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Do the 4 steps of find the story and share your answers.
● Imagine the action you would like to take
● Tune into the resistance
● Ask the resistance what is it afraid of?
● Ask it what proof it has to be afraid?
Done and tapped on the fear.
Done and have tapped
Wow. Always assumed there was one big issue that I just couldn’t clear. Now realize there were many layers of history, cultural, family issues about women’s body image. Damn if you are slim healthy and good looking you must be a whore. Where was tapping when I was 20. So much grief over time wasted and lost life happiness. However still very glad to have this awareness now. Thank you so much Gene.
Do you do private zoom sessions- how much? Where do I sign up?
done. tapped on fear of going to bed on time…lots of resistance
Done, wrote out answers to the for questions and tapped on the script.
I’ve tapped on the resistance, and it’s fear, and the proof is old..life is different now and the old proof doesn’t apply…but now I feel like my plaid is about 80% red!! So many threads to pull
January 6, 2026
EGADS. After much written conversation with Resistance, this was the outcome: R is afraid of things working out for me and not working out for me, because either way, there is the chance I will get hurt. As such, she has put the breaks on everything.
I shared with her that she is virtually killing me; her behaviour is causing deep hurt and pain, and truly effing up my life horrifically; R doing what she is doing is ROBBING me of my life; robbing me of joy, riches, safety, security, stability, opportunities, etc.
We concluded that her position with me is done; it is time she goes and plays (because she is a child). She required assurance that she will be okay leaving to play indefinitely, and that I will be okay without her. I thanked her, and told her I loved her.
90 minutes after Gene’s group session today, I engaged with a fellow who had booked a complimentary 15 min EFT session with me. By the end of the call, he chose to book a bundle of four one-hour sessions. Was this outcome due to Resistance leaving (or lessening her vice grip), or just because I am exceeding good at my chosen career? Not sure. Either way, I like it!
Cheers!
I think that I need to change a feeling and a mindset more than taking a specific action. I could use some help with moving forward because it’s less clear than a specific action . I will contemplate what the resistance is to changing my mindset, and emotional experience.
Action: sleep 7 hours of deep sleep a night
Resistance: fear
Ask: fear of never getting a full night’s sleep
Proof: I have not battled this insomnia for 10 plus years.
Tapping on this tonight, here is my script.
Even though part of me is afraid I’ll never get a full night’s sleep,
and this fear has been with me for a long time,
I deeply and completely accept myself…
and I’m open to feeling a little safer with sleep now.
Even though I want 7 hours of deep, restful sleep,
and fear shows up when I imagine that,
because I’ve struggled with insomnia for so long,
I honor this fear… and I choose to be gentle with myself.
Even though my body learned to be afraid of sleep after all these years,
I’m not broken — my nervous system was just trying to protect me,
and I’m open to the possibility that things can change.
Tapping Points
Eyebrow
This fear around sleep.
Side of Eye
The fear that I’ll never get a full night’s sleep.
Under Eye
After more than 10 years of insomnia,
it makes sense my body is scared.
Under Nose
This fear is trying to protect me.
Chin
It learned this from past experiences.
Collarbone
My nervous system remembers struggle.
Under Arm
And it doesn’t want to be disappointed again.
Top of Head
I see you, fear.
Second Round – Creating Safety
Eyebrow
This fear doesn’t mean sleep is impossible.
Side of Eye
It just means my body learned to be cautious.
Under Eye
I don’t have to force sleep to feel safe.
Under Nose
I don’t have to prove anything tonight.
Chin
My only job is to rest.
Collarbone
Even small moments of rest matter.
Under Arm
My body knows how to rest in pieces.
Top of Head
And that’s okay.
Third Round – Opening Possibility
Eyebrow
Maybe the past doesn’t get to decide the future.
Side of Eye
Maybe my body is slowly relearning safety.
Under Eye
I don’t need 7 perfect hours to begin healing.
Under Nose
I can allow whatever rest comes.
Chin
Without pressure.
Collarbone
Without fear.
Under Arm
Without watching the clock.
