There are a number of goals I would like to achieve, but I feel like there is so much to do. I would like to ask others for help, but I am having a really hard time asking. Is there a way I can use Emotional Freedom Techniques(EFT)/tapping to help with this issue?
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I have always had really hard time receiving things. I was raised to work hard, do everything I can, and be self-reliant. I have always wanted to be successful. I have felt that when I needed help it meant that I weak or not good enough.
At the other end other end of the spectrum I also don’t want my actions or efforts to be noticed. I don’t like when others make a big deal of my work. For the longest time I had a very hard time taking a complement. I would defuse it and turn it into a joke.
Recently Deborah Miller, PhD (FindTheLightWithin.com) wrote a great tapping sequence on getting better at receiving. It is reprinted below with permission.
Do you say you want something but complain when you don’t get it? Do you really believe you can have what you desire? Or do you doubt it, or believe others can get what they desire but not you? Do you stop yourself from receiving what you desire even when it’s being offered to you? Do you truly know how to receive?
Most of us have not learned how to “receive” gracefully. We’ve been taught things like: I must accept what there is, it’s greedy to “want” things, others are suffering so I should be satisfied with what I have, or it is better to give than to receive. None of these beliefs helps us learn how to ask for and receive what we desire.
Let’s do some tapping to open ourselves to gracefully receive: help, support, finances, time, energy, health, work, money, and especially love.
Even though I was taught it isn’t ok to receive, because it is better to give than receive, I love myself completely and profoundly.
Even though I was taught that it wasn’t ok to ask for things, or that I had to wait until someone choose to give me something, I love and accept myself profoundly.
Even though I would like to receive, I don’t know how. I feel uncomfortable. I’m still a great lady (or guy).
Eyebrow: I can’t receive. It’s not ok to get things. I’m supposed to give things.
Side of Eye: I can’t accept anything, not even something as simple as a compliment without having to shrug it off or feel uncomfortable, much less say “Thank You!”
Under the Eye: I want to receive but I’m not even sure what I want to receive so how can I receive it?
Under the Nose: I say I want this or that, but I’m saying I’d like that “thing” because it is an object I can identify.
Chin: I say I’d like to receive “objects” when deep down what I’d really like to receive is tenderness, kindness, respect, time, hugs, quality time with the people I love, and most of all love.
Collarbone: I’d like to receive respect, honest responses and encouragement from those I love, and from those who work with me.
Under the Arm: I’d also like to receive the physical objects and comforts that would make my life feel luscious and rich, which in turn allows me to give to those I love.
Top of Head: How could I receive when I didn’t know what I really wanted? How could I receive when I didn’t feel I deserved what I want?
Eyebrow: Now that I’ve identified what I’d like to receive, I choose to release any resistance I have to receiving. Aahhh! Now I can begin to receive.
Side of Eye: I learn to receive step by step. I listen to the compliments I receive and simply say “thank you!”. I learn to receive by rejoicing in all the things I receive that make me happy.
Under the Eye: It puts me in the right frame of mind and it opens my heart to receive deeply. It is my divine right to receive.
Under the Nose: Receiving is a blessing to those who want to give to me. Allowing them to give to me is allowing them to give from their heart. That is receiving and giving all at once.
Chin: I receive because it feels so good to do so. I receive because I love how happy it makes those who want to give so lovingly to me.
Collarbone: I rejoice in my ability to receive from my heart, and in turn give openly and gracefully.
Under the Arm: What a beautiful cycle it creates: first receiving from an open and loving heart, and then with a heart wide open give love.
Top of Head: I am so happy to receive; receive my divine gifts of time, energy, playfulness, joy, laughter, delight, even the things I desire, but especially love. Love is the best gift to receive. I receive love now.