Dealing with unwanted criticism is hard.
It’s painful in the moment because the attack feels personal, and it often is. After the fact it tends to fester and gnaw at us.
It would be great to believe that we are able to see past the criticism and understand the motivation of the person making it. But it can and does hurt.
And if we aren’t willing to deal with that hurt, it will get worse.
Even if you haven’t been criticized lately I would encourage you to spend some time with this audio because, if you are like me, there is a piece of criticism that you are still carrying with you.
I really love your pod163 about responding to criticism. Could it be possible to get it in script so Ica print it in order to use it whenever I need it. I am actually living such a situation right now. What a great help it could be!Congratulation for all your help. I usually print a lot of your scripts.
Nicole
Working on a transcript!
Wau you just hit it on the nail. Amazing truths that are not tought. I love it and am defiantly still in the school of learning. Thank you!!!!!
This runs along a similar vein that I am currently focusing on. Do you have any podcast on clearing the “need to be right?” That would be a topic I would be very interested in hearing your thoughts on.
That is a great idea…I will add it to the possible future show list.
Good insights, but I expected something that would lead to releasing inner blocks around this issue, e.g. fear of trusting my judgments against everyone else’s.
Thanks Gene, what I realised while tapping to this podcast was that continued criticism by my partner over a long period of time had made me over sensitive to criticism and my previous sense of confidence had become undermined. I was losing my sense of humour with others! This is not to say that some of the criticism was not valid, some was, but the majority wasn’t – I have checked with our mutual friends. So the tapping path I am on now is to give myself freedom from reacting instinctively to the criticism in a way that leaves me frustrated and angry at the unfairness of it all.
My aim is to be able to filter out the unreasonable criticism with the minimum of negative emotional charge, while at the same responding to criticism that may well be valid – i.e not losing my sense of fairness. Thanks for this podcast Gene, it has helped me to see things more clearly. Love Amer x