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Let The Subconscious Fill in the Blanks

January 15, 2009 By Gene Monterastelli 2 Comments


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The most common reason my clients don’t do their EFT homework between sessions is, “I don’t know what words to say. When I tap with you it is so easy. When I’m on my own I get stuck.” But there is a way for the subconscious to solve this problem for you.

The reason may be lack of confidence, worry that you’ll do it wrong, worry that you’ll waste time, or that you simply don’t know how to approach the issue. At other times we may have a hard time saying some of the phrases out loud because they seem so ludicrous.

For example people who have a hard time believing they are worthy of being loved are not going to feel comfortable saying, “I deserve love, happiness, and well-being” because they really don’tt believe it.

It can be equally hard to say out loud (or even recognize) why we feel this way.

Rob Sherwin (http://www.tap4health.com/) has come up with a brilliant way to deal with the situation where we don’t know why we feel some way or it’s really hard for us to say out loud. His recommendation is to simply let the subconscious mind fill in the blanks for us. We could tap on something like this:

I don’t deserve healing because…
I don’t deserve to heal if it means…
I don’t know how to heal because…
If I heal then I will be stuck with…
I can’t heal because…
I am afraid to heal because…
I don’t want to heal because…
I don’t believe I deserve happiness because…
I don’t believe I deserve success because…
I don’t believe I deserve love because…

Related articles and podcasts:

  1. I Don’t Deserve Healing
  2. When Healing Has Consequences
  3. Permission to Heal
  4. Hope for the Future
  5. Peace (Personal and World)

Filed Under: Tools Tagged With: Don't Know What Words To Say, Guest Author, How To

Comments

  1. Rod Sherwin says

    May 9, 2009 at 8:11 am

    And one more that I use is:
    “Even though I … whenever …”

    Thanks for the hat tip,
    Rod

    Reply
  2. Tove says

    December 2, 2010 at 4:04 pm

    Hi, this way really reminds me of Grant Connolly’s ZPoint Process, which also makes use of the blanks for the subconscious to fill in. I do believe it is very effective.

    Reply

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