Top of Head
I am safe right now.
I want to follow through easily with items I designate ready to leave my home. Somehow these items are linked to my worth, so it’s either hard to let go or I’m attached to the story of where they go next.
From a pattern in my childhood of being reminded of anything from my past as if I could never grow. As if I’ll always be responsible for every element in my past.
I’m in a new place now I am moving on it doesn’t matter what others say or think.
1. I want to have a better control over my impatience and impulsiveness to answer too quicky and often cut people out at the middle of their sentence because I know (or think I know) when they are going to say.
2. I don’t want to lose this time for extra useless words. I am too eager to answer or give my opinion.
3. I am afraid of not having the opportunity to say out loud what I want to say. Not to be listened. and that the decision has already been made without me having an opportunity to voice my opinon and convince people I am right. Beeing highly frustrated due to this.
4. I remember beeing part of a meeting, having a game changer point to bring up but understanding that no one wanted to hear it because the decision was already made. Also happened in a love relationship.
Oh wow!
1. Action I would like to take (not!!)(resistance to even broaching the subject)
– deal with my stuff in storage (from my ‘past lives’, as well as grandfather’s, parents’ …)
2. What is my resistance afraid of?
– it feels like opening Pandora’s box – fear, panic, run away!
– I feel physically ill, shaky, no, no, no!!
– mental spinning with all the reasons that I can’t do this – logistics, emotional turmoil, decisions, … it’s too complicated.
3. What is my resistance afraid of?
– I can’t come up with a plan that feels doable
– I won’t be able to cope
– I’ll get overwhelmed emotionally and physically – breakdown!
– I’ll get stuck not knowing what to do/how to deal with everything.
– I won’t be able to let go of things from my past!!
4. What proof does it have?
– I’ve experienced overwhelm and feelings of ‘paralysis’ in recent years and in the past.
Oh wow, this triggered a memory (or feeling) of, when I was 8 and we were leaving England for ‘America’, having to choose a limited number of toys and possessions to keep and having to let go of the rest. We then moved again, and again …
I also moved and ‘put my life in storage’ decades ago and never retrieved it, bits of it yes, but most of it, no.
So, now I have great difficulty letting go of things, especially from my ‘past lives’, now also my grandfather’s, my parents’, … and family history.
So, there’s a lot to tap on here.
I tapped with the script on clearing clutter and I was aware of the fear of “I might need it one day” – that it came from past generations of poverty and not relevant in this lifetime – what really helped was asking ‘resistance’, what was the proof – in my life now? In this lifetime? And of course, no proof whatsoever!
Wish me luck in actually taking action on clearing out ‘stuff’ – ha! ha!
I imagined it and I feel a lot of resistance.
Ask the resistance what is it afraid of?
Of failure
Ask it what proof it has to be afraid?
Failing in the past
I tapped on it.
Tapped on being unable to take care of myself financially.
Done and tapped and feel soooo much better! Thank you Gene!
Done!
I tapped on the fear of being alone and the fear of hurting my family.
Lis
I did the 4 steps and will repeat them again. I also came up with a new aspect to my resistance which I now have to deal with as well. I’ll be doing tapping plus spiritual practices to get to the bottom of all this. It is very important to me that I get this cleared up and can move forward more quickly and smoothly.
Done – my fear is of standing out and being alone. It’s a fear of living between two worlds – of wanting to expand and do my own thing but also wanting to be with others and not leave, eg family members, behind. The proof is past criticism from some when I’ve haven’t followed the norm.
Homework done.
After imagining I was a speaker, felt the resistance, I was acutely aware of the resistance which I have had for many years. It is fear, afraid to be a speaker by myself, speak up, with all eyes on me. No support, on my own. I will be nervous because I don’t know the material for my speech by memory and people will not take me seriously because I am not confidant. Who am I to stand up as an authority if I am needing to read my material quite a bit of the time. I am afraid I will look unprofessional. I will look like a failure even though the information is awesome. The fear does have probability from last time as I wasn’t prepared enough. I felt incompetent and nervous and afraid that came thru. I failed myself. Interestingly enough, with another prior speech, t rehearsed so much and felt confidant and joked.. Even though I knew my information really well,
Done the Steps, but no answer dorsnt come up for the proof (step 4)… what should I do next?
