I had a really interesting conversation with one of my clients this week about goals. It is obviously that having goals are important (multiple studies have proven this), but goals have their limits. If we become to transfixed on the goal with can miss other greatness. If we only focus on the goal itself we can lose our passion. To me there is something much more important than the goal.
It is why you want this goal. When we recognize the why it transforms our work and our effort. Listen to this short audio to how the “why” makes all the difference.
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I Loved this Gene thank you
keeps the focus on BEing not having
and as you say .. what are we doing it for????
This is a really good point. It’s so easy when a goal is elusive to focus more and more narrowly on the goal and to not remember what the goal means to you. I’ve been wanting to lose weight all my life. What enabled me to lose it was going to a cognitive psychologist who helped me to find a range of ways that I can comfort myself and support myself through stress, instead of always relying on food. Now I am losing weight but that is not the main thing. The really wonderful feeling is that I am looking after myself and ensuring that I get rest and recovery time and have some fun etc so that I don’t have to use food as my only source of recovery and fun. So my whole life is much more enjoyable and the weight loss is just a side effect of all that. So the “why” was crucial to the whole process. Also as I strengthened my survival skills (through meditation and time management etc), I had more strength left for making changes in my eating and exercise pattern whereas when I felt like life was using up every gram of my energy, then I couldn’t sustain any long term changes, which are the only ones that count in weight loss.
Thank you for the “aha” moment. This message is the gem I have collected for today, and I will cherish it always.
This is a great topic Gene, it connects us to the feel good part of why we want something, it gets us into how it makes our bodies feel and out of our heads
Wow, your messages (most importantly) always come from the heart and this one hit a bull’s eye. The why of anything is our motivation, our inner umph that keeps us going when we want to quit or get discouraged. Your words ooze of earnest love and sincere support and I can’t thank you enough.