Sometimes we make choices that hurt others. Sometimes our emotions get the better of us, or we act thoughtlessly and cause someone else pain.
Either way, it's easy to beat ourselves up for the pain we have caused. Even when we apologize and do what we can to make amends, we may still feel bad.
This week's podcast covers how to tap for those times when we have unintentionally hurt others with our words or actions. We tap for feeling bad because we have caused someone else pain, for feeling like a failure because of the mistakes we have made, and to create space to learn from the experience so that we make better choices in the future.
I have also included a printable version of the tapping script below the audio player.
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I recognize my actions have hurt someone else…I recognize the fact that my thoughtlessness has caused pain…Just because I didn't intend to hurt the person doesn't reduce their pain…Their pain is real…And it deserves to be recognized…I need to take responsibility for causing that pain…I hate being in a circumstance where I have hurt others…I hate it when I make choices that make life more difficult for others…I wish I hadn't caused this pain…I commit to doing what I can to make it right…I know better than this…I know I shouldn't have acted in that way…And I feel like a failure because of that fact…I know I have failed in this particular moment…Because I want to be better than this…I think of myself as a better person than this…I need to act better than this…I give myself permission to learn from this moment…To recognize the fact that I can and should make better choices…Even though I can't change the past…I can ensure that I learn from the past and make better choices in the future…This mistake is a challenge for me to do better… This mistake is a challenge for me to be better…I give myself permission to do exactly that…Even though I can't take this moment back…I give myself permission to be a new person in the way that I move forward…I challenge myself to act better in the future…And I commit to accepting that challenge.
Great topic, so glad you broadcast it. Very relevant for me, as I am pretty merciless with myself when I think I have hurt someone. Thank you for your vulnerability and honesty.
I gasped when this came in to my inbox! Brilliant. No matter how much I try to be compassionate and discreet, either a little snarky devil can pop out, or I can unintentionally activate a trigger :-) Even when language and intent is blameless, someone with ‘issues’ can misinterpret. Thank you, thank you. Warmest regards X
Thank you. This was very helpful.