Tapped before bed as explained in the Q and A as a huge fear of not sleeping well, also tapped after the group on resistance to change and then did a release tapping on anxiety and fear and made certain to replace that release with recieving joy and love
Have done homework Used tapping script. Very helpful to allow space for my story
Done. My fear of exercising was using up all my energy. Not. physical energy, but the energy vigilence would require were I to join the world – stickk my head our. Safer and energy-conserving to stay curled up in a ball, hidden. As I write those last words I feel relief.
This is an old story, not relevant today. In fact I’m itching to release myself from this bond. Am actually wriggling to shed this old skin. It’s confining and conforming.
I have stuck my head out before with excellent results. I don’t know why this smaller one carries such resistance. New layer I guess.
This is interesting. I imagined going to a job two times a week.
Instead of resistance i felt relief 🤷🏻♀️
I imagined another situation in which i feel stuck.
There i clearly felt the resistance in my body.
I could also tell what my system is afraid of. When going to the last step i notice that i’m getting into my head. It becomes a rational search, pulling me away from my body. After that i can hardly go back to ‘feeling’and tuning in at that level.
Done
● Imagine the action you would like to take
Eat smaller portions and different food
● Tune into the resistance
In my solar plexus
● Ask the resistance what is it afraid of?
Being starved and hating life
● Ask it what proof it has to be afraid?
I’ve spent my whole life on diets and was dangerously hungry for most of my childhood as a result. it was feast or diet-inflicted-famine. Now when I even think of eating less I feel like my body is going to explode.
Done. Fascinated to discover the resistance had proof from movies and news, mostly movies. But not at all from anyone I actually know with a lived experience.
Resistance to writing. Resisting because I’ve lost so three manuscripts due to computers dying, mistakenly hitting a delete key, and other catastrophes. Resistance is afraid of spending all the time and effort to write again just to lose it, when I could have been doing other things. Proof, losing what I’ve written, but tapping took me inside to where I’m trying to prove myself to the kids in the 60’s who called me a nerd and wouldn’t sit with me at lunch; parents long dead who told my elementary school self that I was an underachiever; the ex-husband from 40 years ago that gaslighted me into thinking I was stupid. Why am I still trying to prove myself to these people? I choose to let them go.
Done. The scary action is starting a new career/business for real. Tapping into stalling like a horse at a fence they have jumped hundreds of times. The resistance is afraid this time it will blow up in my face and I will be found out as a fraud. or just backing away from the challenge as I have also done many times.
Done – Tapped on resistance.
1. Need to move
2. resistance is don’t want too change so postponing it as long as possible.
3. resistance is afraid of cost, stability of renting, new environment, being alone, new neighbors
4. proof is i have done this before and know this area is very expensive to retire in.
Did it. Found great places to tap.
I struggle with eating healthy. I have lost track of how many times I started, and then fell back into eating big amounts of sweets and sugar.
When I tapped on it now I feel resistant because I have failed so many times and I´m afraid to fail again, and that’s the proof the resistance has “You didn´t manage this the last 100 times that you tried so why do you think you can manage it now?”
Hi Carin, I’ve been through this too, so many times, for years. And then somehow about a year and a half ago, tapping worked. I ate like I wanted to and stayed on track, lost a bunch of body fat, got 2/3 of the way to my goal, went back and forth a bit, still working on the last third of the weight, but I feel better, look better and I’m healthier. You can do it too! And you took an good step by signing up here to find and clear more of the hidden beliefs and blocks that are keeping you stuck. I’m rooting for you!
Do the 4 steps of find the story and share your answers.
