with others. When we work on one part, we are working on the whole. It’s OK to give yourself permission to let the healing process unfold over time. It is very easy to feel like we are not doing enough each time we sit down to tap. If that is what you are dealing with then start your tapping session with this:
I give myself permission to know that it is a healing process…Not a healing moment…I give myself permission to know that I don’t have to do it all today…I don’t have to clear it all in one session…I know that if I do a little work today it will bring me closer to the health and freedom that I want…Each time I tap I am going to clear a little more…Each session is going to build on the last…I don’t have to do it all right now.
Let Someone Else Do The Heavy Lifting
Sometimes it is hard to tap because we don’t know where to start. There is so much to address that we can’t find the entry point. When this happens give your mind a break and let someone else come up with the tapping phrases. Did you know there are over 35 free tap along audios on this site? Well, now you do. Pick one, hit play, and let the audio do the hard work.
It’s All About Love And Acceptance
Recently I did an interesting interview with Steve Wells on Self-Acceptance. Steve put forward his belief that the root of all issues is the fact that we don’t fully love and accept ourselves.
On some level, when we hear this, it might make us shudder. There is nothing about tapping that my clients complain about more than having to say “I love and accept myself …” as part of the setup phrase.
I don’t know if I fully agree with Steve, but I think one of the reasons that we struggle with saying the setup phrase is because we have difficulty with loving and accepting ourselves.
If you don’t enjoy saying the setup phrase or if you are looking for an easy set of phrases to tap to that won’t take much time, visit the set-up phrase generator. Each time you reload the page it will supply you with ten unique set-up phrases to tap to. Tap through the list. After you are done, just refresh the page and get ten more. Do that two or three more times, it’ll only take five minutes. You will feel great and you won’t be overwhelmed by having to dive into lots of issues.
One of my favorite tools is to tap for all your issues at once. It is a simple technique that is often called the basket or container technique. Here is audio instruction for the Container Process.
One of my favorite ways to end the day is just to tap for five minutes. I am not thinking about anything in particular. I am not working on an issue. I am not reviewing my day.
I am just taking nice gentle breaths and tapping.
It is a great way to wind down and feel better.
Don’t Buy/Download The “Next” Best Thing
I know this is going to sound a little odd from someone who emails out new tapping resources every week and sells tapping resources as part of my livelihood, but in a lot of cases you don’t need more.
When comes to any sort of training for my business, be it free or paid resources, if I do not have a clear plan to use the information in the next 4 months I don’t get it. It will be there when I need it. No need to clutter my life with an extra resource.
The same is true with tapping tools and resources. If you find something you can and will use right now, then by all means get it. If not, don’t buy it, don’t download it, and don’t even waste your time considering it.
If you only have access to the things you are using then you are less likely to be distracted and more likely to do the tapping you want to be doing.
Conclusion: Be Easy With Yourself
Tapping is a powerful tool, but you don’t have to do it all right now. Give yourself some time and space. If you do this, you will be surprised how much you clear in a short period of time.