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TapAlong #25A: Please See How Much I Am Putting Myself Last!


Sometimes we can spend so much time and energy taking care of others that we can lose ourselves in the effort. When can get to the place where our identity gets wrapped up in taking care of others. This can be a dangerous way to define ourselves. Here is a short tap along audio to help you see yourself for who you are, not for what you do for others.

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TapAlong #24A: Worthy Of Love


One of the hardest phrases for my clients to say is, “I love and accept myself.” (And it can be really hard from me sometimes as well.) There is a feeling of skin crawling that goes along with that phrase. Being able to love our selves is at the heart of healing and transformation. When we love ourselves we are able to be easy with our selves and be easy with the process of healing.

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Tap Along #23A: You Are Worth A Better/Easier Life


Often times we don’t feel comfortable making our own life easier. We think: Others have it so hard. We should have to work for a good life. It is only worth something if we struggle for it. I have wasted good chances before I would I get easy now?

When we are able to recognize that we are worthy of a better life then we can move to a place where we can start working towards a better life. As long as we think it is something we are not worthy of then we are never going to move forward.

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TapAlong #15A Accepting Compliments

One of the things I have struggled with over the years is accepting compliments. They made me feel uncomfortable. They made me feel judged. They made me feel like I needed to point out the things that were wrong with me. Over time I have learned that it is okay to take a compliment. It gives me a chance to recognize that I am good at something. It gives me a chance to recognize that others also see the things I do well.

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TapAlong #12A: Seeking Attention

“It is healthier to recognize we are desperate for attention than to deny we are. ” R. Hudson

We all want attention. We want attention from our loved ones. We want attention from new friends. We want attention from people in power. It is okay that we want attention. However, it becomes dangerous when we start to judge our worth and value off of how much attention we get from others. In the end it is healthier to recognize we are desperate for attention than to deny we are. When we recognize the types of attention we want and why we want them, then we are able to move to a healthier place. If we deny that we are craving attention then we are going to keep acting out to get it, but doing so in a very subconscious way.

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Keeping the Long View – How To Understand The Healing Process With Tapping/EFT

It is very easy to miss the progress we are making because we only notice the emotions we are feeling right now. When we take the time to recognize the progress we are making it will help us to be appreciative of our progress and keep us motivated for more.

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TapAlong #5A: Being Able To Love Unconditionally

We are told (and may even believe) that we need to love people unconditionally. This can be a really hard thing because the people in our lives are flawed (just like we are). They make poor choices and they sometimes hurt us. Unconditional love does not mean that we approve of others’ choices and it doesn’t mean we have to take whatever they give us. Unconditional love is about recognizing the worth and value of others. When we do this we are able to make the choice we want to make in creating ourselves to be who we want to be. (And yes . . . this is hard!)

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TapAlong #4: Changing How We See Ourselves and the World

A few years ago I was on retreat with Russ Hudson. At the beginning of the three days he said, “Who I think I am will die in this process. What I lose is my illusions.” Many times the transformation process isn’t about becoming something new, but instead it is about seeing ourselves in new ways. It is possible for us to get caught up in an old image of ourselves when we should see ourselves in new ways. This is also true about how we perceive our situation. It is possible for the world around us to have changed in dramatic ways and we can still be operating out of an outdated understanding. A perfect example is when many generations of a family get together. Even as fully formed adults, people quickly fall back into old roles and patterns. As always, it is much easier to see this in others than it is in our own lives.

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TapAlong #3: Dreaming + Work = Progress and Transformation

“There are those who work all day. Those who dream all day. And those who spend an hour dreaming before setting to work to fulfill those dreams. Go into the third category because there’s virtually no competition.” Steven J. Ro”

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Pod #63: Self Love With Brad Yates

Doing this interview was particularly special to me. My guest Brad Yates was the person who first introduced me to Tapping/EFT. In this spirited conversation we talk about the importance of self-love, the obstacles to loving ourself, and what we can do with tapping to improve our view of ourselves.

I know we talk a lot about self love and self acceptance when it comes to tapping. It is right there in the set up phrase, “I love and accept myself.” Even with that being the case it is still one of the issues for my clients (and to be honest for myself) that we struggle with most and it is the topic we are least likely to tap for.

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