● Imagine the action you would like to take (making videos)
● Tune into the resistance (aughhh)
● Ask the resistance what is it afraid of? (failure- imperfection- or changing my mind – wanting to do something different, and looking flaky)
● Ask it what proof it has to be afraid? (I’ve done this exact thing several times over the last two years… I can list courses I started creating and then dropped, websites I recreated, investments into software I didn’t use and then switched to a different ones… offers I created and put out that didn’t get traction so I quit offering out of embarrassment…)
Done and tapped on the fear.
did my homework!
The resistance says: you are too much – it is the fear of being rejected.
● Imagine the action you would like to take
I want to make enough money. I plan to take my business cards to assisted living facilities and health advocates in my area to give them to residents and their families to help them with mental health issues of aging.
● Tune into the resistance
I feel a sense of unsettling “shakiness” movement and tightness in my throat and in my stomach.
● Ask the resistance what is it afraid of?
It’s afraid I’ll be seen as silly, incompetent, and childish, even though I am old. People will make fun of me later, and pass the word to others not to work with me.
● Ask it what proof it has to be afraid?
My parents told me not to ask for what I want because I would look bad or make them look bad. It reminded me of how the school vice-principal didn’t allow me to enroll in advanced coarses I wanted to take at the new high school because I was a year ahead of my classmates. He said he would bring me “down to the right level.” My parents were newly hired at the school and told me to do what I was told and not make waves.
Thank you – I tapped on what came up for the proof and it reduced the stress, so I will keep doing that!
Homework Day 2:
Do the 4 steps of find the story and share your answers.
● Imagine the action you would like to take
● Tune into the resistance
● Ask the resistance what is it afraid of?
● Ask it what proof it has to be afraid?
1. The action I would like to take is to be consistently visible on social media with relevant, helpful, useful content, which will truly engage and help people…and ultimately lead to well matched clients signing up for my offerings, programs, etc.
2. The resistance is:
That requires a lot of work! And I need help doing that. And getting help costs money, which I have not made yet. It’s not like I have a budget for that. And it’s a forever thing. You have to keep it up to keep your presence well known. How will people know about you if you are not making yourself know.. Eyeyiiyii! Forever!!! Too much! And underlying that, what if I get a lot of responses? Do I have the skills to truly help those who sign up? Am I sufficient? Good enough? Capable enough? Am I setting myself up for fear and anxiety? Maybe even shame and embarrassment. Yikes!
3. The resistance is afraid of insufficiency, not good enough, not capable enough, failure in a really bad way. Too much fear, stress, and anxiety wrapped up in this. Oy yoy yoy!
4. When you put yourself out there in the past, you underwent huge stress. Not good enough stress. Insufficiency stress. And there was that one time you failed miserably! Bombed completely out! Proof perfect of not good enough. Totally insufficient! The stress and strain on the body, mind, emotions, and spirit were almost unbearable. I say “almost” because you’re still here, but the unbearableness was huge, and lasted for decades. Remember? No! You don’t want to go there again!!!
But, I’m no longer that person. Look at all the self-work I’ve done, and how far I’ve come.
You think? I’m here to protect you from ever having to experience anything like that ever again. And face it. You are not so great. So, stay in your lane. Don’t go out there thinking you can be a great, effective energetic practitioner, guiding individuals on their transformative journeys to discovering their Divine Identity and reconnecting with their true, magnificent selves. You haven’t even truly connected with yours. Get a grip!
I’m laughing out loud. Good belly laugh. Old story, old story! I acknowledge and honor you for wanting to protect me. However, I’m no longer that frightened, anxious, nervous, feeling so little, person. I have a new story about myself, and that’s how I’m now living my life.
You’ll be sorry. Better to believe me, based on past evidence, and let me lead. Let me lead and keep you safe.
Again, I tapped on the resistance with love and honor…thanked it for all it did to protect and support me for so many years…and gently and lovingly allowed it to leave. Then tapped on what and who I now know my truth to be. I’m feeling SUD 8 – 9, confident, bold, self-loving, fulfilled, and expecting the good that comes when I stand in my truth. I’m also lovingly allowing and honoring myself with the 1 – 2 SUD (resistance) remaining, which I can continue to tap on in ease and grace. And I’m flowing gratitude and thanks to myself for the work I’ve done consistently.
