There is a very American ethic that says that if something is worth having it is worth working hard for. Great virtue is attached to working hard so that you are able to say you “deserve” what you received. I have nothing against hard work, but it doesn’t always have to be hard. I take flights because it is much easier than travelling in a covered wagon. I use my stove because it is easier than cooking over a campfire. I shop for food because it is easier than farming.
We often feel bad about taking the easy way out. There is nothing wrong with having things come to us easily. We are worthy of things being easy.
Here is a great little tap-along to help you to be easy with yourself.
O my gosh this is so powerful and I am so grateful for the relief. I added in some words of my own to lovingly and appropriately detach from my precious son who is leaving for college 2,000 miles away, tomorrow. I feel I have worked so absurdly hard to raise him well and now he is a wonderful young man, but that energy of effort and attachment is not what he or I need to become our true selves now. I feel like this tapping lets me out of a jail of grief and loneliness while still letting me feel the gratitude and love. Thank you Gene.