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“I am always doing that which I cannot do, in order that I may learn how to do it.” – Pablo Picasso

Trying new things can be hard. It requires us to put ourselves at risk. It requires up to face the fact that we don’t know everything. We know intellectually that there are many things we have tried in the past that we didn’t know how to do. Some of them worked out right away while others took time for us to learn. When we recognize that it is okay for us to try new things and that it is okay to not be perfect during the learning process it makes it easier for us to try new and different things.

A few years ago I was on retreat with Russ Hudson. At the beginning of the three days he said, “Who I think I am will die in this process. What I lose is my illusions.” Many times the transformation process isn’t about becoming something new, but instead it is about seeing ourselves in new ways. It is possible for us to get caught up in an old image of ourselves when we should see ourselves in new ways. This is also true about how we perceive our situation. It is possible for the world around us to have changed in dramatic ways and we can still be operating out of an outdated understanding. A perfect example is when many generations of a family get together. Even as fully formed adults, people quickly fall back into old roles and patterns. As always, it is much easier to see this in others than it is in our own lives.

I have a real problem with the word “fix”. It means that something is broken. There are a number of draw back to looking at any issue or part of our life as broken. In this audio (with full transcript) we look at the key differences between fix and transform.

In a number of Gary Craig’s original EFT DVDs he talked about how helpful knowing and understanding NLP concepts. I can speak from my own experience at how valuable these principles, concepts, and techniques are when working with clients or doing self-work. In this pod I interview the National Foundation Of Neuro Linguistic Programming founder Dr. Wil Horton. In this interview we talk about the different logical levels of change. When we recognize all of the different levels in which change can happen at it can speed the healing process as well as identify the places we need to do extra work.

I have been using tapping for the last six months and love the results. One thing I have noticed is that my family is not excited about my change at all. Some of the members of my family even resent it. Is this common and is there anything I can do about it?

Reward systems are very effective as a motivator to get a task done, but they can also become problematic if they are not carefully created or used. Sometimes they can be created and we don’t even realize it is happening.

Here is an example of how a reward system had become transformed. At one time it served as benefit, but was now causing problems.