This is great, Eemah Jamelle (which should I call you?)! So descriptive and I loved the outcome – inspiring!
Done identifying and will tap on it
1. Imagine the action you would like to take – searching for a new job.
2. Tune into the resistance – I feel my heart racing and negative thoughts playing on a loop.
3. Ask the resistance what is it afraid of? Being embarrassed because people know that I was laid off in September and I still haven’t found a job (when in reality – fear has kept me stuck and unable to even look). I’m afraid of rejection because I’m just a regular worker and not a superstar. I don’t have a degree or anything that makes me stand out. I’m in my 50’s (which is an issue in its self) and was working for the same company for 25+ years. The idea of starting over feels traumatizing. I live a very small life, almost hermit like, so I can function. The idea of having to change my routine, learn a new job and meet new people is paralyzing. I don’t play well with others.
4. Ask it what proof it has to be afraid? I don’t like being around people – I suffer from very low self-esteem and depression. I’ve been lucky to be able to work from home for many years. Now that I have to look for a new job, there is no guarantee that I’ll be able to find a WAH position. I never learned proper social skills and have an issue with saying how I feel without pausing first and it has caused me a lot of issues at work.
Today, the deeper we got into the session the more I felt inadequate.
My mere presence questionned in my thoughts.
So I tapped on that lifetime issue of not belonging. Done!
Done. Realized I have a more pressing issue to work on (resistance to making appointments to take care of my health) than I listed in the first homework so worked with that instead.
Project: Write and publish a research paper
Resistance:
* Feeling overwhelm & it’s too hard – heaviness on shoulders and
pressure in throat
The fear is I will work very hard on it, then not finish. I will have wasted
all that effort and feel like a failure.
Proof – I’ve done it before
* I don’t know how.
I have some resources. Someone has already agreed to review the draft and give me feedback when it’s done and I just thought of two more people who would probably be willing to look at it. I have a poster from a few years ago I’m using for an outline and I now recall I can look for a Powerpoint I made too, with more maps and illustrations. So I have some doable action steps to get me started.
* Some people will criticize or mock me – sinking feeling in stomach and wanting to curl up in a ball and disappear.
Afraid of – that I will agree with them and feel worthless or not believe them and feel angry and helpless (a pattern).
Proof? This brought up two events related to criticism from peers to tap on (again).
Action: To write my list of prospects and call 2/day. I think of it and i freeze and go numb
Resistance: Afraid of success. Afraid of being a leader. Afraid of making it and losing it. Feel like a whiney child, being a scaredy cat… being in fear instead of faith
Proof: Had a house and lost it from a marriage. Not really proof.. need to forgive more….. Need to work on Faith… Only two things.. Love and Fear
Also, I know there is a no action because of the way my voice has been.
Resistance: Think sometimes my voice is from fear and ‘ an excuse’
Proof: At times I see where my voice gets hoarse depending on the circumstance. Was in a group of four. One came in new and I feel she is very knowledgeable in setting goals and achieving. I went to speak.. voice got deep and couldn’t remember some of what I wanted to say.
The resistance was tightness in the throat. It is afraid I will get bored and stop doing the work if I don’t have options. The proof is that in the past I have lost interest and quit. Half-finished books and courses sitting on the bookcase! Memories of not having choices as a kid and parents being very strict once a decision or promise was made.
I’ve tapped on the resistance, and it’s fear, and the proof is old..life is different now and the old proof doesn’t apply…but now I feel like my plaid is about 80% red!! So many threads to pull
I’d like to create textile items in my studio but procrastinate because I’m afraid I’ll find out I’m not as good as I’ve imagined I am. Had an experience in a workshop where I was mortified when I saw everyone else’s work and felt like I was so much less creative than I had told myself I was. Not exactly sure how to tap on this, but am determined to find a better perspective.
Done, thank you!
I did the homework. Was very surprised at the answers I received from the resistance. I wouldn’t have thought to tap on those things before.
Imagine the action you would like to take: Giving my signature talk.
