Why the promise of tapping is failing you
Good morning,
You have heard the stories from your friends. You have seen enthusiastic video testimonials online. You have read gushing success stories in Facebook groups.
Tapping works! It works amazingly fast AND on so many different issues!
But for some reason it isn’t working for you.
You listen to podcasts (like mine). You watch videos. You download tapping scripts. And still, it just isn’t working for you.
You aren’t alone. I receive emails from people all the time who have exactly the same issues.
In my mind there are four reasons why people don’t have the success they dream of with tapping.
1) We are too close to the issue.
Understanding our problem and feeling our emotions are totally different experiences. Understanding is the logical process of our brain and emotions are the feelings of our heart. In order for us to be successful with tapping we need to be able to access both. But when we are experiencing something deeply it’s hard, if not impossible, for us to see the big picture. We might be able to tap to take the edge off the emotion we are feeling, but we can’t resolve the issue because we can’t see it clearly.
No matter how much we tap, we won’t succeed if we can’t see the real issue.
2) We are working on the wrong issues.
As humans, we are constantly writing meaning to our lives in the form cause and effect relationships. Our primitive ancestors saw paw prints in the mud and wrote the story that there is a big animal over there to be avoided in order to stay alive. Cause: there is a big cat. Effect: if I walk that way, I become lunch.
When I am working with clients I like to gather as much information as I can about the issue we are working on. This often includes having them tell me the story of why they think the issue exists. Some of the time my clients know exactly why an issue exists. And lots of the time, they don’t. Instead, they have written a story to explain why it is like it is and that story is wrong.
It’s not that they are deluding themselves. Instead they are doing the best they can by doing what comes naturally…trying to come up with the cause and effect relationship to explain what is going on.
I do exactly the same thing! I am just trying to figure out what is going on so I can heal.
If we are tapping on the wrong reason for our issues, then we will never heal, no matter how much we tap.
3) We have an all or nothing idea of what success is.
Years ago I learned a valuable lesson about success from pain management specialist Dan Cleary. Dan was in a serious accident that injured his shoulder and arm. Decades later he still doesn’t have the use of his right arm and experiences pain daily. Pain is a fact of his life that will always be there.
Dan taught me that, for him, success wasn’t about being pain free, but instead managing the pain in such a way that he was able to live a life that he enjoys. If Dan had the goal of being pain free, he would never be satisfied.
I see this all the time with my own clients. They want total change or transformation. Anything less is a failure.
No matter how much we tap, if we think success will only come when we have 100% of everything we want, we will consistently be disappointed with our progress.
4) Expecting everything to be a one-minute miracle.
Within the first year of my learning how to tap I was on vacation in Costa Rica. I was sitting in a coffee shop when a group of Americans came in and we started chatting. They had just returned from riding the zip-lines through the jungle, which was great, but one of the guys had strained his back.
The moment I heard this I couldn’t wait to share tapping with them. (I was still in the “I love tapping and everyone needs to hear about it right now!” phase of my tapping evolution.) I asked if he wanted to try tapping to get a little relief and was thrilled when he agreed.
He rated his pain level as a 6 on a scale of 0 to 10. We did some tapping and I eagerly asked him what the new pain level was. He said “4”.
Immediately, my brain was filled with the self-talk of “I can’t believe the tapping failed. What did I do wrong? He is going to think I am a complete fool!”
And at the same moment all four of them exclaimed “Wow!” because they were amazed that one third of his pain had gone away in just a few moments. In my excitement and expectation about tapping I had lost touch with what was a reasonable measure of success.
No matter how strong our faith in the power of tapping, if we expect all of our issues to be simple and able to be solved in a few rounds of tapping, we will constantly be disappointed.
Understanding and expectations impact our ability to make progress.
As you can see from the list of reasons above, just because you know how to tap and do it regularly, does not mean that you will have the success you want with tapping. Even when we are expert at tapping, we still need some help to get where we want.
This is the reason I regularly work with a practitioner. You read that right. Even though I have been working with clients for over a decade and have created hundreds of free resources for others to use, I still regularly work with a practitioner.
I do this because it is easy, even for me, to fall into one of the four (and often more than just one) pitfalls listed above. Working with another experienced practitioner means that they can help me to see the big picture, keep my healing in perspective AND make sure I am working on the right issue in the right way.
I want you to have the same type of support.