Tune into the resistance: Fear of Failure
Ask the resistance what is it afraid of? Not prepared enough. Will embarrass myself. No one will like it. I’ll sound dumb and unprofessional.
● Ask it what proof it has to be afraid? some proof of fumbling in the past. Self must realize the growth edge and be open to improving in skills like public speaking and discoursing materials.
Tapped on the Fear of Failure and the resistances.
For me, the resistance is afraid of saying the wrong thing or saying it in the wrong way which could result in someone misunderstanding my message and my intentions and them taking drastic actions that affect me in a profoundly negative way and I don’t have any chance to clarify the situation.
Imagine taking an action: Sitting down to (finally!) figure out some sort of daily and weekly structure that accommodates all the things I need and/or want to be doing. No longer willing to wait on some things while I finish others.
Resistance: voice more than physical response: “yeah, right. You’ve been talking about it for months and done nothing. You haven’t even made a list of what you want to make sure gets included.”
What’s the fear? 1) that I will keep complaining about being disorganized and not work down to what the resistance really is
2) that I will discover I have no idea how to do that
3) that I will actually develop the framework and get stuck in it (let it dictate rather than guide my day)
Proof: 1) the last six months of procrastinating (just like so many other things I wanted to do or decided I needed to do)
2) not sure there is any (maybe an excuse for not trying to do it?)
3) I have history of becoming almost obsessive/compulsive about following a structure/plan perfectly.
Wow! I did the tapping script then touched in with the homework questions in my mind…and it got me off my phone & the couch and I cooked a dinner that tasted terrible but I had fun doing it (“see you can do this!”) …. Then! I came back a few hours later to type up my homework and was surprised I had a whole new layer of resistance come up which ended very positively in step 4!! In step 4 I realized my true desire is to cook something that will really feed me (like…. Feed my soul kind of level), so I added it to the action step to remind myself. I’m so excited to try approaching the fridge again tomorrow!
Here are my shortened answers from the second round:
1. Action: go to the fridge, have an idea for what to cook that is sufficient enough nutrition and enough food and assemble a dinner. Something that will really feed me.
2. Resistance says: “I don’t have any ideas. Blank. I hate this. I’m so stupid. I’m going to die soon if I don’t stop eating.”
3. Resistance what are you afraid of? “Of not dying.” [removed stream of consciousness content and young teenage memory linked to resistance for brevity]
What would happen if you didn’t die? “I would have to endure the pain.”
4. What proof do you have, Resistance, to be afraid you’d have to endure the pain?
“Well, I guess I am older now and I’m sitting here writing this. And my life can be really joyful and happy sometimes and I make myself laugh, I have fun and I still love art! I’ve done an amazing job of being a seeker. Once I awoke from the dream and had the consciousness to contemplate that I had a choice how my life turns out, I was on the path to seek and fulfill something bigger than myself and that’s when it all changed, I’m so proud of myself! Holy smokes!”
:D
Done… certainly enlightening.
+ Taking action: I am all enthiusiastic, talking to my first client since soooo long time ago, asking him what he is looking for in terms of investment (real estate). Since he moved to an expensive flat, that his wife receive a big inheritance I assumed they had a bigger disposal income than what they finally had.
So when I proposed the flat that would be their dream flat in the area they would love to live but at a price they couldn’t afford he said oh no! it’s definitely too much and told me how much they could afford but with characteristics that are difficult to meet in the area they want to live!
So, bang! there was the disappointment again and the inner dialogue! “You see, there it is again, you try and there comes again as usual, as before… Why do you think you can succeed this time?” Fear again…
I tapped on the FEAR of not being successful again, on the past situation, on what my father used to tell me for years “you are not able to…”, “we are not entrepreneurs in the family” (when I was creating my real estate agency, and there started my fear immediately). Instead of going forward with confidence, I was in the agency and I was hiding! Even my commercials could not sell anything! It was incredible!
I cleared that FEAR with tapping at a cellular level, in every fiber of my body, all the way through my past.
I imagine that this is something I have to repeat lots of times!
Any suggestion? Thank you!
4 steps
Asking for money for my work
-> Fear of not being good enough with my support and expertise.
Proof:
No one-session wonders -> real: they are rare and not the usual way with new clients
Not matching (my) expectations -> my own expectations are my criteria. That’s not appropriate. I am the facilitator.
Not reaching the ultimate result -> I am not doing the work. The client does or does not. And maybe the goal was far too big.
Tapping on that and want to go deeper into that.
Wow. What a journey. An hour and a half of sorting and releasing and meeting inner figures. I moved to the script after a lot of my own tapping and inserted my own ‘text’ plus techniques I’ve picked up elsewhere. Feeling pretty good – filled up and calm.
Did the list – the inner paradigm shift still feels too complex right now, so I focused on decluttering my office instead.
The resistance is showing up on two levels:
1. I instantly drop back decades inside (emotionally I feel like I’m 5–7 years old) and get completely overwhelmed. I’m afraid I won’t be able to handle it on my own. Proof: decades of just forcing myself to push through. I tapped on that while softening into the knowing that “I’ve been an adult for quite some time now AND I can change how I act.” The resistance isn’t gone, but it’s much smaller.
2. About 15–20 years ago I sold an old teddy bear at a flea market – an “inner little one” of me is still grieving that teddy and has zero trust that I won’t give away something emotionally precious again. I’m going to tap on that tomorrow morning.
Done
Imagine the action you would like to take.
I want to start a career that actually feels right for me and means something. It’s something I’ve wanted to do for a long time. I know what I need to do, but I keep feeling this resistance when it comes to actually taking the steps like applying for opportunities that would take me there.
Tune into the resistance
The resistance feels like hesitation and overthinking. It’s that pulling back feeling that keeps me stuck, even though part of me really wants to move forward. I feel this tightness in my chest as well as keep thinking of the worst possible scenarios.
Ask the resistance what it is afraid of
Scared of being seen and judged, scared of making mistakes and looking stupid. And scared of not being good enough for the role.
Ask the resistance what proof it has to be afraid
Based on past experiences thats keeping safe and stuck with old storylines playing in my head about things thats not true, but I believe them anyway and stay stuck and don’t take the action.
Did the homework. Couldn’t figure out how to type it out so what came up makes sense but did wake up feeling a little lighter this morning and aware there is more work to do.
Done.
Homework done.
I was going to just write “done” but I ain’t done yet ;)
I silently tapped because I can’t calm down (?) enough to have a sensible tapping session. My brain is so chattery on this that I just started reading others’ answers. Linda hit the nail on the head for me, the inability to go through things, the OVERWHELM at the task at hand, etc (I can’t remember all she said in her steps 1-4, I just know it deeply resonated with me.). I didn’t move here from England as a child as she did, but I feel why this would have caused her challenges. My home was very organized and neat growing up, and it ABSOLUTELY had to be that way or the wrath of mom and dad would strike. I was able to live neatly and tidy until I was 41, when a move and a new job consumed my time, and it was up to my husband to manage the household (there are only two of us in our household.). I don’t know if this is when things started falling apart or if it was later, and I can’t pick a time frame. By the time I lost my job, feeling very unworthy, all hell started breaking loose in MY disorganized world. Depression and anxiety reached an all time high and I was stuck in my bed for years.
I believe with one on one therapy I’ve moved past my husband seeking comfort outside of our marriage. My circumstances were out of my control and not the cause of anything, and so were his. He was lost on how to help me. I’ve made peace with that. Ultimately we stayed together because we couldn’t financially afford 2 households and his “partner” ended the relationship. Staying together was the default. I’m not sure I’m at peace with that. And maybe I look at our disorganized and messy house and blame him for not doing anything to make it better because staying together was by default.
And I rely on him too heavily. And it (and other things) makes me so angry that I swear to him under my breath at least once a day!! He’s changed so much I don’t recognize the man I married.
I’m going way off topic, I think!! I need to go tap on my anger that I feel in my arm muscles just typing all of this.
I’m all over the place here, not on topic. My apologies. I wish I could delete my comment – it’s really better in my journal!