Like most people, even if you didn’t create a list of New Year’s resolutions, you probably did some reflecting on your life at the dawn of the new year. You know that there are some areas in your life you’d like to improve. You know that tapping can be helpful, but you are frustrated by the fact you haven’t had the progress you have hoped for.
It’s time to stop missing out on everything that tapping can do for you.
To that end I have created a special program for the new year that will solve the problems above. It will make sure you stay on track, clear the issues that need to be cleared, and get the results from tapping you want.
I call the program “The Core Sixteen”.
16 Core Issues
Over the last few months I have been reviewing my client notes and paying very close attention to my client calls and I have been able to identify the 16 core issues that come up repeatedly for my clients.
These core issues fall into three basic categories: relationships (with father, mother, etc.), time of life (early childhood, childhood, teen years, etc.), and emotions (confidence, anger, jealousy, etc.).
The Core Sixteen will work on each of these issues, one at time, creating healing and transformation. And by transforming each of these cores, you will transform your life.
Here is what is included
To help you to work through the 16 core issues, I have provided a three-pronged approach.
16 One-On-One Sessions With Gene
We will work together on all 16 issues, taking one issue at a time. By focusing on each issue, we will ensure that we find our way to the core of each one. And, if you want, these sessions can be recorded so that you can go back and tap along to them again. ($4000 value)
Issue Assessment
Before each one-on-one session you will be given an issue assessment, which will help us to move quickly to the core of the issue once we are on the phone. I will also teach you how I use these specific assessments to unearth the root causes of your struggles. You will be able to reuse this assessment in the future as a way of discovering the hidden root causes on your own. ($200 value)
32 Tap-Along Audios (plus written scripts)
For each of the 16 issues you will receive two tap-along audios that you will be able to go back to as often as you like. You will also receive a written version of the scripts so that you will have access to these resources any time you want, in the format that you find most helpful. ($400 value)
By using this three-pronged approach you will be able to do preparatory work before our sessions, we will work one-on-one to clear the issue, and you will have resources after the fact to reinforce and continue to clear the issue afterwards.
Additional Bonuses
In order to help your transformation process along I am including three bonuses to expand your tapping tool box and give you tools you can use daily to continue your transformation.
- Advanced Tapping Techniques – In this 8-hour audio training course I teach you exactly how I tap, the tools I use in client sessions and when I am working on my own, and how to know which tools to use in each situation. ($497 value)
- 10-Question Process – I use this process for tasks as small as rearranging my office and as big as creating a new product line. In over 3 hours of audios I will teach you the process so you can use it again and again to figure out your next steps and name the core issues getting in your way. ($187 value)
- 9 Months Access To The Ruach Center – The Ruach Center is a membership website that has over 240 tapping audios and hours of instruction to help you to eliminate self-sabotage and take action. Every morning you will receive email with a link to a new tap-along audio to help you start off your day on the right foot. ($97 value)
The private sessions, assessments, tap-along audios, and all the bonuses are over $5350 in value, but you can sign up for the The Core Sixteen for only $4000
That is 35% discount off the full price.
You can also join the program with 4 monthly installments of $1099 or 8 monthly installments of $575.
Impacting Every Part Of Your Life
Your emotional core impacts all aspects of your life, both consciously and unconsciously. This is your opportunity to heal and transform your emotional core in a systematic, step-by-step way.
When you do this, your daily life will be much better, and you will be able to respond to difficult times in an emotionally healthy way.
Start transforming your emotional core today: https://tappingqanda.com/core-16-sign-up/
If you have any questions about the program, please let me know by replying to this email. If I can’t answer your question in an email, we can get on the phone to discuss any questions you may have.
Only 5 People
I have one final thought for you to consider. For me to be fully present to my current clients and to be able to serve the people who join this program at this time, I only have room in my schedule for five people.
This isn’t a fake marketing trick where I am saying there is only a limited number to create a sense of scarcity. There really are only five spots and I have set my online shopping cart to close after those five spots are filled.
If you want to do this, you need to act now.
This is your chance for an entirely new internal emotional life. What are you waiting for?
Start the transformation now: https://tappingqanda.com/core-16-sign-up/
OR if you would like to have a conversation about the program, just reply to this email and we will find time to answer all your questions.
Blessings,
Gene
PS: Imagine how powerful it will be to transform yourself from the inside out. This type of work will touch every part of your life. Join me today: https://tappingqanda.com/core-16-sign-up/